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ShotgunUppercuts 路 2017-09-26 20:56:00 路 #3358
Day nine closing in.studied after work and just took a walk.gonna read a few more oages of my current book ,eat then head to bed.
Stay up fellas.
Stay up fellas.
Moses_ 路 2017-09-26 21:56:00 路 #3359
Ive done 30 days this summer but Ive slowly fallen back into my old destructive routine. Startinf nofap again, day one.
MaceTyrell 路 2017-09-27 04:15:00 路 #3360
Day 1 - my goal is to last until next week Tuesday/Wednesday.
Baby steps.
Baby steps.
sterling_archer 路 2017-09-27 04:56:00 路 #3361
Day 50. Feeling good.
ShotgunUppercuts 路 2017-09-27 07:49:00 路 #3362
@sterling_archer keep it up bro.
Mikestar 路 2017-09-27 08:08:00 路 #3363
Day 1 - It's affecting my life way more than I think.
The Stronger Sex 路 2017-09-27 08:59:00 路 #3364
Positively or negatively?
Mercenary 路 2017-09-27 09:21:00 路 #3365
sterling_archer 路 2017-09-27 10:31:00 路 #3366
Worst for me were always first two weeks. I don't know which attempt this is as I always failed around day 15, 16 or so. First time I ever did this challenge (last year) I managed to do 30 days or little more. After that I struggled for months to break mentioned 2 weeks boundary.
As I have some kind of diary where I put thoughts on various things, I decided to write couple of times what went wrong and made me fail. I discovered that there were not really many triggers but state of mind was real reason. I haven't been enough educated about this whole thing.
I collected myself and thought about how good I felt until that dreaded fail and decided firmly that I will try to break the record. I read a lot about porn, its industry, I am familiar already who promotes it, I become familiar with its effect on brain. Regarding fapping, I went from the fact of benefits on psychological level and not religious one (I think this religious aspect is BS).
So these two weeks passed and I begun to feel same changes I felt first time I did this challenge. Memory got better, energy levels up, I sometimes woke up before alarm, always enough sleep no matter how much hours I slept and so on. I got better view on other people, especially noticing stuff I didn't before. Like eye contacts, etc.
Temptations. I feel them every now and then. Especially on this forum that is full on NSFW images. I avoid generally these threads but I am sometimes surprised by some posts which come out of blue on some unrelated thread. Same thing is on the other sites. I have anti porn addons for Mozilla on computer and for mobile. I don't look at XXX sections on torrent sites. Basically, I just avoid porn but if I come across I don't panic or go immediately break the record. Calming down and thinking reasonably does the trick of overcoming them. One can also attempt to wash his face with cold water.
Mood swings are sometimes present. Nothing much to add here. For example last week I was bit bored no matter how much things I did, and couple of weeks ago I found joy in basic random things I saw. Nevertheless, my energy levels are always high so I don't ever feel the need to go sleep entire day.
As I have some kind of diary where I put thoughts on various things, I decided to write couple of times what went wrong and made me fail. I discovered that there were not really many triggers but state of mind was real reason. I haven't been enough educated about this whole thing.
I collected myself and thought about how good I felt until that dreaded fail and decided firmly that I will try to break the record. I read a lot about porn, its industry, I am familiar already who promotes it, I become familiar with its effect on brain. Regarding fapping, I went from the fact of benefits on psychological level and not religious one (I think this religious aspect is BS).
So these two weeks passed and I begun to feel same changes I felt first time I did this challenge. Memory got better, energy levels up, I sometimes woke up before alarm, always enough sleep no matter how much hours I slept and so on. I got better view on other people, especially noticing stuff I didn't before. Like eye contacts, etc.
Temptations. I feel them every now and then. Especially on this forum that is full on NSFW images. I avoid generally these threads but I am sometimes surprised by some posts which come out of blue on some unrelated thread. Same thing is on the other sites. I have anti porn addons for Mozilla on computer and for mobile. I don't look at XXX sections on torrent sites. Basically, I just avoid porn but if I come across I don't panic or go immediately break the record. Calming down and thinking reasonably does the trick of overcoming them. One can also attempt to wash his face with cold water.
Mood swings are sometimes present. Nothing much to add here. For example last week I was bit bored no matter how much things I did, and couple of weeks ago I found joy in basic random things I saw. Nevertheless, my energy levels are always high so I don't ever feel the need to go sleep entire day.
Mikestar 路 2017-09-27 11:13:00 路 #3367
Negatively, it's draining the life out of me, I feel braindead after binges which are common now.
Mercenary 路 2017-09-27 11:45:00 路 #3368
Mercenary 路 2017-09-27 11:49:00 路 #3369
(09-27-2017 10:31 AM)sterling_archer Wrote: I got better view on other people, especially noticing stuff I didn't before. Like eye contacts, etc.
Improved eyesight is one of the best benefits.
The improvement isn't so much in reading letters on a chart like when you take an eye exam, but rather you will notice things like colors becoming much more vivid, the contrast between colors is more defined, text that you read will look sharper, and you have a much greater sense of picking up small details in everything...like seeing tiny logos or patterns on objects that you have owned for years, but never noticed before.
sterling_archer 路 2017-09-27 12:55:00 路 #3370
By better view, I also referred to noticing subtle signals of other people, not just colors, body language becoming more obvious to me.
Wutang 路 2017-09-30 12:00:00 路 #3371
Just hit 60 days. I have to admit thought that while I've stayed away from porn including soft-core stuff and I haven't blown a load I can't say that I'm fully committing to completely free of PMO. I'm not full out gripping my schlong and masturbating but I do have a habit of pinching the tip of my penis in a stimulating matter while having images of women in my head, especially during the early morning when I'm still in bed in a semi-groggy state. I don't get anywhere near orgasm except for this morning I did have a close call but thankfully stopped myself in time. Anyone else dealing with this or are you guys all completely PMO free?
Kid Twist 路 2017-09-30 19:18:00 路 #3372
The morning dream wake state is the biggest challenge of all, in my estimation. That and being idle for hours at a time, alone. Just try to get busy, avoid, be around people, keep working on extending all the abstinence. You have to realize that while it's all damaging, each long course you go abstaining teaches you something and helps in the long term re: healing.
pft123 路 2017-10-01 02:50:00 路 #3373
Day 1, finger crossed. I hope I can improve my penis sensitivity, bad experience with girls I am attracted to but do not have very tight pussies.
MaceTyrell 路 2017-10-01 06:01:00 路 #3374
So my attempts at lasting a week fell apart...did it roughly 4 times since I said I would on Tuesday.
In terms of causes, IG is definitely a major one. I manage the IG for a local small business, and have been following IG thots and commenting on their photos in an attempt to generate followers (which honestly is low yield...I'm really just doing that to follow IG thots and comment on their photos).
Am thinking I should unfollow them.
In terms of causes, IG is definitely a major one. I manage the IG for a local small business, and have been following IG thots and commenting on their photos in an attempt to generate followers (which honestly is low yield...I'm really just doing that to follow IG thots and comment on their photos).
Am thinking I should unfollow them.
The Stronger Sex 路 2017-10-01 07:33:00 路 #3375
Fapping aside, I think following bitches around like a lap dog boosting their self-esteem is beta as fuck.
MaceTyrell 路 2017-10-01 07:40:00 路 #3376
Well, I'm "following them around" in an attempt at engaging with them over DM to collaborate with the business I am managing the account for. Nothing generates attention on IG like a scantily clad woman posing next to your product.
Regardless, I don't want to get off track from the purpose of this thread. Day 1...checking in.
Regardless, I don't want to get off track from the purpose of this thread. Day 1...checking in.
Sam Malone 路 2017-10-01 09:17:00 路 #3377
I've mentioned it before in this thread, my New Years resolution was NPNF.
I've been marking my calendar since the beginning of the year. Folded twice back in January, once because of a last minute cancellation after some heavy texting innuendo with a chick in my rotation, the other 'just because'. I mark(ed) faps, bangs, and new notches.
And using this Time Between Two Dates calculator to check my progress...
Yesterday was DAY 250.
Looking back now, one of the biggest things I've gleaned since January is to have an abundance mentality.
A couple years ago when I was first officially divorced (and shortly before finding the forum), I went on a few 'dates'. I'd match with a woman online, run some banter, and meet up at a local bar/restaurant for a couple of drinks, hoping to run enough game to get her back to my place. That didn't work back then, as 1) I was 'thirsty', and 2) it showed.
"C'mon, come back to my place, I'll show you ______". The tone of my voice I'm sure reeked of desperation and neediness.
Last year, I had (and still have) one woman in my rotation (Shiva) that I've known for a long time (she's a 6 on a good day). If all else failed, I had her as a backup instead of rubbing one out.
This worked well with drink meetups, but the downside was my feeling 'arrogant'. I didn't 'need' to bed this woman I was having drinks with, because I had Shiva to go bang out. And part of that, I think, was the uncertainty of the potential new bang. "What if I go too far ?", "What if she gets back to my place and doesn't like it", "What if...", etc.
That mentality may have cost me a few bangs. Looking back now, as long as my place wasn't/isn't a complete shithole, is tidy, and I'm not an apologetic beta, those fears were unsubstantiated.
This year, I've had Shiva in the regular rotation, as well as various women in and out of the rotation. Including Shiva, I have two regulars right now. And I'm currently in the double digits for new notches this year... my best year ever (so far). Some from Tinder, POF, Bumble, and SA.
Most have come direct to the house/hotel room for the bang, or I've gone to their place for the same thing. Some have been 5's, some have been 8's.
While there's a debate to be had regarding quality of notches, I liken having a 5 in the rotation to car shopping. It's a lot easier to be selective and find a good deal when you already have a car to drive (and can walk away from a sale if you don't like the interest rate or the resale value), versus needing a car and not having one, where you're under pressure or time constraints to buy one (and have to take that higher interest rate or the lack of luxuries in the car).
In the same venue, it's easier to seek out new notches when you have a 'go to' or 'stand by' at your disposal. Even if she's a 5, it allows you to be a little more selective when searching for an 'upgrade' or a 'second car'.
Abundance Mentality.
I don't write all this to come across as braggadocious, I write it because I'm almost certain that NPNF has gotten me to where I am this year.
NPNF has given me the 'push' to seek out new notches.
I've been marking my calendar since the beginning of the year. Folded twice back in January, once because of a last minute cancellation after some heavy texting innuendo with a chick in my rotation, the other 'just because'. I mark(ed) faps, bangs, and new notches.
And using this Time Between Two Dates calculator to check my progress...
Yesterday was DAY 250.
Looking back now, one of the biggest things I've gleaned since January is to have an abundance mentality.
A couple years ago when I was first officially divorced (and shortly before finding the forum), I went on a few 'dates'. I'd match with a woman online, run some banter, and meet up at a local bar/restaurant for a couple of drinks, hoping to run enough game to get her back to my place. That didn't work back then, as 1) I was 'thirsty', and 2) it showed.
"C'mon, come back to my place, I'll show you ______". The tone of my voice I'm sure reeked of desperation and neediness.
Last year, I had (and still have) one woman in my rotation (Shiva) that I've known for a long time (she's a 6 on a good day). If all else failed, I had her as a backup instead of rubbing one out.
This worked well with drink meetups, but the downside was my feeling 'arrogant'. I didn't 'need' to bed this woman I was having drinks with, because I had Shiva to go bang out. And part of that, I think, was the uncertainty of the potential new bang. "What if I go too far ?", "What if she gets back to my place and doesn't like it", "What if...", etc.
That mentality may have cost me a few bangs. Looking back now, as long as my place wasn't/isn't a complete shithole, is tidy, and I'm not an apologetic beta, those fears were unsubstantiated.
This year, I've had Shiva in the regular rotation, as well as various women in and out of the rotation. Including Shiva, I have two regulars right now. And I'm currently in the double digits for new notches this year... my best year ever (so far). Some from Tinder, POF, Bumble, and SA.
Most have come direct to the house/hotel room for the bang, or I've gone to their place for the same thing. Some have been 5's, some have been 8's.
While there's a debate to be had regarding quality of notches, I liken having a 5 in the rotation to car shopping. It's a lot easier to be selective and find a good deal when you already have a car to drive (and can walk away from a sale if you don't like the interest rate or the resale value), versus needing a car and not having one, where you're under pressure or time constraints to buy one (and have to take that higher interest rate or the lack of luxuries in the car).
In the same venue, it's easier to seek out new notches when you have a 'go to' or 'stand by' at your disposal. Even if she's a 5, it allows you to be a little more selective when searching for an 'upgrade' or a 'second car'.
Abundance Mentality.
I don't write all this to come across as braggadocious, I write it because I'm almost certain that NPNF has gotten me to where I am this year.
NPNF has given me the 'push' to seek out new notches.
Lucky 路 2017-10-02 08:29:00 路 #3378
Day 28.
Last night I met up with a girl for drinks. Brought her back to my place. We made out for about 20 minutes then she straddled me.
A few minutes later we changed positions and I noticed some leakage on my new Chinos
She saw it and asked, "What is that?" I obviously hadn't had an orgasm. So rapidly I'm attempting to formulate an explanation through the haze of gin and tonics we'd been drinking.
So then I just told her I stopped watching porn and masturbating, and apparently my body is still readjusting. She seemed intrigued but who the hell knows. I didn't close; we got as far as making out and fingering.
I'm going to set up another date with her this week. We'll see what happens.
Last night I met up with a girl for drinks. Brought her back to my place. We made out for about 20 minutes then she straddled me.
A few minutes later we changed positions and I noticed some leakage on my new Chinos
She saw it and asked, "What is that?" I obviously hadn't had an orgasm. So rapidly I'm attempting to formulate an explanation through the haze of gin and tonics we'd been drinking.
So then I just told her I stopped watching porn and masturbating, and apparently my body is still readjusting. She seemed intrigued but who the hell knows. I didn't close; we got as far as making out and fingering.
I'm going to set up another date with her this week. We'll see what happens.
Mikestar 路 2017-10-02 11:18:00 路 #3379
Anyone recommend any specific natural herbs or supplements to eliminate brain fog and low sex drive during a flatline?
Ivanis 路 2017-10-02 16:00:00 路 #3380
Damn you, Reddit.
Day 1. Going strong this time. Gonna try to break my 30-something day record.
Day 1. Going strong this time. Gonna try to break my 30-something day record.
redbeard 路 2017-10-02 16:02:00 路 #3381
(10-02-2017 11:18 AM)Mikestar Wrote: Anyone recommend any specific natural herbs or supplements to eliminate brain fog and low sex drive during a flatline?
https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectile-dy...tions.html
(10-02-2017 04:00 PM)Ivanis Wrote: Damn you, Reddit.
Day 1. Going strong this time. Gonna try to break my 30-something day record.
https://selfcontrolapp.com/
ExploringReality 路 2017-10-02 16:07:00 路 #3382
2 or 3 weeks here. Random erections happening again since now I only have 1 girl available. One thing I'm noticing is that I'm doing better now that I have less sex, it's weird...I think it might be because now resisting is a challenge, and I gain pride in succeeding. Before, when I had twice the sex I thought of fapping as "not a big deal", since I was not "saving up" anyhow. I know this is a mistake, and that the benefits are in the brain and not in the testicles, but still, that was my rationalization to fell off the train.