(04-27-2019 11:03 PM)Remington Wrote: ^
Like you said, you're overanalyzing it. Her response was positive so move forward.
A simple response such as "do it again?" will put the ball in her court. That response will dictate her true interest in you.
I'm willing to bet that response will be a yes considering you kiss closed. Women are fickle but if you at least kissed her, odds are in your favor.
I think it's not a bad proposition but it can be improved upon -
texting "do it again?" is a bit too vague - what she may think about "it" may not be his "it". Let's not forget she's just 19, you can't expect from a girl her age to proactively lead towards sex, that's not her nature - unless super horny (or a slut or derailed). Also, it is too much of a frame release - she may become too finicky in her decisions (or lack thereof). What if she'd proposed going for ice-cream lunch time? Hard to close the deal in such a scenario.
He should be at all times in the driver's seat and keep the lead, instead of loosening it so much. Remington, I understand what you're trying to do - getting her involved in "we are both in these together" and share the responsibility of where we're going is a good strategy but perhaps not at that stage yet.
What I would do, is to interpret her smiley face as a big encouragement but not press that much forward just a night after for a date no. 2 - no need to be a predictably horny man, which may suggest to her he's sex-starved. Afer the night, the romantic bubble pierced and she replied enthusiastically, we shouldn't undervalue what it truly means - the words aren't as important, semantics matter less than the fact of reply itself - that's the most important thing here - she's very keen.
Rather, I'd just keep for a little bit the conversation going, depending how strong attraction was - for a day, with 3-5 messages before requesting date no. 2. Will she clear up her schedule for Saturday, given the date was on Thursday? Unless strong attraction suggests she wants more ASAP, more likely date no. 2 will come after the weekend. If the OP wants a date ASAP though, in that case, throwing a ball "do it again?" wouldn't help, risking a significant slow down).
Instead, if no time pressure, i'd keep making a world of me and her, create a "paradise" for us two, our own vocabulary, inside humour, raise above the hum-drum of purely logistic
texting. Channel the light of positivity at all times. Every word, emoji, picture, message needs to be crafted for the purpose. Less but better is... better. Bear in mind the fact you're much older (even though she may not know it) and think and expect from people more "adult" behaviour, whereas she's just 19 years old who probably (statistically speaking) doesn't really know what she wants. For example:
The King of all and Lord of the light:
That was fun, and didnt even turn into a pumpkin
(It's a good one, I like it - non-needy, no questions, short, re-statement of attraction, a little bit of inside humour, check-in to see what she does. Bravo).
Sexy and pretty girl:
Yes! and glad to hear it smileyface
(30 minutes in, there's NO ambiguity there at all - it is very respectable and enthusiastic. What do you expect she'd
text:
can I come over right now to suck your cock? It's a good girl's game, spot on. Don't overlook the fact she
added an exclamation point. Smiley face is expression of her mood regarding how she feels about you. Her message is encouragement to press forward, Saturday she may scream your name, carefully judge the timestamps of her replies from now on, the sooner the better, but remember - you're
much older, you get
much less leeway to project horniness than a teenage boy). Don't be over-eager, otherwise you can burn an excellent lead. I was there, too, before, in on case an 18yo virgin, me approaching 30, all going well, kissing, then lost my cool (or rather, wanted to close the deal too soon), and never seen her again. It's a tough balancing act but there you go.
The King of all and Lord of the light:
what are you wearing today?
(On the face of it, it's a strange one. Do you really care? Probably not but that's beside the point, that's not the goal of this message. Every message is for the purpose of gathering information, giving you feedback where you stand with a girl so you undertake the best possible decision you can make.
In this case, it is subtly covertly sexual and mildly judgemental. Her reply may tell you if the likelihood of sweet love making is near. Best response: her picture showing what she's wearing (it may take some time to get a reply like that - she probably will make a few adjustments to look her best and that's great - she's investing in your liking her). Middle of the road:
text description regarding her accouterments. Bad: asking why do you want to know it. If you get the first, press forward, the second, keep nudging towards the date, but weekend unlikely, the last one - pull back and easy on the leash to try re-build momentum.
Disclaimer:I know next to nothing about your interaction and what went on, so can't really make a suggestion, what's above is quite generic in my workbook. Hence, don't take it literally and implement what will work best with the aforementioned suggestions).