Thanks for the advice dudes.. I'll try it out. Might be too far gone but fucck it

(04-11-2018 11:23 AM)spaceman Wrote:  Thanks for the advice dudes.. I'll try it out. Might be too far gone but fucck it

Because I cant help myself, i texted her the next day after the last exchange. Im only posting this online cause im mad at myself as self punishment.
following up from my last post
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next day:
me: nahh I only watch mature TV shows like blah blah
me: I am so happy its finally spring... I can feel my tan getting better already
me: (posted the guy and girl drink emoji from the last post) soon
her: Hahahaha good for you... that show is my favorite
her: Good plan! I go to my hip hop class now

I am pissed that i texted her again... Im chasing her and shes not engaging at all. Just a note that she is native english speaker (I am living in Europe), so i dont exactly get what the second text means... My plan from here is to chill until early next week and restart it.. feel free to berate me or give advice.

Why do we even bother?


Edit

When entered into Googirl translate

Quote:Good plan! I go to my hip hop class now Smile

... returns : "I bored, C ya"

(04-11-2018 04:34 PM)spaceman Wrote:  

(04-11-2018 11:23 AM)spaceman Wrote:  Thanks for the advice dudes.. I'll try it out. Might be too far gone but fucck it

Because I cant help myself, i texted her the next day after the last exchange. Im only posting this online cause im mad at myself as self punishment.
following up from my last post
---------------------
next day:
me: nahh I only watch mature TV shows like blah blah
me: I am so happy its finally spring... I can feel my tan getting better already
me: (posted the guy and girl drink emoji from the last post) soon
her: Hahahaha good for you... that show is my favorite
her: Good plan! I go to my hip hop class now

I am pissed that i texted her again... Im chasing her and shes not engaging at all. Just a note that she is native english speaker (I am living in Europe), so i dont exactly get what the second text means... My plan from here is to chill until early next week and restart it.. feel free to berate me or give advice.

In my experience, this is done. She got what she wanted, you got what you (initially) wanted, everyone's happy, continue with life. All you are doing now is basically asking for more than what she's willing to give.

Anyway, if you want to meet her again for sex, act like the guy that wants to meet her again for sex. Don't be all boyfriend-y and nice. I'd let it cool down for a good while (2 weeks maybe) while of course working on other girls. Then I'd text her something provocative. Since you've already had sex and you met on Tinder there's not point beating around the bush. If she's game, she will respond. If she's not she won't and that's that.

After I offered her an interesting assigment to do (I have a translation business that she wants to be a part of and has did a little bit of work for me) and she agreed. After that, I gave her the condition that "I will send it to you only after you finish the last one"

She repliied: "why are you giving me conditions?"

A lot of cringe on this thread (but we all gotta start somewhere) - building a solid rotation is difficult - for the posts above feeling unsure what to say to a girl you've already smashed, you need a couple of things.

1. A reason to talk to her
2. Congruence (always keeping the same vibe)

Short text exchange today with a 19yo girl I've seen a banged a few times but only make time for once every 7-10 days due to an open relo. I kind of fuck her around but sometimes you gotta treat girls nice. Texting here to just keep her in the loop/ make time for her:

Her: Hey
Me: What's happening XYZ
Her: Not much. Just finished work
Me: Das chill
Her: Not really
Her: Gotta be back for 6
Me: Strong 3hr break
Me: Make that coin gurl
Her: Lol selling my soul for tips
Me: R u ok
Her: No
Me: I'd tip u if that makes ya feel better
Her: Wow thanks
Me: Welcomeeeee x
Her: Mmmm nice
Me: U know I am
Her:
Me:
Her: Always the charmer xx
Me: Wyd
Her: Literally sitting in the car because I'm too tired to get up
Her: That's where I am in life right now
Me: I'm here 4 u xx
Her: Thx big boi
Me: Get outta that car gurl u can do it
Her: I appreciate your support in this time of need
Me: I like to do nice things every now n then
Her: Hahhaha well that's lovely
Me: Is now the part where I cop a blowie or what
Her: Wow
Her: I think you just undid all your work then
Me: Hahah
Me: Xoxo
Her: Lol you're incorrigable
Me: *Screenshot of incorrigible definition on google*
Me:
Her: Wow
Her: Had to look it up and all
Me: Hey now
Me: I misplaced my word of the day calendar gimme a break
Her: Hahah alright bby, see you later in the week?
Me: Sure thang x

She's smart, skipped a couple of grades in school and doing her honours year for her degree, but you still gotta keep the hoes in line the same regardless. Dumb it down.

Enjoying the process/ flirting of talking to girls + having an attitude of abundance pays dividends. You don't need canned lines and set dates like an idiot, just be chill and let things take it's course sometimes.

Me and this chick have smashed only a handful of times the past 4+ months. Mostly cause she knows the game and can play hard to get.

Her: Watchya doing (5:20pm)
Me: You (7:59pm)
Her: Hopefully (march 17, 9:20pm)

I never got back to her as it was st. Pattys day and I was with a chick by the time i saw that txt. Ive been otherwise engaged with a variety of things since then and want to hit this restart. Perfect timing for something bold but also low-key. I think something along the lines of, "you ready?" , could spark up a restart.

Not sure if this belongs in the tinder thread or not but I'm not sure where to go from here....

"Well life's short, we should all make the best of our time here, let's grab a drink, what's your number?"

Pretty easy close right there ManOfLetters

How can I pass this shit test?

(04-22-2018 04:24 AM)studmuffin52 Wrote:  How can I pass this shit test?

Why do you guys enjoy self-abuse and letting be a test ground for being a punch bag, I can't fathom. Just grow cojones, and go out and approach, girls are much, much more respectful that way. Anyway, back to your question - I would snip and stack foward, respond with some non-sequitur. Show you don't care.

-You definitely like how i look like, but i still could be a bitch

- i'm gonna dip you in a piri-piri sauce

(04-23-2018 11:46 AM)ksbms Wrote:  - i'm gonna dip you in a piri-piri sauce

^^^
"know what I like more? once I dip you in piri-piri, you just might become a hot bitch"

anybody got a line you usually run with when girls do qualifying questions?

examples include but are not limited to:

"What brought you to Bumble/Tinder ?"
or
" What are you looking for on here exactly? "
"Are you looking for fun or something serious? "

I've found that this question for me is practically the " Russian Roulette " of texting for me in which it either ends the conversation immediately if too sexual/ it's not the answer shes looking for or it places you more in the LJBF zone/ Boyfriend material if done with too much comfort or dodging around the question?

ok. so i wingman-ed one of my friends last night and one friend of the girl my friend was interested in turned out to be pretty cute. we exchanged instagrams and are now chatting. need held cause i only had 4 hours of sleep last night due to all of us staying out clubbing and i'm currently 8 hours into my 9 hours shift. My brain is DEAD right now. I live in Las Vegas and the girls were visiting from another city.

Me: Hey *insert name!* just want to say it was great meeting you and your friends last night. Hope yall had fun!

Her: Hi *insert my name*! It was great meeting you and the guys too! Thanks for taking us out! We had a blast! I'm definitely visiting again lol

Me: Glad to know yall had fun! and defintely lmk if you ever visist again. Wouldn't mind taking you out again. I don't want to sound like a douchebag but I have hook ups at most clubs in the city. Also, just to let you know, i'm going to respond slow cause i'm at work

Her: Yea I'll definitely let you know! And no worries, I hardly have my phone on me right now too lol

Me: So did yall end up going to a buffet? And yea, you're on vacation visiting Vegas for the first time. I hope you're not constantly on your phone

Her: lol no buffets, not yet at least. I slept in a little while the girls got breakfast and then we just came to *insert pool party name* after have been here since

Me: Nice! The weather's perfect right now too. How is it? Having fun? Snapping and taking lots of selfies? lol

Her: lol it's nice! I definitely need some sleep and lots of water though. No that many anps or slefies. It was too hot and I could hardly see anything on my phone lol

Me: lol yeeeea we drank a lot last night. At least you're at a pool party. I"m dying at work right now. But yea *insert pool party name* is nice. Its nightclub is even better. One of my favorite party venue in the city.

Her: Yea I enjoyed it a lot!




sooooo what do i say to her next? lol

(04-24-2018 10:27 PM)FOBolous Wrote:  ok. so i wingman-ed one of my friends last night and one friend of the girl my friend was interested in turned out to be pretty cute. we exchanged instagrams and are now chatting. need held cause i only had 4 hours of sleep last night due to all of us staying out clubbing and i'm currently 8 hours into my 9 hours shift. My brain is DEAD right now. I live in Las Vegas and the girls were visiting from another city.

Me: Hey *insert name!* just want to say it was great meeting you and your friends last night. Hope yall had fun!

Her: Hi *insert my name*! It was great meeting you and the guys too! Thanks for taking us out! We had a blast! I'm definitely visiting again lol

Me: Glad to know yall had fun! and defintely lmk if you ever visist again. Wouldn't mind taking you out again. I don't want to sound like a douchebag but I have hook ups at most clubs in the city. Also, just to let you know, i'm going to respond slow cause i'm at work

Her: Yea I'll definitely let you know! And no worries, I hardly have my phone on me right now too lol

Me: So did yall end up going to a buffet? (cause we talked about buffets last night) And yea, you're on vacation visiting Vegas for the first time. I hope you're not constantly on your phone

Her: lol no buffets, not yet at least. I slept in a little while the girls got breakfast and then we just came to *insert pool party name* after have been here since

Me: Nice! The weather's perfect right now too. How is it? Having fun? Snapping and taking lots of selfies? lol

Her: lol it's nice! I definitely need some sleep and lots of water though. No that many anps or slefies. It was too hot and I could hardly see anything on my phone lol

Me: lol yeeeea we drank a lot last night. At least you're at a pool party. I"m dying at work right now. But yea *insert pool party name* is nice. Its nightclub is even better. One of my favorite party venue in the city.

Her: Yea I enjoyed it a lot!




sooooo what do i say to her next? lol

i think i'm going to wait until I'm off work to respond. She's responding fairly fast, but it takes me about 30 minutes to 2 hours to respond to her cause i get busy at work. I get off work in 45 more minutes so i'll just wait till i'm off work and be like "omg! i'm finally off work! hallelujah! so what time did yall stay at the pool party till? Did you drink more? They say drinking more alcohol is the best way to cure hangover!" then go from there.

(04-24-2018 10:27 PM)FOBolous Wrote:  ok. so i wingman-ed one of my friends last night and one friend of the girl my friend was interested in turned out to be pretty cute. we exchanged instagrams and are now chatting. need held cause i only had 4 hours of sleep last night due to all of us staying out clubbing and i'm currently 8 hours into my 9 hours shift. My brain is DEAD right now. I live in Las Vegas and the girls were visiting from another city.

Me: Hey *insert name!* just want to say it was great meeting you and your friends last night. Hope yall had fun!

Her: Hi *insert my name*! It was great meeting you and the guys too! Thanks for taking us out! We had a blast! I'm definitely visiting again lol

Me: Glad to know yall had fun! and defintely lmk if you ever visist again. Wouldn't mind taking you out again. I don't want to sound like a douchebag but I have hook ups at most clubs in the city. Also, just to let you know, i'm going to respond slow cause i'm at work

Her: Yea I'll definitely let you know! And no worries, I hardly have my phone on me right now too lol

Me: So did yall end up going to a buffet? And yea, you're on vacation visiting Vegas for the first time. I hope you're not constantly on your phone

Her: lol no buffets, not yet at least. I slept in a little while the girls got breakfast and then we just came to *insert pool party name* after have been here since

Me: Nice! The weather's perfect right now too. How is it? Having fun? Snapping and taking lots of selfies? lol

Her: lol it's nice! I definitely need some sleep and lots of water though. No that many anps or slefies. It was too hot and I could hardly see anything on my phone lol

Me: lol yeeeea we drank a lot last night. At least you're at a pool party. I"m dying at work right now. But yea *insert pool party name* is nice. Its nightclub is even better. One of my favorite party venue in the city.

Her: Yea I enjoyed it a lot!




sooooo what do i say to her next? lol

2 thing's That are not quite clear from your text....
1) If she's still in Vegas ? If not how far away is the city she's from
2) Did you Bang?

IF She's still in Vegas- Set up the meet and Close, There's no telling when she might be leaving. So you need to hustle if you want the Bang

IF She's NOT in Vegas-

a)Throw her on the back burner- This entails a few texts over a couple of months to keep her warm til you guys meet again... I'm sure there's some threads on long distance game...but it's chance of it working out regardless of the Bang is very very Slim especially given the amount of Investment required to start a " Textual relationship".
or

b) Go Radio Silent-There's way too many girls in Vegas for you to be trying to game a girl who say's she'll come back.....who knows how long that will be ....my vote says you should've stopped texting at Let me know when you're back in town. So just take your L and charge her to the Game.

Been chatting on and off with a 27yo FOB Peruvian hotel maid found on Tinder. Transitioned to FB, she's very slow and random at replying (maybe limited internet access?) ... anyways last week she messages me this:



I respond, she finally responded this morning "lol no"
Green Light???

(04-25-2018 09:43 AM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:  Been chatting on and off with a 27yo FOB Peruvian hotel maid found on Tinder. Transitioned to FB, she's very slow and random at replying (maybe limited internet access?) ... anyways last week she messages me this:



I respond, she finally responded this morning "lol no"
Green Light???

You got a green light (she herself included sexual tones in conversation), but you decided to squeeze the brake to the floor (not amplifying) imho.

I have another problem: been casually texting with one girl, we have common friends. We are in different countries right now, so nothing else is possible. Anyway, I make jokingly a remark implying that she must be feeling good when I write to her, to get in response: "I don't know Kahler, what would your girlfriend say" or something like that.

The thing is that I have a girlfriend at the moment (and she probably learned about that from common friends), but I think it will be over before I will have the chance to meet the girl that I'm texting with. I can lie like "I will ask her when I will have one" because she probably doesn't have a way to verify that, but I hate lying and ofc it's risky. And she could think that I broke with my girlfriend and looking for some cheap consolation.
On the other hand, I could try to jokingly misunderstand question: we were talking about one particular book, so I could write "Well she's surprised that I'm reading this book", which is playful and I'm not lying this way, but of course she could not allow me to derail her question.
Of course I undestand that if it is her not shit-testing but trying to get rid of me, or having morals then I'm losing no matter what clever text I write, but what is the best option? Any other ideas?

She is in another country. Stop texting her at all and start gaming girls in your town. Or if you must text her one more tine just say “ok shoot me a text when you are coming back to my town”. The rest of it is pointless.

(04-27-2018 03:14 AM)eradicator Wrote:  She is in another country. Stop texting her at all and start gaming girls in your town. Or if you must text her one more tine just say “ok shoot me a text when you are coming back to my town”. The rest of it is pointless.

Why are you assuming that I'm not doing anything irl? Besides, from my experience it follows that it isn't always the best option to go completely cold, even if you won't see a girl for some time.

23 yo off Bumble. We were both out DT and ended meeting for the first time at this bar/club. Chatted her up for 5 minutes and she was givin standoffish vibes so I left to meet up with some friends.

She called later that night. Didn't answer.
Next day she texts "Yikes sorry ab that. Everyone was a mess lol that's why I try not to go out much."

thoughts?

You have two options. Ignore her and spend time pursuing girls that are less bitchy.

Option 2 is invite her over to your place for a drink and fuck the shit out of her because you like snotty bitches

Preface: HB8, I was contextual alpha for her, 6 months later she comes up to me at a student bar event (now single after 6 yrs) showing me she spilt alcohol on her crotch, I escalate immediately, spank her, choke her, tease her (had a thing with her best friend which makes it wrong), rip her clothes and she loves it, we almost have sex in a corner, I take her home later that night passing every single shit test in flying colours but at home thing's change. I am too drunk to fuck her properly, get lazy and start losing frame. It is not the dominant sex she probably expected. She is smoking but we have quick relatively boring sex and she has to get up 5 hours after for work. Nothing more comes of it

We have a convo back and forth afterwards because she forgot her earrings (came back to get them a few days later where she said she was sick - seemingly true - and wanted to go home again right away) where she ignores my poor attempt to invite her over again. No doubt I fucked up. Really wanted to plate this smoking hot freak and she was really into me

Fast forward 2 months I try something different

Me: Pic (see attachment)
Me: whoops
Her: What is this ?
Her: Is this Lasse ?
Me: the one and only
Me: not for you
Her: Hahah also thought it was a little odd *emoticon with the laugh and sweat drop*

This is a translation but close

Can I do something to see her again (at which point I think I could easily escalate and fuck her properly) or is this just a next?

My first message



Her response

(05-03-2018 09:52 AM)justreal Wrote:  My first message

<SNIP>

Her response

<SNIP>

She rewarded your creativity with a response, but it was to shut you down.

I'd move on and find a less emoji-laden but still creative (and ultimately most importantly, intriguing to a girl) first message.

Maybe give her some shit "you're not as hot as the sun" or "that girl is on fire" but I honestly wouldn't even waste my time. Re-read the thread and start implementing the texting general rules (one of which is to avoid emojis especially using them a lot).