(01-28-2016 03:39 AM)DVY Wrote: I am getting so much shade thrown my way just because I don't want to go to skimp and the high-end is where I can potentially make any $. You have to spend $ to earn $.
To paraphrase Wall Street Playboys: "If you want to make any real $, you sell value to the rich or cheap to the masses." What about that goal is so hard to understand.
Is it envy or jealously? Disbelief that somebody can roll in and sledge-hammer a city when he is spending heavily? You do the same in any city and you'll make friends.
This comedy show has gone on long enough.
Wordwidetraveler was right on point and took the words right out of my post before I could post them, DVY – your self-awareness needs some serious work.
Some guys are harping on you pretty hard, but you've been all but begging for it for pages now - if we hadn't chatted already, I'd almost think someone hijacked your account. In any case, doubling down and doing more bragging in the face of this well-deserved criticism is not doing you any favors.
You honestly think you're getting grief because you're supposedly throwing money around and because you're supposedly killing it here? As if the men on this forum are somehow intimidated by these figures? The money you're spending is not impressive, and it's nowhere near enough to make anyone jealous.
Based on what you've posted, you're anything but "taking this city like a sledgehammer.” All I've seen is a lot of huffing and puffing, asserting you know more than guys who've spent up to as many as 10 years in this city or overall region (with no special insights to back that up), and spinning your wheels harder than guys who don’t even bother to post, let alone brag.
Then there’s this. You have repeatedly underestimated how many other guys are actually playing high end game in Southeast Asia. Nothing about this approach (other than the assertion that $200 is some big amount of money - on a vacation, no less) is especially unique. And others are doing it with a bit more success, based on what we've read so far. For the long-term rather than a 2-week whirlwind vacation. And not all of us white guys are cut off from cultural infiltration, believe it or not.
No one is hating on you for your "tastes." They're hating on you for your demeanor, for what obviously comes across as bragging about things that don't deserve bragging about (to those who didn't read it that way and are scratching it off as "haters", your reading comprehension could use some work), and obvious rookie blunders passed on as wisdom.
But here's the real bottom line.
If I meet a guy in a bar or a club and he starts going on about "how much" he spends, the distance between us cannot grow fast enough. Nobody cares about this stuff. It's like meeting that baller in the bar who wants to "casually" mention every important person he knows...
And I would feel this way no matter how much money he was talking about. Guy could be a billionaire and I'd want nothing to do with him.
But if it turned out the figures he was throwing around were
in the low hundreds…well, I'd find the whole thing a bit ridiculous on top of that. After all, I would think most of us have done that kind of spending before; I've certainly never thought it was worth mentioning.
Then, your mention of throwing away the JW Black and Smirnoff. Belongs in the same category as the money thing. It’s a silly thing to do, but get this, if that's your thing, fine – I really don't think anyone cares. You really can’t see why mention of it comes across as humble bragging?
The fact that you already almost got beat up is further suggestive of this social calibration issue.
Then the going on about these girls who all want you. You keep mentioning about all these broads you've got on Tinder and how easy it is for you here. Newsflash: that not only applies to you but every guy who steps off the plane. We are, after all, in the Philippines. Manila, no less. Your list of leads is no big surprise to anyone and it's silly for you to throw it around like some big deal.
As far as having something to teach us, you came into the thread and announced to us all that the data is outdated and that Valkyrie is the new place to go, for crying out loud – this is the second guy I've seen do that, and (similar to others, I’m sure) I knew about that club long before I even arrived in the Philippines (without going out of the way to read data sheets before I came), so it’s no big secret or anything.
DVY, I don't expect you to listen at this point - it's hard to not be defensive when you are so heavily criticized and put on the spot. But you just need to come back down to Earth a little. Your vibe seems out of character to me based on what I've observed about you in the past, so maybe it's just arriving in a new place has you all hopped up.
If you can check your ego enough to consider that it might be something about the style of your posting that's rubbing everyone wrong, I'd urge some time for real self-reflection. As others have stated, you had mere days on the ground when you wandered in here spouting off. Relay your experiences more like an equal and less like you're tied into some world the rest of us supposedly don’t have access to just because you're part Asian and have Asian connections.
That's great you're making money and having a fun time, but at the end of the day, you're a dentist on vacation, Man. You know where you come across as an expert? In your dental hygiene thread. Not in a thread about a city you just arrived in.
And maybe you have connections and a bit of cash to spend, but none of this is anything new to any long-term cat in Asia.
Go back and reread your posts as if you were another grown man who'd been living here for years. Try to keep an open mind and assume a perspective of someone on the outside looking in. It's a tall order to review yourself so honestly, but I don't know any other recommendation to make at this point.
We're all evolving here - I'd suggest this is a place you could stand to evolve yourself a bit more. I’ve yet to meet a circle where the type of behavior you’ve exhibited in this thread wins you anything more than ostracization.