(09-23-2014 02:22 PM)Slacker101 Wrote:  So I was talking to this girl and went out to a quick dinner with her once. She said to let me know if I wanted to do something sometime. I texted her and never heard back but I got a seen report. I was annoyed (number one pet peeve of mine is being ignored, I find it infuriating), but I never said anything and let it lie.

I recently got a message saying "hey! so sorry i never got back to you! Things got caught up and I got lost. idk how much time you have lately, but if you wanna get coffee or something that'd be fun or are you coming to any of the [campus club] things? i don't even know what's coming up.."

I've waited a day or two and haven't figured out what really to say.

I feel like addressing every little part of her message is showing too much interest or whatever. Then again I don't want to write off the fact that she blew me off and then never said anything for three weeks and was slightly awkward when I ran into her. So I'm not sure how to phrase a reply.

Suggestions?

Sounds like she put you on back burner the past three weeks. Her getting back to you now can only mean she's either DTF or attention whoring.

Your reply should just go for logistic (let's meet at a bar or hang in either of your crib with alcohol) If she agrees then you know it's game time.

if not i'd just put her on your mass text list and bomb her every month til she's dtf

(09-23-2014 03:01 PM)wandenreich Wrote:  

(09-23-2014 02:22 PM)Slacker101 Wrote:  So I was talking to this girl and went out to a quick dinner with her once. She said to let me know if I wanted to do something sometime. I texted her and never heard back but I got a seen report. I was annoyed (number one pet peeve of mine is being ignored, I find it infuriating), but I never said anything and let it lie.

I recently got a message saying "hey! so sorry i never got back to you! Things got caught up and I got lost. idk how much time you have lately, but if you wanna get coffee or something that'd be fun or are you coming to any of the [campus club] things? i don't even know what's coming up.."

I've waited a day or two and haven't figured out what really to say.

I feel like addressing every little part of her message is showing too much interest or whatever. Then again I don't want to write off the fact that she blew me off and then never said anything for three weeks and was slightly awkward when I ran into her. So I'm not sure how to phrase a reply.

Suggestions?

Sounds like she put you on back burner the past three weeks. Her getting back to you now can only mean she's either DTF or attention whoring.

Your reply should just go for logistic (let's meet at a bar or hang in either of your crib with alcohol) If she agrees then you know it's game time.

if not i'd just put her on your mass text list and bomb her every month til she's dtf

Yeah, I would just say "sure, cruise by after work"(then give a time and address)

QUICK!

Girl has a boyfriend 5 hours away. She said, "It sounds like you're hitting on me"

What do I say?

Go!

Whew. Just got hit with this. Response ideas?

Couldn't edit the pic into the last post:

Fuck - accidentally left too much personal info in that picture. Had to delete. Sorry for the multiple posts. I guess I'll just post a cropped picture later.

I'm actually wondering if I should be the one to text next in this situation...or let her:

Had a date with an ex last night ( she described it as our "first date since we quit seeing each other" to the waiter)

backstory: She had disrespected me, I feel, leading up to this date by changing the time on 3 dates. Could have been legit reasons, I don't know. But she was flighty and changing times.... So, we finally met last night.

Date went good. We had drinks at a restaurant and horderves. Lots of chemistry and laughter. Passionate kissing and hand holding in parking lot afterwards. I couldn't bounce her because she had classes early. She said "call me"

As I was driving home from the date...she phones me to discuss some things we talked about on the date. Good lively phone conversation. We said bye.

I'm wondering if I should initiate and text her in two or three days.....or let her "earn" me back and wait for her to contact me as she kept changing the date time leading up to this date....which I felt was disrespectful. I really want to see her again and bang her though.

So, do I text next after a few days....or no?

"Good tickets or good seats? Haha. Ill let you know how I'm feelin dude, sometimes I'm ok but sometimes I'm just dead "

What would you respond with ?

"I never heard anyone complain after a beer"
"I'll bring you back to life don't worry"

Anything else ?

(09-23-2014 06:37 PM)keysersoze Wrote:  QUICK!

Girl has a boyfriend 5 hours away. She said, "It sounds like you're hitting on me"

What do I say?

Go!

"hell yeah"

How do you guys first start out text convos to make sure it goes somewhere interesting

The first question a girl or I ask is "what are you up to"

(09-24-2014 08:51 PM)Valhalla Wrote:  How do you guys first start out text convos to make sure it goes somewhere interesting

The first question a girl or I ask is "what are you up to"

It depends if you know the girl or she's new. Girls I know, have dated or had a good conversation with, I will start the convo with something lighthearted about something we talked about.

A girl told me she was good at swatting flies of all things. So, texted her a few days later "hey, there's this bug buzzing around my office. Know any good fly swatters?" etc.

or.....Hey, I just was on youtube and my top two recommended videos were wikibear and the usa Germany world cup game. Lol. (assuming you and her talked about these two things)

Basically, any funny observation or statement about your conversations together.

Yeah, callback humor works very well. But I think Chris at GLL also had a good point when he said that you want to display that you are putting minimal effort into these texts.

Anyway, I met two girls the other day (the second of whom I liked above average and who I went on an instant date with).

I ping text both of them later that night. The first one texts me back. The second one didn't, which is a bit strange since I connected with her a lot more in the meeting (but perhaps I was too aggressive). Now I understand you sometimes need to give a girl a bit of leeway with this (one of my girls who is currently out of the country missed a text of mine), but any suggestions on what to text a girl that initially didn't text you back? My style is pretty much just to ignore the non-response.

Thinking of saying something like "let's go out and see if we can find another condom lying around." (Yeah, we found one on the ground during our instant date and had a good laugh about it )

Open to other suggestions though.

(09-23-2014 11:21 PM)kaotic Wrote:  "Good tickets or good seats? Haha. Ill let you know how I'm feelin dude, sometimes I'm ok but sometimes I'm just dead "

What would you respond with ?

"I never heard anyone complain after a beer"
"I'll bring you back to life don't worry"

Anything else ?

This is probably already resolved but I'll answer anyway because this is a common situation.

The best response here is "Never mind" a few hours later. Or just silence.

When a girl says anything like what she said, 98% of the time it's a no. Plus the whole text from her was disrespectful in tone.

Never try to argue a girl into doing something with you as your suggested texts do-it's chasing behavior.

Remember, going out with you is a privilege, not something she has to be sold on. If she's not interested, withdraw the offer or just go silent and ask another girl or make other plans.

Always maintain the frame that you are the prize.

(09-26-2014 02:03 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

(09-23-2014 11:21 PM)kaotic Wrote:  "Good tickets or good seats? Haha. Ill let you know how I'm feelin dude, sometimes I'm ok but sometimes I'm just dead "

What would you respond with ?

"I never heard anyone complain after a beer"
"I'll bring you back to life don't worry"

Anything else ?

This is probably already resolved but I'll answer anyway because this is a common situation.

The best response here is "Never mind" a few hours later. Or just silence.

When a girl says anything like what she said, 98% of the time it's a no. Plus the whole text from her was disrespectful in tone.

Never try to argue a girl into doing something with you as your suggested texts do-it's chasing behavior.

Remember, going out with you is a privilege, not something she has to be sold on. If she's not interested, withdraw the offer or just go silent and ask another girl or make other plans.

Always maintain the frame that you are the prize.

Too late I said:
kaotic: hmm I've never heard anyone complain after a beer

girl: haha i might pass out at the bar. where would we meet?

kaotic: red bull vodka, problem solved. X bar or X bar (near her house), i got a few places in X(my city) X (bar) has a chill loungy atmosphere and i know the bartenders.

girl: ok, maybe tommorow

I didn't respond because that was for Wednesday night (which I had my tinder date, then a seperate but awesome 3some.

This afternoon I texted her:

Tonight, 8:30 you in ?

We'll see how she reacts.

(09-26-2014 02:03 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

(09-23-2014 11:21 PM)kaotic Wrote:  "Good tickets or good seats? Haha. Ill let you know how I'm feelin dude, sometimes I'm ok but sometimes I'm just dead "

What would you respond with ?

"I never heard anyone complain after a beer"
"I'll bring you back to life don't worry"

Anything else ?

This is probably already resolved but I'll answer anyway because this is a common situation.

The best response here is "Never mind" a few hours later. Or just silence.

When a girl says anything like what she said, 98% of the time it's a no. Plus the whole text from her was disrespectful in tone.

Never try to argue a girl into doing something with you as your suggested texts do-it's chasing behavior.

Remember, going out with you is a privilege, not something she has to be sold on. If she's not interested, withdraw the offer or just go silent and ask another girl or make other plans.

Always maintain the frame that you are the prize.

If you say some thing like 'never mind' and then she comes back later trying to go through with the plans, would you meet up with her or just ignore her for the rest of the night?

Either ignore her for a few days or text her back a few hours after her text and say "I can't now " or similar

You want her to understand that she missed a limited opportunity and you are not a man to keep waiting while she decides what her best option for the evening is.

The "Never mind" was serious. You should immediately move on to set a date with another girl or plan to approach that night.

Always have the mindset that your time and company is very valuable and girls will sense that.

(09-07-2014 05:09 PM)kaotic Wrote:  So this HB 8.5-9 saw a pic of me on instagram, she hit up my homegirl up, said I was cute and wanted to meet up.

I ask for my friend for her number but she already gave mine to her.

That was thursday, today I hit my homegirl up about

[b]my home girl: "(HB 8.5) said she wants to all hang out and meet you. She said she feels awkward texting you. So let's plan something."

I replied: do i always have to be the man ? give me her number I'll text her and set up time to meet up for a drink."

she said: "lol let's plan something! she insisted on hanging out in a group setting, what does your work week look like what are you doing today?"

I replied: "Weird, she afraid of the terrorist beard ? I work then workout. I'm busy a few nights this week, does she live in X (my city)?"

she said: "lmao ! No she's not scared, she's intrigued. She lives in X(my city) yes."[/b]

I want to choose my next words carefully.

I'm not sure if we all hang out in a "group setting" will I get friend zoned or not ?

I really want to push for the 1 on 1 meet up, BUT I also don't want to scare the cat either ?

What do you guys think ? Should I just say fuck it and hangout with the girls ? Then go for the 1 on 1 ?

OR Should I push for her number and go for the 1 on 1 ? (I feel like this might look a little thirsty on my part)

I appreciate the input gents.

If a 8.5/10 girl saw you on IG and went to the trouble of getting your number, it'd seem like you've got really high SMV. Like top 1 percent. Maybe even higher. There are very few ridiculously good looking guys out there, but they can do the most ridiculous stuff and still close. It sounds like you're in that category.

I think when you're in these type of situations, you can assume you'll close as long as you don't do anything stupid. Hell, in these type of situations, you probably got some amount of wiggle room to fuk it up and still close. I think just being natural and comfortable with yourself is the way to go. Don't overthink it. Go for the 1-on-1 and don't worry about it.

Edit: I forgot to read your responses after the first post. I still maintain that if a girl is trying to get your number after seeing you on IG, you have a very high chance of closing. When you hang out, just have fun and be relaxed. Doesn't really seem like she needs to be gamed. TBH when you're in the top 5 percent of the SMV pyramid, and more especially the top 1 percent, looking good is your game. and it seems like you got a look that women really like, so use it to your advantage.

Just set up a date with a girl from online.

[...]
She: 17:00 sounds good. Identifying mark: orange Gerbera?
Me: On you? I'm wearing a flat cap.
She: I thought you'd bring the flowers. Hello gentleman?! Nah, I'm wearing a perm.

I really didn't think this girl would expect me to bring flowers; she seemed rather modern at first. Any good response in mind? My gut feeling tells me to just ignore the text and go on the date, never mention the flowers again. But I'm open to a good phrase that shows that I'm not willing to buy into that shit test.

(10-01-2014 03:24 AM)Flint Wrote:  Just set up a date with a girl from online.

[...]
She: 17:00 sounds good. Identifying mark: orange Gerbera?
Me: On you? I'm wearing a flat cap.
She: I thought you'd bring the flowers. Hello gentleman?! Nah, I'm wearing a perm.

I really didn't think this girl would expect me to bring flowers; she seemed rather modern at first. Any good response in mind? My gut feeling tells me to just ignore the text and go on the date, never mention the flowers again. But I'm open to a good phrase that shows that I'm not willing to buy into that shit test.

"Don't worry, I am planning far more than flowers"

Naturally, at some point (even immediately) she will ask what it is. At that point, do a second round of Agree & Amplify:

"We're going to Cartier's to buy you some diamonds, and then on a horse chariot ride through the city square."

She'll laugh and punch you. That's it.

That said, it's ok to do something small and romantic on a date like getting her a chocolate, but by no means must it be a part of a plan or expectation. These two things need to be kept strictly in the "absurd" territory.

So I met this chick online and I am considerably older than her. She is 23 and I am 50. But she seemed interested. But I may have screwed it up. Possibly went too far with the funny stuff. What do you guys think? Here is the transcript with my comments in parenthesis. So, she is a competitive equestrian and seems very serious about it. She marked me as a favorite first. Very cool levelheaded profile. Not the demanding shit you see from a lot of chicks, not super hot but good looking with a really nice body:

Me:It's not polite to visit someone's profile without saying hello. Lol How are you? Like the profile. It seems very sincere. I like what you have to say. You may be a little crazy though. (trying to do the push pull thing)

Her:Haha Crazy in which way? That is one thing I have Never been called. (she responded quickly)

Me:Ha...very cute photos. I like the look. Makes me think of the girl next door. It's cool that you are an equestrian. Does that mean you like something large and powerful between your legs? Lol Shoot me a text so we can chat and talk a llittle. (trying to sexualize and tease a little more.)

Anyway that was two days ago. No reply since and she did read the message.

What do you masters think. Did I fuck this up? Did I go too far and should have just gotten her out on the date? Should I just write her off? Or should I wait a little while and reengage? If so what would you say?

Thanks

(10-01-2014 04:51 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

(10-01-2014 03:24 AM)Flint Wrote:  Just set up a date with a girl from online.

[...]
She: 17:00 sounds good. Identifying mark: orange Gerbera?
Me: On you? I'm wearing a flat cap.
She: I thought you'd bring the flowers. Hello gentleman?! Nah, I'm wearing a perm.

I really didn't think this girl would expect me to bring flowers; she seemed rather modern at first. Any good response in mind? My gut feeling tells me to just ignore the text and go on the date, never mention the flowers again. But I'm open to a good phrase that shows that I'm not willing to buy into that shit test.

"Don't worry, I am planning far more than flowers"

Naturally, at some point (even immediately) she will ask what it is. At that point, do a second round of Agree & Amplify:

"We're going to Cartier's to buy you some diamonds, and then on a horse chariot ride through the city square."

She'll laugh and punch you. That's it.

That said, it's ok to do something small and romantic on a date like getting her a chocolate, but by no means must it be a part of a plan or expectation. These two things need to be kept strictly in the "absurd" territory.

Update: I wrote the text you suggested, but in the end I bought a cheap gerbera for her, because I walked past a flower shop on the way to the date.

Don't know if that helped me or not, but I got a makeout. Suprisingly easygoing girl, just a little more chubby than she looked on the pics.

Thanks, anyway.

(10-02-2014 08:44 PM)reco2100 Wrote:  So I met this chick online and I am considerably older than her. She is 23 and I am 50. But she seemed interested. But I may have screwed it up. Possibly went too far with the funny stuff. What do you guys think? Here is the transcript with my comments in parenthesis. So, she is a competitive equestrian and seems very serious about it. She marked me as a favorite first. Very cool levelheaded profile. Not the demanding shit you see from a lot of chicks, not super hot but good looking with a really nice body:

Me:It's not polite to visit someone's profile without saying hello. Lol How are you? Like the profile. It seems very sincere. I like what you have to say. You may be a little crazy though. (trying to do the push pull thing)

Her:Haha Crazy in which way? That is one thing I have Never been called. (she responded quickly)

Me:Ha...very cute photos. I like the look. Makes me think of the girl next door. It's cool that you are an equestrian. Does that mean you like something large and powerful between your legs? Lol Shoot me a text so we can chat and talk a llittle. (trying to sexualize and tease a little more.)

Anyway that was two days ago. No reply since and she did read the message.

What do you masters think. Did I fuck this up? Did I go too far and should have just gotten her out on the date? Should I just write her off? Or should I wait a little while and reengage? If so what would you say?

Thanks

Woah, woah. Look, humor is a great thing, but how did you expect her to take that?

How many times do you think she's been told by total idiots and mouthbreathers the same type of joke?

What you were doing was setting yourself apart with the push pull.

With the "Does that mean you like something large and powerful between your legs?" comment, especially with the second "lol" you pushed her off a cliff, never to be seen again.

Honestly, the first text wasn't horrible, but it had it's weaknesses. Good enough for her to respond semi-positively. You needed to move into playing with her. You can't move into straight sexualization that heavy without her getting comfortable with you.

An example of playfulness would've been to call out something else in her profile, something totally innocuous and make up a story about all girls who like that are a bit crazy when it comes to some specific area of their lives. You're painting a picture of her as crazy without it being rude, something she could accept laughingly. Go read some Krauser texting, see how he sexualizes things but initially in a more playful way. Being immediately that sexual just activates her ASD or worse, her "creep-dar."

Yes, I just made up creep-dar.

I would not expect a response. You may be able to revive with a hail-mary last text, but I doubt it. Something like, "My humor goes over better in person. So the last time I rode horses I was struck by how docile and friendly they can be when they're comfortable with you, despite their wild nature which...they just can't escape. Perhaps that's what I saw in your profile. what do you think" (yes, I just pulled this out of my ass)

I'm no text master, but you've gotta pull her into a world she can imagine and want to play/be interested in if you have any hope of recapturing her attention. You've gotta get in her head in order to get her turned on.

Thanks man. I will wait about a week and give it another try.

I referenced this in another thread....but this is more of a "should I take action" question.

Girl I'd been banging and seeing on and off told me this week she was going to try to give an ex she "has some history with" one more chance. He lives back in her hometown a few hours away and she goes to college here in my town. So...she's down there staying with her parents this weekend but also seeing him no doubt.

Back story....I went over there on Thursday a few days after she told me she was going to give him another chance and we kissed and hugged quite a bit. She says things like she's still crazy about me and really has been missing me, etc. Quite affectionate but wouldn't let me fuck her. She told me this guy has been dogging her for a long time to get back together and he recently "said the right things she wanted to hear" and she decided to give him one more chance. She also mentioned he has tried to sabotage her other relationships in the past. Sounds like some beta fuck I suppose.....perhaps someone here can offer insights on the psyche of a male who does this.

In any event, I texted her yesterday to consider over the weekend everything we talked about before making a decision one way or the other ( I let her know some things she previously didn't know about us and she admitted it was new info to her) She texted me my request was "fair" and that she would "think about it" over the weekend. She also texted she had been "thinking about me" when she got my text.

So....should I text her something today, on Saturday, to kind of stay in her mind....and in a sense "sabotage" this other guy's dating attempts this weekend?

I had a date with another girl last night ( got a great BJ incidentally)....I was going to text her something to the effect of " Kind of funny, we're probably both dating other people this weekend but thinking about each other some. At least I know I'm thinking about you some doll."

......or should I just let sleeping dogs lie and since she's already said she will "think about" staying with me this weekend.....should I just leave it alone over the weekend? It's just that I know she's seeing this guy on nights over the weekend and was wanting to "stay in there" with some texts while maybe subtly letting her know I'm also dating this weekend.

(10-04-2014 10:58 AM)robreke Wrote:  I referenced this in another thread....but this is more of a "should I take action" question.

Girl I'd been banging and seeing on and off told me this week she was going to try to give an ex she "has some history with" one more chance. He lives back in her hometown a few hours away and she goes to college here in my town. So...she's down there staying with her parents this weekend but also seeing him no doubt.

Back story....I went over there on Thursday a few days after she told me she was going to give him another chance and we kissed and hugged quite a bit. She says things like she's still crazy about me and really has been missing me, etc. Quite affectionate but wouldn't let me fuck her. She told me this guy has been dogging her for a long time to get back together and he recently "said the right things she wanted to hear" and she decided to give him one more chance. She also mentioned he has tried to sabotage her other relationships in the past. Sounds like some beta fuck I suppose.....perhaps someone here can offer insights on the psyche of a male who does this.

In any event, I texted her yesterday to consider over the weekend everything we talked about before making a decision one way or the other ( I let her know some things she previously didn't know about us and she admitted it was new info to her) She texted me my request was "fair" and that she would "think about it" over the weekend. She also texted she had been "thinking about me" when she got my text.

So....should I text her something today, on Saturday, to kind of stay in her mind....and in a sense "sabotage" this other guy's dating attempts this weekend?

I had a date with another girl last night ( got a great BJ incidentally)....I was going to text her something to the effect of " Kind of funny, we're probably both dating other people this weekend but thinking about each other some. At least I know I'm thinking about you some doll."

......or should I just let sleeping dogs lie and since she's already said she will "think about" staying with me this weekend.....should I just leave it alone over the weekend? It's just that I know she's seeing this guy on nights over the weekend and was wanting to "stay in there" with some texts while maybe subtly letting her know I'm also dating this weekend.

I would not reply to her for the rest of the weekend. You are too busy living your life and meeting other people remember?

At the same time to introduce dread post a pic of you and your new little honey on your facebook so your main girl can see it.

Then lets see if you hear from her. If she sees the pic and says nothing. Then you need to spin more plates. lol

For shits and giggles. I'm trying to get at least one of these two out tonight, both said they're busy this weekend:

Taiwan Slut
me:....if I go I'll be gone until November
her: Uh oh..That's kinda long wait lol
me: Tell me, am I worth the wait
her: I def would like to meet you! you sound very confident and I'm sure you're very interesting to talk to


Russian Slut
me: Sup buddy..tell me your plan for tomorrow/weekend
her: I'm invited to dinner tomorrow but I can make it for drink around 6?
me: I'll be at happy hour. I'll give you a ring


I don't need advice, just curious how some of you other playas would play this one out.