Got her number online. Her profile said she was submissive. So did I do something wrong or was she not really interested?

Any thoughts on how I can leverage this lukewarm girl into a bang?

We have been on one date - she seemed lukewarm on me but date went ok overall and we kissed.

This was last month and a subsequent date has been delayed for various reasons but essentially she is not smitten with me but I could potentially get bang if I play all my cards right (difficult)

After a month of on and off texting, she suggested I look for "other dates"

I essentially said ok and have not messaged her since.

Last night she messages with:
"hey"
"how are you"

No reply from me

Today she messages me:
great it would seem

Anything I can do here?

^Since you were digging this woman in the past, she is probably texting you because she wanted some attention and she thinks you'll give it to her.

Salvaging this semi warm lead will be pretty tricky.

If I were to respond, it would be a closed response and somewhat cold. I'm not going to waste my time on a woman that strings me along.

You could go with "you got it" or "bingo," or some variation of response where it seems like you could care less about her hitting you up.

(12-18-2018 10:02 AM)MaceTyrell Wrote:  TLDR: Should I just next or keep pushing?

Mace, did you ever hear back from this girl?

Sounds like you weren't a priority, so I hope you moved on from her. Most girls nowadays have their phones on them 24/7, so I wouldn't buy the 'bad texter' excuse. Plus, if she was really interested she would make it a point to reply back to you in a timely manner....which isn't 10+ days later.

(12-17-2018 06:11 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(12-17-2018 02:39 PM)RespectivePerspective Wrote:  Me: Come over.

Her: I will when i’m out of work. What will we be doing? I kind of feel like staying indoors.

Me: Good, because it’s Hitler documentary night. It’s the one on Eva Braun. I need you to see how a loyal woman behaves.

Her: lol ok, i’m out of work now.

Me: I left the door to the führerbunker unlocked, so just come on in.

Her: jawohl mein führer!

And then she never showed up and didn't respond further or what happened here exactly?

You asked her to come watch a Hitler documentary...thats what happened.

Should I text her again?

Situation is:
I fucked a girl about 2 months ago, but was super in a hurry afterwards and left the city /country without getting her number. I just reeally had to go.
Ended up regretting not getting the number. Would have costed 20 seconds of my time lol.
I find her on IG, but am reluctant to DM her there, cause, well, how did I find her with zero common friends etc.

My friend, who I visited in that city, fucked her friend and got her number. I saw him a couple of days ago and he said that she had asked about me A COUPLE OF WEEKS ago.

He gives me her number and I text her something like "Christina! It's me, droughtmeat. Don't freak out, I asked father christmas for your number and he delivered" I added some embarassed and smiling emojis etc.

She read the message, but didn't reply. So now I'm very reluctant to text her again, cause I don't to be THAT GUY hundreds of kilometers away blowing up her phone with irrelevant texts.

Any suggestions? I'd personally rather not text her and if we do see each other when I go back there next year, I think I'd have more leverage, if any at all, than if I send more unanswered texts haha.

Would someone be kind enough to take a look at the one I posted above?

Ok guys looking for some insight/help.Matched with this girl on Tinder (Yesterday)- messaged and was trying to meet yesterday but it was late and she was with friend. So proposed drinks sometimes soon, and this is what I have got - not sure if this is yes, no maybe?

bet it will be freezing today but good on you! Have a good one I’m off to a family lunch very boring but warm lol. I could be up for that wee bit busy this week mind you

Situation: matched with a girl on Bumble, exchanged some messages, got her phone number. Sent her a text about meeting up for a drink. We agreed on a day and time. This is the most recent exchange:

Me: I want to check out x bar. It looks super divey but a coworker told me it's a good place and not as divey as it looks. If he's wrong we can bounce to x bar nearby.

Her: Haha ya it looks divey, but it's not - they have pretty good food there! Though I do love me some divey places
Do you have any more pictures?

I have three pictures on my bumble profile. A headshot, a full body shot in a suit, and a full body (clothed) shot from my travels. Not really sure how to respond to this text. Any suggestions?

EDIT: I also don't have the body to send a shirtless photo and I'm not into sending dick pics.

(01-02-2019 12:25 PM)Agrippa Wrote:  Situation: matched with a girl on Bumble, exchanged some messages, got her phone number. Sent her a text about meeting up for a drink. We agreed on a day and time. This is the most recent exchange:

Me: I want to check out x bar. It looks super divey but a coworker told me it's a good place and not as divey as it looks. If he's wrong we can bounce to x bar nearby.

Her: Haha ya it looks divey, but it's not - they have pretty good food there! Though I do love me some divey places
Do you have any more pictures?

I have three pictures on my bumble profile. A headshot, a full body shot in a suit, and a full body (clothed) shot from my travels. Not really sure how to respond to this text. Any suggestions?

EDIT: I also don't have the body to send a shirtless photo and I'm not into sending dick pics.

Since you only have 3 pictures and I imagine maybe they're not all that clear/amazing, I'd send a clearer one with you doing something cool or with a couple good looking friends, especially if you have girls in the picture. Keep moving it towards meeting up. Tease her, intrigue her a little, but make that meet up happen as it's all way easier in person.

(01-01-2019 10:10 AM)Pytonga Wrote:  Ok guys looking for some insight/help.Matched with this girl on Tinder (Yesterday)- messaged and was trying to meet yesterday but it was late and she was with friend. So proposed drinks sometimes soon, and this is what I have got - not sure if this is yes, no maybe?

bet it will be freezing today but good on you! Have a good one I’m off to a family lunch very boring but warm lol. I could be up for that wee bit busy this week mind you

She's not all that interested, but it is the holidays. I'd reach out to her again and ask her if she's recovered from NYE or something like that to strike it back up. Maybe ask her if she's ready to "dive" into the new year (or make some other dive bar related joke).

So if I suspect a girl I'm having sex with is together with this guy (and I happen to have his number in my address book but we don't know each other).
What is a good way to text him and see if they're banging or if it's green light? Would like to come off as just caring about brocode.

I wouldn't want to keep fucking her if she's together with this guy anyway and kind of losing attraction because of it.

(01-18-2019 06:11 PM)No More Mr. Soy Boy Wrote:  So if I suspect a girl I'm having sex with is together with this guy (and I happen to have his number in my address book but we don't know each other).
What is a good way to text him and see if they're banging or if it's green light? Would like to come off as just caring about brocode.

I wouldn't want to keep fucking her if she's together with this guy anyway and kind of losing attraction because of it.

If you mean she has a boyfriend and is cheating on him on you, I wouldn't text the bf. Stop seeing her if you want or try to find out without texting the guy by looking him up on social media.

Asking the guy is just asking for trouble, just find out on your own and then cut contact.

For all you know your msg is going to cause the girl to say to her bf that you abused her and get you in trouble.

(01-18-2019 06:11 PM)No More Mr. Soy Boy Wrote:  So if I suspect a girl I'm having sex with is together with this guy (and I happen to have his number in my address book but we don't know each other).
What is a good way to text him and see if they're banging or if it's green light? Would like to come off as just caring about brocode.

I wouldn't want to keep fucking her if she's together with this guy anyway and kind of losing attraction because of it.

If you text him: He hates you, she hates you = problems for you.

You say you aren't sure if they are together, maybe they are just friends/FWB/her gay best friend.

If you do find out that she is actually seeing him without you getting involved or you are losing attraction due to the possibility of it, then just stop seeing her without giving her any reason to dislike you. That way when she becomes available again, can hit up again.

I would imagine others in here to suggest just not caring about it and using protection, though I think If I got in that situation I'll also feel some guilty to the point of not enjoying it.

(01-19-2019 04:59 AM)Tinder Scientist Wrote:  If you mean she has a boyfriend and is cheating on him on you, I wouldn't text the bf. Stop seeing her if you want or try to find out without texting the guy by looking him up on social media.

Asking the guy is just asking for trouble, just find out on your own and then cut contact.

For all you know your msg is going to cause the girl to say to her bf that you abused her and get you in trouble.

(01-19-2019 05:03 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  If you text him: He hates you, she hates you = problems for you.d

You say you aren't sure if they are together, maybe they are just friends/FWB/her gay best friend.

If you do find out that she is actually seeing him without you getting involved or you are losing attraction due to the possibility of it, then just stop seeing her without giving her any reason to dislike you. That way when she becomes available again, can hit up again.

I would imagine others in here to suggest just not caring about it and using protection, though I think If I got in that situation I'll also feel some guilty to the point of not enjoying it.

Thanks for the reply!

But I'm thinking of texting this guy from another phone I have so he can't know it's me and I don't risk getting myself into trouble.

What should I text then?

19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

(01-21-2019 07:24 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

You'll be better off splashing a few quid for a manicure than thinking about this broad.

Her: French chick I met at a cafe/hotel lobby. I approached after IoI and helped her with a cover letter. We agreed to grab drinks face to face on Wednesday during conversation

Me: Hey it’s name (3pm)
Her: hey name it was great meeting you! Thank you so much for your help (5pm)
Me: It was great meeting you too! Spent yesterday hosting a watch party for the football games. Let’s go to place on Wednesday at 8:30 (9am)

I was busy rest of the night so waited til next day. Thoughts?

(01-21-2019 07:24 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

"They (club owners) sound like real cunts. We should meet and plot your revenge against them. How about...(date proposal)"

(01-22-2019 12:58 PM)ndsamkw Wrote:  Her: French chick I met at a cafe/hotel lobby. I approached after IoI and helped her with a cover letter. We agreed to grab drinks face to face on Wednesday during conversation

Me: Hey it’s name (3pm)
Her: hey name it was great meeting you! Thank you so much for your help (5pm)
Me: It was great meeting you too! Spent yesterday hosting a watch party for the football games. Let’s go to place on Wednesday at 8:30 (9am)

I was busy rest of the night so waited til next day. Thoughts?

Hard to advise something without knowing the details of your interaction (how much flirting, attraction, comfort was there in the interaction?).
It sounds like you jumped the gun with the straight up date proposal (something I do a lot too, unfortunatly). Also, it sounds like you were a bit nice guyish/ white knightish by helping her with the cv. So maybe she's not interested.

I would do a mini freeze out (couple of days), then ping her with something (for example a photo of you doing something cool and a caption that links back to something from your original interaction). If she's still not responding, next her. If she responds, shit chat a little and then make anothet date proposal.

New here. I've gotten so much from reading this thread. Reading from the beginning but only on like page 25. I got a girls number day gaming this morning, it was a pretty quick interaction, not really clear that I had solid attraction but whatever, I'm trying to schedule the date.

Me: Hey it's x
Her: Hey its x
Me: How are you
Her: Good. Tell me about you, what do you do?
Me: I'm a web developer, you? (I know, I should have replied with a joke answer here)
Her: I'm studying
Her: Are you here with family?
Her: Or, how long have you been in Colombia?
Me: I arrived in October. No, I live with friends (again I shouldn't have fallen to her frame)
Me: What are you studying?
Her: Accounting
Her: How long are you staying?
Me: Cool
Me: I'm here until July
Me: What's your availability this week. We should get a coffee one day
Her: The weather is always great here
Her: What motivates you about me. Why do you want that we see each other (translated)

I know I fell to her frame already but this last one is a massive test. I clearly didn't know enough intent ("hey I think you're hot") when we met during the day.

I'm thinking about saying something like, "You seemed interesting and I'm spontaneous, so I figured I'd say hello and see if you'd be up for a coffee. It could be fun."

Maybe that's weak though, will take any advice

(01-22-2019 08:31 PM)crentist Wrote:  I'm thinking about saying something like, "You seemed interesting and I'm spontaneous, so I figured I'd say hello and see if you'd be up for a coffee. It could be fun."

Maybe that's weak though, will take any advice

"I figured"
"See if you'd be up"
"it could be fun"

Avoid using this kind of language, it screams insecurity. Be unapologetic and decisive, also keep it short.

I think it's a bad sign when a girl is shit testing you this early, unless she is incredibly insecure about herself. Maybe you are failing to communicate your desire for her in a non needy way?

Snipping the conversation.

"Her: What motivates you about me. Why do you want that we see each other (translated)"

Based on what I read, you could have done better to build sexual energy, but she KEPT asking you personal questions so you're good. The above was the first test. How you answer(ed) that matters. What did you end up responding?

(01-22-2019 10:38 PM)Tinder Scientist Wrote:  

(01-22-2019 08:31 PM)crentist Wrote:  I'm thinking about saying something like, "You seemed interesting and I'm spontaneous, so I figured I'd say hello and see if you'd be up for a coffee. It could be fun."

Maybe that's weak though, will take any advice

"I figured"
"See if you'd be up"
"it could be fun"

Avoid using this kind of language, it screams insecurity. Be unapologetic and decisive, also keep it short.

I think it's a bad sign when a girl is shit testing you this early, unless she is incredibly insecure about herself. Maybe you are failing to communicate your desire for her in a non needy way?

Great points. I totally agree about the weak use of language. Glad I didn't go with it.

I went out to approach some girls on the street with my friend tonight and he told me to send a voice message (everyone uses WhatsApp here). My buddy does this with a lot of success, he claims the girls love it when white guys attempt to use Spanish. We'll see.

I sent her a voice message along the lines of, "Hey, yeah, when I saw you I thought you were cute wanted to get to know and see if you'd like to get coffee, if so that'd be cool, if not cool" - something like that.

The daygame interaction was really short and I didn't really express that I thought she was hot, so in the message I figured I'd say it, so if we do get coffee, then she knows my intent. Honestly, it was my first number from day game after a 3 year relationship and I'm doing 5 approaches a day for the next 28 days so I don't really care if she writes back.

Thanks for responses, looking forward to asking less shitty questions

(01-22-2019 08:31 PM)crentist Wrote:  New here. I've gotten so much from reading this thread. Reading from the beginning but only on like page 25. I got a girls number day gaming this morning, it was a pretty quick interaction, not really clear that I had solid attraction but whatever, I'm trying to schedule the date.

Me: Hey it's x
Her: Hey its x
Me: How are you
Her: Good. Tell me about you, what do you do?
Me: I'm a web developer, you? (I know, I should have replied with a joke answer here)
Her: I'm studying
Her: Are you here with family?
Her: Or, how long have you been in Colombia?
Me: I arrived in October. No, I live with friends (again I shouldn't have fallen to her frame)
Me: What are you studying?
Her: Accounting
Her: How long are you staying?
Me: Cool
Me: I'm here until July
Me: What's your availability this week. We should get a coffee one day
Her: The weather is always great here
Her: What motivates you about me. Why do you want that we see each other (translated)

I know I fell to her frame already but this last one is a massive test. I clearly didn't know enough intent ("hey I think you're hot") when we met during the day.

I'm thinking about saying something like, "You seemed interesting and I'm spontaneous, so I figured I'd say hello and see if you'd be up for a coffee. It could be fun."

Maybe that's weak though, will take any advice

Deseo conocerte, pienso eso y quizas en tiempo, robar un beso

(01-22-2019 03:25 PM)Macomber Wrote:  

(01-21-2019 07:24 AM)coffeedrinker Wrote:  19 year old on tinder with the typical "make me laugh" bio.

Msged her with a sarcastic joke. Few short msgs later, she sends me a long paragraph about how she got banned from a club. I tease that she must be trouble to get banned. Next day she sends me 2 massive paragraphs explaining why she got banned and how it's not her fault and being butthurt at the manager.

The thing is, it sounds like a young girl that's ranting at random guys for attention as my texts just do not deserve anywhere near that kind of investment.

Oh and she quoted equality act or some random crap saying she's entitled to her opinion of a club being shit. Crazy stuff

Haven't replied yet but I'm sure the text gods here can think of a good reply to this.

"They (club owners) sound like real cunts. We should meet and plot your revenge against them. How about...(date proposal)"

I like that, and sent a variant of it to her but I think I waited too long as she ghosted me after that. Probably a dodged bullet anyway.