Quote:You are thinking some texting quip will start grass roots changes against guys that are literally giving undesirable chicks millions of dollars and their ball sack?

Of course not. I didn't really mean that, like, seriously.

Found this shit on the OKC -- http://www.datekate.net -- Sure, we've seen this kind of stunt a few times from dudes, but this is unprecedented. Sooo, I sent a message through the site, to which she replied later in the week about how she actually ran my email through FB, and thinking I was her kinda guy, given the posts of my portrait drawings. And so, I replied, "So, are you down to meet?" Of course, the exchanged flatlined from there. Psh. That's the online scene for ya. Any desire for an actual date takes a seat far in back of that of garnering attention.

(07-11-2015 09:29 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  Found this shit on the OKC -- http://www.datekate.net -- Sure, we've seen this kind of stunt a few times from dudes, but this is unprecedented. Sooo, I sent a message through the site, to which she replied later in the week about how she actually ran my email through FB, and thinking I was her kinda guy, given the posts of my portrait drawings. And so, I replied, "So, are you down to meet?" Of course, the exchanged flatlined from there. Psh. That's the online scene for ya. Any desire for an actual date takes a seat far in back of that of garnering attention.

She belongs in the Online Hamster thread.

She's a 5 on a very very good day(I'm feeling kind and generous today). Faintly mediocre.

(07-12-2015 01:43 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(07-11-2015 09:29 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  Found this shit on the OKC -- http://www.datekate.net -- Sure, we've seen this kind of stunt a few times from dudes, but this is unprecedented. Sooo, I sent a message through the site, to which she replied later in the week about how she actually ran my email through FB, and thinking I was her kinda guy, given the posts of my portrait drawings. And so, I replied, "So, are you down to meet?" Of course, the exchanged flatlined from there. Psh. That's the online scene for ya. Any desire for an actual date takes a seat far in back of that of garnering attention.

She belongs in the Online Hamster thread.

She's a 5 on a very very good day(I'm feeling kind and generous today). Faintly mediocre.

In my experience, the majority of women in their 30s who seem down to meet from the sites are single moms. Well, at least we know they're into having sex, right? Hahaha

(07-12-2015 08:23 AM)XPQ21 Wrote:  

(07-12-2015 01:43 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(07-11-2015 09:29 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  Found this shit on the OKC -- http://www.datekate.net -- Sure, we've seen this kind of stunt a few times from dudes, but this is unprecedented. Sooo, I sent a message through the site, to which she replied later in the week about how she actually ran my email through FB, and thinking I was her kinda guy, given the posts of my portrait drawings. And so, I replied, "So, are you down to meet?" Of course, the exchanged flatlined from there. Psh. That's the online scene for ya. Any desire for an actual date takes a seat far in back of that of garnering attention.

She belongs in the Online Hamster thread.

She's a 5 on a very very good day(I'm feeling kind and generous today). Faintly mediocre.

In my experience, the majority of women in their 30s who seem down to meet from the sites are single moms. Well, at least we know they're into having sex, right? Hahaha

Is that chick for real? I don't get why someone would do that...



So I had my first crack at online dating after (hopefully) having absorbed some helpful stuff from this forum and elsewhere. Got maybe a 50% 'view' rate from my openers, which I'm hoping is decent considering I only message HB8s and up. Fairly certain my pictures and possibly profile are letting me down.

Anywho, a chick that did reply went kinda spaz. Sent 3 messages straight after each other. All kind of insulting, but in quite an over the top kind of way. Not sure if it's just a shit test, she is just fucking with me, or its a genuine reaction from some crazy vindictive chick.

Anyone else had similar? I'm leaning towards a reply of "Haha. You're adorable." Or something like that.

Or just ignoring. Although if she is just crazy, I kinda want to mess with her...

Quote:Is that chick for real? I don't get why someone would do that...

All too real. I figure most habitually 'single' women in their late 20s-early 30s would like to construct exactly the same thing if they were skilled with HTML/CSS/web hosting. But they aren't, so they work within the confines of OKC and use that as their Instagram feed dump instead.

Quote:So I had my first crack at online dating after (hopefully) having absorbed some helpful stuff from this forum and elsewhere. Got maybe a 50% 'view' rate from my openers, which I'm hoping is decent considering I only message HB8s and up. Fairly certain my pictures and possibly profile are letting me down.

Anywho, a chick that did reply went kinda spaz. Sent 3 messages straight after each other. All kind of insulting, but in quite an over the top kind of way. Not sure if it's just a shit test, she is just fucking with me, or its a genuine reaction from some crazy vindictive chick.

Anyone else had similar? I'm leaning towards a reply of "Haha. You're adorable." Or something like that.

Or just ignoring. Although if she is just crazy, I kinda want to mess with her...

If she insults you or starts playing games right off the bat, don't waste another moment of your life. As you'll notice from my previous posts in this thread, I've found the games game players play on the site are nothing compared to what they'll play once you've got their number and try to set something up.

Life is too short to spend messing with them. It's not even that entertaining - one should feel sorry for the mentally ill and leave them alone.

(07-12-2015 09:56 AM)Aussie_Thinker Wrote:  

(07-12-2015 08:23 AM)XPQ21 Wrote:  

(07-12-2015 01:43 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(07-11-2015 09:29 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  Found this shit on the OKC -- http://www.datekate.net -- Sure, we've seen this kind of stunt a few times from dudes, but this is unprecedented. Sooo, I sent a message through the site, to which she replied later in the week about how she actually ran my email through FB, and thinking I was her kinda guy, given the posts of my portrait drawings. And so, I replied, "So, are you down to meet?" Of course, the exchanged flatlined from there. Psh. That's the online scene for ya. Any desire for an actual date takes a seat far in back of that of garnering attention.

She belongs in the Online Hamster thread.

She's a 5 on a very very good day(I'm feeling kind and generous today). Faintly mediocre.

In my experience, the majority of women in their 30s who seem down to meet from the sites are single moms. Well, at least we know they're into having sex, right? Hahaha

Is that chick for real? I don't get why someone would do that...



So I had my first crack at online dating after (hopefully) having absorbed some helpful stuff from this forum and elsewhere. Got maybe a 50% 'view' rate from my openers, which I'm hoping is decent considering I only message HB8s and up. Fairly certain my pictures and possibly profile are letting me down.

Anywho, a chick that did reply went kinda spaz. Sent 3 messages straight after each other. All kind of insulting, but in quite an over the top kind of way. Not sure if it's just a shit test, she is just fucking with me, or its a genuine reaction from some crazy vindictive chick.

Anyone else had similar? I'm leaning towards a reply of "Haha. You're adorable." Or something like that.

Or just ignoring. Although if she is just crazy, I kinda want to mess with her...

"aw, that's cute. you're trying to make me think you're a badass in the sack too"

Something like that. Go sexual. you'll either get blocked or get her going.

What did she say to you?

(07-12-2015 11:54 AM)Lizard King Wrote:  "aw, that's cute. you're trying to make me think you're a badass in the sack too"

Something like that. Go sexual. you'll either get blocked or get her going.

May as well. I'm now more leaning towards "You're feisty. I like that."

(07-12-2015 06:25 PM)Remington Wrote:  What did she say to you?

For clarification, here is what she sent. Re-reading it, I'm starting to think she is just batshit crazy.

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Well first of all id never consider taking you out anyway reason being you have a funny shaped nose and you look like a junkie. And as for going out when you get the hang of things it doesn't take long also eating I probably eat more then my actual body weight. Where I store it I really don't know

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And you have a massive forehead and you will probably go bald before 25

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I can see why you stay home. If I seen you in a night club I'd get pretty worried. I'd have to call the bounces to remove you, and as for you going to the gym LOL! Give up its not even working for you, you should be saving for a nose job you badly need it

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This is just intriguing to me.

I'm gonna leave it until tomorrow night, see what you fellas say. If anything, this is a learning experience.

Definitely certified, and she's DSM V material.

@Aussie_Thinker

Honestly man it's far more likely that is a troll account. It's too much investment and effort. Hot girls are inundated with messages on these sites, not to mention the texts etc. they get from real life beta orbiters. They're not going to take the time to type shit like this out.

Curious what your opener was

In my experience there are some quality girls online. For me it's been worth the effort. My advice:

1. Use talking on the phone when they are open to it. This is the missing link to build comfort with some of these girls. It's BULLSHIT that you can't build comfort over the phone. I've had several 1st dates at home because I built comfort on the phone.

2. Don't be in a hurry. Yes, you have to move things forward but don't be afraid to put her on the back burner for awhile.

(07-12-2015 06:25 PM)Remington Wrote:  What did she say to you?

For clarification, here is what she sent. Re-reading it, I'm starting to think she is just batshit crazy.

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Well first of all id never consider taking you out anyway reason being you have a funny shaped nose and you look like a junkie. And as for going out when you get the hang of things it doesn't take long also eating I probably eat more then my actual body weight. Where I store it I really don't know

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And you have a massive forehead and you will probably go bald before 25

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I can see why you stay home. If I seen you in a night club I'd get pretty worried. I'd have to call the bounces to remove you, and as for you going to the gym LOL! Give up its not even working for you, you should be saving for a nose job you badly need it

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This is just intriguing to me.

I'm gonna leave it until tomorrow night, see what you fellas say. If anything, this is a learning experience.
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Why would you waste your time with this woman? I saw her website and she definitely is trying way to hard to be humorous. She is pretty pathetic. You could play her game and troll her back by saying something about her appearance or habits, but is it really worth it?

@Remington. I don't think he is corresponding with the desperate woman from that website.

@Remington, what Lizard King said. This is a chick on POF, not that website shown earlier.

I'll just leave it be. If she is like that, and it is a shit test, I can't be bothered dealing with it.

On to the next one!

Oh. My bad. Thought you were having a big convo with her.

Looks like OKC has removed the green, yellow, and red bars for response rate. I'm actually surprised.

Gone are the days of the 33-year-old fatty who responds very selectively.

My Korean lead disappeared. She was actually down to hang and put it on me to set something up. I shot her my number and a day later I was without a phone...which lasted for 5 days. I go to check online and I think she deactivated her profile...either that or blocked me due to not responding to her text. On to the next.

(07-15-2015 12:06 AM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  My Korean lead disappeared. She was actually down to hang and put it on me to set something up. I shot her my number and a day later I was without a phone...which lasted for 5 days. I go to check online and I think she deactivated her profile...either that or blocked me due to not responding to her text. On to the next.

How do you know she deactivated her profile or that you're blocked? When someone deactivates their profile, in your message history their image will just come up as grey, and if you click on it, it will take you to a screen that says "Sorry, that user doesn't exist" or something to that effect.

If you're blocked, you won't know it explicitly. You'll be able to see their profile and open a message window with them just fine, but every message you send will just get dumped into a black hole and you'll never get the "read" checkmark. On their end it's just as if they were never sent.

I actually met with a chick a while back where something like that happened - it turned out her account had just been temporarily deactivated because the modnazis didn't like one of her pics or something and it took her a while to get back in.

Just make sure the symptoms point towards a definite "next" on her case and not just a misunderstanding

Her image comes up a grey and at the bottom says *username* no longer has an account. I checked to see if her username would pop up, but nothing there either. So my guess is that she deactivated. Last message I sent was Thursday, I can't even be sure if she text me or not because my phone was out after that day.

I had a situation like that where the girl had contacted me and seemed super interested. Then she deactivated her account. I thought the worst but turned out to be a mistake on her part. When she got back online a few days later she gave me her number. She ended up being a long term fbuddy.

Always assume attraction. Stop worrying about the little bumps in the road...

Looks like OKC has removed the green, yellow, and red bars for response rate. I'm actually surprised.

Damn... that was the best feature... helped know when you're likely to be wasting your time.

(07-15-2015 10:47 PM)kavakid Wrote:  I had a situation like that where the girl had contacted me and seemed super interested. Then she deactivated her account. I thought the worst but turned out to be a mistake on her part. When she got back online a few days later she gave me her number. She ended up being a long term fbuddy.

Always assume attraction. Stop worrying about the little bumps in the road...

Right, still have leads I'm working so we'll see in time with this one. She did show good interest so I'll go off that. Also it felt kinda weird not having the response meters anymore. I'm curious of why they'd remove it.

This thread is redundant at a point.
Someone should figure a way to look at all the post and make a write up of solid info on how to make a profile.
Maybe even a stickied post.

I think it's been done once before.
What your pictures should look like.
How much info should be in your profile.
What questions you should answer. ( I swear,a while back someone said they deleted all their questions and only answered ones that would interest girls and boost his match percentage)

But it's all buried so deep in the thread.

I made a fake girl profile on OKC, because I was curious to verify the claim that when a girl signs up online she has a lot of quality guys messaging her and that's why other quality dudes can't get her in the bar.

This girl is a 7, maybe 8, I just copied her from a profile in another city. She's 27. Ok, maybe I should've lowered the age. Very pretty girl, but doesn't stand out with big boobs or anything like that. Just you pretty girlfriend type that most men would wife up. Thin, dark hair. I certainly would date that chick.

It's been three days, this profile received 46 messages. I looked a bit at the guys that were messaging and NONE of them striked me as anything that special. A lot of these dudes send extremely beta messages like "Anyone who goes out with you is a lucky man". A lot of guys who seems like they don't have anything going for them. Two or three dudes trying to buy the girl. The top guy was probably this black dude with his style on lock and a pretty good career.

My takeouts:
- The competition is not that serious. A lot of volume, not a lot of quality. The Internet alphas are not eating every girl in the city.
- The messages that stand out are the short ones where the guy doesn't try too hard. From my point of view.
- Pictures matter the most.
- On a larger scale. Bitchy girls are bitchy because of their personality, not because they have Leo Dicaprio on tap waiting on the phone in their back pocket.