(06-15-2014 08:10 AM)Cobra Wrote:  ^^^ Appreciate the thoughts gents.

I've read that some guys send a "nice meeting you text" a little later; that's really why I did it.

Next time I'll wait a day. It's a learning experience for me.

I think the "nice meeting you" text is a little nice, but you need to calibrate to your personality and the interaction/the girl.

However, I don't think there's any girl that it's a good idea to say "Me: Let's meet for a drink or something next week."

Not only is the "or something" WAY too non-specific/weak, but the "next week" is really open too.

You could make that line work in person, but not over text.

(06-12-2014 12:06 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-12-2014 12:03 AM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Ignore.

She sounds like she's just trying to get attention.

Let those fireballs set in. Once she's drunk she'll probably say she wants to see you. If she does, text her your address and nothing else. If she shows up cool, if she doesn't eject.

Thanks man, I appreciate the fast response play by play.

I swear your text game has to be tighter than ever to get these bitches to comply.

5 days later the broad writes me "are you still mad "

THIS is a perfect oppurtunity to get my frame back and make her do what I want since she flaked a few times. Obviously cool casual aloof comes to mind.

I'd like to say, "huh, what are you talking about ?" aka i never gave it a second thought because I don't care

^

"new phone. who is this"

Just started with online dating and my online game kinda sucks. Just started using tinder recently and to the courtesy of some of our posters here I did get some materials to use. However I'm getting a little stuck on this one:







Not quite sure how to respond to that one.

Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Careful not to fall into the trap of too much texting...I'd say follow Blue Streak's advice and use it to set up a meeting.

(06-16-2014 07:34 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Okay I just texted" "I'll show you how it's done sometime how flexible are you?" Hope she eats it up.

(06-16-2014 08:17 PM)Borealis Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 07:34 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Okay I just texted" "I'll show you how it's done sometime how flexible are you?" Hope she eats it up.

I would decrease your texting ratio (most specifically, I'm always monitoring to see if I'm contributing more than she is). Also, I try pretty hard to follow Heartiste's advice to never text a question mark.

Effort spent trying to get girls to respond/text/engage is usually better spent meeting new girls who already-want-to-do-that.

(06-16-2014 08:21 PM)party1981 Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 08:17 PM)Borealis Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 07:34 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Okay I just texted" "I'll show you how it's done sometime how flexible are you?" Hope she eats it up.

I would decrease your texting ratio (most specifically, I'm always monitoring to see if I'm contributing more than she is). Also, I try pretty hard to follow Heartiste's advice to never text a question mark.

Effort spent trying to get girls to respond/text/engage is usually better spent meeting new girls who already-want-to-do-that.

What's wrong with using question marks? I've seen lots of people use question marks and other punctuations and they have killer game.

Oh and she just wrote back "more flexible than the average person I think" ugh. I'm tempted to write back "Let's put that to the test shall we? Insert your contact # here _______"

Ok, I've got one. I responded to this girl's (20, cute blonde) ad on CL looking for either a teacher or cop to hook up with to fulfill a fantasy. I am a university professor and that seemed to work for her. We emailed back a forth a few times, then she gave me her number without me having to ask and the conversation moved to text.

We texted a bit over the next couple of days, sexualising immediately. I even called her the following evening to build comfort, teasing her and telling her how I was going to fuck her. We organised to meet in three days time (during the day on a Sunday) so she could come to my office and we could fuck (part of her fantasy). She texted me the following day, still being sexual. Then suddenly she went silent and when I sent a confirmatory text on Sunday morning she responded with a flake.

Text messages from Friday (day after talking on the phone) onwards:

Her: Mmmmmmm thinking of you
Me: Naughty thoughts, I bet.
Her: Haha of course
Me: Good girl. Tell me.
Her: Just of you bending me over the desk and taking advantage of me [emoticon that I don't understand]
Me: Pushing your skirt up and pulling your sexy, already damp panties down around your knees to expose your pink pussy begging for my cock.
Her: [emoticons showing she liked it]
Her: Soooooo hot
Me: Do you want my cock?
Her: Yep bad
Me: Tell me where you want it

No response. I try to restart the next evening:

Me: Am waiting for your homework, Ms. [Name]. (Working the teacher student fantasy angle, which I had done a bit previously. Her 'homework' was to think in more detail about her fantasy and then to text it to me)

Again, no response. The next morning (day we had arranged to meet) I send her the confirmatory text and she flakes:

Me: Hey babe. Meet me at [local landmark which is public and has lots of people] at 1pm. We will check each other out and then head to my office for some fun. Time to fulfill your fantasy.
Her: I don't think I can anymore today. I have work today I have been called in...
Me: Unfortunate, babe. I was looking forward to testing out your claim of being able to cum 10 times. Perhaps another time then.

I figure give it a few days and then try to re-initiate later in the week. I am just wondering whether to keep it casual or to try and go straight back to the sexualisation in order to remind her why we came into contact in the first place. For the latter, I was thinking of texting something about a hot young student sexily dressed who came to my office for help with her studies and was flirting with me, which got me horny and reminded me of CL chick.

Thoughts?

(06-16-2014 08:34 PM)Borealis Wrote:  Oh and she just wrote back "more flexible than the average person I think" ugh. I'm tempted to write back "Let's put that to the text shall we? Insert your contact # here _______"

I would keep it shorter. Just write, "We'll see. Insert # here _______"

(06-16-2014 09:01 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 08:34 PM)Borealis Wrote:  Oh and she just wrote back "more flexible than the average person I think" ugh. I'm tempted to write back "Let's put that to the text shall we? Insert your contact # here _______"

I would keep it shorter. Just write, "We'll see. Insert # here _______"

Texted her that and now she's not responding. Should I just move on?

(06-16-2014 08:34 PM)Borealis Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 08:21 PM)party1981 Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 08:17 PM)Borealis Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 07:34 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Okay I just texted" "I'll show you how it's done sometime how flexible are you?" Hope she eats it up.

I would decrease your texting ratio (most specifically, I'm always monitoring to see if I'm contributing more than she is). Also, I try pretty hard to follow Heartiste's advice to never text a question mark.

Effort spent trying to get girls to respond/text/engage is usually better spent meeting new girls who already-want-to-do-that.

What's wrong with using question marks? I've seen lots of people use question marks and other punctuations and they have killer game.

Oh and she just wrote back "more flexible than the average person I think" ugh. I'm tempted to write back "Let's put that to the test shall we? Insert your contact # here _______"

See:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/08/2...ss-rule-3/

See also the commandments of poon (you can google it).

Something about her texts seem wrong ...
You haven't met as yet?

I'd suggest proceed with caution

I'm gonna be bombing this thread come August. I've been generally out of the text loop since moving abroad in April and when I get back to school my practical text game will probably be a bit rusty. I <3 RVF

Carry on

(06-10-2014 11:38 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Banged new girl last Tuesday (first meet). Next day was her bday- sent text at night (Wednesday): 'happy bday miss X- we sure know how to celebrate'

She wrote back ~5 hrs later: 'Lol, thanks!'

Friday afternoon I sent a short callback humor message. No response. Waited until after the weekend, and hit her with a restart message Monday night: 'how was your weekend missy'

Got a text back ~8 hrs later: 'Great, I've been in DC. You?'

I usually don't have an issue with post-bang texting, but she doesn't seem very enthusiastic. Her texting pre-bang was similar syntactically and she would take anywhere from 1-3 hrs to respond, but I'm surprised by the same tone and even longer response times. Do I go for logistics now or ask when she'll be back in town/have her hit me up when she gets back?

I waited a day and replied with:
"gov ball was an adventure. when do ya get back"

No response.

5 days later I restart with:
"i'm checking out a new venue this week- join me"

The following afternoon she sends:
"I'm on the west coast this week"


Now what? For me, this kind of shit typically doesn't happen after the bang.

(06-16-2014 03:51 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^

"new phone. who is this"

No reply of course.

I just noticed she added me on snap a few days ago.

Should I restart later or just eject ?

I know you shouldn't ever delete an old number

(06-17-2014 12:50 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 03:51 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^

"new phone. who is this"

No reply of course.

I just noticed she added me on snap a few days ago.

Should I restart later or just eject ?

I know you shouldn't ever delete an old number

Why not snapchat her?

Who says you can't delete old numbers? I do all the time. Sure you can hold on to old ones and ping them once a month or whatever, but your energy would be better well spent focused on new prospects who aren't making you jump through hoops to get a glimpse at their 'golden' snatch.

(06-17-2014 12:53 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:50 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 03:51 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^

"new phone. who is this"

No reply of course.

I just noticed she added me on snap a few days ago.

Should I restart later or just eject ?

I know you shouldn't ever delete an old number

Why not snapchat her?

Who says you can't delete old numbers? I do all the time. Sure you can hold on to old ones and ping them once a month or whatever, but your energy would be better well spent focused on new prospects who aren't making you jump through hoops to get a glimpse at their 'golden' snatch.

Absolutely true. I ended up snapchatting, she responded, I didn't look (I use snapbox to view snaps without letting the user know i saw it) it said her name.

I'll let this simmer until tonight.

Here's another: TL;DR
Tinder>Number close>set up date> flakes (as is tradition)>says she owes me

Set plans again last tuesday, flakes. Sunday text her "so i see miss flake died, you such at this game"

Today girl: " oh shit, my bad, again. I still haven't bought a new cable and turned my phone off for a few days"

-She posted a pic of Instagram yesterday- so i know it's a BS lie

Last thing i'm going to do is get mad and call her out on it. The best thing I could do is say, "that's twice you owe me, drinks are on you on x at y" or "who is this" <--I can't say "new phone, who is this" since i just texted sunday

thoughts anyone ?

Banged this girl on OkCupid last week after the first date. She's been extremely noncommittal and aloof since then, whereas she was nice and eager before the first date. Clearly wasn't the sex that was bad as she got off twice and texted me afterwards she had a great time.

Our text convo:

Me: "Hey, I want to try out this new cocktail place. Interested in joining tonight or tomorrow?"

Her: "I might be but I have a soccer game tonight and a haircut tomorrow night"

Me: "Thursday?"

Her: "Possibly"

So, low investment responses. Should I just go radio silence for a bit? Or something else?

I would mess around with her for a bit as in mock her like a dumb brat when she texts you beta bait texts. I would reply with "huh?" and make her repeat herself and text you back, then go with radio silence. It's a subtle way of getting hand on the bitch. If she still keeps it up then my friend, it's buyer's remorse. But at least you fucked the slut, you've won that victory at least...

(06-17-2014 04:46 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:53 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:50 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 03:51 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^

"new phone. who is this"

No reply of course.

I just noticed she added me on snap a few days ago.

Should I restart later or just eject ?

I know you shouldn't ever delete an old number

Why not snapchat her?

Who says you can't delete old numbers? I do all the time. Sure you can hold on to old ones and ping them once a month or whatever, but your energy would be better well spent focused on new prospects who aren't making you jump through hoops to get a glimpse at their 'golden' snatch.

Absolutely true. I ended up snapchatting, she responded, I didn't look (I use snapbox to view snaps without letting the user know i saw it) it said her name.

I'll let this simmer until tonight.

Here's another: TL;DR
Tinder>Number close>set up date> flakes (as is tradition)>says she owes me

Set plans again last tuesday, flakes. Sunday text her "so i see miss flake died, you such at this game"

Today girl: " oh shit, my bad, again. I still haven't bought a new cable and turned my phone off for a few days"

-She posted a pic of Instagram yesterday- so i know it's a BS lie

Last thing i'm going to do is get mad and call her out on it. The best thing I could do is say, "that's twice you owe me, drinks are on you on x at y" or "who is this" <--I can't say "new phone, who is this" since i just texted sunday

thoughts anyone ?

Sounds like it might be time to let this one go. Two flakes in a row is normally my cue to next a girl. Not to mention all this crap about her phone being turned off. What modern woman can go without her phone for "a few days"? She would have bought a new one immediately upon realising she lost the original one.

(06-17-2014 04:58 PM)apoclater Wrote:  Banged this girl on OkCupid last week after the first date. She's been extremely noncommittal and aloof since then, whereas she was nice and eager before the first date. Clearly wasn't the sex that was bad as she got off twice and texted me afterwards she had a great time.

Our text convo:

Me: "Hey, I want to try out this new cocktail place. Interested in joining tonight or tomorrow?"

Her: "I might be but I have a soccer game tonight and a haircut tomorrow night"

Me: "Thursday?"

Her: "Possibly"

So, low investment responses. Should I just go radio silence for a bit? Or something else?

IMO, you are asking her too many questions and not being assertive enough. Especially the line, "Thursday?". You are almost begging her to come out with you again.

Alternative script:

Me: Hey, I'm trying out this new cocktail place tonight. Join me.

Her: I might, but I have a soccer game tonight and a haircut tomorrow night

Me: Gay/unsubscribe/k/other pithy one word answer

Then leave it and perhaps try re-initiating again at a later date. She isn't giving you anything to work with or suggesting an alternative time which indicates a lack of interest on her part. Demonstrate you don't care by not pursuing her.

(06-17-2014 12:21 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

(06-10-2014 11:38 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Banged new girl last Tuesday (first meet). Next day was her bday- sent text at night (Wednesday): 'happy bday miss X- we sure know how to celebrate'

She wrote back ~5 hrs later: 'Lol, thanks!'

Friday afternoon I sent a short callback humor message. No response. Waited until after the weekend, and hit her with a restart message Monday night: 'how was your weekend missy'

Got a text back ~8 hrs later: 'Great, I've been in DC. You?'

I usually don't have an issue with post-bang texting, but she doesn't seem very enthusiastic. Her texting pre-bang was similar syntactically and she would take anywhere from 1-3 hrs to respond, but I'm surprised by the same tone and even longer response times. Do I go for logistics now or ask when she'll be back in town/have her hit me up when she gets back?

I waited a day and replied with:
"gov ball was an adventure. when do ya get back"

No response.

5 days later I restart with:
"i'm checking out a new venue this week- join me"

The following afternoon she sends:
"I'm on the west coast this week"


Now what? For me, this kind of shit typically doesn't happen after the bang.

What does this girl do? Sounds like she is travelling all over the place.

(06-17-2014 07:18 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:21 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

(06-10-2014 11:38 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Banged new girl last Tuesday (first meet). Next day was her bday- sent text at night (Wednesday): 'happy bday miss X- we sure know how to celebrate'

She wrote back ~5 hrs later: 'Lol, thanks!'

Friday afternoon I sent a short callback humor message. No response. Waited until after the weekend, and hit her with a restart message Monday night: 'how was your weekend missy'

Got a text back ~8 hrs later: 'Great, I've been in DC. You?'

I usually don't have an issue with post-bang texting, but she doesn't seem very enthusiastic. Her texting pre-bang was similar syntactically and she would take anywhere from 1-3 hrs to respond, but I'm surprised by the same tone and even longer response times. Do I go for logistics now or ask when she'll be back in town/have her hit me up when she gets back?

I waited a day and replied with:
"gov ball was an adventure. when do ya get back"

No response.

5 days later I restart with:
"i'm checking out a new venue this week- join me"

The following afternoon she sends:
"I'm on the west coast this week"


Now what? For me, this kind of shit typically doesn't happen after the bang.

What does this girl do? Sounds like she is travelling all over the place.

Recently finished college and is starting work at the end of the month. Seems she's traveling before that schedule kicks in.