(04-23-2018 09:08 PM)ManofLetters Wrote:  anybody got a line you usually run with when girls do qualifying questions?

examples include but are not limited to:

"What brought you to Bumble/Tinder ?"
or
" What are you looking for on here exactly? "
"Are you looking for fun or something serious? "

I've found that this question for me is practically the " Russian Roulette " of texting for me in which it either ends the conversation immediately if too sexual/ it's not the answer shes looking for or it places you more in the LJBF zone/ Boyfriend material if done with too much comfort or dodging around the question?

This might be a question of having the right kind of humor, but I never answer these type of questions straight.

If I feel like I have to qualify (which I don't like, especially early on in the interaction) or that I don't like the options she is giving me, I answer with something non-sensical and then try to move on to another topic.
If she insists on an answer, I call her out on being too serious or straight up tell her that I don't want to answer right now or have no answer.

Examples:
Her: What brought you to Tinder?
me: my mum
her: ?
me: yes, she told me about this thing called the internet and that you can meet all kinds of people there. Anyway, what do you think about...

Her: Are you looking for fun or something serious?
Me: I am looking for Emily Blunt. Sadly though she doesn't seem to be on here. You however seem quite fine also.
Her: haha..seriously though, I am not into one night stands, so what are you looking for?
Me: I understand, but it's a bit early to think about sex or marriage right?
So what do you think about...

(05-03-2018 12:35 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(05-03-2018 09:52 AM)justreal Wrote:  My first message

<SNIP>

Her response

<SNIP>

She rewarded your creativity with a response, but it was to shut you down.

I'd move on and find a less emoji-laden but still creative (and ultimately most importantly, intriguing to a girl) first message.

It's hard to tell from a first message and I agree on not using too any emojis, but some girls like to banter too. And if done creatively and not too bitchy, I have no problem acknowledging her creativity.

Something like: "haha, nice one. I see that you have a sense of humor, I like that in a woman"

So you basically reframe her non-compliance as her passing your shit test and qualifying herself to you.

(04-17-2018 10:53 PM)Redbaron Wrote:  Me and this chick have smashed only a handful of times the past 4+ months. Mostly cause she knows the game and can play hard to get.

Her: Watchya doing (5:20pm)
Me: You (7:59pm)
Her: Hopefully (march 17, 9:20pm)

I tried to hit the restart. I believe I came across as too bold, although there seems to be a fine line with this chick.

Me: bout time i see u again (10:33pm, April 22)
Her: I think it is (9:45pm, April 23)
Me: ill be out thursday find me (11:19pm, April 24)

Radio silence for two weeks. She hits my line last night.

Her: Hi (5:32pm)
Me: hello (8pm)
Her: How are you (8:41am)

Now here I have an opening. Any thoughts as to a good response?

(05-08-2018 08:58 AM)Redbaron Wrote:  

(04-17-2018 10:53 PM)Redbaron Wrote:  Me and this chick have smashed only a handful of times the past 4+ months. Mostly cause she knows the game and can play hard to get.

Her: Watchya doing (5:20pm)
Me: You (7:59pm)
Her: Hopefully (march 17, 9:20pm)

I tried to hit the restart. I believe I came across as too bold, although there seems to be a fine line with this chick.

Me: bout time i see u again (10:33pm, April 22)
Her: I think it is (9:45pm, April 23)
Me: ill be out thursday find me (11:19pm, April 24)

Radio silence for two weeks. She hits my line last night.

Her: Hi (5:32pm)
Me: hello (8pm)
Her: How are you (8:41am)

Now here I have an opening. Any thoughts as to a good response?

"crushing life and kicking ass" or send her a picture of something awesome you've done recently (cool picture on a hike, shooting a gun, etc).

No need to ask about her. Your reply is enough to where she will respond without you asking about her.

Once she responds back, then try to schedule something for this week. If she doesn't respond to that, I'd go radio silent since it looks like she's wasting your time or only looking for attention.

Got numbers in the club last night. Want to text a first message to set up a date. Girl no.1 is Irish and had long crazy earrings and was well travelled, what's the best formula here? I don't know what the best thing to send is.

(05-12-2018 10:47 AM)Mikestar Wrote:  Got numbers in the club last night. Want to text a first message to set up a date. Girl no.1 is Irish and had long crazy earrings and was well travelled, what's the best formula here? I don't know what the best thing to send is.

"hey, its mikestar, the sexy motherfucker from the club"

With club texts, hold nothing back due to how many numbers/snapchatters/instagrams/ they give to every man they encounter.

Send a message that stands out; that highlights your height, hair, shirt, etc.

Anything that distinguishes you amongst the rest.

Recent weeks I have been meeting a lot of women of different qualities (usually lower) just with intention to bang them. But I decided to start dating more quality girl which I will be really into. So I went with this girl out on Sunday evening for a walk. I must say I was really into her and she must have felt it, anyway we had a good talk and some laugh. When we came to my car, I saw she hanging around my car instead of entering it, so I grab her and kissed her (like that french, long). She didn´t resist but didn´t support my intention very much. I drove her home and she only gave me small kiss.

My recent success with girls was also about having so much of them to write, that I didn´t actually had a time to write them. I guess I should follow the same tactics and wait until she writes me first, right? Or is there any deadline after which I can write first, for example after about a week (if she doesn´t write me first)? And if she doesn´t write me, it´s probably time to next her, right?

Match from bumble:

Her: #heartgingers

(i have red facial hair)

I hate having text convos over these apps and they frequently don't go anywhere. So RVF input, get at me!

@tom

Hmm. If you kissed her and she hasn't written you back in 3+ days I'd say she's probably a little cold for you. No harm in sending a feeler text out, she could just be on the fence. Tell her you're going to do something fun and she should tag along. If she dodges it in any way and doesn't offer a rain check or alternative suggestion consider the lead dead.

(05-17-2018 01:20 AM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  Match from bumble:

Her: #heartgingers

(i have red facial hair)

I hate having text convos over these apps and they frequently don't go anywhere. So RVF input, get at me!

I think the first thing you should do is always try to get her off the app. Phone number, whatsapps even line or kakaotalk works.

Then convo your way into setting up a date.

(05-17-2018 01:20 AM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  Match from bumble:

Her: #heartgingers

(i have red facial hair)

I hate having text convos over these apps and they frequently don't go anywhere. So RVF input, get at me!

If the return on online dating investment is subjectively so low, shun it.

So I got a number from a sexy 7, Russian, we chatted for a while beforehand and I had the impression that her English is terrible and I barely know like four words in Russian, so I made the first move afterwards and sent her a message after about a day, I said hey whats up in Russian she replied saying she didnt know who wrote her, i replied in English that we met yesterday, she simply read it and didn’t write back but she didn’t block me either.
So what do you think I should write next fellas?

(05-20-2018 09:21 AM)LuckyBird Wrote:  So I got a number from a sexy 7, Russian, we chatted for a while beforehand and I had the impression that her English is terrible and I barely know like four words in Russian, so I made the first move afterwards and sent her a message after about a day, I said hey whats up in Russian she replied saying she didnt know who wrote her, i replied in English that we met yesterday, she simply read it and didn’t write back but she didn’t block me either.
So what do you think I should write next fellas?

Text her something hilarious. In Russian preferably.

If she doesn't reply: basically means she's not interested in you SMV-wise or she's just not available/looking at the moment.

We have a newly built outside public pool just open last week, and this girl that i went on a date with a few days ago said she'd go with her class and swim.

I wanted to follow up for a 2nd date, so i messaged her. "What's up, did you ever go swimming with your class?"

She responded "We went there but it was closed that day"

I said, "Well we're going together next week then, i don't want to go alone, im scared of drowning haha"

She said "Hahah it's not so bad".

So is it a dead end? With her closed answers or should i send a last message saying "Only one way to find out, i will be there thursday, join me". Is this good?

Or is it bad because im shooting in the dark and don't know if she can actually that specific day. Is this better. "No excuses we're jumping together this weekend, at XX:YY time" so she has more days to pick between.

(05-29-2018 02:17 PM)chvrches Wrote:  We have a newly built outside public pool just open last week, and this girl that i went on a date with a few days ago said she'd go with her class and swim.

I wanted to follow up for a 2nd date, so i messaged her. "What's up, did you ever go swimming with your class?"

She responded "We went there but it was closed that day"

I said, "Well we're going together next week then, i don't want to go alone, im scared of drowning haha"

She said "Hahah it's not so bad".

So is it a dead end? With her closed answers or should i send a last message saying "Only one way to find out, i will be there thursday, join me". Is this good?

Or is it bad because im shooting in the dark and don't know if she can actually that specific day. Is this better. "No excuses we're jumping together this weekend, at XX:YY time" so she has more days to pick between.

Since she didn't give you anything even though you included an invitation in your message, my recommendation would be to let it like that for a few days. Hit her up again after you've been to the pool with something simple and then ask if she wants to hang out.

Is complementing a girl through text beta and/or bad game?

hello.
got a girl on badoo yesterday in anticipation of my venue in 3 weeks to her city.
i ve got an easy opener about playing the smartass guessing where her pics were taken , which strangely led to a little geopolitical debate.
i ripped off in 1-2-3 with my culture and she said " you seem interesting. lets meet"
first time it happens to me. is she that desperate ?

Asked her out for fun activity , I got this reply.
What should I reply to achieve two things ?
1- DHV
2- Leave the door open for her if she wants to come back.

(06-02-2018 09:49 PM)Quizzical_2 Wrote:  Is complementing a girl through text beta and/or bad game?

In general, yes, it is bad game. Texts are for logistics, not validation.

(06-03-2018 04:04 PM)Mizo1234 Wrote:  Asked her out for fun activity , I got this reply.
What should I reply to achieve two things ?
1- DHV
2- Leave the door open for her if she wants to come back.

Christ. Are you planning a date, or your whole lives together?

Do you realize how needy this small exchange makes you sound?

(06-03-2018 10:47 AM)Polniy_Sostav Wrote:  hello.
got a girl on badoo yesterday in anticipation of my venue in 3 weeks to her city.
i ve got an easy opener about playing the smartass guessing where her pics were taken , which strangely led to a little geopolitical debate.
i ripped off in 1-2-3 with my culture and she said " you seem interesting. lets meet"
first time it happens to me. is she that desperate ?

Brother, did you get on Badoo to be pen-pals with girls or meet and possibly have sex with them?

(06-03-2018 04:04 PM)Mizo1234 Wrote:  Asked her out for fun activity , I got this reply.
What should I reply to achieve two things ?
1- DHV
2- Leave the door open for her if she wants to come back.

I don't see the mystery? "I want to go tho, that would be fun" - seems like a pretty straight way of her asking for another date proposal.

I would simply reply with: "Ok, let me rephrase that: You and I are going to shoot some guns, on Thursday 7pm". Add some gun smileys at the end, just to make it a bit more light hearted (assuming you use smileys at all)

If she again rebuffs your proposal without providing an alternative, simply reply with a *shrug shoulder* smiley. Still no response - leave it, at least for a while

How would you guys deal with this situation?

Context:
Met this foreign girl whilst travelling in foreign country, turns out she lives in my hometown and is also just visiting.
One date in said country, one date in hometown - no kissing etc.
2nd date in hometown (little bar crawl), kissing and makeout, she seems super into me.
3rd/ 4th date I invite her to my place for cooking. She starts playing silly buggers, wants to reschedule to a coffee date, says she cannot move forward etc. In the end I can convince her to come over, but she rejects any kino during the date and continues playing silly buggers.
I am too much of a pussy, let it slide and chase too hard. In the end, after the date she tells me about her boyfriend back home and rejects my date offer (for the next date).

So I freeze out. She sends me two more messages, which I intepret as orbiter calls, so I just answer short and polite and leave it like that.

Now 4 month later she writes: "Hi! Do you want to see me again?"

I am not interested in seeing her at the moment, simply because I'm very busy with non-game stuff.
On the other hand I would like to keep the door open, because she looks good, has exactly the type of body I'm into and can be a sweet and feminine person.

(06-06-2018 10:31 AM)Macomber Wrote:  How would you guys deal with this situation?

Now 4 month later she writes: "Hi! Do you want to see me again?"

I am not interested in seeing her at the moment, simply because I'm very busy with non-game stuff.
On the other hand I would like to keep the door open, because she looks good, has exactly the type of body I'm into and can be a sweet and feminine person.

So she just dumped her dude (or more likely, SHE was dumped) and she's looking for some comfort dick. If you can squeeze her into your schedule, why not?

Reply - "Sure. My place (insert date/time). Admission is one bottle of wine."

(06-06-2018 12:16 PM)Baphomet Wrote:  

(06-06-2018 10:31 AM)Macomber Wrote:  How would you guys deal with this situation?

Now 4 month later she writes: "Hi! Do you want to see me again?"

I am not interested in seeing her at the moment, simply because I'm very busy with non-game stuff.
On the other hand I would like to keep the door open, because she looks good, has exactly the type of body I'm into and can be a sweet and feminine person.

So she just dumped her dude (or more likely, SHE was dumped) and she's looking for some comfort dick. If you can squeeze her into your schedule, why not?

Reply - "Sure. My place (insert date/time). Admission is one bottle of wine."

Just do as Baphomet suggested, either they've split or she's seeking to monkey branch. Not much to frisk about - a rebound girl, strike out when the iron is hot, but don't fall in love.

A footnote illustration to the above is that it never pays to burn a bridge and send that "last message" when there's a remote possibility a girl will be back on the market. Overall, looks like your text game is solid - well played.