Short story: chilling with a milf(30 years old, I am 19) here and there, made out once with her.
Have been trying to go for a new date, but she has flaked on me 3 times now. She constantly apologizes very bad. Had a date with there in an hour and she texted me:

"Hi dear, you sure dont want to date with me again, and i can't help it, but I have to cancel it again. Mij sister came unexpected without asking me, so you cant come over"


2 years ago I would go crazy and call her names and block her if she even flaked at the first date, but luckily I know now after improving a lot, that isnt going to help me. What do you guys think I should text back? I feel like that I cant ask for another appointment over and over again, that will look like im a joke and needy.

Thanks.

(06-12-2014 04:25 AM)anonymoX Wrote:  Short story: chilling with a milf(30 years old, I am 19) here and there, made out once with her.
Have been trying to go for a new date, but she has flaked on me 3 times now. She constantly apologizes very bad. Had a date with there in an hour and she texted me:

"Hi dear, you sure dont want to date with me again, and i can't help it, but I have to cancel it again. Mij sister came unexpected without asking me, so you cant come over"


2 years ago I would go crazy and call her names and block her if she even flaked at the first date, but luckily I know now after improving a lot, that isnt going to help me. What do you guys think I should text back? I feel like that I cant ask for another appointment over and over again, that will look like im a joke and needy.

Thanks.

Let it go. She needs to come back to you. Reply uninterested and in a short manner.

If you're cool enough and she wants you she will come back (being 19 and her 30 I kinda doubt it). You can't generate the attraction back through texting, that has to be done in person. Texts can only make her want you more for what you have done in person and keep her wondering.

Good luck

Hi wroclove,

First of all, thanks for your comment. I already had replied to her before reading the comment of yours.

What i basically said, was: "actually, it's also better for me because I just woke up 15 minutes ago(which i didnt, but i lied) and have to go now. Maybe we'll meet up another time".

Rightafter my reply she basically kept texting and I adjusted wisely by switching to another subject. Then I said that I had to go and that I would speak her another time and finished it off with a funny sentence which she liked.

I'm going to text her back in 7 days, so it will look like i'm not needy.

Thanks.

Maybe it's just me, but the kind of game I like is very intense in person and then radio silence. Just text to actually meet. It's less work and it works for me

Hope you score bro, but careful with those in their 30s.

blonde chick from Tinder, maybe a mid to high 7:

Me: What's up girl
Her: Heyyy
Me: Were gonna skip the whole tinder pickup line routine k. how are you
Her: I'm great thank you for asking!
Me: I'm awesome thanks. So are we bf and gf now or what
Her: Bahaha u r awesome. I literally slept all day today. I got up around 8
Me: You bum
Her: Lol i feel so good though. bum bum. Wtf r u doing when r we meeting up you kook.
Me: Sooner the better. Tomorrow night
Her: R u gonna murder me
Me: Na the judge said if i do that again i go back to jail for a loooong time
Her: Bahahahaha


I'm housesitting my parents place in the burbs (Chi) all weekend and want to get her to come out and kick it with me.

What should i text next.

Been slowly messaging an OKC girl (18) and things when cold a while back. I re-opened her the other day and she responded:

"Shoot maybe. I'm still trying to figure out if you're too old for me"

Just trying to think of something simple and not too try-hard. I would have said something along the lines of "same here" but that gives the impression I'm saying "Yeah I'm wondering if I'm too old for you too" as opposed to "yeah wondering if you're too old for me too"

Be playful, she is 50/50 on this.

I went with this a few times and can either work 100% or fail 100%. ; "find out how old I am when you can't walk straight"

She more than likely has a shitload of suitors apart from yourself Stalin so whats to lose?

"Meh. Lol"

No need to tell her she won't walk straight or indirectly imply that. You're an older guy u don't need to prove your sexual prowess.

Treat her like she's your kid sister.

(06-12-2014 09:31 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  Been slowly messaging an OKC girl (18) and things when cold a while back. I re-opened her the other day and she responded:

"Shoot maybe. I'm still trying to figure out if you're too old for me"

Just trying to think of something simple and not too try-hard. I would have said something along the lines of "same here" but that gives the impression I'm saying "Yeah I'm wondering if I'm too old for you too" as opposed to "yeah wondering if you're too old for me too"

You do know at 18 years of age she is looking out for signals of him being patronising to her?

I have worked with girls in the age ranges of 16-20 and nothing dries them up faster than being patronising. Do not treat her like some kid, even if she is one.

After texting back n forth for few days (light witty banter), the chick says to me -
"I can't tell if I'm interested or not. Your photos aren't very clear besides your manly selfie"

Thinking of replying with - "you are hilarious. unsubscribe".

Wdyt ?

^ She's fishing for more pics.

Keep the light, playful vibe going.

Steer the conversation around to if she wants another one. Then ask her what she wants to see and say you'll go and take one, and be back in a bit.

Eventually, say something like "That came out well. I think it captures my best side."

Wait a few minutes, then attach a cute cat pic.

If she reacts well to this tease -> frustrate process, you can probably get away with doing it a second time before conceding.

Background: Tinder Girl, Banged a few times, told me she "didn't think it was a good idea to see me anymore" -I don't respond-

Months later (now): I see her viewing my snapchat stories - so I snap chat and call her out. She says "i'm not creeping" I say blah blah text me

She texts me, (I deleted her number, but I know it's her):

Girl: Hi !
Kaotic: Hey who is this?
Girl: Courtney! (not her real name, i know she's playing with me)
Kaotic: Z or Y ? (2 last names of courtneys I know)
Next Day Kaotic: So are you going to tell me who this is or what ?
-I snapchat her and ask her if she text me- she says "idk why don't you ask courtney"
I text her:
Kaotic: hah you little brat !!
Her: -emoji girl with hands in the air-
Her:I'm all butthurt because you deleted my number and I kept yours!

I felt like I was chasing but now I got a good frame.

I want to hang and bang again.

How would you respond to this to guilt trip her, or make her feel bad and want to make things up ?

(06-13-2014 04:04 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Background: Tinder Girl, Banged a few times, told me she "didn't think it was a good idea to see me anymore" -I don't respond-

Months later (now): I see her viewing my snapchat stories - so I snap chat and call her out. She says "i'm not creeping" I say blah blah text me

She texts me, (I deleted her number, but I know it's her):

Girl: Hi !
Kaotic: Hey who is this?
Girl: Courtney! (not her real name, i know she's playing with me)
Kaotic: Z or Y ? (2 last names of courtneys I know)
Next Day Kaotic: So are you going to tell me who this is or what ?
-I snapchat her and ask her if she text me- she says "idk why don't you ask courtney"
I text her:
Kaotic: hah you little brat !!
Her: -emoji girl with hands in the air-
Her:I'm all butthurt because you deleted my number and I kept yours!

I felt like I was chasing but now I got a good frame.

I want to hang and bang again.

How would you respond to this to guilt trip her, or make her feel bad and want to make things up ?

"How very thoughtful of you.Let's grab a coffee this week"

No doubt I fucked this up.

Met a cute black/irish mix off of day game with a "you look nice today" direct opener yesterday.

I talked about how I didn't know the train system in Chicago and she explained how it works.

I was suited up for an interview .. she looked about 25 - 28. I'm 35.

Got her number.. about a half hour later.

Me:Hey xxx, it's Cobra, nice meeting you today
Her: Nice meeting you as well

Next morning.
Me: Let's meet for a drink or something next week.

..Dead silence. I didn't text anything else.. Help...

^too eager with your texting (girls are such cunts).

Should have waited at least a day to hit her up, but regardless - maybe text her again in a day or two: "you suck at this game" if she gives half a shit she'll text back something like "lol I know I'm so busy sorry" then follow up later "what's your sched like this week" if she gives you zero/indefinite options then forget about it.

(06-14-2014 12:08 AM)Cobra Wrote:  Me:Hey xxx, it's Cobra, nice meeting you today
Her: Nice meeting you as well

For future reference: 30 minutes is a huge red flag for girls. I've been with girls when this happens and as a group they file you in the creepy / stalker basket. She's going to think you're too desperate / needy and not busy with having a life. She needs time to revel in the drama by wondering about you, your life, if you'll remember her, getting frustrated that you haven't called, etc.

^^^ Appreciate the thoughts gents.

I've read that some guys send a "nice meeting you text" a little later; that's really why I did it.

Next time I'll wait a day. It's a learning experience for me.

I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

^^^From the right girl...

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

(06-15-2014 06:07 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

I used this, and she said, "I guess you can call me trouble!"

Good work little wing. Any idea for a response to this?

(06-15-2014 07:52 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 06:07 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

I used this, and she said, "I guess you can call me trouble!"

Good work little wing. Any idea for a response to this?

There are many ways to go from there, post some more info about the girl and your relation to her
But I would go with something like "we'll see how much trouble you are when we go to (insert bar here) on friday" or whatever you wanna go do with her

(06-15-2014 08:51 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 07:52 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 06:07 PM)little wing Wrote:  

(06-15-2014 04:57 PM)Renberg Wrote:  I often am caught in this situation and am in need of a panty-wetting response line:

Me: You look like trouble
Her: Do you like trouble?
Me: ?

Thanks.

No but trouble likes me

I used this, and she said, "I guess you can call me trouble!"

Good work little wing. Any idea for a response to this?

There are many ways to go from there, post some more info about the girl and your relation to her
But I would go with something like "we'll see how much trouble you are when we go to (insert bar here) on friday" or whatever you wanna go do with her

Appreciate the tip. She's a Tinder girl. I did YoungBlood's "Are you my type of girl?" and from there we hit if off and are in process of scheduling something. Thanks!

(06-14-2014 03:49 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  ^too eager with your texting (girls are such cunts).

Should have waited at least a day to hit her up, but regardless - maybe text her again in a day or two: "you suck at this game" if she gives half a shit she'll text back something like "lol I know I'm so busy sorry" then follow up later "what's your sched like this week" if she gives you zero/indefinite options then forget about it.

Thanks General Stalin. I used this.

You may be on to something here but I may have screwed it up. See below.

Me: You suck at this game
Her: What game?
Me: If you play your cards right..Maybe you'll win
Her: Hmmm I'll keep that in mind
Me: But there are a few things I need to know first
Her: Like?
Me: Hmmm..#1 what's your sched like this week
Her: I work 10-7 all week
Me: I'm in the city on Wednesday..Let's grab a drink around 7:30

No response.. not sure if I pushed it but who knows. I'm confused between the camp that says use text only for logistics and the other side which advocates humor and being witty. I think I got caught in the middle.

So, she gives a shit but maybe not enough. Do girls generally take a little hiatus to get back to you after giving a time and does that correlate with attraction levels?

Suggestions welcome and thanks again fellas.

(06-12-2014 09:31 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  Been slowly messaging an OKC girl (18) and things when cold a while back. I re-opened her the other day and she responded:

"Shoot maybe. I'm still trying to figure out if you're too old for me"

Just trying to think of something simple and not too try-hard. I would have said something along the lines of "same here" but that gives the impression I'm saying "Yeah I'm wondering if I'm too old for you too" as opposed to "yeah wondering if you're too old for me too"

text her " well last girl I went out with was 18 so I don't think so. you're mature aren't you?"

DHV with you've dated girls her age...then throw it back to her. If you use...lemme know how it goes.