Number closed this girl made some short talk, joked about jobs, she seems pretty genuine about not drinking and doing her own thing:

Girl: Human resources .
What keeps you busy ?
Kaotic: Oh i strip in west hollywood, the usual.
Girl:Been there done that. How's hat going for you ?
Kaotic: Well im working on my body so hopefully i get more tips. So you work 7 days a week also eh ?
Girl: Yes.
Kaotic: Don't sound to thrilled hah. Yeah it's a grind but I make free time. Let's grab a drink soon, what's your evening schedule look like ?
Girl: Maybe in the fall ? Like September.
Sounds like I'm kidding I know haha but I'm not drinking till then 4th of July was my last drink for a while. I'm boring now that was the first time I went out in almost 3 months.
Girl: I'm finally at a place in life where I can really just concentrate on my goals and focus on me ... As selfish as that sounds. But I'm getting to a good place .... Still on my way tho


Jesus chris how do you even respond to that.

Was gonna say thats awesome i was vegan for 4 months and finally drank on my bday(not true) blah blah let's just have some good ol clean sober fun blah blah

^You seem to be getting a string of chicks who give you the runaround.

Are you sexualizing the interaction in person?

Yeah im feeling like it. This one i tried with a longgg time ago. Just got her number at her work, i was pretty drunk, dont remember much of what I said. Most the other girls I never met in person(tinder, pof) . (Something im working on aka approaching)

Obviously this girl isnt interested ejecting.

I don't understand it. Nowadays, chicks who work the day-shift at McDonald's make it seem like they're doing the overnight at Mass General Hospital.

I was at a wedding reception at this bar/restaurant place about an hour away from where I live.

Got this girls number after talking to her for about 20 minutes. A less hot version of Katy Perry. Dark hair and big tits type of deal.

I texted her 2 days after i got the number-

Me:Hey L it was cool to meet you the other night. I should be in RRRRRR again soon i'll let you know - D
Her: Nice meeting you too! Let me know

Week later:
Me: I have a meeting in RRRRRRR tomorrow morning. Lets meet up for a coffee or a drink after
Her: Sorry, I work out in WWWWWW, so during the week is kind of difficult for me
Me. Gotcha. Well I'll be in CCCCCC this weekend but we'll figure something out soon.

Silence.


Any ideas on how to fire this back up with some spice.

(07-09-2014 11:50 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^You seem to be getting a string of chicks who give you the runaround.

Are you sexualizing the interaction in person?

So I do a forum search found this for example:

http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-13087-page-2.html

is this what you mean ? I usually sexualize almost every conversation I have, especially with girls I'm talking to or know. I haven't done direct sexualization cold approaching a girl in the day though.

Now that I think about it, this last girl I talked about, there was NO sexualization at all. I played it way to nice, I gotta work on that.

Thanks for bringing that to my attention.

texting with online girl, playing 20 questions (I know, ghey as all hell...)
she tells me a story about how she got drunk and hit hard on a female bartender that she sees regularly around town.

Also tells a story about getting kicked out of a redneck bar for dancing too ridiculous and spraying people with a squirt gun.

Want to have some kind of decent reply, but can't come up with anything. I literally NEVER use text game, and I'm starting to realize I am going to have to play the game somewhat if I am to date girls in their early 20's.

What to say gents? Thinking about giving her shit for not closing the deal with the female bartender.

Long time lurker, first time poster

Met a girl through social circle. Went out to mutual friends bday party, made out at the club, bounced to after hours bar, almost got the bang but she was on her period (should've pushed through in retrospect). Asked her to get drinks the following week, went well and hooked up again. While dropping her off at her apartment I planted seed to meet again for drinks, she seemed genuinely excited. Few days later texted her about logistics of meeting up and she sent me this...

"Hi! My phone is really fucked up sorry. But I just wanted to let you know I'm going through some shitty ex stuff right now. You're awesome I just don't want to lead you on when my heads all over the place. I genuinely enjoy your company this is just terrible timing for me!! Sorry"

I don't plan on responding. But is there anything I could stay to keep me in the loop without sounding beta?

Appreciate any feedback

(07-11-2014 10:21 AM)Balkan Wrote:  Long time lurker, first time poster

Met a girl through social circle. Went out to mutual friends bday party, made out at the club, bounced to after hours bar, almost got the bang but she was on her period (should've pushed through in retrospect). Asked her to get drinks the following week, went well and hooked up again. While dropping her off at her apartment I planted seed to meet again for drinks, she seemed genuinely excited. Few days later texted her about logistics of meeting up and she sent me this...

"Hi! My phone is really fucked up sorry. But I just wanted to let you know I'm going through some shitty ex stuff right now. You're awesome I just don't want to lead you on when my heads all over the place. I genuinely enjoy your company this is just terrible timing for me!! Sorry"

I don't plan on responding. But is there anything I could stay to keep me in the loop without sounding beta?

Appreciate any feedback

"k."

This is mildly off topic, but it's not worth creating a new thread for and it's relevant to text-game.

How do you deal with a main girl who is being oddly cryptic/aloof?

Example:

(Last night a midnight)
11:38pm Her: Are you going to XYZ Saturday ? (an event I was considering going to - she is not going regardless)
11:51pm Her: Wake up
12:00am Her:
8:06am Me: No I'm not
9:54am Her: blah blah blah (unrelated text chat)

***later on next day after other unrelated texts***

(curiosity got to me - beta I know)
2:27pm Me: Why'd you ask about XYZ saturday
2:42pm Her: Just wondering
3:08pm Me: ?
3:15pm Her: ?
3:15pm Her: I was just wondering if you decided to go.
3:20pm Me: Seemed oddly important to you last night when you texted me 3 times in a row to answer you about it
3:20pm Me: Sad faces and all
3:33pm Her: Eh. Sorry
3:40pm Me: k

I know I read to much into it and obviously let a litle bit of oneitis kick in wondering if there was some hidden agenda instead of just ignoring it all together, but I'm curious how any of the vets on here deal with a main girl who is being cryptic like this. Do you let her dismiss/avoid your inquiry? Just ignore? Force her into your frame?

She is contemplating to go if you did. But is still much on the fence, so not necessary she would go if you did.

Tell her you are going Only for a bit because you have to go to this other very exciting thing later (where you could get +1) and she won't be on the fence anymore.

(07-11-2014 09:53 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  texting with online girl, playing 20 questions (I know, ghey as all hell...)
she tells me a story about how she got drunk and hit hard on a female bartender that she sees regularly around town.

Also tells a story about getting kicked out of a redneck bar for dancing too ridiculous and spraying people with a squirt gun.

Want to have some kind of decent reply, but can't come up with anything. I literally NEVER use text game, and I'm starting to realize I am going to have to play the game somewhat if I am to date girls in their early 20's.

What to say gents? Thinking about giving her shit for not closing the deal with the female bartender.

She's either trolling you or she's shit-testing you. Act not that impressed, call her out teasingly on her bullshit, press for logistics and/or....call her!

(07-11-2014 10:21 AM)Balkan Wrote:  Long time lurker, first time poster

Met a girl through social circle. Went out to mutual friends bday party, made out at the club, bounced to after hours bar, almost got the bang but she was on her period (should've pushed through in retrospect). Asked her to get drinks the following week, went well and hooked up again. While dropping her off at her apartment I planted seed to meet again for drinks, she seemed genuinely excited. Few days later texted her about logistics of meeting up and she sent me this...

"Hi! My phone is really fucked up sorry. But I just wanted to let you know I'm going through some shitty ex stuff right now. You're awesome I just don't want to lead you on when my heads all over the place. I genuinely enjoy your company this is just terrible timing for me!! Sorry"

I don't plan on responding. But is there anything I could stay to keep me in the loop without sounding beta?

Appreciate any feedback

I'd probably go with this, but it will really depend on what you think would go over best:

"TMI we just met. Busy now but let's enjoy company next week"

Or you could go with "gay" or "k" or no response at all which may be more powerful responses in your case.

online girl, wanted to text some before meeting up, ive been in mild text hell for a day,
I say: "lets get together this week"
her: "whys that"
me: "hah whats what?"
her: "why should we get together?"

convo up until this point hasnt been very sexual. Basically i hate text game, and I consider this one a lost cause, but I may as well try sometime out here. Not sure how to pass this shit test, or if its even possible. Online for the lose!

(07-13-2014 11:22 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  Basically i hate text game, and I consider this one a lost cause

If a girl is a lost cause, or you're not interested, I'd eject.

(07-13-2014 01:07 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(07-13-2014 11:22 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  Basically i hate text game, and I consider this one a lost cause

If a girl is a lost cause, or you're not interested, I'd eject.

im interested, she was interested at first but this "why should we meet up?" line screams disinterest, still kind of want to try #unsubscribe or something

There's nothing to consider there, her asking "why" should we meet up should've been responded in one two ways, depending on how the previous texts had gone:

If things were semi-playful, I'd probably have tried, "So we can drink and get in trouble."

but from what you've got on there, I'd probably just blow her off with, "Why did you give me your number?"

Oh, and this is an online girl? Ya, I'd troll her and eject.

sent "unsubscribe"

I dont think there was any winning. Online girls are the worst.

She replies
"what"
"Slap*"

(07-13-2014 11:22 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  online girl, wanted to text some before meeting up, ive been in mild text hell for a day,
I say: "lets get together this week"
her: "whys that"
me: "hah whats what?"
her: "why should we get together?"

convo up until this point hasnt been very sexual. Basically i hate text game, and I consider this one a lost cause, but I may as well try sometime out here. Not sure how to pass this shit test, or if its even possible. Online for the lose!

so I decided to troll this girl for research purposes after this BS convo:
here is what has gone down:
me - "unsubscribe"
her "what"
"slap*"
"cockycocky"
me: "slap?, steller some of my favorite dates included a slap at some point"
her: "haha I want no trouble"
"in fact im looking for the opposite. I can find trouble on my own without the internet."
me: "k"
her: "guess youre just the trouble"
me: "its a healthy mix"
her: "what are you doing today?"

WTF???? It appears I stunned the hamster back like a shotgun blast to a zombie, but like a zombie getting back up, now the hamster is right back trying to rope me into text hell.

Trying to get a handle on text game is hard, but I got to get better at it. I def have blown myself out on several occasions with horrid text game.

(07-13-2014 11:22 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  online girl, wanted to text some before meeting up, ive been in mild text hell for a day,
I say: "lets get together this week"
her: "whys that"
me: "hah whats what?"
her: "why should we get together?"

convo up until this point hasnt been very sexual. Basically i hate text game, and I consider this one a lost cause, but I may as well try sometime out here. Not sure how to pass this shit test, or if its even possible. Online for the lose!

"so you can enjoy my exquisite presence"

What should I say?

Background: she was naked in my car last week

http://i.imgur.com/Spu8TK8.jpg

You already answered your question.

"She was naked in my car last week"

Look at a girl's ACTIONS, not what she SAYS.

"so if you wanna just chill and not hookup that's totally cool."
Hamster translation: I'm dating someone but if you're worth fucking then I don't mind cheating.

Her: So funny enough my best friend kind of showed up on my doorstep last night
Her: That being said, would you like to grab a drink with us later?

Was supposed to be the first time meeting her. Thoughts ?

(07-14-2014 04:41 PM)dancingjohn Wrote:  Her: So funny enough my best friend kind of showed up on my doorstep last night
Her: That being said, would you like to grab a drink with us later?

Was supposed to be the first time meeting her. Thoughts ?

Uh, say yes?