(07-26-2015 12:17 PM)XPQ21 Wrote:  Girl was sending me texts yesterday and seemed pretty interested. I had plans this weekend, but I wanted to set something up for the middle of this week and so I tell her I'd like to talk with her that evening (I never meet up without hearing what a girl acts like on the phone first). I get the usual "oh well I'm not very good at talking on the phone I like texting" and so on, and says "well maybe but I don't know I might be going out tonight..." I let it drop and we talk about some other stuff for a while.

I get a text early in the morning hours "I'm at a party..." I don't reply.

I got a text this morning "Oh! Crap. I was supposed to talk with you yesterday, right?! I didn't even think..."

Response? I'm thinking about nexting. I don't much enjoy "Supplies are limited! I'm doing stuff without you! Act fast!" hard-sell tactics. I'm middle aged and maybe it's just me, but there's no way I'm meeting you without a phone call first, that's for sure. A single phone call has allowed me to dodge serious (crazy) bullets in the past.

I'd say don't waste your time if she doesn't want to talk on the phone. If this is a chick from online, try pick confirming and making a joke about her being some escaped convict or something. You could actually initiate it, sending one of your own.

As far as the text goes, she knew exactly what she was supposed to do. I'd definitely next her. She pretty much ignored your text before and text you later instead of getting that ass on the phone to make plans.

(07-26-2015 05:56 AM)ksbms Wrote:  I'd rather pose my question as "To text or not to text?", for I think not much can be done in this situation. Anyway, here's the background:

Street approached a Russian devushka, a student here, as blond as they come, decent looking though no stunner by any means and with a tight little butt. She had her headphones as approached her but turned out to be surprisingly chatty and called herself from my phone as well as punched in my name. Interestingly, she half-jokingly said she was lonely. Extremely repsonsive over texts, got her to hang-out at the bar the day after. At a bar she sat at the table across from me, told her to sit next to me, complied, I bought a round, then she bought around, stayed until bar close but she said she worked early tomorrow and was such a chatterbox (but wouldn't ask me anything - I know, strange) that I got tired of it! Thus thought I'd tell her to come over to my place on Friday to hang out. Learnt she did pole dancing for fun and dad was an ex-military.

The texting part:

Suggested to meet this Friday (but without being specific what and where - perhaps should have) to which she replied on Thursday afternoon "I'm not sure about Friday evening yet, as I have some plans wit my colleagues. But we'll see".

Radio silence since then, didn't get back in touch with her. My take is, for whatever reason, her interest evaporated or she likes to be chased hard. And which woman doesn't, really?

I'd say text her. From what it sounds like, you can get the bang. Some of the things she does is shady (like the pole dancing for "fun" and she doesn't ask about you), so naturally I wouldn't get caught up in feelings for this broad. but text her and go for the bang. Those extrovert chatterbox types, in my experience, are more than willing to eat even a semi-red pill guy's dick.

If nothing has changed for you since this morning, I'd say text her for sure. You've waited long enough to not seem too thirsty. Just frame your message as a feeler (make it seem like you're involved in some fun shit and you're just texting her because you suddenly, impulsively felt like) and draw her in a bit. I probably wouldn't ask if she's free whenever, because you'll feel it out as the conversation goes on and would have a better chance drawing her in if you didn't seem concerned about it. Friday is far away after all. Feeling it out, and not explicitly asking about the meet up, could satisfy her need to be chased without making you fail any possible shit test she's pulling.

Has she broken the silence yet?

Yeah, if you get radio silence just forget about her for a few days and if you still think she's worth the trouble just text her again. Just avoid boring topics like work or school. Ask her if she likes ice cream. No girl can resist ice cream in the summer.

Texted devushka yesterday with a simple text what she was up to. No reply. Deleted her number.

(07-26-2015 06:15 PM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  

(07-26-2015 12:17 PM)XPQ21 Wrote:  Girl was sending me texts yesterday and seemed pretty interested. I had plans this weekend, but I wanted to set something up for the middle of this week and so I tell her I'd like to talk with her that evening (I never meet up without hearing what a girl acts like on the phone first). I get the usual "oh well I'm not very good at talking on the phone I like texting" and so on, and says "well maybe but I don't know I might be going out tonight..." I let it drop and we talk about some other stuff for a while.

I get a text early in the morning hours "I'm at a party..." I don't reply.

I got a text this morning "Oh! Crap. I was supposed to talk with you yesterday, right?! I didn't even think..."

Response? I'm thinking about nexting. I don't much enjoy "Supplies are limited! I'm doing stuff without you! Act fast!" hard-sell tactics. I'm middle aged and maybe it's just me, but there's no way I'm meeting you without a phone call first, that's for sure. A single phone call has allowed me to dodge serious (crazy) bullets in the past.

I'd say don't waste your time if she doesn't want to talk on the phone. If this is a chick from online, try pick confirming and making a joke about her being some escaped convict or something. You could actually initiate it, sending one of your own.

As far as the text goes, she knew exactly what she was supposed to do. I'd definitely next her. She pretty much ignored your text before and text you later instead of getting that ass on the phone to make plans.

She actually called me last evening and is going to meet. She seems quite friendly without a lot of attitude but does sound like, well, kind of a ditz/stoner. She's a 6.5 and I only have one other prospect at the moment, so at least for the time being I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she was just really high that day.

(07-17-2015 05:12 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(07-17-2015 03:15 PM)robreke Wrote:  Date with a 19 year old who lives in a town an hour away from me tonight. She moved it to 10 from 8 because she has a dinner. when I asked her if she knew where the hotel lobby we were meeting at was she said:

"Yes but I don't have a ride home"
Me: " shouldn't be a problem. a friend dropping you off?"
Her: yes, but i was just informed she will wait for me but that doesn't imply a rush for you and I. i told her about an hour and a half"

I was thinking of replying something like: " oh I see. it's not necessary for her to wait, I'll see that you get home"

implied - ( in the morning of course after banging as I don't want to drive an hour tonight!)

Ideas for how to respond to the fact that her friend's going to wait for her. If that happens, it seems like a wasted date...

Update- I know no one's answered yet but I wanted to update in case someone wants to add their 2 cts.

I texted her: Sounds like you've got a good friend but she doesn't need to wait. I'll see that u get home. Besides we may bounce somewhere and that would be inconvenient.

She texted back: Ok but how will I get home then.

I don't mind taking her home in the morning if she spends the night with me, but the last thing I want is to drive an hour or more after our date tonight if she insists I take her home tonight ( could be post bang or no bang depending if she'll come back to my room with me). I'd like to suggest that I'll take her home in the morning in my text before we meet so there's no confusion, but I don't want to spook her off if she's not even thinking that. I think she's thinking along the lines of her going home tonight ....but I'm not sure

Hey just out of curiosity...How'd this turn out?

(07-25-2015 11:41 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  Part I

The next day I txt her . . .

She responds within 2 minutes.

me: hey Dr. its Mess. how are you
her: Oh, how formal. Actually, Im catching up with a friend whos a psych major
me: Do you want to meet later this week
her: Actually, I'm gonna be pretty busy all this week tbh
me: let me know
her: Alright for sure

What next, dudes?

Part II

The following week . . .

me: can u sneak away for an hour on thurs night
her: Who is this? <=== The 2nd most frequent response I get from txts
me: Mess
her: I don't feel comfortable hanging out at night with someone I hardly know (no offense), besides I'm going to be at my boyfriends on Wednesday and Thursday.
me: maybe another day
her: that would be fine
me: I'll let u know once I find out my sched
her: Alrighty

Stop me if I'm wrong, men, but if this dude she's with has been keeping his game polished, wouldn't I have barely gotten past my opener, let alone a marathon conversation that resulted in a number, followed by rapid-response txts?

Im stuck with this online chick. Any help will be appreciated.

(the chat is originally in german)

So far we have exchanged a few messages. She asked me what I was looking for. I told her for the love of my life. (jokingly ofc) it seems like she is shit testing to separate the betas and creeps. I'm pretty sure there are a lot of needy guys using this app in my small town. (she is 18)

This is where I'm at now.

Her: no, so far I haven't met a young man that I'd consider meeting.
Me: how comes? Are you that picky.
Her: it just has to fit. I don't want to build a relationship on here anyway.

(07-28-2015 09:20 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  me: can u sneak away for an hour on thurs night
her: Who is this? <=== The 2nd most frequent response I get from txts
me: Mess
her: I don't feel comfortable hanging out at night with someone I hardly know (no offense), besides I'm going to be at my boyfriends on Wednesday and Thursday.
me: maybe another day
her: that would be fine
me: I'll let u know once I find out my sched
her: Alrighty

You're chasing her hard - not a bad thing per se, as long as the girl wants to get caught... But this broad doesn't.

I'd put her on a backburner at best and expect nothing. She mentions boyfriend again - an interested girl who wants your dick, wouldn't mention him for fear she could discourage a potential suitor. Her 'once I find out my sched' - what is this broad, a CEO? From what you wrote, she's not even at college and it's summer. She's just stringing you along. Even if you get a date, high chance you'll waste your time as an entertainer and her self-esteem booster.

Perhaps worth trying to disqualify her, something along the lines: 'you know what, I actually think you're too young a kid for me'.

(07-29-2015 06:19 AM)ksbms Wrote:  

(07-28-2015 09:20 PM)Mess O. Wrote:  me: can u sneak away for an hour on thurs night
her: Who is this? <=== The 2nd most frequent response I get from txts
me: Mess
her: I don't feel comfortable hanging out at night with someone I hardly know (no offense), besides I'm going to be at my boyfriends on Wednesday and Thursday.
me: maybe another day
her: that would be fine
me: I'll let u know once I find out my sched
her: Alrighty

You're chasing her hard - not a bad thing per se, as long as the girl wants to get caught... But this broad doesn't.

I'd put her on a backburner at best and expect nothing. She mentions boyfriend again - an interested girl who wants your dick, wouldn't mention him for fear she could discourage a potential suitor. Her 'once I find out my sched' - what is this broad, a CEO? From what you wrote, she's not even at college and it's summer. She's just stringing you along. Even if you get a date, high chance you'll waste your time as an entertainer and her self-esteem booster.

Perhaps worth trying to disqualify her, something along the lines: 'you know what, I actually think you're too young a kid for me'.

^^ this and four letters. Next.

Ok didn't know if I should put this in the Tinder thread, here or somewhere in the newbie section so feel free to move/ignore if not the right place.

Got this match at Tinder and we were talking about but very trivial. Asked for her number and then she went ghost on me. Now after a week or so since our last contact she suddenly contacted me again. I will try to translate at my best effort.

2 days ago

She: Hey
Me 4 hours later: Hey
She 1 hour later: Hey

So I was like, what the fuck? And replied about 2 hous later with: Ok, good talk.

The next day

She: Yeah bummer
She 1 hour later: You really look like a cool guy.
She 30 minutes later: A while ago you asked me for my number, do you still want it?
Me about 5 hours later: Depends if we're meeting up sometime.
She 40 minutes later: I don't know, do you want too?
Me 7 hours later: What's the point of exchanging digits if we don't?
She 30 minutes later: I'm up for it if you are.
Me 3 hours later (it was 1.40am): -my digits-
She 15 minutes later: -her digits-

So it's been about 20 hours since and I didn't recieve a text nor did I sent any. Didn't even add her number in my phone so at whatsapp she still won't be able to see my profile pic. I've set my settings this way so I can send a message to a girl without really sending a message .

Now I'm kind of in the dark of what my next move should be. Obviously I want to keep up my slightly indifferent attitude by not persuing her. She is kinda hot though but this feels strange. Like a trap. Like she met/knows someone we have in common or some girl I banged. So, any advice?

Uhhhhh. Dude, she wants to meet you but you haven't stipulated where/when. Shorten all of that lingo up and say "let's meet at xyz for drinks on Thurs." You are waaaay overthinking this. She DOES want to meet but you need to get some logistics on here. Not sure what makes you think about traps and knowing friends, etc but who gives a damn. Go for it. Always remember, rejection is better than regret.

(07-29-2015 02:28 PM)STriple-R Wrote:  Now I'm kind of in the dark of what my next move should be. Obviously I want to keep up my slightly indifferent attitude by not persuing her. She is kinda hot though but this feels strange. Like a trap. Like she met/knows someone we have in common or some girl I banged. So, any advice?

Paralysis by analysis? The longer you wait, the more probable it will be a game over for you. Ask her out as soon as possible before other Tinder guy will snatch her snatch.

Honestly haven't been texting a lot as of late. I still have a few live numbers in my phone. I've moved one of my main leads to NC zone and currently texting an Asian 7. Earlier in the week it went something like:

Me:"what is the week looking like for u"(Tuesday)1:59am <not sure why I sent it that late, ha>

her: :New hire got fired, so i'm working all week this week" (Wednesday)2:25 PM

Me: "what day are you free"(Thursday) 2:55pm <did a bit of research and found this worked for a few guys so I tried it>

her: "Idk yet mister" (Thursday) 5:06pm

I'm honestly not that big into texting, I'm thinking about having her call me to set something up. I actually spoke to the last girl I met over the phone before we actually met in person. I want to take this girl's word for it, but I've seen the same signs before. I've hung out with a girl after her shift ended. I've been running a blank on how to respond to a lot of these women as my mind has been on other things.

I am interested in the take any of you may have, and how you would push the interaction forward.

update:

her: (after I didn't respond) "if anything maybe the weekend". 10:06pm <whattextnext></whattextnext>

All of my bangs lately have been via text focused on the logistics - I even had a 23 y.o. from Portland Maine come down via 2 bus trips connecting in Boston and mixed her 2 cosmos at my place at midnight and was banging after she took a shower to freshen up by 1am - nice tight vagina - surprised me that I came in her while she was on top and then she got into a long BJ after - litlle kinkny snow white liked the after bang taste - by then I was exhausted and pulled her up to sleep with me... whereas the few chix I actually talked to on the burner cell phone app (Hushed) flaked - gives them too much to think about... keep your texts tight and focused on the logistics and assume the bang when she follows your text instructions.

If she is an all nighter girl giving you what you want just ignore the other banglers in slot rotation - they get pissed but most can be rekindled on another night as they want to meet this alpha prick who stood them up - a texted excuse that guys from work stopped by and you lost track of time pub crawling - text excuses are so much more believable to the little banglers for some reason...

So my new text rules are keep to to the logistics - tight without a lot of chatty banter.

Take the bus to meet me or met me at XYZ Hotel Bar at 7pm 9pm 11pm at xyz night.

I keep 2 hour intervals while stacking/slotting their times to cover for the no show flakes - lots of young banglers like to do the 50 Shades of Fantasy and then get cold feet at the last minute and flake so when stacking and slotting never give your name or hotel room number - meet at the bar and if under 21 just lead them to your room where you have something on ice - a bottle of vodka to make screw drivers as most hotel vending have OJ or Cranberry juice (Seabreezes) I pour them about two to 3 ounces of firewater per drink. If I bring triple sec it 1 oz Triple Sec and 2 ozs vodka - cheap mixing vodka like Skyy works fine - don't waste Grey Goose or champagne on new bangs - I only bring out the good stuff on repeat banglers.

Oh every time I agree to meet for lunch I usually eat and pick up a tab and thats it so now it is slotting for after the dinner hour - drinks - in my room and isolate, intoxicate and initiate.

One thing I used to not worry about but now focus on like a laser is logistics, logistics, logistics and the bangs just happen with the majority of women who join you in your hotel room... my initiate move is to hand them a hotel robe and tell them to freshen up - when they come out I am in my robe with the remote and something sexy - music videos or sexy movie as background ambiance and initiate for the bang.

FYI - Now if she is an all nighter bangler that you want to have breakfast with - these I just text my hotel room # to for the night 7PM to 9PM bang and then next morning bangs.

Chatted to this American chick from Tinder who is here for the summer. Set up a date for Thursday. She sent me boob pics and was chatting me up all the time. Then she sends me a message right when we were supposed to meet saying she changed her mind. Now she came up with a bs story of why she bailed. I'm attaching the conversation. How should I handle this?

Next that chick, sounds like she will do nothing but waste your time. Her ex was shagging other chicks and she goes back to him and would feel guilty about meeting you, lol. Bitches be crazy.

(08-01-2015 08:28 PM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  Next that chick, sounds like she will do nothing but waste your time. Her ex was shagging other chicks and she goes back to him and would feel guilty about meeting you, lol. Bitches be crazy.

Great advice. She messaged me and said `We don't have to go on a date. Just come hang out and have drinks with me and my friends.' Wtf? I blocked/deleted her.

Girl I brought out last Thursday. We met for drinks and I brought her back to my apartment. We made drinks in the apartment then went to the 8th floor pool to relax overlooking the city. Only spent a few minutes in and out of my apt. because she said something to the effect on the date " okay, we can go to the pool, but I won't go in your apartment"

So today was the first day I text her since the date:

M: btw...I had a good time last Thursday.
Her: Yes, it was nice to see you You caught me off guard by taking me back to your place without asking though."

I didn't even go for the bang...as I decided to do long game on her and I could tell she was a little off guard when I first took her. However, once I got her to the pool and were drinking she was enjoying herself. I also got a good kiss goodnight.

Wondering how to respond to this....

(08-03-2015 09:09 PM)robreke Wrote:  Girl I brought out last Thursday. We met for drinks and I brought her back to my apartment. We made drinks in the apartment then went to the 8th floor pool to relax overlooking the city. Only spent a few minutes in and out of my apt. because she said something to the effect on the date " okay, we can go to the pool, but I won't go in your apartment"

So today was the first day I text her since the date:

M: btw...I had a good time last Thursday.
Her: Yes, it was nice to see you You caught me off guard by taking me back to your place without asking though."

I didn't even go for the bang...as I decided to do long game on her and I could tell she was a little off guard when I first took her. However, once I got her to the pool and were drinking she was enjoying herself. I also got a good kiss goodnight.

Wondering how to respond to this....

One of many possible options:

"I don't ask permission to live my life. The pool was very nice, and so were your lips. Speaking of which if you're free X day I've got a bottle of wine and a recipe in mind, if you can behave..."

^ swear you have some of the best text game advice haha. Sounds like a pretty solid response to me.

(07-14-2015 07:21 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(07-14-2015 06:28 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  went on one date with this girl. We had good chemistry and we ended up messing around and she gave me a bj. After the date the next few days she kept sending me sexual texts and wanted to meet. She gets her period and apolgizes and every since then she's been flakey and hard to reach. I keep getting into these situations where I lose steam after the first date. I set up something with her today and she flakes again so I get pissed and send her this

http://imgur.com/FCarv9N

where to go from here?

Should've gone with "I don't care about your period, come over we'll chill and you'll have a good time" the first time. You let her keep setting the frame.

She had her period, it's not like her mouth didn't work or you guys couldn't have some fun. Later is just more of her setting the frame. You think you put your foot down with the text you sent but you just failed her test.

I'd go radio silence on her and re-initiate contact in a couple weeks, act like the conversation didn't happen.

Updates on this girl: went radio silent. Was swiping on tinder and low behold I see her(I had met her on pof, bishes on every site now).

Anyway saw Her tinder profile and thought it was be a great way to restart things. I screen shotted her profile with a pic of her turned around against the wall and sent her

me: "lol nice booty"

her: 20 min later: ahah there's me....but I mean??? I thought we weren't speaking.

But about 2 days I haven't said anything, what to say from here?

Any text interaction, unless one is playing the long game, is about either spiking the buying temperature or figuring out the logistics. Get the girl offline in the next three messages

Virtus i have her number, i sent her this text via her phone not through tinder. We had previously gone on on date, she was flaky so I got angry and told her to fuck off in nicer words.

Stop messaging her. You should just delete her number already because she doesn't want to hang out with you.

You have to learn to have an Abundance Mentality and Always Be Replacing Not Chasing.

Once you got angry because of her flaking you should have just nexted her and not give her another single thought.

If she really wanted to see you again she would have contacted you saying.

Don't put her on a pedestal by wasting your time thinking about what to say to her now.

There are tons of cute girls out there who will show you more respect and will value the time you set aside to meet them in person.