(06-04-2014 10:03 AM)The Great Basilisk Wrote:  

(06-04-2014 09:57 AM)Sketness Wrote:  

(06-04-2014 08:58 AM)The Great Basilisk Wrote:  What the hell do you answer to text chick saying "we'll see" when date is already agreed and you are only discussing time and place?

Like this:

-Saturday then. Afternoon?
-We'll see/Maybe/Another vague answer

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/04/...irm-dates/

I'm not worried about flaking because we haven't set the time or place yet. How do i proceed from me telling her a time and place and her answering with a "maybe" or similar? I get this shit all the time and i'm not sure how to respond.

You- down to go to x place at around y time
Her- We'll see

On the day of the event

You- Wear something cute
Her- sorry im not comming or where are we meeting at

The problem could be also that your not making a strong enough connection with her when your meeting them initially. Try working on really making an connection when your approaching.

I dated/banged this girl for a month or so, she seemed to have high interest, then it dropped fairly suddenly. She was moving/changing jobs so I backed off.

I hit her up after a week of NC with a simple text suggesting we grab drinks. No response for a week. I figured it was a dead number at this point, and concentrated on other plates.

I get a response from her last night (a week later) saying

"I suck"
"I'm sorry I'm so self involved"

Not sure where to go with that, I don't really use text game ever. I basically just use texts to set up hang outs.

(06-05-2014 06:54 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  I dated/banged this girl for a month or so, she seemed to have high interest, then it dropped fairly suddenly. She was moving/changing jobs so I backed off.

I hit her up after a week of NC with a simple text suggesting we grab drinks. No response for a week. I figured it was a dead number at this point, and concentrated on other plates.

I get a response from her last night (a week later) saying

"I suck"
"I'm sorry I'm so self involved"

Not sure where to go with that, I don't really use text game ever. I basically just use texts to set up hang outs.

"I basically just use texts to set up hang outs."

I would do just that...set up a time and a place to meet.

"Hey depending on how I feel I can't come over tonight..."

basically a flake but before a flake

that's a new one

Havent responded yet

Is it a flake when they won't even agree to a date....but always text you back within 5 -20 minutes?

I got this solid 8s number and I know she's got beta orbiters. She always texts back ....but wouldn't agree to date or offer alternate.

She's basically "out aloofing" me on her texts. They're usually real short....though she'll ask a few questions about what I'm doing. When I go for the meetup.....it's a lame excuse.

I'm wondering the best way to reinitiate a text next week....I feel like I need to build comfort first over text before going for date but I hate asking "how's your day going".......I was thinking of "hey...save any lives today?" as she's an oncology nurse....but that wouldn't be good if someone died today...lol.

So....any ideas on dealing with aloof yet responsive chicks via text would be good if u guys have experience there. FWII there was some attraction on initial approach....but I guess that don't mean much these days.

(06-05-2014 10:50 AM)robreke Wrote:  Is it a flake when they won't even agree to a date....but always text you back within 5 -20 minutes?

I got this solid 8s number and I know she's got beta orbiters. She always texts back ....but wouldn't agree to date or offer alternate.

She's basically "out aloofing" me on her texts. They're usually real short....though she'll ask a few questions about what I'm doing. When I go for the meetup.....it's a lame excuse.

I'm wondering the best way to reinitiate a text next week....I feel like I need to build comfort first over text before going for date but I hate asking "how's your day going".......I was thinking of "hey...save any lives today?" as she's an oncology nurse....but that wouldn't be good if someone died today...lol.

So....any ideas on dealing with aloof yet responsive chicks via text would be good if u guys have experience there. FWII there was some attraction on initial approach....but I guess that don't mean much these days.

I read this here somewhere once but my rule of thumb is that if you try three times to make a date and she says she's busy, say something along the lines of "well i cant compete with ur busy schedule so let me know when ur free".

The prospect is already weak but at least this way you're removing yourself as one of her beta orbiters and putting the ball in her court. Then radio silence her.

(06-05-2014 06:54 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  I dated/banged this girl for a month or so....

I get a response from her last night (a week later) saying

"I suck"
"I'm sorry I'm so self involved"

"uh... Who is this?"

delete

I don't need to know what to text next but how to make the girl text me? Im texting this girl from class but I feel like I always have to start the conversation. When it's started she shows more interest though.

Hi guys, I'm interested if I should even text now, and if so, what should I say? I was scheduled to go to a party Friday night with a Tinder girl. Last night, we chatted a bit. Honestly, I fell asleep on her, and replied to her last message to me mid-day today (a mistake). She didn't respond, most likely because the conversation had spanned ten hours.

Should I message her tonight to confirm that we are going to a party tomorrow, or should I message her tomorrow? Of course, I'd like to know the plans, but I don't want to come off as needy, messaging her twice in a row. Thoughts?

Renberg

(06-05-2014 07:31 PM)Renberg Wrote:  Hi guys, I'm interested if I should even text now, and if so, what should I say? I was scheduled to go to a party Friday night with a Tinder girl. Last night, we chatted a bit. Honestly, I fell asleep on her, and replied to her last message to me mid-day today (a mistake). She didn't respond, most likely because the conversation had spanned ten hours.

Should I message her tonight to confirm that we are going to a party tomorrow, or should I message her tomorrow? Of course, I'd like to know the plans, but I don't want to come off as needy, messaging her twice in a row. Thoughts?

Renberg

The way you describe it you already planned to meet with her at the party, so in that case I'd go with this advice:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/04/1...irm-dates/

It doesn't sound like weak text game if you fell asleep. Why should you "lose sleep" so to speak by staying awake later than you want to to talk to some chick on the internet? Also, why are you meeting a chick you haven't banged at a party? Why not at the very least straight to a 1-on-1 drinks date?

(06-05-2014 06:54 AM)MtnMan Wrote:  I dated/banged this girl for a month or so, she seemed to have high interest, then it dropped fairly suddenly. She was moving/changing jobs so I backed off.

I hit her up after a week of NC with a simple text suggesting we grab drinks. No response for a week. I figured it was a dead number at this point, and concentrated on other plates.

I get a response from her last night (a week later) saying

"I suck"
"I'm sorry I'm so self involved"

Not sure where to go with that, I don't really use text game ever. I basically just use texts to set up hang outs.

"Yeah you do"

(06-06-2014 01:41 AM)RealityCheck Wrote:  

(06-05-2014 07:31 PM)Renberg Wrote:  Hi guys, I'm interested if I should even text now, and if so, what should I say? I was scheduled to go to a party Friday night with a Tinder girl. Last night, we chatted a bit. Honestly, I fell asleep on her, and replied to her last message to me mid-day today (a mistake). She didn't respond, most likely because the conversation had spanned ten hours.

Should I message her tonight to confirm that we are going to a party tomorrow, or should I message her tomorrow? Of course, I'd like to know the plans, but I don't want to come off as needy, messaging her twice in a row. Thoughts?

Renberg

The way you describe it you already planned to meet with her at the party, so in that case I'd go with this advice:

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/04/1...irm-dates/

It doesn't sound like weak text game if you fell asleep. Why should you "lose sleep" so to speak by staying awake later than you want to to talk to some chick on the internet? Also, why are you meeting a chick you haven't banged at a party? Why not at the very least straight to a 1-on-1 drinks date?

Thanks, Reality Check, it was a first-date from a Tinder girl. But she pulled one of those not-respond flakes...not worth my time.

I got a girl's number. Asked her out via text....she said no with lame excuse. I'm waiting a week to text back and try to go for a meetup again. So...in this situation when you text a week or so later...after some radio silence .....is it best to establish some repoire/comfort via text before straight up asking for the meetup? ( eg....hey how was your weekend? or just general comfort talk and banter back and forth a few times?) or just go straight for the meetup after your initial "hey" text...... eg...... send a first text that says "hey".....then she responds and say "I got an idea....you , me for drinks....."
Since it's not a great lead and she blew off my first attempt at a date.....I thought maybe build some text comfort first.

(06-05-2014 08:16 AM)Thesoloist Wrote:  "Hey depending on how I feel I can't come over tonight..."

basically a flake but before a flake

that's a new one

Havent responded yet

Too late now, but, "unless you're up for a three-way, good plan"

Alright guys so pretty much I picked this chick up at a mall, Iin a store she was working.

Long story short it turns out we go to the same university.

So I had texted her like 2 days after I met her and I asked ger out to hang out. It pretty much went something like this.

She had said she had moved down to LA from SF this past fall so I try to use that to my adavntage. She hasnt really seen LA I thought to myself.

I dont have the message but I told her I was going down to some LA landmarks to take some shots (my cheap nikkon camera) and asked to come with to make it seem as i usually do this and just asking if she wanted to join me.. She said it sounded like fun and showed interest by asking all these questions but she reminded me finals weeks were coming up so well see after finals. It does get busy around finals with projects and stuff.

So now its finals week and I texted her

Me: how are finals going
(4 minutes later)
Girl: Studying is going great... What about you?

Now I usually dont get stuck here but should I just straight out ask her out to go with me again with the photographer gimmick or show I start text convo and then bring it up later I just went blank after that message.

So thanks for the help!

(06-06-2014 10:15 PM)OMYG Wrote:  Alright guys so pretty much I picked this chick up at a mall, Iin a store she was working.

Long story short it turns out we go to the same university.

So I had texted her like 2 days after I met her and I asked ger out to hang out. It pretty much went something like this.

She had said she had moved down to LA from SF this past fall so I try to use that to my adavntage. She hasnt really seen LA I thought to myself.

I dont have the message but I told her I was going down to some LA landmarks to take some shots (my cheap nikkon camera) and asked to come with to make it seem as i usually do this and just asking if she wanted to join me.. She said it sounded like fun and showed interest by asking all these questions but she reminded me finals weeks were coming up so well see after finals. It does get busy around finals with projects and stuff.

So now its finals week and I texted her

Me: how are finals going
(4 minutes later)
Girl: Studying is going great... What about you?

Now I usually dont get stuck here but should I just straight out ask her out to go with me again with the photographer gimmick or show I start text convo and then bring it up later I just went blank after that message.

So thanks for the help!

I'm kind of confused why you messaged her mid finals week. What's your intention here?

@Renberg

I was thinking maybe set up a date this week. I know after finals I feel relieved and I have more spare time since school is over. And also just shot her a text to keep it fresh? Its been like 2 weeks ago since I got her number and I didnt want her to go cold, that was my intention.

I really want to bang this broad, but i'm afraid she is just too strong and independent for me. What should I say?

@bigboypants

Sweet Christ, If this were posted anywhere but here I'd think that was a troll

The former caricature of modern feminists is becoming a reality

I bet money she's 28+

18 Actually.

>smart, strong, independent
>fuck you you chauvinistic asshole
>just looking to have some fun with a fit guy

She wants to get gorilla reamed by some tall jacked up dark triad stallion.

Personal opinion here, but I think those rants are just shit tests.

Might need more context, like what was said before she started going all cunty

Some chicks go very overboard. I got a similar response when I told a girl she's looking to be tamed. I revert to calling women who make these arguments judgmental and hypocritical. "For someone who considers herself so "open-minded," you're very judgmental" -- something simple and non-angry that makes her seem like an asshole

Here's a new situation:

I'm in Montreal and just got a brand new Bell mobile plan. I've pipelined a dozen girls, 4-5 that were ON earlier but not responding to text. Normally I would just chalk it up to general flaking.

BUT.. Turns out though that one had actually messaged me back but I haven't received it. So there might have been some connectivity issues for those first 30 minutes when I sent out texts.

Now, how would you frame a re-text with the above in mind? Usually I would never send two messages in a row if one has been actively ignored.

(06-08-2014 07:00 AM)Vicious Wrote:  Here's a new situation:

I'm in Montreal and just got a brand new Bell mobile plan. I've pipelined a dozen girls, 4-5 that were ON earlier but not responding to text. Normally I would just chalk it up to general flaking.

BUT.. Turns out though that one had actually messaged me back but I haven't received it. So there might have been some connectivity issues for those first 30 minutes when I sent out texts.

Now, how would you frame a re-text with the above in mind? Usually I would never send two messages in a row if one has been actively ignored.

Same text, same syntax, same everything. If you send a second text that's EXACTLY like the first one it can easily be written off as technical issues