(09-22-2014 09:30 PM)Teddykgb Wrote:  Fuck I just got flaked on so hard by my tinder date.

Ten minutes before we are suppose to meet. (luckily I hadn't left yet because I planned on arriving late) She hits me with this text.

"Hey I'm so sorry to do this, I feel like a complete ass... One of my best friends just got into a fender bender and needs me to pick her up.....Raincheck? If not I understand that too. I'm sorry"

Then she follows up with a fucking picture of a car with a fender bender in the front hahaha

I'm going to hit the mall or something. I'm all cleaned up now and fucking pissed.

Your response should be: "K".

I just made a thread asking for advice then found this thread!

I downloaded Tinder 3 days ago and have been out with 2 girls from it so far. First one we met at 2am, took a walk and she was giving me head on top of a statue in a park within 20 minutes. Second one, we went out for a meal (at an expensive place of her choosing), during which she said she'd come over to mine that evening with a couple of friends for my friends and we'd go out to some bars. I paid for it then she unmatched me on tinder, didn't reply to my texts and flaked.

What is a solid gameplan for these girls and what are good date ideas, aside from going out for a meal?

I've found that they're much more inclined to meet up if it's spontaneous and you say you're going out to do something within the next hour or two and that they should join you, as opposed to pre-planning dates.

Why did you let the chick choose the restaurant ? That's a big mistake !
She flaked on you because you're not leading ,you're the man for god's sake. Always lead and choose your favourite places . A restaurant is not the best place to escalate . My apologies , but this is so beta to me , you should learn from it .

(09-23-2014 04:44 PM)Euphoric_Breeze Wrote:  Why did you let the chick choose the restaurant ? That's a big mistake !
She flaked on you because you're not leading ,you're the man for god's sake. Always lead and choose your favourite places . A restaurant is not the best place to escalate . My apologies , but this is so beta to me , you should learn from it .

Yup, I agree. I realised straight after.

The actual answer to that is that the plan was to meet in Manhattan then walk over to Queens and find something there but I was 3 hours late so we agreed to just find somewhere local and she just walked straight in without mentioning it or me really realising haha.

Next time I need to make sure I have a solid plan before it starts so I can lead and that's basically what I'm asking - what can that solid plan be?

(09-23-2014 04:18 PM)Sturmgeist Wrote:  

(09-22-2014 09:30 PM)Teddykgb Wrote:  Fuck I just got flaked on so hard by my tinder date.

Ten minutes before we are suppose to meet. (luckily I hadn't left yet because I planned on arriving late) She hits me with this text.

"Hey I'm so sorry to do this, I feel like a complete ass... One of my best friends just got into a fender bender and needs me to pick her up.....Raincheck? If not I understand that too. I'm sorry"

Then she follows up with a fucking picture of a car with a fender bender in the front hahaha

I'm going to hit the mall or something. I'm all cleaned up now and fucking pissed.

Your response should be: "K".

Sounds like a sincere flake. Why be a dick?

(09-23-2014 04:48 PM)the-dream Wrote:  

(09-23-2014 04:44 PM)Euphoric_Breeze Wrote:  Why did you let the chick choose the restaurant ? That's a big mistake !
She flaked on you because you're not leading ,you're the man for god's sake. Always lead and choose your favourite places . A restaurant is not the best place to escalate . My apologies , but this is so beta to me , you should learn from it .

Yup, I agree. I realised straight after.

The actual answer to that is that the plan was to meet in Manhattan then walk over to Queens and find something there but I was 3 hours late so we agreed to just find somewhere local and she just walked straight in without mentioning it or me really realising haha.

Next time I need to make sure I have a solid plan before it starts so I can lead and that's basically what I'm asking - what can that solid plan be?

I think default date should be 1) getting drinks at <bar 1 minute from my place> or 2) doing <xyz> with me at my place. of course you will need to get creative and think on your feet a significant percentage of the time.

What do you do it you have a girl that you first tried to get to hang out on Tinder about 8 or 9 days ago and then about 4 days ago and both times she was busy so I nexted her.

Now just today she texts me "What are you up to?"

I usually screw these ones up. I think I would normally ignore her tonight and then invite her out around tomorrow around noon or 1 to have a drink later around 7:30

So I had a girl a few days ago that I scheduled a date with tomorrow, and shortly thereafter she messages me and here is how our conversation went:
Her: Question...
Me: Yes?
Her: Are you looking for a meaningless hookup?
Her: What are you looking for?
Me: You caught me.
Her: Haha so that's a yes?
Me: Is that what you think?
Her: Haha no that's why I'm asking
Me: Well there isn't necessarily anything specific I'm looking for. You?

Radio silence. Was it something I did or was it one of those stupid girls that uses a hookup app that is "not looking for a meaningless hookup?"

(09-24-2014 09:57 PM)Sleazy Wrote:  So I had a girl a few days ago that I scheduled a date with tomorrow, and shortly thereafter she messages me and here is how our conversation went:
Her: Question...
Me: Yes?
Her: Are you looking for a meaningless hookup?
Her: What are you looking for?
Me: You caught me.
Her: Haha so that's a yes?
Me: Is that what you think?
Her: Haha no that's why I'm asking
Me: Well there isn't necessarily anything specific I'm looking for. You?

Radio silence. Was it something I did or was it one of those stupid girls that uses a hookup app that is "not looking for a meaningless hookup?"

A ton of girls are on there to date/hook up. I met on one girl on there after we had been dating for a month she came to me and said "Did you know tinder was a hook up app?"

Not sure if she was serious or not but I pretended to have no idea. I think she realized it all made sense now and after that we ended up just being fuck buddies for another 2 months before she went back to her beta ex boyfriend. It was the first time I was fucking a girl and she was posting pics of them on Instagram together.

So it was my birthday a few days ago, and I had drinks with a friends overlooking the nice skyline view of my city.

I took a photo of the view and posted it as a "Moment" on Tinder, then swipe a few girls and continued on with my night.

So as I'm about to head home I get a match from a great looking girl (Easily an 8), who likes the pic and asks me how my night is going and what I'm up to. I noticed she is 1km away so I had to try to meet her ASAP. She initially isn't too keen to meet up as its a weeknight but I tell her it's my b'day so we should definitely meet up, she feels guilty not meeting on my b'day and gives in.

I walk to her apartment which was literally a few streets away from the bar I was in, she meets me at the door and we go for a short walk and then she tells me how she's recently moved to my city and is so lonely here. After reassuring her we simply walk back to her place without really acknowledging it.

Once I was in there, it was very straight forward, no real resistance posed by her and the sex was good.

Total time required to get bang = Approximately 1 hour
Effort exerted = Not much at all

When you get freebies like this, Tinder is alright.

Back on for the first time in a while and encountered some hotties and some hamster. This one was down to meet up but not to give out her number. Maybe if I had worked it I could've pulled it off but figured radio silence would make my ego feel more stroked and take her down a peg for the next one of you.





I had several other convos going at once so wasn't giving it much thought, in hindsight I should probably have grounded the number request again, "Alright I gtg, but I'll meet you tonight. Text you with my eta, what's your #". Then again, maybe she's just scared of a little dick pic action.

Nexted one more who shot down two meetup ideas, I said "So how do you plan to remedy this situation?" She says "I have no idea, and to be honest I'm not desperate"
"Aaand...#next"
"Alright"

See I got another one from her recently "Goodnight"

Going to let her hang a bit, radio silence works wonders.

Also some possible insight on the algorithm, and definite insight how glitchy this app is - I was getting pretty poor match rates the last month or so, various pic combos but very few matches and almost never unless I was the one swiping. My use was less frequent than it had been, once, maybe twice a week or less, and usually in different cities every time, still screening pre-swipe, never swiping more than 50 a sitting (usually much less), adjusting radius for the town I was in (bigger for lower population areas). Occasionally girls I'd swiped, right and left alike, would come up again and again 3+ times over a few weeks. The matches also were interspersed with non matches, rather than being all up front when I first loaded the app like it used to be. Because of this and other factors I was spending less time than ever using it but today was sitting around waiting for something and started swiping away.

At first it was the same way, I had to jog the distance setting several times because it said there was no one around after only a few swipes. Set it lower, then higher, then lower again and it worked as it had been. Then it's like the dam broke, maybe 30 swipes in and I was getting straight matches from areas I hadn't been in a while, way outside my radius. Got 24 straight screened matches, not counting a bunch of chubs and ugs I assume would've been matches also. Only stopped because I couldn't keep up with the messaging. I don't know if it was my longer swiping session that triggered it or playing with the distance but it's working again. Going to continue to work on cold approach regardless, but nice to have options again.

Tinder and I have a love-hate relationship, but as long as she puts out once in a while I'll put up with her.

I used the method outlined here, it took 5 minutes and I had 3 women lined up within 24 hours.

I culled this basic outline from http://www.tinderseduction.com/tinder-profile-setup/

~1. Setup a new Facebook account.
~2. Upload the best photos for a Tinder profile to your new Facebook account.
~3. Download the Tinder application and sign in through the new Facebook account you just created.
~4. Success.

Then join the Facebook page that they specifically set up so guys like us that manipulate the system can just friend other guys and meet the quota. https://www.facebook.com/pages/TinderSed...6031894452

My caveat, after you have the Tinder account set up on your phone and have the pics you like uploaded, just go back to Facebook and delete the pictures you have there. I know first hand that doing that will still leave it on your phone app. Even if it didn’t, or you want to add/delete more pics, you can just log back into the Facebook account and do it there.

I am not sure if you still have to have several friends on Facebook to legitimise/validate yourself, but I assumed the answer was yes. That’s why I did it this way.

Spreading the good word.
~K

(09-25-2014 03:34 AM)Kwisatz Wrote:  I am not sure if you still have to have several friends on Facebook to legitimise/validate yourself, but I assumed the answer was yes. That’s why I did it this way.

YOU DO NOT NEED TO HAVE ANY FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK TO HAVE A VALID TINDER

I've seen this question throughout this thread and I'd like to put an end to it. I signed up for Facebook solely for Tinder purposes and I have exactly 0 friends. I repeat, ZERO friends. Tinder still works fine.

Recently I've seen an uptick in girls who aren't using their accounts consistently, if at all. I've historically waited a few days to message matches, but I've had like a dozen in a row that don't respond and haven't been active in days. Not sure if its the area that I'm in or the demographic I'm usually matching with (18-22 y/o girls who are may have just been using tinder in their hometown before they go back to college), but its gotten ridiculous to where none of my matches are on tinder anymore. Maybe all the "hey let's hook up" messages scared them away? I guess I need to start opening faster. Anybody been noticing this?

Is there a way to escalate support? I've opened 5 tickets and still cannot get in. I even set up a blank facebook account and it won't go past number verify. I wonder if their system can see I'm on the same google account?

(09-25-2014 10:29 AM)DJ-Matt Wrote:  Is there a way to escalate support? I've opened 5 tickets and still cannot get in. I even set up a blank facebook account and it won't go past number verify. I wonder if their system can see I'm on the same google account?

I am stuck at Number verify as well.

Have anyone use the fake Gps app for pipelining on tinder ?

I been looking at local talent all across the global of places I want to travel in the near future. My game plan is to chose a place that gives me the best and most pipelines from handful of countries. I want to start pipelining 3-4 weeks (if possible) before my travels. (I'm new to pipelining dates pre-arrival)

But most of the girls on tinder wanna meet right way. How do some you guys go about pipelining ?

Do I just tell them its going be 3 weeks when i get there?

Gents I really need some advice on my latest tinder girl:
First date: met her at a cafe late at night and went to dinner - great convo, lots of laughs and hug at the end. rapport definitely established.

She texts me asking what i'm doing on thursday, to which i respond "let's do something fun"

So we go ice skating at a rink - I really like her so I was super nervous and it didn't exactly go as well as I'd hoped. But after skating we went and got pizza and had tea(No kino). She said she had fun at our last date and said from the pictures she expected me to be a 'hot asshole' but said I wasn't. I actually thought I blew it until she put her arms around me on our way to the subway station. After we hugged goodbye she kissed me on my lip and we hugged again and said goodbye.

I felt like a total idiot on the way home, I was super beta and quiet throughout the entire second date. I texted her to see if she'd gotten home and said I had a good time. She texted back saying "You're too cute. Seriously ". And to text her tmr.

So today I texted her late in the afternoon asking her weekend plans, she always replies within 30 minutes. She said she's having some drinks with friends at her friends house and told me to come by if interested. I have my own plans tonight so I said I'll let her know if I'm in the area.

Okay so this is the story so far, I'm into this girl a lot and as a result it's messing with me a little bit.

Any advice on how to move forward? Date ideas? Appreciated in advance.

Been reading through this thread, kudos for all the tips and openers. I just created my Tinder account a couple of days ago and have a few matches. This is how it went with my first match, we'll see where it goes from here. Hard to tell if she's a SIF, tips on how to get a body photo from her via text is appreciated.

   

(09-26-2014 08:18 AM)swishhboy25 Wrote:  Gents I really need some advice on my latest tinder girl:
First date: met her at a cafe late at night and went to dinner - great convo, lots of laughs and hug at the end.

Why didn't you go in for the kiss ?

Quote:She texts me asking what i'm doing on thursday, to which i respond "let's do something fun"

You should be more specific and confident in what you want to do.

Quote:So we go ice skating at a rink - I really like her so I was super nervous and it didn't exactly go as well as I'd hoped. But after skating we went and got pizza and had tea(No kino). She said she had fun at our last date and said from the pictures she expected me to be a 'hot asshole' but said I wasn't. I actually thought I blew it until she put her arms around me on our way to the subway station. After we hugged goodbye she kissed me on my lip and we hugged again and said goodbye.

I get that you like you, that's fine, but don't idolize her aka putting pussy on the pedestal, nothing ever goes as planned.

She sounds like she was disappointed that you weren't that hot asshole. You could've turned this into a joke or left get guessing if you really are or aren't, there were numerous possibilities. She sound like she was negging you.

Did she make the first move and kiss you ? Did you make out or was it just a peck on the lips ?

Quote:I felt like a total idiot on the way home, I was super beta and quiet throughout the entire second date. I texted her to see if she'd gotten home and said I had a good time. She texted back saying "You're too cute. Seriously ". And to text her tmr.

I personally wouldn't have texted her right after the date. You also told her to text you tommorow, this sounds a bit needy.

Quote:So today I texted her late in the afternoon asking her weekend plans, she always replies within 30 minutes. She said she's having some drinks with friends at her friends house and told me to come by if interested. I have my own plans tonight so I said I'll let her know if I'm in the area.

How long do you wait to reply ? Why didn't you wait a few days ? Like I said it sounds needy. Her inviting you is an IOI

Quote:Okay so this is the story so far, I'm into this girl a lot and as a result it's messing with me a little bit.

Any advice on how to move forward? Date ideas? Appreciated in advance.

Honestly despite all this she seems pretty interested in you still. Good sign.

I know you're excited and happy she's into you but you need to slow down and take your time.

Don't automatically reply to her, if you aren't sure what plans you want to have with her, don't text her.

Don't act needy, don't talk to her all the time, use texts as a way to setup a date and logistics, nothing else.

If you're trying to have sex with her, you need to keep your cool, stay composed, and have more confidence in your game plan with her.

The only way you get better is by learning from your mistakes.

Good luck and keep us updated. [/quote]

(09-26-2014 06:08 PM)RunsWithScissors Wrote:  Been reading through this thread, kudos for all the tips and openers. I just created my Tinder account a couple of days ago and have a few matches. This is how it went with my first match, we'll see where it goes from here. Hard to tell if she's a SIF, tips on how to get a body photo from her via text is appreciated.

Does she have instagram or snapchat ?

"so how do i know you aren't some 6ft 2in dude name bubba who weights 300 lbs and is fresh out of prison ?"

^^^You get what I'm saying with this, put your own spin on it, it's a challenge for them to prove it.

Great job on your replies, I would've said the same things.

An immediate IOI i see is her saying, "You let me know what/when works for you"

Hope to see a post in the I Just Had Sex Thread soon !

Yo kaotic youre the man. Thanks so much for taking time to respond.

Yes youre right, ive messed up quite a bit but she seems into me still.

She was the one that gave me a peck on the lips as we said goodbye and she told me to text her the following day.

So last night she was like she gets off work at 6, and said she wants to go walk and sit down in a park. Im not familiar witbmh the logistics in the area.. should i look into something nearby where i can get food / get comfortable w her?

Step 1. Get a bunch of matches
Step 2. Post a sneaky picture you took of a chick post band as tinder moment. ( Every player has a picture of a chick walking out of the room naked after you banged her)
Step 3. Wait for other girls to like the tinder moment
Step 4. Message those girls with semi direct game.
Step 5. Bang that girl
Step 6. Post picture of that girl as next tinder moment and go to step 3.

^ perpetual pussy machine!!!