With online dating, you need something that really separates you from that competition. It could be your pictures or what your profile says.

I've said it plenty of times, treat your profile like a joke and write a bullshit story. You will get messages on a regular basis saying that your profile is outrageous or hysterical.

If anyone needs any help or a critique, feel free to send me a PM.

I am going out with a girl from OKC tomorrow but chick never told me her name, what would yall do? not even worry about it, ask her, other?

Don't overthink it. "I never got your name". Honestly, I think if she hasn't told you her name, there is 80% chance she will flake.

@Rem I'm a pretty big writer, that profile has been through a hell of a lot of changes, but I'll shoot you a pm.

I could use some advice, someone PM me, I am meeting a girl tomorrow night and usually when they are this anxious to meet, they are SIF. I talked to her on facetime and thought she was cute.

If I could get some expert opinions on guys who are good at spotting SIFs, I'd your advice, just PM me.

^ This should be a real job available on elance, a SIFter.

Blah, she left her body type blank, I am almost sure it is a SIF now. Want to take a look phoenix?

So what's the deal with these chicks who, when you message them, they shoot you a single message back where they seem interested, and when you follow up with a second message to try to continue the conversation, even maybe just an hour after their response, you never hear from them again? This seems to be happening to me constantly lately and is really annoying. What the fuck is the purpose of this game? To get validated by seeing that you're a real person and not some spammer? Am I just an option that they're pinging back to get on the hook in case something else doesn't pan out? To just cause general annoyance?

One girl got mad that I needed body pics before proceeding, but she had one too many up close face shots

Red flags, alarms, bell & whistles all of that shit goes off

Fortunately she supplied an adequate body pic per my request

Fellas never feel weird about slamming on the breaks until you get the full story visually, they are judging you from the gate - Is he tall enough? What's his profession? Will my family be accept him? Ad Nauseam

If you really feel like you're the prize you gotta have standards

(09-21-2015 03:26 AM)eradicator Wrote:  I could use some advice, someone PM me, I am meeting a girl tomorrow night and usually when they are this anxious to meet, they are SIF. I talked to her on facetime and thought she was cute.

If I could get some expert opinions on guys who are good at spotting SIFs, I'd your advice, just PM me.

my SIFdar is 100 percent accurate feel free to PM me if you still need a second opinion.

Does anyone have experience gaming younger (mid 20s to early 30s) women on OK Cupid? My profile is excellent and I get something around a 50% response rate in the 32-42 age range, When I open younger women my results are not nearly as good. I look young but am in my early 40s. While I'm not opposed to using a different age in my profile, I am at heart a very honest guy and would feel obliged to tell the truth before a serious hookup.

I've heard of guys posting their age as one thing but mentioning in their profiles that the posted age is incorrect. How would that work in practice? Would it raise too many red flags? I've also heard of people setting their age at 100. Has anyone tried that with any kind of success? I would just experiment but I live in a fairly small city so prospects are somewhat limited.

(09-22-2015 12:13 AM)Robert Plant Wrote:  Does anyone have experience gaming younger (mid 20s to early 30s) women on OK Cupid? My profile is excellent and I get something around a 50% response rate in the 32-42 age range, When I open younger women my results are not nearly as good. I look young but am in my early 40s. While I'm not opposed to using a different age in my profile, I am at heart a very honest guy and would feel obliged to tell the truth before a serious hookup.

I've heard of guys posting their age as one thing but mentioning in their profiles that the posted age is incorrect. How would that work in practice? Would it raise too many red flags? I've also heard of people setting their age at 100. Has anyone tried that with any kind of success? I would just experiment but I live in a fairly small city so prospects are somewhat limited.

Just lie about your age on your online profile.

(09-21-2015 07:40 PM)Mabina Wrote:  

(09-21-2015 03:26 AM)eradicator Wrote:  I could use some advice, someone PM me, I am meeting a girl tomorrow night and usually when they are this anxious to meet, they are SIF. I talked to her on facetime and thought she was cute.

If I could get some expert opinions on guys who are good at spotting SIFs, I'd your advice, just PM me.

my SIFdar is 100 percent accurate feel free to PM me if you still need a second opinion.

Oh i already cancelled, she was definitely a fattie. I just couldn't tell from the pictures on my phone.

OKC date with a cute blonde girl. She told me she wanted to meet up later tonight so she has an excuse to drink. Not opposed to that.

Took her out for an appetizer then bounced her to a bar. Got her back to my place and got the bang. I'm exhausted and a little hungover. She had an awesome body with perky tits. She was an absolute freak in the sack. Great night.

just started using OKC here in NYC, getting responses. nothing great, but just started last night. decent looking women with decent attitudes too. pleasantly surprised.

used some dumb line about being new, around the way... whatever dropped that for "you're cute! yay! " and getting more responses...

I don't get it, but whatever man, hopping back on these Americanas.

3 numbers pulled - 26 yo white chick, 22 yo FOB filipina, 19 yo dominicana.. Meeting the white chick and dominicana for coffee. Waiting on the filipina to respond. None have kids. This seems too easy.

Had a date on this last night with a 38 year old woman. Managed to pull her back to my place despite her initially saying she's not going back to mine, kissed her, touching her pussy and tits but didn't get the bang. As you would exactly expect of no logic whatsoever she seems cold to meeting up again and is straight back on the website. The excitement for her is gone.

Getting a woman back to your place and not banging her is one of the worst things you can do. It results in 90% flakes, trust me I've been there. I think one thing that helps is having the dates a little earlier in the night, maybe just when it starts to go dark, say around 8 or 7:30 especially in the winter. So that when it comes to the end of the night she's not in any pressure to rush off home. Especially when you have slow burner game like mine. It's actually one of the things Todd Valentine mentions in his Daygame product, he has many of his dates early to avoid that outcome.

The logistics for a woman are just as important as the logistics for a man. If the woman has crappy logistics, the odds are a lot more in your favor of bringing her back to your place for the bang. My most recent OKC girl was going to stay at a friends house about a half hour away. My place was closer and we drank a considerable amount so it made the most sense for her to come back with me since she wasn't familiar with the area.

I somehow managed to completely stand up my date for tonight. Sometimes everything fucking goes against you and that's what happened. She looks really hot too.

Last minute I had to meet with a work colleague and I couldn't fucking get rid of him. Eventually got home late getting there as quickly as I can barely ate anything, told her I'll be 10 minutes later. Was on my way there to the train and my fucking iPhone died (the battery just went straight from 10% to dead). Took train anyway for 10 minutes. Looked for her and there was no one there as got there a bit later. Went home and recharged the piece of shit phone and she sent me about 8 messages about what a cunt I am. I apologised and said I'll make it up to her. She said fine if it involves food.

Sounds like I may need to flake on her again.

(09-29-2015 04:48 PM)Vincent Chase Wrote:  I somehow managed to completely stand up my date for tonight. Sometimes everything fucking goes against you and that's what happened. She looks really hot too.

Last minute I had to meet with a work colleague and I couldn't fucking get rid of him. Eventually got home late getting there as quickly as I can barely ate anything, told her I'll be 10 minutes later. Was on my way there to the train and my fucking iPhone died (the battery just went straight from 10% to dead). Took train anyway for 10 minutes. Looked for her and there was no one there as got there a bit later. Went home and recharged the piece of shit phone and she sent me about 8 messages about what a cunt I am. I apologised and said I'll make it up to her. She said fine if it involves food.

Sounds like I may need to flake on her again.

Cook her dinner at your apartment. Get a phone with a better battery. I have the 6 plus and it stays charged for a couple of days.

Edit. Not really sure how to handle this, I have a 29 year old that I matched with through the quickmatch, very pretty, maybe a 7.5 or 8, it turns out she lost her hearing 5 years ago in a car accident. I asked if we met up for drinks, would we be able to communicate at all because I don't speak sign language, she doesn't respond. A week goes by, I text her "hey" and she responds. I try to set something up for drinks and she doesn't respond. I almost think I have to do something different here, if she really is not comfortable in a normal social setting because of her being deaf.

She is native american, and I am always on the watch to get my native american notch because most native americans are fatties. This girl has a nice tight body, would totally bang, but looks like running game on her, or even getting her out at all will be like pulling teeth.

I don't think she can drive(she's deaf), otherwise I would just invite her straight over for a zero date bang scenario, I can try to invite myself over to her place, but that seems like a stretch. Any suggestions?

From the first interaction, you could have said something about bringing a pen and a notepad and say (write, type) something humorous to make her feel comfortable about seeing you in person. You could try the second interaction along those lines. Make it fun and play hang man and have her guess what drink you like or maybe try sexualizing it.

How long does it take to actually make a date with these chicks on OKC? First text messaging stops from the white and dominicana. Meeting up seems like such a task for them, bout to give up on those two, or should I? Got accustomed to same day or next day meetups overseas.

Than the pinay suddenly pops up, and officially wants to have coffee in Queens. This shit is getting annoying.

I live in the Bronx.

(09-29-2015 07:37 PM)Ridiculous Wrote:  How long does it take to actually make a date with these chicks on OKC?

This will vary from girl to girl.

Quote: First text messaging stops from the white and dominicana. Meeting up seems like such a task for them, bout to give up on those two, or should I? Got accustomed to same day or next day meetups overseas.

That will happen sometimes but is the exception more than the rule. Get them on the phone instead of texting and try to sort their schedule out, and they will sometimes be down to meet up right away.

Quote:Than the pinay suddenly pops up, and officially wants to have coffee in Queens. This shit is getting annoying.

I live in the Bronx.

Use the subway? I'd push for drinks but your call. If you are able to transition coffee to drinks then bang at her place in Queens, then do it, but that is not that favorable logistically.

I usually ask a girl for her number within 4 messages from me, sometimes 3. And I never ask for her name first. I used to think that this request was harmless, but I now recognize it for what it is. For some reason, any girl who asks for my name or says something like 'you didn't ask for my name yet' will not meet up with you. She's probably not going to give out her number either.

A lot of online dating can be simplified into two categories.

1: She's jumping through your hoops without complaint

2: She's dragging her feet

Girls from category 2 will always flake. This is the only absolute in the online game.

Your online game should heavily emphasize separating the potential buyers of category 1 from the tire-kickers of category 2. But merely identifying solid prospects won't guarantee results. Girls from category 1 will sometimes flake too. But you'll save yourself a lot of needless hassle by focusing your efforts on the first category.