Picked up the number from a russian girl, new town, super hot 8 in my book. It was a brief interaction, but I felt some sparkle.
She quickly agreed on a date, despite my non-existing texting skills. Text interaction was stretched over multiple days, but that was on both parties. Multiple smillies from her side, laughing at jokes and making jokes herself. Feeling like a super-confident player I didn't send any texts getting another confirmation from her.

15min. after the agreed meeting time, I sent her a message "I'm here". No response, last online hours ago.
2,5 hours later she sent me something like "oh, I'm so sorry, I forgot. Hope your not too mad at me, I have some much work at the moment (she is self employed). Write me, when you are interested in meeting another time, I would be happy about it."

I only see three options to keep my pride & frame somewhat intact:
1) Next her, no response.
2) Send her a "I'm nexting you"-type-response. In case she's apologetic, I give her a weak "ok maybe another time"-response.
3) Lay low for at least a month and if I don't have anything else going text her a date invite (no chit chat upfront).

Any comments from you guys or any alternative recommendations?

(08-24-2016 12:20 PM)BrunoCasanova Wrote:  

So I asked her out in a funny way on text but then she responded like that above.
Was thinking about making a cuckold-joke or just write "no one cares", "yawn" or tell her to hit me back when the relationship ends and that I expect to be quite soon (which I guess it also probably will just by the way she said it when I met her).

"I'm not asking you to marry me, just asking you out for a drink/ coffee" / "That's good, I don't want to take him from you. Just asking you out for a drink/ coffee" - something like that.

(09-04-2016 02:57 PM)Macomber Wrote:  Picked up the number from a russian girl, new town, super hot 8 in my book. It was a brief interaction, but I felt some sparkle.
She quickly agreed on a date, despite my non-existing texting skills. Text interaction was stretched over multiple days, but that was on both parties. Multiple smillies from her side, laughing at jokes and making jokes herself. Feeling like a super-confident player I didn't send any texts getting another confirmation from her.

15min. after the agreed meeting time, I sent her a message "I'm here". No response, last online hours ago.
2,5 hours later she sent me something like "oh, I'm so sorry, I forgot. Hope your not too mad at me, I have some much work at the moment (she is self employed). Write me, when you are interested in meeting another time, I would be happy about it."

I only see three options to keep my pride & frame somewhat intact:
1) Next her, no response.
2) Send her a "I'm nexting you"-type-response. In case she's apologetic, I give her a weak "ok maybe another time"-response.
3) Lay low for at least a month and if I don't have anything else going text her a date invite (no chit chat upfront).

Any comments from you guys or any alternative recommendations?

You only have option 1. She clear has no respect for you and no intention of meeting you. I'd just delete her number and find more girls.
Option 2 says you are butthurt. And it will justify her decision to treat you like dirt.
Option 3 is a waste of time. Is she suddenly going to respect you in a month? Just focus on finding more girls.

Good luck.

(09-04-2016 02:57 PM)Macomber Wrote:  Picked up the number from a russian girl, new town, super hot 8 in my book. It was a brief interaction, but I felt some sparkle.
She quickly agreed on a date, despite my non-existing texting skills. Text interaction was stretched over multiple days, but that was on both parties. Multiple smillies from her side, laughing at jokes and making jokes herself. Feeling like a super-confident player I didn't send any texts getting another confirmation from her.

15min. after the agreed meeting time, I sent her a message "I'm here". No response, last online hours ago.
2,5 hours later she sent me something like "oh, I'm so sorry, I forgot. Hope your not too mad at me, I have some much work at the moment (she is self employed). Write me, when you are interested in meeting another time, I would be happy about it."

I only see three options to keep my pride & frame somewhat intact:
1) Next her, no response.
2) Send her a "I'm nexting you"-type-response. In case she's apologetic, I give her a weak "ok maybe another time"-response.
3) Lay low for at least a month and if I don't have anything else going text her a date invite (no chit chat upfront).

Any comments from you guys or any alternative recommendations?

Shes Russian.
Plough through.

Put your conventional view of your pride aside.

See thread about russian vs western game. Helped me a lot.


One time i was texting an east ukrainian girl and asked her "what are you doing tonight" on whatsapp. She read and never replied. Went No contact.
After like 3 weeks i "got weak" and reopened her.
She tells me "you didnt text me again so i saw you werent interested". Basically putting it on me for not double texting her.
I thought that was a bullshit answer but when she did finally come, and slept over, i kinda figured she was telling the truth. At the time thought she was a weirdo but turns out thats a pretty common attitude.

(08-31-2016 08:02 AM)studmuffin52 Wrote:  Matched with a cute asian on Tinder. She's 22, seems a bit shy. Studies Engineering. Anyway, we text back and forth and she seems interested. She replies to me texts really quickly. I am not sure how to go about texting the girl, I know she's not free this week and weekend to meet due to exams, but I am trying to stay on her radar. She makes sexual jokes sometimes, even though I haven't sexually escalated. For instance, her first message after I messaged first on Tinder was, "I want to squeeze your boobies" (referring to my topless photo).

Today I message her and go "besides solving world hunger and finding the cure for cancer... what's on for the weekend?". Her reply was: "Hmmm not much hooking up this weekend. Jokes"

Normally in person I feel safe just to sexually escalate, but seeing as this is over text, I don't want to be too sexual to scare her off. Anyone able to interpret whats going on here and how I should progress?

Ask her out. Why are you worrying about sexually escalating over text, just ask her out.

(08-23-2016 05:18 PM)Grenblin Wrote:  Preface:
Met these two chicks at a concert, one was married, but bought me beers and was responsive, however, since she's married I didn't make moves.
Her friend was single and I teased her about something and said she'd owe me a date if she doesn't guess. She gladly agreed and of course lost. Gave me her number, called her phone on the spot to make sure the number wasn't fake. It wasn't.
Soon after I pushed for two dates to which she happily agrees again.
She had to leave so I didn't attempt to close that night.

Texted her next day afternoon, tells me she's at a state fair with mom, I say "I haven't been at those in a while" and she responds back about going with me. I was busy and didn't reply right away, then she texts "Or not".
Bla bla, we text a little, I make a sexual comment to which she replies "haha, not getting with me before I even know you lol".
I suggest we go to the fair next weekend afternoon and for drinks in the evening, she agrees.
Few days before weekend she messages that she can't do evening, only daytime so I say that's no bueno and we'll go some other weekend.

Fast forward yesterday, messaged her I'm going to the fair this Sat and would be nice if she joined me.
She replies today:

Quote:Sorry been so busy with weddings I'm in . Love to hang just been crazy busy...

Me:

Quote:Fair on Saturday afternoon and drinks in the evening.

Her:

Quote:I'll get back to you later about Saturday.

I didn't respond yet because it seems that she took control over what I thought I'm controlling by stating, not asking.

Any suggestions/ideas?

Might be smarter to wait but I hate sitting around waiting for texts (isnt really about control, its just the not knowing when part), so what i usually do is:

1- If i have ongoing frequent conversations with the girl, i say ok then ask again later about it looking for a final answer.

2- If texts are not daily/frequent, i reply with "ok ill ask you again on thursday because otherwise i have to confirm other weekend plans" (or something like that).

Girl just opened me on POF with the following line:

"Do you treat the little guys with respect, recycle, and give to charity?"

Anybody got anything witty to respond with?

I'd respond with "Little guys are human too and it would be cruel to recycle them or give them to charity."

(09-04-2016 03:57 PM)Beirut Wrote:  Shes Russian.
Plough through.

Put your conventional view of your pride aside.

See thread about russian vs western game. Helped me a lot.

Thanks for pointing this thread out, interesting read.

Her text: So yes i would love to go for coffee sometime next week, but just to let you know I have a boyfriend, so if you're looking for something else im not your girl .

wtf do I say to that when she showed interest and texted me first the day after we met.

^She wants you as an orbiter. She couldn't have made it clearer. Go find someone else. Don't waste time on women who don't want you.

Texted a 21 yo girl to meet for a drink with a "meet me at bar XYZ" she agreed to the date but got back to me with a simple "not XYZ". Eh? I'm tempted not to respond and just go to the bar.

I dont get it. She wanted to buy me a drink i refused since i had a beer in my hand. Always flirted with me, left her cockblocking friend to come grind on my dick, tried to kiss her she said next time, touched me all the time, next morning texted me first saying: It was lovely to meet you yesterday.

After all that bullshit she has a boyfriend, lol.

(09-25-2016 09:33 AM)Rekkd Wrote:  I dont get it. She wanted to buy me a drink i refused since i had a beer in my hand. Always flirted with me, left her cockblocking friend to come grind on my dick, tried to kiss her she said next time, touched me all the time, next morning texted me first saying: It was lovely to meet you yesterday.

After all that bullshit she has a boyfriend, lol.

And after you did a good job getting her horny, she went and fucked her boyfriend all night.

Quote:"I don't get it."

Women do this. They soft cheat. She got high from the attention you gave her but was never going to fuck you. You served a purpose. Stop trying to figure out what you did wrong. Just learn from it and move on.

(09-25-2016 08:50 AM)duedue Wrote:  Texted a 21 yo girl to meet for a drink with a "meet me at bar XYZ" she agreed to the date but got back to me with a simple "not XYZ". Eh? I'm tempted not to respond and just go to the bar.

She has drama at that bar. Probably slept with the bartender. Just pick another place.

Thx TornadoByProxy, I decided to delete and move on

Cute girl hooks hard of tinder and get her number. Text her to come out and she replies "going to school full time and works weekends". We were vibing really well on tinder, not sure how to reconnect.

Not sure if relevant but she deleted her tinder day after she gave me her number.

(09-26-2016 04:45 AM)RustyShackleford Wrote:  Cute girl hooks hard of tinder and get her number. Text her to come out and she replies "going to school full time and works weekends". We were vibing really well on tinder, not sure how to reconnect.

Not sure if relevant but she deleted her tinder day after she gave me her number.

You have to make sure you don't scare her. Have her see you as a break from her stress. She probably is very busy.

"I'll buy you a coffee when you need a study break"
"I need to pick something up at the mall. Come with me."

Something not too threatening just to get her in person. Then go from there. Good luck.

(09-26-2016 04:45 AM)RustyShackleford Wrote:  Cute girl hooks hard of tinder and get her number. Text her to come out and she replies "going to school full time and works weekends". We were vibing really well on tinder, not sure how to reconnect.

Not sure if relevant but she deleted her tinder day after she gave me her number.

Birthday cat.

Or other alternative meme. Don't reward her shitty behaviour with a response that takes her in the least bit seriously.

(09-26-2016 06:14 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(09-26-2016 04:45 AM)RustyShackleford Wrote:  Cute girl hooks hard of tinder and get her number. Text her to come out and she replies "going to school full time and works weekends". We were vibing really well on tinder, not sure how to reconnect.

Not sure if relevant but she deleted her tinder day after she gave me her number.

Birthday cat.

Or other alternative meme. Don't reward her shitty behaviour with a response that takes her in the least bit seriously.

I'm not so sure she is messing with me, but I could be naive. I sent her a text this afternoon

"I'll buy you a coffee when you need a study break"

and she replied in the evening

"I feel terrible about this because of my shit availability. It's just that I have work and school and if I'm not working or at school, I do some volunteering so I literally have no time. Well for this month at least, but if I have a mental breakdown and desperately need a break, I'll be sure to let you know!"

She seemed genuine when we chatted on Tinder, and she gave a lengthy response. Of course, it's still not a positive because she is avoiding a meet up. However a girl that isn't interested would just ghost.

It's a little ridiculous to imply she has no time for a coffee meet up, but not sure how to push this without looking needy.

(09-27-2016 12:37 AM)RustyShackleford Wrote:  I'm not so sure she is messing with me, but I could be naive. I sent her a text this afternoon

"I'll buy you a coffee when you need a study break"

and she replied in the evening

"I feel terrible about this because of my shit availability. It's just that I have work and school and if I'm not working or at school, I do some volunteering so I literally have no time. Well for this month at least, but if I have a mental breakdown and desperately need a break, I'll be sure to let you know!"

She seemed genuine when we chatted on Tinder, and she gave a lengthy response. Of course, it's still not a positive because she is avoiding a meet up. However a girl that isn't interested would just ghost.

It's a little ridiculous to imply she has no time for a coffee meet up, but not sure how to push this without looking needy.

Does she seem especially chaste? If so you need to toss her some comfort and let her know its ok to meet up with you, that tinder is weird, but without saying that outright. Be prepared for stage 5 cover if you manage to convert.

If she didn't strike you as especially chaste she's volunteering lotsacocka and for some reason letting you down easy

Hey guys! I need your opinion on this situation. Something like this has never happened to me before.

A cashier I number closed a month ago opened me on whatsapp. Before I share with you the discussion I'd like to talk about how the interaction went so you have a better idea. I opened her and teased her for a good 5 minutes while she was serving me. She gave me promising eye contact and she served a customer after me and she continued talking to me. She also complimented me once. Everything was good but she went on holidays so I didn't bother talking to her and I had my fuck buddy who was satisfying me at the time.

Since English is not my first language I don't know if I am being trolled or if this kind of words are normal. I suspect that this is troll because of the tone of the discussion the babes and boo to a guy she barely knows is unusual. As I said before English is not my first language so I don't know.

Her: Sends me her work schedule. Oups wrong person my bad

Me: So this is the crazy Romanian girl

Her: Hey boo! Yes it's me... Mariana... We should hangout bb you're pretty cute Sorry I sent you my schedule because I have a colleague with the same name as you... I thought it was him

Me: No worries

Me: Sunday night is good for u?

Her: I can't tonight babe because I have a family dinner but I will text you later so that we can see each other one day this week (Kiss emoticon)

Her: Texting is better than whatsapp because I don't have a data plan on my phone (Kiss emoticon)

I haven't replied yet because I don't know what I am dealing with.

What do you guys think?

(09-27-2016 02:52 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  Does she seem especially chaste? If so you need to toss her some comfort and let her know its ok to meet up with you, that tinder is weird, but without saying that outright. Be prepared for stage 5 cover if you manage to convert.

If she didn't strike you as especially chaste she's volunteering lotsacocka and for some reason letting you down easy

I'll try some comfort. It's hard to say if she is chaste or not. 20 year old college girl with a busy schedule and we've never met I have no idea.

Only thing I have to go on is a fairly regular engagement of long texts with what seems sincerity. It's a rare thing in this city. Thanks Aneroid.

(09-27-2016 09:15 AM)papaiela Wrote:  Her: Sends me her work schedule. Oups wrong person my bad

Me: So this is the crazy Romanian girl

Her: Hey boo! Yes it's me... Mariana... We should hangout bb you're pretty cute Sorry I sent you my schedule because I have a colleague with the same name as you... I thought it was him

Me: No worries

Me: Sunday night is good for u?

Her: I can't tonight babe because I have a family dinner but I will text you later so that we can see each other one day this week (Kiss emoticon)

Her: Texting is better than whatsapp because I don't have a data plan on my phone (Kiss emoticon)

I haven't replied yet because I don't know what I am dealing with.

What do you guys think?

She's sending emoticons and gave lots of signs of interest. Why are you worried? Get her out and see what happens.

what do you do when a girl replies with just "I've been working a lot" when you ask her what she's doing

I hate when give you nothing to say

(10-01-2016 07:17 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  what do you do when a girl replies with just "I've been working a lot" when you ask her what she's doing

I hate when give you nothing to say

Ask her out. Always keep the interaction moving forward. Then you know where you stand and you can move onto the next step.