(08-22-2014 03:58 PM)kaotic Wrote:  This cute girl re-opened me last night send me some weird comic panel of about having kids

I just said ???

Her: Lol remember me ? I had a shitty clutch cable so I couldn't drive anywhere (some lame excuse when she flaked)
Me: Idk, send me a pic of you
Her: -pics- Cute (7.3)
Me: Hmm you're cute what's your name ?
Her: Lol Alicia
Me: Hmm you look like a natasha ha, so where do you live ?
Her:Mmm that's my stripper name, lol, and X city.
Me: I'm assuming you've fixed this cable you're talking about and can hangout.

Should I of masked my intentions more ? She hasn't responded since this morning, I might restart her later tommorow.

Thoughts ? Responses ?

My idea:
-a day later-
"Did you die ?"
"Didn't you mother teach you its polite to respond to people ?"

I don't think you were too blunt. But she is already flaking on you? I would not message her for at least a week. Then go for logistics (and don't ask her why she is ignoring you, ever, that just sounds butt hurt and a weak frame).

Anything less than that, and you are just digging a hole for yourself. THat said, if she has already flaked on you once and is not very good about replying to you, I would say she is only contacting you because she likes the attention and has no desire to meet up. My suggestion would be to ignore and move on.

(08-22-2014 05:34 PM)eradicator Wrote:  

(08-22-2014 03:58 PM)kaotic Wrote:  This cute girl re-opened me last night send me some weird comic panel of about having kids

I just said ???

Her: Lol remember me ? I had a shitty clutch cable so I couldn't drive anywhere (some lame excuse when she flaked)
Me: Idk, send me a pic of you
Her: -pics- Cute (7.3)
Me: Hmm you're cute what's your name ?
Her: Lol Alicia
Me: Hmm you look like a natasha ha, so where do you live ?
Her:Mmm that's my stripper name, lol, and X city.
Me: I'm assuming you've fixed this cable you're talking about and can hangout.

Should I of masked my intentions more ? She hasn't responded since this morning, I might restart her later tommorow.

Thoughts ? Responses ?

My idea:
-a day later-
"Did you die ?"
"Didn't you mother teach you its polite to respond to people ?"

I don't think you were too blunt. But she is already flaking on you? I would not message her for at least a week. Then go for logistics (and don't ask her why she is ignoring you, ever, that just sounds butt hurt and a weak frame).

Anything less than that, and you are just digging a hole for yourself. THat said, if she has already flaked on you once and is not very good about replying to you, I would say she is only contacting you because she likes the attention and has no desire to meet up. My suggestion would be to ignore and move on.

No she flaked like 2 months ago when we were supposed to meet up and gave me an excuse about her cable clutch,

Then last night she texted me this startup text by reminding me who this girl was aka girl with cable clutch.

In that case, I would forget about her, game other girls and expect another text from her in 2 months.

(08-22-2014 06:22 PM)eradicator Wrote:  In that case, I would forget about her, game other girls and expect another text from her in 2 months.

Yeah sound about right, wasn't even going to bother chasing her. Im barely getting my mojo back after the abortion. Banging another regular tonight OR hanging with this stripper (we've always had opposite schedules)

either way I'm planning on getting off !

Met two girls at a show at night while i was alone m under the premise we would double date. My friend is a shit wingman and will only hinder my chances so i say fuck it and go for the one i want. Tell her to meet me solo.

She springs a "dont hate me but I'd be more comfortable if my friend was with me"

Best way to deal with this? I just want to get her out. I could easily game both of them. Logistics makes 3some impossible.

I gave a radio silence. She seems shy and likely inexperienced. Would make a good winter plate.

How to get this girl out? What to reply to that?

Shy/Inexperienced women are always attracted to me. I am the complete opposite of them. I need more sluts in my life.

diff church going girl who's old had one bf. this is after date one. after we make plans for date 2. she REALLY likes me.

i vaguely remember making out with her a little, doing a light neck bite/hair pull, and going for a boob over the clothes.
Very standard for me? I thought it was boring.

(we set the date up)

her: ok but i have to tell you i wanna be clear or something

me:(sensing an impending shit test) im not easy dont even think about it

me: haha what did u wanna be clear about

her: this is kinda embarassing im like super old school i was a little thrown off from last night.

me: omg so was i. i cant believe u tried to kiss me.

her: im serious. like kissing is fine there's def diff levels and it felt like you were expecting more. and i'm def not like that is all.

This girl may be winter short term gf material.

I got two girls one lives in my dorm and the other I met at a party and don't remember. I need a good opening text for both any ideas?

Tried to convince a girl I've slept with 3 times before to come over again (last time we slept was 1½ weeks ago).
Got this text:
"I'm to tired to come over and have like 0% sex drive, tomorrow?"

How can I answer without coming off as needy?
Will do radio silence for now and fuck her tomorrow, but as a newbie I want to learn how to convince her and get laid tonight.

(08-23-2014 04:10 PM)Summer Wrote:  Tried to convince a girl I've slept with 3 times before to come over again (last time we slept was 1½ weeks ago).
Got this text:
"I'm to tired to come over and have like 0% sex drive, tomorrow?"

How can I answer without coming off as needy?
Will do radio silence for now and fuck her tomorrow, but as a newbie I want to learn how to convince her and get laid tonight.

I don't think there is a silver bullet or some kind of Jedi master trick here buddy - part of the game is knowing when to cut your losses and/or wait it out. It is what it is, sex would suck if she really feels like this anyway so just wait til tomorrow when she's revved up and ready to go!! You'll be even more powerful tomorrow when you bang and she'll be more ready for it!

Ok this girl is a sure bang no doubt BUT this reeks of over attachment and I'm not sure how to respond.

"So I've decided I don't want to wait a week to see you again but I know you have a lot going on after work and everything soooo I was wondering what are your thoughts of me one day next week bring lunch to you?"


She is an hour and a half from my work.

"I like turkey and ham sammich, swiss cheese"(or tell her what you want to bring.)

Or if you are trying to get rid of her, "sorry, I got back together with my ex last night".

(08-23-2014 03:04 AM)Valhalla Wrote:  Shy/Inexperienced women are always attracted to me. I am the complete opposite of them. I need more sluts in my life.

diff church going girl who's old had one bf. this is after date one. after we make plans for date 2. she REALLY likes me.

i vaguely remember making out with her a little, doing a light neck bite/hair pull, and going for a boob over the clothes.
Very standard for me? I thought it was boring.

(we set the date up)

her: ok but i have to tell you i wanna be clear or something

me:(sensing an impending shit test) im not easy dont even think about it

me: haha what did u wanna be clear about

her: this is kinda embarassing im like super old school i was a little thrown off from last night.

me: omg so was i. i cant believe u tried to kiss me.

her: im serious. like kissing is fine there's def diff levels and it felt like you were expecting more. and i'm def not like that is all.

This girl may be winter short term gf material.

That double text was a mistake. The first cocky funny line was very good. But do you see what you did? You backed down from it, making it appear that you didn't have the confidence to support being cocky with her. You then made it worse by throwing in the "haha"- a good general rule is that alphas don't laugh at their own jokes because they have the confidence to expect that other people will laugh at them. I admit this is difficult over text though because meanings and tones can be misconstrued and I do violate the rule myself but I try to keep it to one "ha". That difference may look silly but sound it out for yourself and you'll notice two ha's, or worse three, sound ingratiating while one sounds more sarcastic.
I don't think you hurt yourself with this girl though, she sounds like just a prude who is going to require an excessive amount of effort. Only a very sexshy girl would try to preemptively cockblock you by text like that

(08-23-2014 04:10 PM)Summer Wrote:  Tried to convince a girl I've slept with 3 times before to come over again (last time we slept was 1½ weeks ago).
Got this text:
"I'm to tired to come over and have like 0% sex drive, tomorrow?"

How can I answer without coming off as needy?
Will do radio silence for now and fuck her tomorrow, but as a newbie I want to learn how to convince her and get laid tonight.

Best way to not sound needy is to not act needy

Best answer is simply "OK". Nothing further until the next afternoon.
"OK" is a great all purpose answer anytime a girl turns you down for a date, flakes or otherwise gives you a hard time. You don't sound invested and she will get the sense that she is no big deal to you

Texting to a girl on Tinder. The initial mood is good and when I told her I speak German she passes the phone to her girl friend. Her friend and I have some small talk in german. Then I get a phone number: "012345 It's (friends name) number write her"
Some more small talk on whatsapp with the german friend for 5 min. Then, since I'm interested in my tinder match, I stop it by saying "Hey, actually I was supposed to be talking to your friend". So I continue the conversation on tinder by saying:

Me: My friend, don't sell me warm beer... That's the wrong number. You were supposed to give me your
Her: Wtf?
Me: Yes. I asked myself the same question
Her: Are y fucking kiddin me or what

My options:
A) She just wants to get rid of me and wants to pass me to her friend. => I just forget that tinder match
B) She is actually confused. I highly doubt it, since they were together. => Explain what happened in the shortest possible way?

How do you guys see this? I'm in their town for a few days with the option for prolonging for a while.

(08-24-2014 05:01 PM)sailor_09 Wrote:  Texting to a girl on Tinder. The initial mood is good and when I told her I speak German she passes the phone to her girl friend. Her friend and I have some small talk in german. Then I get a phone number: "012345 It's (friends name) number write her"
Some more small talk on whatsapp with the german friend for 5 min. Then, since I'm interested in my tinder match, I stop it by saying "Hey, actually I was supposed to be talking to your friend". So I continue the conversation on tinder by saying:

Me: My friend, don't sell me warm beer... That's the wrong number. You were supposed to give me your
Her: Wtf?
Me: Yes. I asked myself the same question
Her: Are y fucking kiddin me or what

My options:
A) She just wants to get rid of me and wants to pass me to her friend. => I just forget that tinder match
B) She is actually confused. I highly doubt it, since they were together. => Explain what happened in the shortest possible way?

How do you guys see this? I'm in their town for a few days with the option for prolonging for a while.

Don't be so serious. Take it lightly.

say something along the lines of "lol im confused - who am i talking to?"

Make fun of a funny situation.

As for me:

I went on a date with a HB7 and got the make-out. Didn't go for bang for various reasons.

Now I'm in touch with her friend, HB8. HB8 is way smarter and she and I have some good chemistry. I contacted her on facebook and we had some good banter but when I told her we should hang out, she ignored the question, but added me on facebook. I'm not friends with HB7. So Hb8 is definitely down, but a wary/cautious.

I can't remember the playbook for this kind of scenario. I'm thinking keep it light as possible, send her funny shit and wait until a new opportunity pops up? My life in general is boring as hell at the moment, so I am not doing things or really have a chance to ask her join me on some adventure.

Haha, that was good ElJefe

As far as adventures go, I have a motorcycle. It's my passion and taking girls on bike trips has proved to be a magnet. Haven't had a girl on my bike who hasn't slept with me. It helps build trust very fast. Pictures from my adventures on Instagram have also positive effect. Sports bikes (crotch rockets) may have negative effect though as a lot of guys use them for posing. A normal 'dual-sport' bike with country flags all over it won't get stolen and screams adventure. All girls love to travel...

a girl I had been seeing a few months called it off this week. So...I walked away and told her she could call me if she changes her mind.

Her birthday is next weekend and she had been telling me about it. Should I text her just a quick "happy birthday" as kind of a brief good faith deal? I'm dating other women but wouldn't mind getting this girl back eventually. I don't know if texting her would help or hurt getting her back one day.

I don't plan on calling her..but think she may call me back one day in the next few weeks/months.

(08-26-2014 09:43 PM)robreke Wrote:  a girl I had been seeing a few months called it off this week. So...I walked away and told her she could call me if she changes her mind.

Her birthday is next weekend and she had been telling me about it. Should I text her just a quick "happy birthday" as kind of a brief good faith deal? I'm dating other women but wouldn't mind getting this girl back eventually. I don't know if texting her would help or hurt getting her back one day.

I don't plan on calling her..but think she may call me back one day in the next few weeks/months.

I read your other post and it sounds like you have oneitis for this girl. She broke it off with you. Why do you still want to keep it alive? I'm not saying don't text her but first understand why you want to text her. Are you doing it out of desperation to get her back or do you genuinely want to wish her happy birthday?

1. After your intro text, how do you guys get the ball rolling with convos? "What are you up to" sounds so boring and the girls ALWAYS always say nothing.
There's literally nothing for me to say I'm usually doing nothing too. I usually have to maintain steam for 2-3 days until I have an opening in my schedule and we can hang out.

2. how do you guys sexualize the conversation during text exchange.

Sexual intro... (more of a romantic to be honest). I just skip the who "hi, what's up" part. Most of them like it, some don't. It just filters the time wasters and those not interested.

I like David Shade's and mode one's stuff on dirty talk. It has helped me a lot in bed and also with my text game. Making a girl wet or coming while reading my text is so powerful!

The standard how are you doing, etc. questions are good for after the 10th interaction when I also want to appear "normal"

Two weeks ago my favorite girl dropped out of rotation. She said she felt guilty cheating on her boyfriend all the time and wanted to go back to being friends with me. I just told her I wasn't interested and goodbye. Her LINE statuses have all been things related to me for the last two weeks. Then she texts me at 3 in the morning this morning saying, "I can't stop thinking about you... I want to kiss you..." I'm leaning toward ignore, but if any of you good texters out there have a good idea, I'm all ears.

(08-26-2014 09:43 PM)robreke Wrote:  a girl I had been seeing a few months called it off this week. So...I walked away and told her she could call me if she changes her mind.

Her birthday is next weekend and she had been telling me about it. Should I text her just a quick "happy birthday" as kind of a brief good faith deal? I'm dating other women but wouldn't mind getting this girl back eventually. I don't know if texting her would help or hurt getting her back one day.

I don't plan on calling her..but think she may call me back one day in the next few weeks/months.

If you text her Happy Birthday she will have contempt for you. She will be feeling, "I broke up with him and he's still pining over me, waiting for an excuse to talk with me. He thinks I'm amazing, but I know I'm not, in fact I'm really nothing special at all, and if he thinks I'm this amazing thing, them he's an idiot and even lower than I am!"

This dialog is what unconsciously goes on in the back of every person's mind when they think the other sees them as the One because they know they are not the One, they are much lower than that, and anyone who sees them as the One must be even lower than they are.

In general, this is the rub that comes with the desire in having someone see us as the One. As they say, careful what you wish for.

Added a random hot girl on Facebook. One that doesn't seem to be attention whote. ~400 friends, ~20 likes on the sexy photos.

Our convo:
- Do we know each other?
- oop haha, usually I don't add random people. My crazy head probably found you for interesting and charming.
- This means?

She is still replying even when she knows it's random and pushing for very logical answers. Saying something along "wanted to get to know you" or "we can chat" is simply creepy and screams stalking.
I was thinking of something along "we can pretend we met at a club last night and had a really nice conversation so I added you"

What do you guys think?

(09-01-2014 03:27 AM)sailor_09 Wrote:  Added a random hot girl on Facebook. One that doesn't seem to be attention whote. ~400 friends, ~20 likes on the sexy photos.

Our convo:
- Do we know each other?
- oop haha, usually I don't add random people. My crazy head probably found you for interesting and charming.
- This means?

She is still replying even when she knows it's random and pushing for very logical answers. Saying something along "wanted to get to know you" or "we can chat" is simply creepy and screams stalking.
I was thinking of something along "we can pretend we met at a club last night and had a really nice conversation so I added you"

What do you guys think?

The way I see it, she's either up for meeting a random dude or she's not. Outside of referring to a mutual acquaintance or friend to put her at ease, you can't really sugar coat the situation to make it seem other than what it is.

So I think you just have to go straight for the kill: "I don't normally do this, but you seem interesting--how about we meet for coffee sometime"

So I went out on a date with this chick during the weekend. It hit off really well until the last 45min of the date when I just got too drunk and my self-love got a bit too far to the point where all I did was talking about myself(not bragging but just being an abnoxious prick) and I was acting a bit desperate trying to kiss her even tho she refused.

She's obviously a little interested if she spent 3h 30min of her life with me. But what should I text next to set up a new date?

I'm thinking like:

"Lets see each other thursday. a more sober hang out this time"

Would appreciate if someone could help me with a more cocky/funny way to set up a date here which also makes a point that I'm aware that I was a bit on top during the end of our last date.

(09-01-2014 05:48 PM)asdfas Wrote:  So I went out on a date with this chick during the weekend. It hit off really well until the last 45min of the date when I just got too drunk and my self-love got a bit too far to the point where all I did was talking about myself(not bragging but just being an abnoxious prick) and I was acting a bit desperate trying to kiss her even tho she refused.

She's obviously a little interested if she spent 3h 30min of her life with me. But what should I text next to set up a new date?

I'm thinking like:

"Lets see each other thursday. a more sober hang out this time"

Would appreciate if someone could help me with a more cocky/funny way to set up a date here which also makes a point that I'm aware that I was a bit on top during the end of our last date.

You only get one first impression. If you blew it, you blew it. There are other girls.

The line you suggested sounds too much like an apology; it puts you in a weak, supplicating position. It's probably better not to mention it at all.

If you insist on alluding to your previous slip-up, it's better to sarcastically agree & amplify your fault: "lets see each other thur. I didn't get to talk/drink enough last time."