The Approach Thread
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LAX · 2015-03-13 21:38:00 · #2026
(03-13-2015 01:36 PM)PrtSc Wrote: I work near a major mall, and I plan to make it a point to do at least an approach or two a day from Spring. Today started a bit rough because I wasn't social with anyone in the morning. I think I ned to stop going commando style and actually warm up with some random workers first. I noticed when I don't warm up, I also allow hot ones to get by without an approach. Plan to fix this going forward.
On to the approaches.
#1 - Cute brunette with a friend walking by Dairy Queen
Me: What do you think, never to cold out for ice cream?
Her: No, definitely not.
Me: (couple other random comments that don't stick)
Ok, that was pretty terrible. I fumbled my words a bit. Part of the reason was when I looked at her dead on, she wasn't as attractive as I thought. Keep the ball rolling.
#2 - Tall (taller than me) brunette by the fruit juice place
I had seen this girl earlier by the food court, but I was being a pussy. This time I would not let her slip by.
Me: Let me guess, you don't know what flavour you want either.
Her: No, they all look good
Me: I'm thinking something with coconut, it reminds me tropical weather
Her: Yea
Me: Taking a break from work as well?
Her: No
Me: School?
Her: No
Me: Ok, now I have no idea. What are you a drifter?
Her: I'm not from here, I was just doing a modeling shoot. I'm leavin in an hour.
Me: Are you a hand model or something? (I was reminiscing from that Seinfeld episode, it makes me laugh, and it makes me look like I have no idea how attractive she is)
Her: lol no, like magazines and stuff
Me: That's cool, maybe I'll see you on the cover. Listen, I know you're a couple hours away and what not, but let's keep in touch. You never know when we could cross paths again.
Her: Sure. (enters number in my phone)
Me: Have a safe trip home.
This one felt much better. She was a lot taller than me, dressed better, hot, and I killed it anyway. I texted her my name right away (like I normally do when I get a number. I say that I'm texting my name so they know who to expect a text from), and she's already texting me although I'm ignoring atm, too busy. Probably going to slow play this, you never know.
#3 - Girl with belly showing looking slutty walking towards me
Me: Hey excuse me. (I stop dead in front of her). This is kind of random, and not to give you the wrong idea, but I can see your belly. Isn't that a bit cold for today?
Her: First off, I'm 18. I have a boyfriend.
Me: I see, but about your belly.
Her: (cuteye)
Me: Ok, ok, have a good day and stay warm.
Last girl was super uninterested. Glad I stopped her anyway.
I find at the mall I'm great with stationary targets that I can comment to easily. Stopping targets moving towards/away from me is something I'm a bit rusty at. I normally wait to long to approach them, and at that point I feel a bit stalkerish following them. If this happens consecutively with a couple hot girls, I start pussying out. Plan of action is to socialize more before opening girls, and take no prisoners with ones walking towards/away from me right after.
Lol at the last chick acting like that when you already number closed a model. That was cool. I find it much harder to interact with a girl in motion. It is like an abrupt movement that requires you to play from a defensive position but I guess the more of a idgaf you have the easier it is. Nice work though, keep us updated on the model game.
robreke · 2015-03-13 23:01:00 · #2027
2 approaches today. I got to give it to myself...lately, I'm approaching nothing but 7.5 hot 20 somethings and up. I've just relegated myself to the fact that it's going to be low return but high reward. If I keep a minimum of 2 a day and put effort in, man, that's over 700 a year. I'll have to bang several before it's all said and done.
First...whole foods at lunch. 5'5 semi athletic looking girl in jeans and shoulder sweater. Brunette with hazel eyes. She's a 7.5 looking at waters holding a sushi.
Me. Excuse me, is the sushi here good?
Her. Ya...I like it.
She looks at me like she's interested in my question.
I tell her I've never had the sushi here but get the hot bar pretty regular as I work up the street. she tells me she's from a neighboring state and we ramble about sushi and local sushi restaurants for 2 minutes or so.
Me. So...I like the fall vibe you've got going.
Her. Oh...except for my shoes...they're summer. ( she's got sandals)
me...oh ya...they are ...guess I didn't take in the whole package.
She has a similar major to me. I tell her I have a degree in engineering related to her field..
Me. Yeah...if the oil market gets better, we could open a firm together. ( I pat her on the shoulder)
Her...yeah..ha.
I joke about her being a rock nerd since she's a geologist. SHe admits she is.
She asks me what I do. She's intermittently flipping her hair.
Later she asks me another personal question I can't remember.
She says...I'm Marie.
Me. I'm robreke.
We shake hands.
We chat for another 30 seconds.
Me. Well, I'm going to grab some lunch here. You seem cool, we should hang out sometime and grab a coffee or drink.
her. Well, I have a boyfriend. I don't know if I was giving off the wrong vibe.
Me. No, you're vibe was great...I just thought you were pretty cool ( I touch her shoulder again) ....hey, nice to meet you thanks for the sushi advice.
Her. Nice to meet you too.
Oh well.
I'm thinking she was taking it as a friendly platonic conversation despite her IOIs...and was a little thrown off when I went for a date suggestion. I lightbulb went off in my head that said "you need to let it be clear to a woman that you are attracted and romantically interested before going for the number"
Second approach. Whole foods later in afternoon.
Tall brunette in yoga pants and green rain jacket. Strong 8. I walk in and we make eye contact...she looks a lingering second then looks toward the veggies.
A few minutes later, I'm near her as she's getting an avocado.
Me. Excuse me.
She looks.
Me. What's the best way to pick a good avocado?
Her. You have to feel them good.
She picks up one and puts it before me.
Her. Here, this one you could eat tonight.
I ask a few more stupid questions about how to correctly pick an avocado if you want it say , in two or three days and she tells me.
She's kind of moving off a little.
Me. Well, it's just that I've had bad luck getting good avocados lately.
Her. Yeah , they can be tricky. (semi smiling but pushing her cart away)
Me. True, Thanks.
Her. welcome (walks off)
I should have done a cold read about her looking all athletic in her workout clothes....maybe asked her if she was fueling up for a good workout. Some kind of cold read. Perhaps that would have stopped her to talk more. Also, when I walked in, I saw a ring on her left ring finger and at first I thought it was wedding. But after glancing again, I wasn't sure. That uncertainty coupled with the fact of how hot and young she was.....made me a little hesitant to persist once I opened her. Another light bulb saying " Always be confident, even overly confident and persist and control the frame in all approaches. Don't be timid. Don't pre judge if a girl will or won't like you based on her youth and beauty!"
day game is slim pickings lately. Glad I've got some repeat dates with online girls next week.
First...whole foods at lunch. 5'5 semi athletic looking girl in jeans and shoulder sweater. Brunette with hazel eyes. She's a 7.5 looking at waters holding a sushi.
Me. Excuse me, is the sushi here good?
Her. Ya...I like it.
She looks at me like she's interested in my question.
I tell her I've never had the sushi here but get the hot bar pretty regular as I work up the street. she tells me she's from a neighboring state and we ramble about sushi and local sushi restaurants for 2 minutes or so.
Me. So...I like the fall vibe you've got going.
Her. Oh...except for my shoes...they're summer. ( she's got sandals)
me...oh ya...they are ...guess I didn't take in the whole package.
She has a similar major to me. I tell her I have a degree in engineering related to her field..
Me. Yeah...if the oil market gets better, we could open a firm together. ( I pat her on the shoulder)
Her...yeah..ha.
I joke about her being a rock nerd since she's a geologist. SHe admits she is.
She asks me what I do. She's intermittently flipping her hair.
Later she asks me another personal question I can't remember.
She says...I'm Marie.
Me. I'm robreke.
We shake hands.
We chat for another 30 seconds.
Me. Well, I'm going to grab some lunch here. You seem cool, we should hang out sometime and grab a coffee or drink.
her. Well, I have a boyfriend. I don't know if I was giving off the wrong vibe.
Me. No, you're vibe was great...I just thought you were pretty cool ( I touch her shoulder again) ....hey, nice to meet you thanks for the sushi advice.
Her. Nice to meet you too.
Oh well.
I'm thinking she was taking it as a friendly platonic conversation despite her IOIs...and was a little thrown off when I went for a date suggestion. I lightbulb went off in my head that said "you need to let it be clear to a woman that you are attracted and romantically interested before going for the number"
Second approach. Whole foods later in afternoon.
Tall brunette in yoga pants and green rain jacket. Strong 8. I walk in and we make eye contact...she looks a lingering second then looks toward the veggies.
A few minutes later, I'm near her as she's getting an avocado.
Me. Excuse me.
She looks.
Me. What's the best way to pick a good avocado?
Her. You have to feel them good.
She picks up one and puts it before me.
Her. Here, this one you could eat tonight.
I ask a few more stupid questions about how to correctly pick an avocado if you want it say , in two or three days and she tells me.
She's kind of moving off a little.
Me. Well, it's just that I've had bad luck getting good avocados lately.
Her. Yeah , they can be tricky. (semi smiling but pushing her cart away)
Me. True, Thanks.
Her. welcome (walks off)
I should have done a cold read about her looking all athletic in her workout clothes....maybe asked her if she was fueling up for a good workout. Some kind of cold read. Perhaps that would have stopped her to talk more. Also, when I walked in, I saw a ring on her left ring finger and at first I thought it was wedding. But after glancing again, I wasn't sure. That uncertainty coupled with the fact of how hot and young she was.....made me a little hesitant to persist once I opened her. Another light bulb saying " Always be confident, even overly confident and persist and control the frame in all approaches. Don't be timid. Don't pre judge if a girl will or won't like you based on her youth and beauty!"
day game is slim pickings lately. Glad I've got some repeat dates with online girls next week.
Sketness · 2015-03-15 14:25:00 · #2028
Ive had a couple of approaches in the last couple of days.
The first one I was in whole foods. I see this cute short brunette about a 6. Long story short I go up to her chat her up.
She is receptive, she has that hippie vibe so I go into my hippie mode to connect with her, and it works, she is stand around we chat and what not.
now were chatting and i ask what she does and she tells me that she grows marijuana, which is cool i dont care, though i take a closer look at her teeth and they are not up to my standers.
So i politely dip out of the conversation.
Later that day I started to kick myself for not getting the number but I had to remind myself that this year im going for quality over quantity.
Anyways fast forward to friday night.
I go out im wearing some boots, slimfit jeans and a plad shirt with the sleaves rolled up.
Eairly in the night I dont really talk to anyone, just a few people hear and there.
I enter this club, and start to walk towards the bar where I see a tall brunette ( a high 7) and her friend talking to some dudes.
I walk up next to them to order a drink, when right then and there a guy to my right strikes up a conversation with me. He ends up buying me a shot.
Sweet.
At that monument I turn to the brunette look her in the eyes and go;
Me; whats your name
Her; xxxx
Me; how do you spell that
Her; xx-xx
Me; every girl that ive ever know who spells it xxx-xx ( diffrent than her name) is crazy
Her; hahah
Me; have you meet my friend over here ( pointing to the dude that bought me the drink)
Her; you guys just meet
Me; are you stalking me right now ( with a smirk)
Her; no hahah
We start talking and her friend jumps in the conversation. At on point her friend goes " you look really handsome in that shirt"
At one point her friend does the thing where she kinda says something that would indicate that her friend is interested
Anyway they tell me that they are going to the dance floor.
I chill for a bit next to the bar then hop on the dance floor away from them.
I see two other dudes dancing next to them but I pay them no mind I just dance like im having a ball all by myself.
Earlier I had seen a guy I went to highschool with and he had told me that his brother was there. Fast foward ten min... im dancing by myself not giving a fuck. When the cute brunette just "happens" to be dancing next to me.
just as were about to dance the guy i knew from high school and his brother find me, we chat for a brief sec. I dap them up and turn my attention back to the brunette.
We start dancing, then we start grinding. During the time we are dancing she ask me how tall i am, I tell her tall enough.
After a while I tell lets go outside, she's down but goes and tells her friend then comes outside with me.
Its there where I learn that she is a nurse.
So i start some deep conversation game by stating how in my opinion nurses have a better outlook on life due to there constant reminder of their mortality, by being surrounded by death. I then ask her how it makes her feel to be able to help others. I then relate her helpful selfless nature as an example of how short life is and how we should enjoy every moment.
She is right with me the whole time, We talk a bit about travel and other things. I then sense that I probably wont pull her that night so I grab her number to meet for coffee ( i know its gay) and she seemed down ( though we'll see you never know about females).
Later in the night I saw a cute girl a brunette (7) standing by the bar looking board while some lame dude was talking to her.
I decided that she fit my criteria so I approached her and tapped her on the shoulder while the dude was talking to her.
Me; hey you seem really board
Her; yea kinda
Me; why did you come out when you know you would rather be at home watching netflix and drinking wine.
Her; haha in know right although i dont drink wine.
Me; you seem like the artistic type that paints
Her; i did play the piano
Me; ( gentle taking her hand and inspecting her fingers) yea you have the fingers for it
Her; i also used to draw to
The music was loud so i didn't hear everything she was telling me. Her brother was the dj and ya ya ya.
The convo was cut short due to the fact that she saw some chick she knew.
Overall it was a good night.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
There were a couple things that stood out to me over the course of the night.
1. I got cat called twice by girls.
~ The first time im walking ( more like strutting chest out) down the street when I see a heard of fatties walking toward me. I dont even acknowledge there existence, when I hear this girl say " ummmmm" loudly.
~The second time just a block up the street, Im walking toward the club when I walk through another pack of girls. This time they all are pretty cute. I strut by them ignoring them when this slim brunette reaches her hand out, touches my chest and says " hey honey" I walk by unabashed.
Point that I have concluded is that hitting the gym has done wonders.
Even when I was talking to the two girls in the club. Every time the cute brunette would tell me something she would lean in and place her hand on my bicep.
Hit the gym boys it'll pay off.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
* ON a side note
I dont know if this is a sign of getting better but it seems that im getting way more selective.
I feel as though I am right at the edge of getting to where I want to be in the game. But I feel as though its taking for ever to break through. Hopefully over the next couple of months i can break through into that next level
The first one I was in whole foods. I see this cute short brunette about a 6. Long story short I go up to her chat her up.
She is receptive, she has that hippie vibe so I go into my hippie mode to connect with her, and it works, she is stand around we chat and what not.
now were chatting and i ask what she does and she tells me that she grows marijuana, which is cool i dont care, though i take a closer look at her teeth and they are not up to my standers.
So i politely dip out of the conversation.
Later that day I started to kick myself for not getting the number but I had to remind myself that this year im going for quality over quantity.
Anyways fast forward to friday night.
I go out im wearing some boots, slimfit jeans and a plad shirt with the sleaves rolled up.
Eairly in the night I dont really talk to anyone, just a few people hear and there.
I enter this club, and start to walk towards the bar where I see a tall brunette ( a high 7) and her friend talking to some dudes.
I walk up next to them to order a drink, when right then and there a guy to my right strikes up a conversation with me. He ends up buying me a shot.
Sweet.
At that monument I turn to the brunette look her in the eyes and go;
Me; whats your name
Her; xxxx
Me; how do you spell that
Her; xx-xx
Me; every girl that ive ever know who spells it xxx-xx ( diffrent than her name) is crazy
Her; hahah
Me; have you meet my friend over here ( pointing to the dude that bought me the drink)
Her; you guys just meet
Me; are you stalking me right now ( with a smirk)
Her; no hahah
We start talking and her friend jumps in the conversation. At on point her friend goes " you look really handsome in that shirt"
At one point her friend does the thing where she kinda says something that would indicate that her friend is interested
Anyway they tell me that they are going to the dance floor.
I chill for a bit next to the bar then hop on the dance floor away from them.
I see two other dudes dancing next to them but I pay them no mind I just dance like im having a ball all by myself.
Earlier I had seen a guy I went to highschool with and he had told me that his brother was there. Fast foward ten min... im dancing by myself not giving a fuck. When the cute brunette just "happens" to be dancing next to me.
just as were about to dance the guy i knew from high school and his brother find me, we chat for a brief sec. I dap them up and turn my attention back to the brunette.
We start dancing, then we start grinding. During the time we are dancing she ask me how tall i am, I tell her tall enough.
After a while I tell lets go outside, she's down but goes and tells her friend then comes outside with me.
Its there where I learn that she is a nurse.
So i start some deep conversation game by stating how in my opinion nurses have a better outlook on life due to there constant reminder of their mortality, by being surrounded by death. I then ask her how it makes her feel to be able to help others. I then relate her helpful selfless nature as an example of how short life is and how we should enjoy every moment.
She is right with me the whole time, We talk a bit about travel and other things. I then sense that I probably wont pull her that night so I grab her number to meet for coffee ( i know its gay) and she seemed down ( though we'll see you never know about females).
Later in the night I saw a cute girl a brunette (7) standing by the bar looking board while some lame dude was talking to her.
I decided that she fit my criteria so I approached her and tapped her on the shoulder while the dude was talking to her.
Me; hey you seem really board
Her; yea kinda
Me; why did you come out when you know you would rather be at home watching netflix and drinking wine.
Her; haha in know right although i dont drink wine.
Me; you seem like the artistic type that paints
Her; i did play the piano
Me; ( gentle taking her hand and inspecting her fingers) yea you have the fingers for it
Her; i also used to draw to
The music was loud so i didn't hear everything she was telling me. Her brother was the dj and ya ya ya.
The convo was cut short due to the fact that she saw some chick she knew.
Overall it was a good night.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
There were a couple things that stood out to me over the course of the night.
1. I got cat called twice by girls.
~ The first time im walking ( more like strutting chest out) down the street when I see a heard of fatties walking toward me. I dont even acknowledge there existence, when I hear this girl say " ummmmm" loudly.
~The second time just a block up the street, Im walking toward the club when I walk through another pack of girls. This time they all are pretty cute. I strut by them ignoring them when this slim brunette reaches her hand out, touches my chest and says " hey honey" I walk by unabashed.
Point that I have concluded is that hitting the gym has done wonders.
Even when I was talking to the two girls in the club. Every time the cute brunette would tell me something she would lean in and place her hand on my bicep.
Hit the gym boys it'll pay off.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
* ON a side note
I dont know if this is a sign of getting better but it seems that im getting way more selective.
I feel as though I am right at the edge of getting to where I want to be in the game. But I feel as though its taking for ever to break through. Hopefully over the next couple of months i can break through into that next level
robreke · 2015-03-15 16:08:00 · #2029
(03-15-2015 02:25 PM)Sketness Wrote: Ive had a couple of approaches in the last couple of days.
The first one I was in whole foods. I see this cute short brunette about a 6. Long story short I go up to her chat her up.
She is receptive, she has that hippie vibe so I go into my hippie mode to connect with her, and it works, she is stand around we chat and what not.
now were chatting and i ask what she does and she tells me that she grows marijuana, which is cool i dont care, though i take a closer look at her teeth and they are not up to my standers.
So i politely dip out of the conversation.
Later that day I started to kick myself for not getting the number but I had to remind myself that this year im going for quality over quantity.
Anyways fast forward to friday night.
I go out im wearing some boots, slimfit jeans and a plad shirt with the sleaves rolled up.
Eairly in the night I dont really talk to anyone, just a few people hear and there.
I enter this club, and start to walk towards the bar where I see a tall brunette ( a high 7) and her friend talking to some dudes.
I walk up next to them to order a drink, when right then and there a guy to my right strikes up a conversation with me. He ends up buying me a shot.
Sweet.
At that monument I turn to the brunette look her in the eyes and go;
Me; whats your name
Her; xxxx
Me; how do you spell that
Her; xx-xx
Me; every girl that ive ever know who spells it xxx-xx ( diffrent than her name) is crazy
Her; hahah
Me; have you meet my friend over here ( pointing to the dude that bought me the drink)
Her; you guys just meet
Me; are you stalking me right now ( with a smirk)
Her; no hahah
We start talking and her friend jumps in the conversation. At on point her friend goes " you look really handsome in that shirt"
At one point her friend does the thing where she kinda says something that would indicate that her friend is interested
Anyway they tell me that they are going to the dance floor.
I chill for a bit next to the bar then hop on the dance floor away from them.
I see two other dudes dancing next to them but I pay them no mind I just dance like im having a ball all by myself.
Earlier I had seen a guy I went to highschool with and he had told me that his brother was there. Fast foward ten min... im dancing by myself not giving a fuck. When the cute brunette just "happens" to be dancing next to me.
just as were about to dance the guy i knew from high school and his brother find me, we chat for a brief sec. I dap them up and turn my attention back to the brunette.
We start dancing, then we start grinding. During the time we are dancing she ask me how tall i am, I tell her tall enough.
After a while I tell lets go outside, she's down but goes and tells her friend then comes outside with me.
Its there where I learn that she is a nurse.
So i start some deep conversation game by stating how in my opinion nurses have a better outlook on life due to there constant reminder of their mortality, by being surrounded by death. I then ask her how it makes her feel to be able to help others. I then relate her helpful selfless nature as an example of how short life is and how we should enjoy every moment.
She is right with me the whole time, We talk a bit about travel and other things. I then sense that I probably wont pull her that night so I grab her number to meet for coffee ( i know its gay) and she seemed down ( though we'll see you never know about females).
Later in the night I saw a cute girl a brunette (7) standing by the bar looking board while some lame dude was talking to her.
I decided that she fit my criteria so I approached her and tapped her on the shoulder while the dude was talking to her.
Me; hey you seem really board
Her; yea kinda
Me; why did you come out when you know you would rather be at home watching netflix and drinking wine.
Her; haha in know right although i dont drink wine.
Me; you seem like the artistic type that paints
Her; i did play the piano
Me; ( gentle taking her hand and inspecting her fingers) yea you have the fingers for it
Her; i also used to draw to
The music was loud so i didn't hear everything she was telling me. Her brother was the dj and ya ya ya.
The convo was cut short due to the fact that she saw some chick she knew.
Overall it was a good night.
------------------------------------------------------------------------
There were a couple things that stood out to me over the course of the night.
1. I got cat called twice by girls.
~ The first time im walking ( more like strutting chest out) down the street when I see a heard of fatties walking toward me. I dont even acknowledge there existence, when I hear this girl say " ummmmm" loudly.
~The second time just a block up the street, Im walking toward the club when I walk through another pack of girls. This time they all are pretty cute. I strut by them ignoring them when this slim brunette reaches her hand out, touches my chest and says " hey honey" I walk by unabashed.
Point that I have concluded is that hitting the gym has done wonders.
Even when I was talking to the two girls in the club. Every time the cute brunette would tell me something she would lean in and place her hand on my bicep.
Hit the gym boys it'll pay off.
-------------------------------------------------------------------
* ON a side note
I dont know if this is a sign of getting better but it seems that im getting way more selective.
I feel as though I am right at the edge of getting to where I want to be in the game. But I feel as though its taking for ever to break through. Hopefully over the next couple of months i can break through into that next level
^Sketness,
I'm actually looking for some good plaid shirts and boots to go with some jeans I have. I like that kind of look.
Which brand of plaid shirts and boots do you wear?
Sketness · 2015-03-15 16:20:00 · #2030
@ robreke
I dont have any specific types of plad shirts, the ones i have are from target just very basic.
My boots on the other hand are made by Rogue, by far the best investment ive made in a while.
If you want quality cloths for cheap prices hit up this site
I get all of my footwear, shirts and fashion ideas from here.
I dont have any specific types of plad shirts, the ones i have are from target just very basic.
My boots on the other hand are made by Rogue, by far the best investment ive made in a while.
If you want quality cloths for cheap prices hit up this site
I get all of my footwear, shirts and fashion ideas from here.
dirtybird · 2015-03-16 14:04:00 · #2031
Solid one today. Was in the elevator in the library going up to the ninth floor, see this cute Asian chick standing next to me (Turns out she's Chinese). We both get off on the same floor, go our separate ways. I walk the opposite way through the bookshelves and try and find a seat to no avail. As I am about to take a left through the shelves into another room, the Asian girl leaves the desk area and I decide split-second that she is A. Cuter than I thought in the elevator (I would say 7), and B. I'm gonna talk to her. I flash the smile and say that there is never any seats here, and in accented English she agrees. I tell her to follow me and I will show her a secret spot where there is always desks. She complies and I lead her to the silent study room (really just a room over) and she is amazed that I was right. During the walk I talking with her telling her to cross her fingers and just joking around. Sit down next to each other and after a few minutes I write on a post-it note "This is the super silent section so we are not allowed to talk but I think you are nice. What is your number?" and hand it to her with my pen. She reads it, smiles, and writes down her name and number. I then text her but her 4 looks like a 6 and it doesn't go through, so I motion for her phone, punch in my number and call it. It goes through and I give it back to her. I text this message "This random number just called me in the library, should I be worried? then my name". Text back and forth twice and go back to doing work. About an hour later, she gets up, tells me she leaving to go to class, and I tell her we should get a coffee this week. She agrees. This was a different approach than normal but I think it went well. As for the techniques I used, for some reason it just felt better to use and she was digging it (smiling the whole time, receptive to me touching and gently grabbing her arm, etc.) so I switched up my game substantially from normal, will see how it pans out I just texted her.
-dirtybird
-dirtybird
philosophical_recovery · 2015-03-17 19:49:00 · #2032
It was hottie central at the grocery store today. I hadn't been able to let my testicles drop enough to do much any approaching in that setting, but I opened a cute shopper (she didn't stick around for long) and had a strong and reciprocated flirt with the cashier (this is not terribly unusual for me).
I didn't want to chase down the other cute girls all over the grocery store. I may have to start wandering the store more, taking my time, so that my odds improve. The suburbs are usually filled with supermoms (maybe some milfs, but with huge multiple carat rings), not early 20s thin yoga pants wearing cuties.
I'm kicking myself a bit for not strolling more. And, not wearing better clothes today.
Live and learn.
I didn't want to chase down the other cute girls all over the grocery store. I may have to start wandering the store more, taking my time, so that my odds improve. The suburbs are usually filled with supermoms (maybe some milfs, but with huge multiple carat rings), not early 20s thin yoga pants wearing cuties.
I'm kicking myself a bit for not strolling more. And, not wearing better clothes today.
Live and learn.
Giovonny · 2015-03-20 12:41:00 · #2033
(03-12-2015 08:11 AM)robreke Wrote: what's the ' gio soft close ' ?
I call it a "Soft Approach" or "The Fragmented Approach"
http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-22754-...#pid418249
Quote:The forum member said -- "Gio, I have never heard you discuss this on the forum, you broke up the approach into 3 parts"
I replied --"Yes, the first contact was just an introduction, then she re-engaged me and we built some comfort, then I went for the number close"
I explained that there is no rush. I knew I was going to see her again. If I didn't accidentally bump into her again, I would just go find her and pretend to accidentally bump into her again.
I don't have to do an "all or nothing" approach. If it was on the street or on public transportation, I would have to do that, but, here in the grocery store, I can "fragment" my approach. I can break it up and take my time. This is often a better strategy then the more aggressive stuff.
This Fragmented Approach can be used whenever you know you will see the girl again..
Grocery stores, cafes, libraries, gyms, class, etc.
I think this concept is really necessary for gym game, school game., and co-worker game. You build the comfort and attraction over time. You don't go for it all in one shot.
For experts, this is just common sense. But, for newbies, I think its an important concept to understand.
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(03-11-2015 07:45 PM)LAX Wrote: ...I'm attempting to take a page out of Gios book and stay positive.
Positivity is often helpful but I think you need something else:
PERSPECTIVE
You are new to this. You just started day gaming. You can't expect to have great success this early. you have only been rejected by a handful of girls. You have taken a few phone numbers.
So, you haven't got laid yet from day gaming...
So, what!?!?! It's not a big deal!
Game is like learning a language, it takes a few years to learn it.
I used to approach 100 girls just to get one date!
In this game of cold approaching on the street, EXPECT to fail 80 or 90% of the time. Expect it and embrace it, learn from each approach.
Don't get down on yourself. You are a beginner, you are still learning.
Trust me. Just have fun and be aggressive. Then, have even more fun and be even more aggressive.
Life is too fun to get frustrated over chasing girls!
Giovonny · 2015-03-20 13:25:00 · #2034
Now that the sun is returning, I will return to approaching. (I usually go into hibernation during the winter)
Here are a few recent approaches:
I was at the gym, I was playing in a basketball league, there was a beautiful college girl working the scoreboard. Italian/Spanish looking, tall, thin, long hair, yoga pants, beautiful body.
I made a point to dominate the game so she would notice me. (its a low level league)
As I was walking off the court, she was eating a sandwich with her friend..
me: hey whats for lunch?
her: oh its just a sandwich from the deli across the street
me: looks good, enjoy
her: thanks
I walked to the water fountain.
I played another game. We made eye contact a few times.
After the game, I talked to her and her friend again:
me: have you guys ever heard of the "asian box"?
her: ummm, no
me: its a little restaurant near the deli
her: oh is that on the corner near petes coffee
me: ya that one, im thinking about what i want for lunch, what other options are over there?
her: well, there is the indian place and the deli and the burger joint
me: ohh i like indian food
her: ya me too, have you tried bombay garden?
me: no is it good
Blah, blah, blah. We talked about food for a minute.
I played another game.
Then, as I was leaving, we spoke one more time.
me: hey great job on the scoreboard
her: thanks
me: take care, I hope to see you playing next time
her: haha maybe, hey excuse me, by chance, do u have any jumper cables
me: i do, did u leave your lights on?
her: yup
me: where are u parked?
5 minutes later I was helping her jump start her car.
Her friend was with her.
I decided that I was going to go for it.
her: thanks so much
me: you're welcome. do u have an email or something so i can get in touch with you.
her: sure
I emailed her a week later and asked her out for a drink.
That was 2 days ago, she hasn't responded yet.
***
Again, I was playing basketball. Again there was a beautiful college girl watching.
White girl, blond, thin, nice skin, toned body.
She started to play with us. She was good.
After the game, I approached her:
me: you are good, who taught you how to play?
her: oh i guess my dad
me: are you from the mid west?
her: the mid west? why do u think that?
me: the way you play, you dont play like a California girl
her: im from here
Blah, blah, blah..
We went to the same high school!
I knew her older sister and we know a bunch of them same people.
We talked basketball and our hometown for a few minutes.
It was nice but I didn't force it. I said goodbye and walked away..
But, as I was getting into my car, I regretted not going for it!
I went back into the gym. I decided that I would go for it..
I found her sitting in the same spot..
me: hey
her: hey
me: i was sort of regretting leaving.
her: huh?
me: ya you are totally the kind of girl that I would TRY to date. i don't even know your situation or anything but..
her: its totally cool, more guys should be honest like you are
me: thanks you put my mind at ease
her: haha
me: i was thinking that maybe, if u want, we could go to a basketball game or something
her: im down to go to a warriors game
We chatted a little more and I got her number.
I know I have gotten more attractive and better with my verbal game because these are the first two girls I have approached in months and I both of them seemed somewhat interested. We'll see.
Starting in April, I will be going into Spring/Summer mode which means that I will be approaching 5-10 girls per day until I get a cute, young college girls with a tight, little body.
I will post many of those approaches here.
Here are a few recent approaches:
I was at the gym, I was playing in a basketball league, there was a beautiful college girl working the scoreboard. Italian/Spanish looking, tall, thin, long hair, yoga pants, beautiful body.
I made a point to dominate the game so she would notice me. (its a low level league)
As I was walking off the court, she was eating a sandwich with her friend..
me: hey whats for lunch?
her: oh its just a sandwich from the deli across the street
me: looks good, enjoy
her: thanks
I walked to the water fountain.
I played another game. We made eye contact a few times.
After the game, I talked to her and her friend again:
me: have you guys ever heard of the "asian box"?
her: ummm, no
me: its a little restaurant near the deli
her: oh is that on the corner near petes coffee
me: ya that one, im thinking about what i want for lunch, what other options are over there?
her: well, there is the indian place and the deli and the burger joint
me: ohh i like indian food
her: ya me too, have you tried bombay garden?
me: no is it good
Blah, blah, blah. We talked about food for a minute.
I played another game.
Then, as I was leaving, we spoke one more time.
me: hey great job on the scoreboard
her: thanks
me: take care, I hope to see you playing next time
her: haha maybe, hey excuse me, by chance, do u have any jumper cables
me: i do, did u leave your lights on?
her: yup
me: where are u parked?
5 minutes later I was helping her jump start her car.
Her friend was with her.
I decided that I was going to go for it.
her: thanks so much
me: you're welcome. do u have an email or something so i can get in touch with you.
her: sure
I emailed her a week later and asked her out for a drink.
That was 2 days ago, she hasn't responded yet.
***
Again, I was playing basketball. Again there was a beautiful college girl watching.
White girl, blond, thin, nice skin, toned body.
She started to play with us. She was good.
After the game, I approached her:
me: you are good, who taught you how to play?
her: oh i guess my dad
me: are you from the mid west?
her: the mid west? why do u think that?
me: the way you play, you dont play like a California girl
her: im from here
Blah, blah, blah..
We went to the same high school!
I knew her older sister and we know a bunch of them same people.
We talked basketball and our hometown for a few minutes.
It was nice but I didn't force it. I said goodbye and walked away..
But, as I was getting into my car, I regretted not going for it!
I went back into the gym. I decided that I would go for it..
I found her sitting in the same spot..
me: hey
her: hey
me: i was sort of regretting leaving.
her: huh?
me: ya you are totally the kind of girl that I would TRY to date. i don't even know your situation or anything but..
her: its totally cool, more guys should be honest like you are
me: thanks you put my mind at ease
her: haha
me: i was thinking that maybe, if u want, we could go to a basketball game or something
her: im down to go to a warriors game
We chatted a little more and I got her number.
I know I have gotten more attractive and better with my verbal game because these are the first two girls I have approached in months and I both of them seemed somewhat interested. We'll see.
Starting in April, I will be going into Spring/Summer mode which means that I will be approaching 5-10 girls per day until I get a cute, young college girls with a tight, little body.
I will post many of those approaches here.
The_CEO · 2015-03-20 21:06:00 · #2035
On the bus today, near the front this guy opened an attractive woman had just gotten on, after she sat down.
I wasn't paying attention but heard her say, "Stop talking to me!", and then she got up and moved to another seat. The guy laughed it off and said to another passenger, "that was really funny".
It reminded me of the worst case scenarios presented in Roosh's books. It was really not a big deal and I respected the guy for trying.
i wondered if he was a forum member.
I wasn't paying attention but heard her say, "Stop talking to me!", and then she got up and moved to another seat. The guy laughed it off and said to another passenger, "that was really funny".
It reminded me of the worst case scenarios presented in Roosh's books. It was really not a big deal and I respected the guy for trying.
i wondered if he was a forum member.
Travesty · 2015-03-20 21:30:00 · #2036
Nice break off the starting line Gio, things should get crazy by the end of this summer for both of us!
Cobra · 2015-03-21 10:15:00 · #2037
(03-20-2015 01:25 PM)Giovonny Wrote: 5 minutes later I was helping her jump start her car.
Her friend was with her.
I decided that I was going to go for it.
her: thanks so much
me: you're welcome. do u have an email or something so i can get in touch with you.
her: sure
I emailed her a week later and asked her out for a drink.
That was 2 days ago, she hasn't responded yet.
***
Gio, is there a reason why you didn't go for the number?
Calibration is one of the things I have lots of trouble with. I mean getting a sense of how interested the girl is.
I know I get a bit rusty when I haven't approached in a while but I do try to go for either nothing or the number every time. Maybe email is a viable option with younger chicks?
Octavian pointed out a girl's interest from afar as I was approaching her; interest that I wasn't gauging myself while approaching.
Cobra · 2015-03-21 11:36:00 · #2038
In the last week or so, I met with a couple forum members and did a few approaches.
Hung out with a newer member, Hotline Friday evening downtown because he wanted to do some day game and I was in the mood. His game is primarily nightgame he said.
Did a few indirect approaches then which I'll document. I'll continue this in more posts as I have time. It takes a little time to post here and get the formatting right.
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2 older white chicks, early 30s, one was a 6, the other probably 5-
Me: Excuse me, do you know where the Bean is.
The 6: Blah blah
Me: [Threw bait about us] Me and my brother are hanging out enjoying Chicago (or something along those lines). [I'm obviously a lot darker than Hotline]
The 6: Blah blah [We kept her talking]
Me: [Ended the interaction] Thanks.
Purpose was to just show Hotline how easy an indirect approach is. The chicks did not move at all and were engaged. Being lighthearted also opens them up to a longer conversation.
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[Hotline's approach] A skinny white brunette 6 with paint on her face
Hotline: Hey, how's it going? Why do you have that paint on your face? [after maybe noticing her eye contact ; she had a slutty vibe]
Her: blah blah
Hotline: blah blah ...(..phone number..) [I didn't hear the whole approach but Hotline got his day game number]
Hotline can elaborate on this more as I'm only presenting it for educational purposes and I'm no expert player. The girl was "seeking" attention and Hotline gave it to her.
We got to the Bean and we approached some other girls in two sets. The girl above was also there I noticed. Hotline felt a bit awkward talking to other girls when this one was watching but I told him to keep going as she watches.. the whole DHV principle.
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Finally we say fuck it and head to a bar and grab a drink.
An fairly attractive blonde 6 (maybe 6.5) sits next to me with her friend and looks like she's in a playful mood.
I lean over to her and..
Me: I was going to wear the same thing tonight [Credit: Newgamer from NYC]
Her: Well, why didn't you.
Me: I didn't have matching heels.
Her: [Laughs] Blah blah
Me: blah blah
We then get into what we do and all and she's giving me a lot of interest.
Me: I like how that white shirt shows off your body.
Her: What about it do you like?
Me: I think the silhouette behind the shirt is sexy.
Her: blah blah
Me: Well, I've gotta get out of here.
Her: Maybe we should exchange information.
Me: What's your number?
Her: XXXX
Hotline saw what was happening. I texted her later but my text game sucked and she didn't respond. I should have gone for the make out I think or better taken her to my place (which I didn't have close by or anywhere). So many things worked against me. Could have been a sure fire bang if I played it right.
Interesting thing is that Hotline said nightgame, not day game is his turf and he got a decent day game lead. For me, nightgame is not my turf at all and I still got a nightgame lead.
Wish I could have posted more detail and also need to get better at reading signs and reacting quickly.
Hung out with a newer member, Hotline Friday evening downtown because he wanted to do some day game and I was in the mood. His game is primarily nightgame he said.
Did a few indirect approaches then which I'll document. I'll continue this in more posts as I have time. It takes a little time to post here and get the formatting right.
////
2 older white chicks, early 30s, one was a 6, the other probably 5-
Me: Excuse me, do you know where the Bean is.
The 6: Blah blah
Me: [Threw bait about us] Me and my brother are hanging out enjoying Chicago (or something along those lines). [I'm obviously a lot darker than Hotline]
The 6: Blah blah [We kept her talking]
Me: [Ended the interaction] Thanks.
Purpose was to just show Hotline how easy an indirect approach is. The chicks did not move at all and were engaged. Being lighthearted also opens them up to a longer conversation.
/////
[Hotline's approach] A skinny white brunette 6 with paint on her face
Hotline: Hey, how's it going? Why do you have that paint on your face? [after maybe noticing her eye contact ; she had a slutty vibe]
Her: blah blah
Hotline: blah blah ...(..phone number..) [I didn't hear the whole approach but Hotline got his day game number]
Hotline can elaborate on this more as I'm only presenting it for educational purposes and I'm no expert player. The girl was "seeking" attention and Hotline gave it to her.
We got to the Bean and we approached some other girls in two sets. The girl above was also there I noticed. Hotline felt a bit awkward talking to other girls when this one was watching but I told him to keep going as she watches.. the whole DHV principle.
////
Finally we say fuck it and head to a bar and grab a drink.
An fairly attractive blonde 6 (maybe 6.5) sits next to me with her friend and looks like she's in a playful mood.
I lean over to her and..
Me: I was going to wear the same thing tonight [Credit: Newgamer from NYC]
Her: Well, why didn't you.
Me: I didn't have matching heels.
Her: [Laughs] Blah blah
Me: blah blah
We then get into what we do and all and she's giving me a lot of interest.
Me: I like how that white shirt shows off your body.
Her: What about it do you like?
Me: I think the silhouette behind the shirt is sexy.
Her: blah blah
Me: Well, I've gotta get out of here.
Her: Maybe we should exchange information.
Me: What's your number?
Her: XXXX
Hotline saw what was happening. I texted her later but my text game sucked and she didn't respond. I should have gone for the make out I think or better taken her to my place (which I didn't have close by or anywhere). So many things worked against me. Could have been a sure fire bang if I played it right.
Interesting thing is that Hotline said nightgame, not day game is his turf and he got a decent day game lead. For me, nightgame is not my turf at all and I still got a nightgame lead.
Wish I could have posted more detail and also need to get better at reading signs and reacting quickly.
Giovonny · 2015-03-21 18:29:00 · #2039
I was at the store, I saw a 9.5!
A beautiful white girl in yoga pants and a little sports bra exposing her perfectly toned stomach and hips.. Amazing body, plump round ass, firm, perky, young breasts.. Flawless skin and radiant, long hair
She looked something like this: (but better! seriously!)
![[Image: Allison-Stokke-02.jpg]](http://nkpzz1l56ai473pu632f0nui.wpengine.netdna-cdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Allison-Stokke-02.jpg)
I was stunned! The best looking girl I have seen in years! (in person)
She was standing right in front of me looking at bananas.
I couldn't say anything! I was shocked by this girls beauty!
I pretended that I didn't notice her. She walked away..
Fuck! I wasn't ready for that!
I kept my eye on her and regained my composure. I decided that the next time she stopped to look at an item, I would quickly scurry over and comment on that item.
She got on her phone. I waited. 10 minutes later, she was still on her phone.
I got in line and paid for my groceries.
I decided that I would try one more time. If I couldn't talk to her, I at least wanted to take another good look at her up close and burn the memory into my mind. (masterbate)
I immediately saw her at the deli counter and tried to position myself so that she couldn't see me looking at her. A second or two later, she turned and looked right at me! Fuck! Could she sense that I was looking at her ass?!??
I got scared and left. When I got to my car I had a deep feeling of disappointment. I had a 9.5 standing right in front of me and I was too scared to talk!
Because I have years of experience doing this kind of thing, my instincts were loudly telling me that I had one more chance. She would be coming out of the store soon.
I took off my old sweatshirt and my appearance immediately improved. I was wearing an expensive, high quality, workout shirt.
A minute later, she was walking out. I quickly jogged to her section of the parking lot. I was careful to not let her see me. I really had to hurry.
I pretended that I was walking into the store.
As I was walking by, she was just finishing putting her groceries in the back seat..
I smiled, relaxed and tried to look strong and confident..
me: hey are you a trainer?
her: actually i am
me: your in amazing shape
her: thank you
She took a step towards me! Honestly, I think this was because of my expensive workout shirt + I'm in pretty good shape. This let her know that we are like minded people, we were in the same tribe. (fashion and fitness is so important!)
me: where do u train?
her: well im a student at bay area community college
me: oh really, i used to go there
her: ya i study training and dance
me: thats a great combo
her: ya i like it
me: i studied health science
her: cool
We talked for a minute about fitness and school stuff.
me: i better get going, wanna go for a hike or something someone?
her: oh i don't think my boyfriend would like that, but thank you
Next!
I'm so happy that I went back and approached her. I would have regretted it if I didn't. Now, I have a bit of momentum and confidence working for me.. I'm going to go back to the gym today, get a great workout, wear that same shirt and go back to that market and/or the mall near by.
When the sun comes out, the beautiful girls come out.
I'm going to get me one!
I don't care how many approaches it takes!
A beautiful white girl in yoga pants and a little sports bra exposing her perfectly toned stomach and hips.. Amazing body, plump round ass, firm, perky, young breasts.. Flawless skin and radiant, long hair
She looked something like this: (but better! seriously!)
I was stunned! The best looking girl I have seen in years! (in person)
She was standing right in front of me looking at bananas.
I couldn't say anything! I was shocked by this girls beauty!
I pretended that I didn't notice her. She walked away..
Fuck! I wasn't ready for that!
I kept my eye on her and regained my composure. I decided that the next time she stopped to look at an item, I would quickly scurry over and comment on that item.
She got on her phone. I waited. 10 minutes later, she was still on her phone.
I got in line and paid for my groceries.
I decided that I would try one more time. If I couldn't talk to her, I at least wanted to take another good look at her up close and burn the memory into my mind. (masterbate)
I immediately saw her at the deli counter and tried to position myself so that she couldn't see me looking at her. A second or two later, she turned and looked right at me! Fuck! Could she sense that I was looking at her ass?!??
I got scared and left. When I got to my car I had a deep feeling of disappointment. I had a 9.5 standing right in front of me and I was too scared to talk!
Because I have years of experience doing this kind of thing, my instincts were loudly telling me that I had one more chance. She would be coming out of the store soon.
I took off my old sweatshirt and my appearance immediately improved. I was wearing an expensive, high quality, workout shirt.
A minute later, she was walking out. I quickly jogged to her section of the parking lot. I was careful to not let her see me. I really had to hurry.
I pretended that I was walking into the store.
As I was walking by, she was just finishing putting her groceries in the back seat..
I smiled, relaxed and tried to look strong and confident..
me: hey are you a trainer?
her: actually i am
me: your in amazing shape
her: thank you
She took a step towards me! Honestly, I think this was because of my expensive workout shirt + I'm in pretty good shape. This let her know that we are like minded people, we were in the same tribe. (fashion and fitness is so important!)
me: where do u train?
her: well im a student at bay area community college
me: oh really, i used to go there
her: ya i study training and dance
me: thats a great combo
her: ya i like it
me: i studied health science
her: cool
We talked for a minute about fitness and school stuff.
me: i better get going, wanna go for a hike or something someone?
her: oh i don't think my boyfriend would like that, but thank you
Next!
I'm so happy that I went back and approached her. I would have regretted it if I didn't. Now, I have a bit of momentum and confidence working for me.. I'm going to go back to the gym today, get a great workout, wear that same shirt and go back to that market and/or the mall near by.
When the sun comes out, the beautiful girls come out.
I'm going to get me one!
I don't care how many approaches it takes!
~wrIghter~ · 2015-03-21 19:44:00 · #2040
Gio that's awesome! When I read that you had left, I thought it would end in a no approach. Some guys are afraid to approach 5s even. Excellent write-up.
swuglyfe · 2015-03-22 01:43:00 · #2041
Thought I'd pitch in my latest few sets and some self-analysis from tonight. No new notches unfortunately, but you learn more from the failures, and having more experienced men provide critiques and feedback is important.
Context: still in college, major party night for all the clubs purely by coincidence. I've got multiple options. In retrospect, I think it was bad for me to try and play the field by attending each for a bit, making a few cold approaches, and then moving on if there was no response. I should have committed to one venue. As it is college, these are generally social circle, so while I don't know them, I am quickly able to build rapport based on classes, clubs, people we know in common, etc.
1st approach:
blond 6.5, the actual definition of "curvy" (ie not what girls on okc mean)
She's sitting at a couch, with an open space beside her. I sit down slowly with my drink, look over, and hit her with a "let me guess" opener. Amazingly, I get her major right (made even more incredible because it was a very rare one, I did it more as a joke but whatever), and she gets really excited, asking me how I knew.
Recalling Roosh's thread on meta conversation, I say it's because of the vibe she's giving off; she just must be that kind of girl. Banter on about how she is of German descent but can't speak any, I'm playfully smacking her on the thigh and joking with her about that. A popular song comes on (which I personally like) so I stand up and motion for her to follow and dance, trying a compliance test. Doesn't bite, so I move on. In hindsight, this is probably the one I had the best shot at closing. Any advice on how to accept that with grace would be welcome. I was trying to focus on the spontaneous, "it just happened", and sweeping her up aspects.
2nd approach:
blond 7, very slight lisp
I move on to a different venue because the ratio at the first one is not optimal. It is at least a 2.5:1. I go to an outdoor keg race, make my way on to the deck overlooking the backyard. See a friend's LTR, catch up and make small talk with her, and she then introduces her roommate. 2nd question area: I went comfort building by learning about how many people we knew in common, we lived on different floors of the same freshman dorm, etc. Should I have taken the comfort and familiarity as a given in this situation and hit attraction harder?
We get solid banter in, I need some help on conversation and topics, links to good threads would be helpful. I am working on no longer being intimidated by pauses, and using them to process what was just said and not asking a shitty follow up, but instead digging deeper. Before I can do anything, she gets called from below by a friend and scurries off.
3rd approach:
Asian American 6, sort of alt and wearing a baseball cap backwards... good sign I know.
Hot off the previous set, I run into a good friend, catch up with him real quick, turn around, see this girl, and figure why not. I use the excuse of her bumping me trying to get by because it's packed. Unfortunately, very bitchy towards me (I'm also AA), like some other Asian-American girls I've approached.
To his credit, my friend unintentionally wings me to the best of his ability, basically giving me huge credit for making a major turnaround at X club. I laugh it off, and try to be pretty humble about it.
I open about her major to dive in, brushes that off and says she's transferring (found out she's a freshman). I bounce off of that and joke about how some of the people here can be a bit annoying at times. Was this buying into her negativity frame? She turns away and starts talking to a friend. Next!
4th approach:
Brazilian 8, curly dirty blonde hair and tan skin... fuck.
Think something like this: http://www.skneo2.com/wp-content/uploads...tos-14.jpg
This is one where my inexperience showed badly. I return to the original venue, finding nothing at the second one. She's standing in a hallway, talking to a guy friend who is absurdly drunk. He stumbles off and I take the opportunity to open. Build comfort based off that shared acquaintance, find out she's Brazilian. Drop that I've visited Belo Horizonte, she asks why the fuck I visited that place. Drop some tangentially redpill stuff about wanting to experience the true nature of a country wherever I visit, because the capital and big cities are too Westernized.
I start stumbling here and doing the dreaded "interview" because I'm so distracted. I need to separate myself from the beauty better, something I know will come from practice. I at the very least have gotten much more confident with kino and escalation in the right manner. At this point I have my arm around her waist and have pulled her close, talking close to her ear so she can hear because it's loud. Seems salvageable.
Second problem: her drunk friend literally careens straight into me and inadvertently AMOGs me, ruffling my hair and stealing her away while stumbling around. Her roommate comes in at that time and decides it time for them to leave. Fucking hell. I've sent a friend request and will hail mary a "hey, sorry our mutual friend was crashing around, would love to continue our conversation" text if she accepts later. Any better ideas for how to approach this hail mary?
5th approach:
Latina 7
The party is starting to wind down now. People are making their way out. I see this girl frantically scrolling through her phone. Turns out she doesn't even go here. She goes to a nearby school and is trying to figure out how to get back. Introduce myself, find out what school she's from, try to build comfort by naming a couple people I know who go there, big surprise she doesn't know any of them.
In the meantime I've got big competition. Turns out she brought a guy friend with her, and the person who invited her to this party is also a guy. They both circle in on either side of her and make my job a lot harder. Luckily they were both pretty drunk, one went to the bathroom, the other somewhere else. Build more comfort on shared interests, try to help her out with figuring out how to get home (aka walk with me to my place which is on the way).
Those two guys return, the one who goes to my school fixes me with a glare and pointedly tells me "Don't worry swuglyfe, I can take care of this." I say "Good, good," then proceed to continue helping her. Here, I at least asked what her name was and added her on FB in front of her. Number close was highly unlikely in such conditions.
Final approach:
brunette 6, eyes disproportionately big
The party is practically over now. Just a handful of people left, room largely empty. Music is still going which provides me an excuse to get closer with my hand on the small of her back. The problem with this set is... the IRT. He was in the set and cockblocking me like a motherfucker, interjecting left and right about his fucking internship in Hong Kong or whatever. Cool story, bro.
Meanwhile, I'm trying my best here, I actually correctly guess after 3 tries what small city she's from (she told me the state). She's suitably impressed by that, I tell her I'd like to move to a rival city, get some push pull from that. From what I can tell, she is at least a little bit attracted to IRT, at least enough to touch and playfully shove him. He is lingering in touching distance the whole time. Same as before, FB friend, will attempt a follow up in a few days' time.
Some takeaways from what is probably my most prolific series of approaches since taking the red pill:
I am over pedestalizing in the abstract and oneitis sense. Not in the physical, fuck there is a hot ass girl I'm interacting with sense.
I am great at building comfort through shared interests and banter, need to work a lot harder on building attraction.
Much more confident with kino and escalation, but need it to be paired with verbal escalation to be effective. A lot of it because I've hit the gym every day for the past month and have completely changed my wardrobe to stop dressing like a chode.
Asian girls continue to be the most difficult for me. Not race baiting here, just my observation. All the rest of the sets were white and were pretty open, which is beyond hilarious.
I need to get better at remaining cool but responding quickly to uphold the interaction in spite of difficult exogenous factors, mainly other dudes and jealous roommates/female friends.
Someone needs to come up with a witty remark/response to the statement "I have no idea what I want to do with my life/when I graduate." I swear that's everybody in my generation. Would be pretty universal in its applicability.
My best line of the night IMO (to a feminist SJW):
Yes, I too am a heteroqueer gender-questioning pan-sapio-demi-sexual dragonkin that chooses to self-identify as an Ent.
Context: still in college, major party night for all the clubs purely by coincidence. I've got multiple options. In retrospect, I think it was bad for me to try and play the field by attending each for a bit, making a few cold approaches, and then moving on if there was no response. I should have committed to one venue. As it is college, these are generally social circle, so while I don't know them, I am quickly able to build rapport based on classes, clubs, people we know in common, etc.
1st approach:
blond 6.5, the actual definition of "curvy" (ie not what girls on okc mean)
She's sitting at a couch, with an open space beside her. I sit down slowly with my drink, look over, and hit her with a "let me guess" opener. Amazingly, I get her major right (made even more incredible because it was a very rare one, I did it more as a joke but whatever), and she gets really excited, asking me how I knew.
Recalling Roosh's thread on meta conversation, I say it's because of the vibe she's giving off; she just must be that kind of girl. Banter on about how she is of German descent but can't speak any, I'm playfully smacking her on the thigh and joking with her about that. A popular song comes on (which I personally like) so I stand up and motion for her to follow and dance, trying a compliance test. Doesn't bite, so I move on. In hindsight, this is probably the one I had the best shot at closing. Any advice on how to accept that with grace would be welcome. I was trying to focus on the spontaneous, "it just happened", and sweeping her up aspects.
2nd approach:
blond 7, very slight lisp
I move on to a different venue because the ratio at the first one is not optimal. It is at least a 2.5:1. I go to an outdoor keg race, make my way on to the deck overlooking the backyard. See a friend's LTR, catch up and make small talk with her, and she then introduces her roommate. 2nd question area: I went comfort building by learning about how many people we knew in common, we lived on different floors of the same freshman dorm, etc. Should I have taken the comfort and familiarity as a given in this situation and hit attraction harder?
We get solid banter in, I need some help on conversation and topics, links to good threads would be helpful. I am working on no longer being intimidated by pauses, and using them to process what was just said and not asking a shitty follow up, but instead digging deeper. Before I can do anything, she gets called from below by a friend and scurries off.
3rd approach:
Asian American 6, sort of alt and wearing a baseball cap backwards... good sign I know.
Hot off the previous set, I run into a good friend, catch up with him real quick, turn around, see this girl, and figure why not. I use the excuse of her bumping me trying to get by because it's packed. Unfortunately, very bitchy towards me (I'm also AA), like some other Asian-American girls I've approached.
To his credit, my friend unintentionally wings me to the best of his ability, basically giving me huge credit for making a major turnaround at X club. I laugh it off, and try to be pretty humble about it. I open about her major to dive in, brushes that off and says she's transferring (found out she's a freshman). I bounce off of that and joke about how some of the people here can be a bit annoying at times. Was this buying into her negativity frame? She turns away and starts talking to a friend. Next!
4th approach:
Brazilian 8, curly dirty blonde hair and tan skin... fuck.
Think something like this: http://www.skneo2.com/wp-content/uploads...tos-14.jpg
This is one where my inexperience showed badly. I return to the original venue, finding nothing at the second one. She's standing in a hallway, talking to a guy friend who is absurdly drunk. He stumbles off and I take the opportunity to open. Build comfort based off that shared acquaintance, find out she's Brazilian. Drop that I've visited Belo Horizonte, she asks why the fuck I visited that place. Drop some tangentially redpill stuff about wanting to experience the true nature of a country wherever I visit, because the capital and big cities are too Westernized.
I start stumbling here and doing the dreaded "interview" because I'm so distracted. I need to separate myself from the beauty better, something I know will come from practice. I at the very least have gotten much more confident with kino and escalation in the right manner. At this point I have my arm around her waist and have pulled her close, talking close to her ear so she can hear because it's loud. Seems salvageable.
Second problem: her drunk friend literally careens straight into me and inadvertently AMOGs me, ruffling my hair and stealing her away while stumbling around. Her roommate comes in at that time and decides it time for them to leave. Fucking hell. I've sent a friend request and will hail mary a "hey, sorry our mutual friend was crashing around, would love to continue our conversation" text if she accepts later. Any better ideas for how to approach this hail mary?
5th approach:
Latina 7
The party is starting to wind down now. People are making their way out. I see this girl frantically scrolling through her phone. Turns out she doesn't even go here. She goes to a nearby school and is trying to figure out how to get back. Introduce myself, find out what school she's from, try to build comfort by naming a couple people I know who go there, big surprise she doesn't know any of them.
In the meantime I've got big competition. Turns out she brought a guy friend with her, and the person who invited her to this party is also a guy. They both circle in on either side of her and make my job a lot harder. Luckily they were both pretty drunk, one went to the bathroom, the other somewhere else. Build more comfort on shared interests, try to help her out with figuring out how to get home (aka walk with me to my place which is on the way).
Those two guys return, the one who goes to my school fixes me with a glare and pointedly tells me "Don't worry swuglyfe, I can take care of this." I say "Good, good," then proceed to continue helping her. Here, I at least asked what her name was and added her on FB in front of her. Number close was highly unlikely in such conditions.
Final approach:
brunette 6, eyes disproportionately big
The party is practically over now. Just a handful of people left, room largely empty. Music is still going which provides me an excuse to get closer with my hand on the small of her back. The problem with this set is... the IRT. He was in the set and cockblocking me like a motherfucker, interjecting left and right about his fucking internship in Hong Kong or whatever. Cool story, bro.
Meanwhile, I'm trying my best here, I actually correctly guess after 3 tries what small city she's from (she told me the state). She's suitably impressed by that, I tell her I'd like to move to a rival city, get some push pull from that. From what I can tell, she is at least a little bit attracted to IRT, at least enough to touch and playfully shove him. He is lingering in touching distance the whole time. Same as before, FB friend, will attempt a follow up in a few days' time.
Some takeaways from what is probably my most prolific series of approaches since taking the red pill:
I am over pedestalizing in the abstract and oneitis sense. Not in the physical, fuck there is a hot ass girl I'm interacting with sense.
I am great at building comfort through shared interests and banter, need to work a lot harder on building attraction.
Much more confident with kino and escalation, but need it to be paired with verbal escalation to be effective. A lot of it because I've hit the gym every day for the past month and have completely changed my wardrobe to stop dressing like a chode.
Asian girls continue to be the most difficult for me. Not race baiting here, just my observation. All the rest of the sets were white and were pretty open, which is beyond hilarious.
I need to get better at remaining cool but responding quickly to uphold the interaction in spite of difficult exogenous factors, mainly other dudes and jealous roommates/female friends.
Someone needs to come up with a witty remark/response to the statement "I have no idea what I want to do with my life/when I graduate." I swear that's everybody in my generation. Would be pretty universal in its applicability.
My best line of the night IMO (to a feminist SJW):
Yes, I too am a heteroqueer gender-questioning pan-sapio-demi-sexual dragonkin that chooses to self-identify as an Ent.
Ingocnito · 2015-03-22 14:00:00 · #2042
Got a smokin 8.5s (9 to some) number at the bar last night. Same caliber as girl in McQueens' lastest vids. 23 yo, Spanish and German mix, thin very tight body, very small waist, jet black hair and green eyes, 5'5" 120 lbs. She coughed up the # like a slot machine. Was just hangin with 2 of my other buddies, one of which is a well seasoned player. She sat down at bar next to me and I ran heavy Kino very quick. Worked well, used text book game. We walked in like we owned the place.. It went like this:
Me: You're in my domain
Her: Oh yea? howz that?
Me: Do you have permission?
Her: Um, I think so... right?
Me: I don't ask for permission, understand? >> at this point my friends are bouncing around me like rabid dogs rootin me on over my shoulder..
Her: (laughs) sure
Me: You smell nice, (I pull her in closer to me, smell her neck one side, smell the other side of her neck, then smell between her tits, so it looks like I'm starting to ravage the bitch right at the bar)
What are you wearing, it smells sexy?
Her: Oh (laughs and cutsie giggles) it's Victoria's Secret scent _______.
Me: You like how I smell ? (I pull her head into my chest for a sniff, held her head there just a bit longer than natural)
Her: (Lifts head up), yea, that's yummy..
Me: Ur a C-cup.
Her: Uhhh..
Me: I mean D-cup.
Her: That's right !
Me: So let me guess, you're Venezuelan?
Her: No, it's really hard to guess, you'll never guess it..
Me: Armanian?
Her: No, Spanish and German..
Me: I can tell, the green eyes.
Her: Well not as green as yours (IoI accepted)
Me: What are you doing crawlin around her tonight?
Her: It's one of my nights off, I work at the casino as a server.
Me: I know the head bar tender chick there, (drop name) you know her?
Her: Oh, yea, she runs it well.. (bit of social cred established)
Me: Wait.. Oh no shit (looking down at her waist), I thought that was a belt you were wearing, but that's the skin between your belly top and short ass skirt.
(I proceed to stand her up off stool, make her spin around as the 3 of us inspected the goods, while I'm rubbin up and down her back and sides).
My Buddy: Hey, I've got a big boat, you and your friends would look nice laying all over it....
Her: Laughs..
Me: (Exchange names and formal introduction, then tell her to give me her #, hand her my phone, she gladly puts # in ).
You got any cute friends here for my buddies?
Her: I'm with one friend, she's not cute. (then on cue her 4-5 range friend wobbles over asking where their drinks are.)
Me: Alright Anna, gonna getcha, winks. (smack on her tight ass, as she walks back over to her group on other side of bar).
Reminded me sometimes it's worth going out when you don't want to, even if just to be seen and later recognizable in the scene. I usually roll solo, but we had no bad apples in the crew so it worked well.
Me: You're in my domain
Her: Oh yea? howz that?
Me: Do you have permission?
Her: Um, I think so... right?
Me: I don't ask for permission, understand? >> at this point my friends are bouncing around me like rabid dogs rootin me on over my shoulder..
Her: (laughs) sure
Me: You smell nice, (I pull her in closer to me, smell her neck one side, smell the other side of her neck, then smell between her tits, so it looks like I'm starting to ravage the bitch right at the bar)
What are you wearing, it smells sexy?
Her: Oh (laughs and cutsie giggles) it's Victoria's Secret scent _______.
Me: You like how I smell ? (I pull her head into my chest for a sniff, held her head there just a bit longer than natural)
Her: (Lifts head up), yea, that's yummy..
Me: Ur a C-cup.
Her: Uhhh..
Me: I mean D-cup.
Her: That's right !
Me: So let me guess, you're Venezuelan?
Her: No, it's really hard to guess, you'll never guess it..
Me: Armanian?
Her: No, Spanish and German..
Me: I can tell, the green eyes.
Her: Well not as green as yours (IoI accepted)
Me: What are you doing crawlin around her tonight?
Her: It's one of my nights off, I work at the casino as a server.
Me: I know the head bar tender chick there, (drop name) you know her?
Her: Oh, yea, she runs it well.. (bit of social cred established)
Me: Wait.. Oh no shit (looking down at her waist), I thought that was a belt you were wearing, but that's the skin between your belly top and short ass skirt.
(I proceed to stand her up off stool, make her spin around as the 3 of us inspected the goods, while I'm rubbin up and down her back and sides).
My Buddy: Hey, I've got a big boat, you and your friends would look nice laying all over it....
Her: Laughs..
Me: (Exchange names and formal introduction, then tell her to give me her #, hand her my phone, she gladly puts # in ).
You got any cute friends here for my buddies?
Her: I'm with one friend, she's not cute. (then on cue her 4-5 range friend wobbles over asking where their drinks are.)
Me: Alright Anna, gonna getcha, winks. (smack on her tight ass, as she walks back over to her group on other side of bar).
Reminded me sometimes it's worth going out when you don't want to, even if just to be seen and later recognizable in the scene. I usually roll solo, but we had no bad apples in the crew so it worked well.
coverdoc · 2015-03-23 18:09:00 · #2043
(03-22-2015 01:43 AM)swuglyfe Wrote: Some takeaways from what is probably my most prolific series of approaches since taking the red pill:
I am over pedestalizing in the abstract and oneitis sense. Not in the physical, fuck there is a hot ass girl I'm interacting with sense.
I am great at building comfort through shared interests and banter, need to work a lot harder on building attraction.
Much more confident with kino and escalation, but need it to be paired with verbal escalation to be effective. A lot of it because I've hit the gym every day for the past month and have completely changed my wardrobe to stop dressing like a chode.
Asian girls continue to be the most difficult for me. Not race baiting here, just my observation. All the rest of the sets were white and were pretty open, which is beyond hilarious.
I need to get better at remaining cool but responding quickly to uphold the interaction in spite of difficult exogenous factors, mainly other dudes and jealous roommates/female friends.
Someone needs to come up with a witty remark/response to the statement "I have no idea what I want to do with my life/when I graduate." I swear that's everybody in my generation. Would be pretty universal in its applicability.
My best line of the night IMO (to a feminist SJW):
Yes, I too am a heteroqueer gender-questioning pan-sapio-demi-sexual dragonkin that chooses to self-identify as an Ent.
Good openers and the hardest part is initiating so you're off to a great start. In some of these you are coming off a little friendly vs flirtatious banter. Try more nagging and always go for the number vs facebook close.
As far as the Asian girls go, try more asshole game with them. Works for me. Example:
" says she's transferring " my response: "What happen you couldn't cut it here?" (don't forget to smile). They just have preconceived notions about you based on media. Shatter it and game accordingly. Never ever play into their frame.
Now some approaches of my own, critiques welcomed:
1. Went to a sports bar and noticed cute little latina working(7) there at the front. I waited to approach because her co workers were around. (I was certain one was a certified cockblock). See my chance later as she walks by, tap her arm:
Me: " you look familiar what school do you go to"
Her: X(best school in the state)
Looks at me like I couldn't possibly go there, and walks off. I eat my food and before I leave go up to her pull out my student Id
Me: Was trying to tell you we went to the same school, you're racist (smiling of course). She laughs and instantly becomes friendlier and leans forward, body language did complete 180.
Her: nooo don't say that, what's your major blah blah blah.
me: blah blah blah
Me: " What's a reason I shouldn't have your number by now"
Her: "sorry I have a boyfriend"
Me: " that sucks how long have you had that problem" ( I can tell she fucking loves it)
Her: *smiling* "that problem lol, no i can show you seriously"
Me: "nah don't bother, well give me your name i'll flirt with you next time i'm in"
eject
-retrospect: I don't think this could have played out any differently, none of her co workers were around, boyfriend destroyer worked good, oh well
2. Getting out my buddies car to head to sports bar and see indian (6.5/ friends say 7) walking her dog. I think of way to stop then see my buddy move to let her pass, I block her way with hands out smiling. Her dog (fucking ugly) comes up to me.
Me: awesome, what type of dog is this
Her: lol chiauhaha mix
Me: cool cool
(fucking drew a blank) didn't think she was that hot up close.
Now this could be because my boys were just lingering around or honestly just had a brain fart. Either way I failed. She lingers around like waiting for me to say something,
Me: well take care
As she walks off, her body didn't look too appealing, but my boys said she had a nice ass. She looks at me off in the distance.
-retrospect: Should have went for number close or accompanied her walking her dog. I was dressed pretty well, which I think helped with the initial approach and she seemed very open. I think good rule to always number close and start opening away from my friends as I feel them lingering around hurts me sometimes.
3. Was at a night club. Bad ratios and a lot of mixed groups. One group in particular had the hottest girls, but 3 dudes along too. I guess who is with who (8 people total) and say fuck it and walk up to one as they are all dancing in a circle. (asian 7, slim body no rhythm)
*tap shoulder*
Me: Hey let's dance
Her: Mmmm I don't know
Me: *smiles* Oh come on you know you want to
we start dancing and she's putting her ass/hips into my crotch. every guy in the group is like (whoa that's bold) but they are cool. Then this fat black chick who was dancing with who i assume to be her boyfriend, stops walks over and pulls her friend away.
Me: *smiles* wow really haha
A lot of people were around saw this, but all the guys gave me a look like well played. One even says "hey man happens to best of us" I laugh it off, but on the inside think: Typical hating fat southern black girl.
-retrospect: Not sure really, mix groups are always tough, especially when there is the hating mother hen. This one felt good because every dude in there was eyeing the group and I was the only one to approach that night.
-CD
robreke · 2015-03-24 18:10:00 · #2044
(03-22-2015 02:00 PM)Ingocnito Wrote: Got a smokin 8.5s (9 to some) number at the bar last night. Same caliber as girl in McQueens' lastest vids. 23 yo, Spanish and German mix, thin very tight body, very small waist, jet black hair and green eyes, 5'5" 120 lbs. She coughed up the # like a slot machine. Was just hangin with 2 of my other buddies, one of which is a well seasoned player. She sat down at bar next to me and I ran heavy Kino very quick. Worked well, used text book game. We walked in like we owned the place.. It went like this:
Me: You're in my domain
Her: Oh yea? howz that?
Me: Do you have permission?
Her: Um, I think so... right?
Me: I don't ask for permission, understand? >> at this point my friends are bouncing around me like rabid dogs rootin me on over my shoulder..
Her: (laughs) sure
Me: You smell nice, (I pull her in closer to me, smell her neck one side, smell the other side of her neck, then smell between her tits, so it looks like I'm starting to ravage the bitch right at the bar)
What are you wearing, it smells sexy?
Her: Oh (laughs and cutsie giggles) it's Victoria's Secret scent _______.
Me: You like how I smell ? (I pull her head into my chest for a sniff, held her head there just a bit longer than natural)
Her: (Lifts head up), yea, that's yummy..
Me: Ur a C-cup.
Her: Uhhh..
Me: I mean D-cup.
Her: That's right !
Me: So let me guess, you're Venezuelan?
Her: No, it's really hard to guess, you'll never guess it..
Me: Armanian?
Her: No, Spanish and German..
Me: I can tell, the green eyes.
Her: Well not as green as yours (IoI accepted)
Me: What are you doing crawlin around her tonight?
Her: It's one of my nights off, I work at the casino as a server.
Me: I know the head bar tender chick there, (drop name) you know her?
Her: Oh, yea, she runs it well.. (bit of social cred established)
Me: Wait.. Oh no shit (looking down at her waist), I thought that was a belt you were wearing, but that's the skin between your belly top and short ass skirt.
(I proceed to stand her up off stool, make her spin around as the 3 of us inspected the goods, while I'm rubbin up and down her back and sides).
My Buddy: Hey, I've got a big boat, you and your friends would look nice laying all over it....
Her: Laughs..
Me: (Exchange names and formal introduction, then tell her to give me her #, hand her my phone, she gladly puts # in ).
You got any cute friends here for my buddies?
Her: I'm with one friend, she's not cute. (then on cue her 4-5 range friend wobbles over asking where their drinks are.)
Me: Alright Anna, gonna getcha, winks. (smack on her tight ass, as she walks back over to her group on other side of bar).
Reminded me sometimes it's worth going out when you don't want to, even if just to be seen and later recognizable in the scene. I usually roll solo, but we had no bad apples in the crew so it worked well.
^ where can one view "McQueen's vids" ?
Cobra · 2015-03-24 20:49:00 · #2045
Gio recommended at least 3 approaches a day. I’ve been trying to do some indirects and some directs. I honestly have not found a happy medium yet. If you see a Cobra out there hunting don't cock block him. 
So .. this happens to be my 1000th post. It’s momentous in that it turns my status to “Alpha Male.” Approach wise, I still feel like I’m only getting there. Yet I will post a fairly alpha approach to commemorate this change.
Michigan Avenue [Dominican 7, probably mid 20s, maybe even 7.5 based on that body]
I’m hanging out with Octavian and we’re shooting the shit and discussing the ups and downs of the game as we walk down the Mag mile. The talent here is so so and can be hit or miss given the season. I see this chica walking at a brisk pace. If you know me, you will know that I like darker skinned hotties. I run after her. Luckily the traffic light (or maybe game god) smiles at me and turns red for the walk.
Me: [Run to her as I get a few paces behind her and get a bit to her left at an angle, Day Bang style] Hey I was just over there with my friend; I saw you and just couldn’t let you go without saying hi.
Her: Oh hi [smiling]
Me: I like your earrings [she flings her hair a bit]
Her: Thanks
Me: How many carats?
Her: Haha they’re not expensive
Me: So you have this artistic vibe to you [Utter bullshit]
Her: Really
Me: Yeah do you paint or draw
Her: Umm I did when I was a kid
Me: Well, I could tell [smiling]
Her: [Moving to the side] Just wanna get outta the way..
Me: It’s all good
Her: So your friend must be waiting [I think she crossed her legs at this point]
Me: Well, yeah I gotta go but give me your number ; we’ll stay in touch
Her: Sure…blah blah blah
This was an interesting approach in that I wasn’t reading the signals whereas Octavian was from a distance. He saw her flick her hair and also cross her legs. Both were signs that she’s interested and wanted to stay.
I’ve been texting her back and forth but unfortunately she’s in Grand Rapids, which I had to dig out from her through text. And my texting is abysmal as hell.
Today I ended up going to a mall in the North suburbs which was the shittiest in the world as far as pussy. Maybe crappy timing. Did one approach there, which is also memorable but no success. It really was because there wasn't as much talent and the place was a ghost town and if I did too many, I would have been noticed. I'll post that later. Yesterday I did some at a Whole Foods. Tomorrow, I may do some on the street or train station.
I did do indirects on the train a la "Is this the last express train," and also a lobby of a large company at a chick with luggage "Is that a good bag." I like taking action. I go home a bit more satisfied.
So .. this happens to be my 1000th post. It’s momentous in that it turns my status to “Alpha Male.” Approach wise, I still feel like I’m only getting there. Yet I will post a fairly alpha approach to commemorate this change.
Michigan Avenue [Dominican 7, probably mid 20s, maybe even 7.5 based on that body]
I’m hanging out with Octavian and we’re shooting the shit and discussing the ups and downs of the game as we walk down the Mag mile. The talent here is so so and can be hit or miss given the season. I see this chica walking at a brisk pace. If you know me, you will know that I like darker skinned hotties. I run after her. Luckily the traffic light (or maybe game god) smiles at me and turns red for the walk.
Me: [Run to her as I get a few paces behind her and get a bit to her left at an angle, Day Bang style] Hey I was just over there with my friend; I saw you and just couldn’t let you go without saying hi.
Her: Oh hi [smiling]
Me: I like your earrings [she flings her hair a bit]
Her: Thanks
Me: How many carats?
Her: Haha they’re not expensive
Me: So you have this artistic vibe to you [Utter bullshit]
Her: Really
Me: Yeah do you paint or draw
Her: Umm I did when I was a kid
Me: Well, I could tell [smiling]
Her: [Moving to the side] Just wanna get outta the way..
Me: It’s all good
Her: So your friend must be waiting [I think she crossed her legs at this point]
Me: Well, yeah I gotta go but give me your number ; we’ll stay in touch
Her: Sure…blah blah blah
This was an interesting approach in that I wasn’t reading the signals whereas Octavian was from a distance. He saw her flick her hair and also cross her legs. Both were signs that she’s interested and wanted to stay.
I’ve been texting her back and forth but unfortunately she’s in Grand Rapids, which I had to dig out from her through text. And my texting is abysmal as hell.
Today I ended up going to a mall in the North suburbs which was the shittiest in the world as far as pussy. Maybe crappy timing. Did one approach there, which is also memorable but no success. It really was because there wasn't as much talent and the place was a ghost town and if I did too many, I would have been noticed. I'll post that later. Yesterday I did some at a Whole Foods. Tomorrow, I may do some on the street or train station.
I did do indirects on the train a la "Is this the last express train," and also a lobby of a large company at a chick with luggage "Is that a good bag." I like taking action. I go home a bit more satisfied.
dirtybird · 2015-03-25 08:25:00 · #2046
First approach at the gym today. Shoutout to Sketness and everyone else who rocks the gym game for the tips. First a little background. There was this 7.5 blonde, about 5'10 and a great body, phenomenal ass. I noticed her when I walked in but unlike all the other thirsty dudes in the weightroom today, I wasn't gawking at her, in fact quite the opposite. I was doing my workout and I caught her staring at me once or twice. Kept working out and she eventually comes to the bench right next to me and starts doing some rows, which was coincidentally the exercise I had just finished doing. I purposely pay her no attention as she starts repping them out, just carry on with my workout as usual. This is where it gets interesting then. As I move over to this mat section for abs, I see a chick I had met briefly through my flatmate. She is a solid 8, unbelievable body and she is Brazilian. Since I speak Portuguese (took classes at uni and lived in Rio), I go up to her on a break and ask her (this whole conversation is in Portuguese mind you)
Me: You're Brazilian right?
She: Yes how did you know? Are you Brazilian?
Me: Well no, I'm from the US but I have family and have lived in Brazil. I think we know the same person, and I give her my flatmates name
She: Oh yes I remember now
Me: I'm dirtybird, nice to meet you (do the typical two cheek kiss)
We chat a little bit about why I was in Brazil and where she's from. I tease her that she's "Baiana" (which is slang for where in Brazil she's from) not Brazilian and she laughs and we talk for a minute. Fizzles out and I go back to my workout. About a minute later, the blonde chick plops down right next to me and starts stretching. This isn't like a butterfly stretch or anything but really getting into it sticking her ass in the air and bending over. I finish up and stretch real quick. Figure that I'm gonna approach but she makes it easy leaving the weightroom to get water. I leave like 20 seconds after and ask her if there's another waterfountain (stupid that's all I could think of haha). She immediately launches into the convo but thinks I'm talking about wifi, wtf? We eventually figure out what each other is trying to say, then I go is my accent really that bad? (dropping the bait that im not from here) She's like ya I don't know it's heard to tell, you're from America right? I say ya I'm from Chicago. I ask her if she knows where it is, most Scottish broads don't, and she says yes of course. We chat about where she's from, what year in school she is. She's flicking her hair and crossing her legs, always good signs. I tell her it was nice talking to you but I'm going to run on the treadmill but we should grab a drink sometime. She enthusiastically agrees. I hand her my phone and say put your number in, she complies. Tell her I'll text her my name so she has my number too. Say goodbye and that was that.
Got a great workout and solid lead, we'll see what happens. Thanks again to all the people who post their approaches here, it's great stuff to pull from.
-dirtybird
Me: You're Brazilian right?
She: Yes how did you know? Are you Brazilian?
Me: Well no, I'm from the US but I have family and have lived in Brazil. I think we know the same person, and I give her my flatmates name
She: Oh yes I remember now
Me: I'm dirtybird, nice to meet you (do the typical two cheek kiss)
We chat a little bit about why I was in Brazil and where she's from. I tease her that she's "Baiana" (which is slang for where in Brazil she's from) not Brazilian and she laughs and we talk for a minute. Fizzles out and I go back to my workout. About a minute later, the blonde chick plops down right next to me and starts stretching. This isn't like a butterfly stretch or anything but really getting into it sticking her ass in the air and bending over. I finish up and stretch real quick. Figure that I'm gonna approach but she makes it easy leaving the weightroom to get water. I leave like 20 seconds after and ask her if there's another waterfountain (stupid that's all I could think of haha). She immediately launches into the convo but thinks I'm talking about wifi, wtf? We eventually figure out what each other is trying to say, then I go is my accent really that bad? (dropping the bait that im not from here) She's like ya I don't know it's heard to tell, you're from America right? I say ya I'm from Chicago. I ask her if she knows where it is, most Scottish broads don't, and she says yes of course. We chat about where she's from, what year in school she is. She's flicking her hair and crossing her legs, always good signs. I tell her it was nice talking to you but I'm going to run on the treadmill but we should grab a drink sometime. She enthusiastically agrees. I hand her my phone and say put your number in, she complies. Tell her I'll text her my name so she has my number too. Say goodbye and that was that.
Got a great workout and solid lead, we'll see what happens. Thanks again to all the people who post their approaches here, it's great stuff to pull from.
-dirtybird
robreke · 2015-03-25 16:48:00 · #2047
Shopping at Target today and there was some talent. I'm walking down a main aisle in the store pushing my empty cart and spot a tall, slender college aged brunette in a light green gingham spring dress walking toward me. She's pushing her cart too. She's 22ish and a 7.5. We have eye contact from a ways off. As the distance closes she looks again, smiles big and offers a very cheerful "hey". I return the favor. I made a new years resolution that I will let no more "gifts" pass me up and so far, I'm doing a good job.
As we get even and I'm about to pass her, I open:
Me. excuse me, do you know where the luggage section is?
Her. Uhh...yes, I think it's it's that way past the blah blah....(she was being helpful and somewhat animated in her gestures)
Me. okay, you sound like you know your way around here.
Her. yes, I've been here a few times.
Me. oh great, I have too, I'm just not good in big box stores.
Her. Ha.
Me. well, thanks...by the way, I know this sounds kind of random, and I wanted to know about the luggage, but I also just wanted to talk because I thought you looked nice today.
her. Oh thank you.
Me. my name's robreke ( extending hand)
Her. I'm Meg...nice to meet you.
Me. you too...I'm a little nervous doing this. I usually don't do this ( credit GLL )
Her. oh...you shouldn't be.
Me. so what are you up to today Meg?
Her...mumbles something...looks a little confused.
Me. Looks like I threw off your train of thought (smirk)
Her. yes, you kind of did (smiles)
we banter about she's on spring break now and I talk about how I'm going on a trip tomorrow...she's on spring break and goes to college in a neighboring state, but this is her hometown. A few questions back and forth)
Me. well, it's too bad you're leaving back for school when I'll be getting back from Texas.
Her..yeah.
Me. Can I text you sometime. We'll grab a coffee or drink when you're in town.
Her. Yes.
Give her my phone, got the number. Texted her a little later and she texted back nice to meet me. I'll stay on her with periodic texts every 3 weeks or so to see if I can get her when she's back in town.
Saw a cute tall black girl with dancer looking legs in short dress looking at posterboards about 10 minutes later in another section of store. She's struggling getting a piece out that's stuck. I'm standing there and say.
Me. Need some help?
Her. Yes.
I dislodge the piece for her and give it to her.
Me. Oh....Is this good posterboard?
Her. I just need any kind.
Me. Gotcha, I'm getting some for my niece she has a project.
Her. I've got a project for college.
She gives a vague evasive smile and kind of wanders to another part of the aisle. Also, some fat middle aged woman looks down the aisle and is eavesdropping on our conversation.
Me. Nice, which college you go to.
Her. Tells me.
She's slowly browsing and drifting away and I let her go.
Well, one college girl's number out of two ain't a bad days work for a dude in his 40s. Now if I could just do that everyday!
As we get even and I'm about to pass her, I open:
Me. excuse me, do you know where the luggage section is?
Her. Uhh...yes, I think it's it's that way past the blah blah....(she was being helpful and somewhat animated in her gestures)
Me. okay, you sound like you know your way around here.
Her. yes, I've been here a few times.
Me. oh great, I have too, I'm just not good in big box stores.
Her. Ha.
Me. well, thanks...by the way, I know this sounds kind of random, and I wanted to know about the luggage, but I also just wanted to talk because I thought you looked nice today.
her. Oh thank you.
Me. my name's robreke ( extending hand)
Her. I'm Meg...nice to meet you.
Me. you too...I'm a little nervous doing this. I usually don't do this ( credit GLL )
Her. oh...you shouldn't be.
Me. so what are you up to today Meg?
Her...mumbles something...looks a little confused.
Me. Looks like I threw off your train of thought (smirk)
Her. yes, you kind of did (smiles)
we banter about she's on spring break now and I talk about how I'm going on a trip tomorrow...she's on spring break and goes to college in a neighboring state, but this is her hometown. A few questions back and forth)
Me. well, it's too bad you're leaving back for school when I'll be getting back from Texas.
Her..yeah.
Me. Can I text you sometime. We'll grab a coffee or drink when you're in town.
Her. Yes.
Give her my phone, got the number. Texted her a little later and she texted back nice to meet me. I'll stay on her with periodic texts every 3 weeks or so to see if I can get her when she's back in town.
Saw a cute tall black girl with dancer looking legs in short dress looking at posterboards about 10 minutes later in another section of store. She's struggling getting a piece out that's stuck. I'm standing there and say.
Me. Need some help?
Her. Yes.
I dislodge the piece for her and give it to her.
Me. Oh....Is this good posterboard?
Her. I just need any kind.
Me. Gotcha, I'm getting some for my niece she has a project.
Her. I've got a project for college.
She gives a vague evasive smile and kind of wanders to another part of the aisle. Also, some fat middle aged woman looks down the aisle and is eavesdropping on our conversation.
Me. Nice, which college you go to.
Her. Tells me.
She's slowly browsing and drifting away and I let her go.
Well, one college girl's number out of two ain't a bad days work for a dude in his 40s. Now if I could just do that everyday!
philosophical_recovery · 2015-03-26 23:08:00 · #2048
It was a beautiful day out today. A few good looking girls, and some solid opportunities for more bold daygame approaches. Unfortunately, I pussied out.
On the dancefloors I'm solid, at bars I'm ok (although I haven't done nightgame in a long time), but I make a big deal out of cold approaches in a daygame context. With some indication of interest, I've made some approaches outside. At the coffee shops, I'll sit next to cute girls and open them, but that confident stride towards an unknown is difficult to jump into. And, I hesitated.
There can be a lot more high quality talent outdoors here than on the dancefloor, but where I'm at there are a lot of near dimepieces with big diamond wedding bands. Not a lot of single girls about, except some borderlines that could be underage. The one broad I hesited on, and kicked myself over the most, had the air of a trophy wife and I couldn't see her left hand in the distance. I dwelled on that thought instead of making a move, and bam opportunity over.
I've got to psyche myself up more.
On the dancefloors I'm solid, at bars I'm ok (although I haven't done nightgame in a long time), but I make a big deal out of cold approaches in a daygame context. With some indication of interest, I've made some approaches outside. At the coffee shops, I'll sit next to cute girls and open them, but that confident stride towards an unknown is difficult to jump into. And, I hesitated.
There can be a lot more high quality talent outdoors here than on the dancefloor, but where I'm at there are a lot of near dimepieces with big diamond wedding bands. Not a lot of single girls about, except some borderlines that could be underage. The one broad I hesited on, and kicked myself over the most, had the air of a trophy wife and I couldn't see her left hand in the distance. I dwelled on that thought instead of making a move, and bam opportunity over.
I've got to psyche myself up more.
Sketness · 2015-03-27 12:28:00 · #2049
I was out at whole foods the other day. Im grabbing some yogurt and some protein shakes when I see this blond 8 looking at different teas
Earlier this week I read McQueen's article and I decided not to hesitate.
I go right up to her and open.
Me; hey witch one of these tea's are any good
Her; I like this one ( points to a certain tea)
Me; yea im trying to get off of coffee is there a lot of caffeine in this tea?
Her; there is a little bit
Her; (moving away ) good luck
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It was a rough approach
I am focusing on making each approach as natural as possible. At times I'll get discouraged and think why am i doing this ? meeting a pretty girl should not be this hard.
But then I think, every time I feel this way, in reality im very close to a break through. I just have to keep going
Earlier this week I read McQueen's article and I decided not to hesitate.
I go right up to her and open.
Me; hey witch one of these tea's are any good
Her; I like this one ( points to a certain tea)
Me; yea im trying to get off of coffee is there a lot of caffeine in this tea?
Her; there is a little bit
Her; (moving away ) good luck
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It was a rough approach
I am focusing on making each approach as natural as possible. At times I'll get discouraged and think why am i doing this ? meeting a pretty girl should not be this hard.
But then I think, every time I feel this way, in reality im very close to a break through. I just have to keep going
OregonToSoCal · 2015-03-27 13:36:00 · #2050
(03-27-2015 12:28 PM)Sketness Wrote: I was out at whole foods the other day. Im grabbing some yogurt and some protein shakes when I see this blond 8 looking at different teas
Earlier this week I read McQueen's article and I decided not to hesitate.
I go right up to her and open.
Me; hey witch one of these tea's are any good
Her; I like this one ( points to a certain tea)
Me; yea im trying to get off of coffee is there a lot of caffeine in this tea?
Her; there is a little bit
Her; (moving away ) good luck
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It was a rough approach
I am focusing on making each approach as natural as possible. At times I'll get discouraged and think why am i doing this ? meeting a pretty girl should not be this hard.
But then I think, every time I feel this way, in reality im very close to a break through. I just have to keep going
There seems to be a problem with the link but I was able to google the article and it's really good. Great job on approaching anyway. I'm excited, in two weeks I'll be moving to an apartment that's walking distance to a whole foods. I'll be making frequent trips there
