"Meh. Lol"

No need to tell her she won't walk straight or indirectly imply that. You're an older guy u don't need to prove your sexual prowess.

Treat her like she's your kid sister.

(06-12-2014 09:31 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  Been slowly messaging an OKC girl (18) and things when cold a while back. I re-opened her the other day and she responded:

"Shoot maybe. I'm still trying to figure out if you're too old for me"

Just trying to think of something simple and not too try-hard. I would have said something along the lines of "same here" but that gives the impression I'm saying "Yeah I'm wondering if I'm too old for you too" as opposed to "yeah wondering if you're too old for me too"

You do know at 18 years of age she is looking out for signals of him being patronising to her?

I have worked with girls in the age ranges of 16-20 and nothing dries them up faster than being patronising. Do not treat her like some kid, even if she is one.

After texting back n forth for few days (light witty banter), the chick says to me -
"I can't tell if I'm interested or not. Your photos aren't very clear besides your manly selfie"

Thinking of replying with - "you are hilarious. unsubscribe".

Wdyt ?

^ She's fishing for more pics.

Keep the light, playful vibe going.

Steer the conversation around to if she wants another one. Then ask her what she wants to see and say you'll go and take one, and be back in a bit.

Eventually, say something like "That came out well. I think it captures my best side."

Wait a few minutes, then attach a cute cat pic.

If she reacts well to this tease -> frustrate process, you can probably get away with doing it a second time before conceding.

Background: Tinder Girl, Banged a few times, told me she "didn't think it was a good idea to see me anymore" -I don't respond-

Months later (now): I see her viewing my snapchat stories - so I snap chat and call her out. She says "i'm not creeping" I say blah blah text me

She texts me, (I deleted her number, but I know it's her):

Girl: Hi !
Kaotic: Hey who is this?
Girl: Courtney! (not her real name, i know she's playing with me)
Kaotic: Z or Y ? (2 last names of courtneys I know)
Next Day Kaotic: So are you going to tell me who this is or what ?
-I snapchat her and ask her if she text me- she says "idk why don't you ask courtney"
I text her:
Kaotic: hah you little brat !!
Her: -emoji girl with hands in the air-
Her:I'm all butthurt because you deleted my number and I kept yours!

I felt like I was chasing but now I got a good frame.

I want to hang and bang again.

How would you respond to this to guilt trip her, or make her feel bad and want to make things up ?

(06-13-2014 04:04 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Background: Tinder Girl, Banged a few times, told me she "didn't think it was a good idea to see me anymore" -I don't respond-

Months later (now): I see her viewing my snapchat stories - so I snap chat and call her out. She says "i'm not creeping" I say blah blah text me

She texts me, (I deleted her number, but I know it's her):

Girl: Hi !
Kaotic: Hey who is this?
Girl: Courtney! (not her real name, i know she's playing with me)
Kaotic: Z or Y ? (2 last names of courtneys I know)
Next Day Kaotic: So are you going to tell me who this is or what ?
-I snapchat her and ask her if she text me- she says "idk why don't you ask courtney"
I text her:
Kaotic: hah you little brat !!
Her: -emoji girl with hands in the air-
Her:I'm all butthurt because you deleted my number and I kept yours!

I felt like I was chasing but now I got a good frame.

I want to hang and bang again.

How would you respond to this to guilt trip her, or make her feel bad and want to make things up ?

"How very thoughtful of you.Let's grab a coffee this week"

No doubt I fucked this up.

Met a cute black/irish mix off of day game with a "you look nice today" direct opener yesterday.

I talked about how I didn't know the train system in Chicago and she explained how it works.

I was suited up for an interview .. she looked about 25 - 28. I'm 35.

Got her number.. about a half hour later.

Me:Hey xxx, it's Cobra, nice meeting you today
Her: Nice meeting you as well

Next morning.
Me: Let's meet for a drink or something next week.

..Dead silence. I didn't text anything else.. Help...

^too eager with your texting (girls are such cunts).

Should have waited at least a day to hit her up, but regardless - maybe text her again in a day or two: "you suck at this game" if she gives half a shit she'll text back something like "lol I know I'm so busy sorry" then follow up later "what's your sched like this week" if she gives you zero/indefinite options then forget about it.

(06-14-2014 12:08 AM)Cobra Wrote:  Me:Hey xxx, it's Cobra, nice meeting you today
Her: Nice meeting you as well

For future reference: 30 minutes is a huge red flag for girls. I've been with girls when this happens and as a group they file you in the creepy / stalker basket. She's going to think you're too desperate / needy and not busy with having a life. She needs time to revel in the drama by wondering about you, your life, if you'll remember her, getting frustrated that you haven't called, etc.

^^^ Appreciate the thoughts gents.

I've read that some guys send a "nice meeting you text" a little later; that's really why I did it.

Next time I'll wait a day. It's a learning experience for me.

I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

^^^From the right girl...

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

(06-15-2014 06:07 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

I used this, and she said, "I guess you can call me trouble!"

Good work little wing. Any idea for a response to this?

(06-15-2014 07:52 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 06:07 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

I used this, and she said, "I guess you can call me trouble!"

Good work little wing. Any idea for a response to this?

There are many ways to go from there, post some more info about the girl and your relation to her
But I would go with something like "we'll see how much trouble you are when we go to (insert bar here) on friday" or whatever you wanna go do with her

(06-15-2014 08:51 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 07:52 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 06:07 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

I used this, and she said, "I guess you can call me trouble!"

Good work little wing. Any idea for a response to this?

There are many ways to go from there, post some more info about the girl and your relation to her
But I would go with something like "we'll see how much trouble you are when we go to (insert bar here) on friday" or whatever you wanna go do with her

Appreciate the tip. She's a Tinder girl. I did YoungBlood's "Are you my type of girl?" and from there we hit if off and are in process of scheduling something. Thanks!

(06-14-2014 03:49 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  ^too eager with your texting (girls are such cunts).

Should have waited at least a day to hit her up, but regardless - maybe text her again in a day or two: "you suck at this game" if she gives half a shit she'll text back something like "lol I know I'm so busy sorry" then follow up later "what's your sched like this week" if she gives you zero/indefinite options then forget about it.

Thanks General Stalin. I used this.

You may be on to something here but I may have screwed it up. See below.

Me: You suck at this game
Her: What game?
Me: If you play your cards right..Maybe you'll win
Her: Hmmm I'll keep that in mind
Me: But there are a few things I need to know first
Her: Like?
Me: Hmmm..#1 what's your sched like this week
Her: I work 10-7 all week
Me: I'm in the city on Wednesday..Let's grab a drink around 7:30

No response.. not sure if I pushed it but who knows. I'm confused between the camp that says use text only for logistics and the other side which advocates humor and being witty. I think I got caught in the middle.

So, she gives a shit but maybe not enough. Do girls generally take a little hiatus to get back to you after giving a time and does that correlate with attraction levels?

Suggestions welcome and thanks again fellas.

(06-12-2014 09:31 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  Been slowly messaging an OKC girl (18) and things when cold a while back. I re-opened her the other day and she responded:

"Shoot maybe. I'm still trying to figure out if you're too old for me"

Just trying to think of something simple and not too try-hard. I would have said something along the lines of "same here" but that gives the impression I'm saying "Yeah I'm wondering if I'm too old for you too" as opposed to "yeah wondering if you're too old for me too"

text her " well last girl I went out with was 18 so I don't think so. you're mature aren't you?"

DHV with you've dated girls her age...then throw it back to her. If you use...lemme know how it goes.

(06-15-2014 08:10 AM)Cobra Wrote:  ^^^ Appreciate the thoughts gents.

I've read that some guys send a "nice meeting you text" a little later; that's really why I did it.

Next time I'll wait a day. It's a learning experience for me.

I think the "nice meeting you" text is a little nice, but you need to calibrate to your personality and the interaction/the girl.

However, I don't think there's any girl that it's a good idea to say "Me: Let's meet for a drink or something next week."

Not only is the "or something" WAY too non-specific/weak, but the "next week" is really open too.

You could make that line work in person, but not over text.

(06-12-2014 12:06 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-12-2014 12:03 AM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Ignore.

She sounds like she's just trying to get attention.

Let those fireballs set in. Once she's drunk she'll probably say she wants to see you. If she does, text her your address and nothing else. If she shows up cool, if she doesn't eject.

Thanks man, I appreciate the fast response play by play.

I swear your text game has to be tighter than ever to get these bitches to comply.

5 days later the broad writes me "are you still mad "

THIS is a perfect oppurtunity to get my frame back and make her do what I want since she flaked a few times. Obviously cool casual aloof comes to mind.

I'd like to say, "huh, what are you talking about ?" aka i never gave it a second thought because I don't care

^

"new phone. who is this"

Just started with online dating and my online game kinda sucks. Just started using tinder recently and to the courtesy of some of our posters here I did get some materials to use. However I'm getting a little stuck on this one:







Not quite sure how to respond to that one.

Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Careful not to fall into the trap of too much texting...I'd say follow Blue Streak's advice and use it to set up a meeting.

(06-16-2014 07:34 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  Seems like a perfect opportunity for some innuendo to sexualise the conversation if you ask me.

Something simple like "you should try it sometime " or "I'll show you how it's done sometime ". Then, when she accuses you of being sexual or "dirty", play innocent and accuse her of having a dirty mind.

Okay I just texted" "I'll show you how it's done sometime how flexible are you?" Hope she eats it up.