(05-25-2017 09:53 AM)Bland Wrote:  I'm really confused about this girl:





Extremely long response times makes me think she's not interested, but she seems like she wants to keep the convo going with questions.

Background: From Tinder and we made out for a bit on the first date.

Note: Today on the last message was May 24th.

Why are you having such detailed text conversations with her? You're not going to put your dick in her through the phone.

Get face to face, then you can talk about festivals.

Agree with Baphomet ^. Your next to her should be logistics on where you will be meeting her for your next date/meet up.

You'll have all the time there to talk about puppy dogs and ice cream (I'm being facetious...don't talk about that stuff).

Stop with the bullshit texts and seeing how her day is.

Shit or get off the pot.

Set up a date, tell her the place, time, and day.

Have her agree or counter offer.

If she doesn't, go silent on her, reach out to her later.


Why do dudes text girls so much ?

Stop doing that and stop double texting her.

The simpler the texts the better, hell even send her some pics of some cool shit you're doing, get her attention and get her talking.

Yes, you need to run a bit of comfort game, but you need to STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT !

(05-25-2017 11:21 AM)[email protected] Wrote:  You'll have all the time there to talk about puppy dogs and ice cream (I'm being facetious...don't talk about that stuff).

But I love puppy dogs .

I agree with you guys. But do you think it matters how long I wait to text her? She didn't text me for three days so should I do that as well or longer? Or should I just text her tonight?

I usually get response times of a day or less or just no response at all. It's these multiple day response times that are throwing me off my normal text game.

Don't try to play games if you don't know how to play them.

You need to reread this whole thread. All 118 pages. Your text game is terrible. Don't dwell on how long to wait if you don't know how to text.

The short answer is, text her now and get the ball rolling. And then learn how to use text to get her on a second date.

(05-25-2017 12:00 PM)Bland Wrote:  

(05-25-2017 11:21 AM)[email protected] Wrote:  You'll have all the time there to talk about puppy dogs and ice cream (I'm being facetious...don't talk about that stuff).

But I love puppy dogs .

I agree with you guys. But do you think it matters how long I wait to text her? She didn't text me for three days so should I do that as well or longer? Or should I just text her tonight?

I usually get response times of a day or less or just no response at all. It's these multiple day response times that are throwing me off my normal text game.

I suggest not texting her again until you're out. Say: "Hey I'm at ______. Come join me for a drink".

Nothing more. If she doesn't respond, her loss.

If you haven't already, start gaming other girls and start forgetting about this one. It is probably a lost cause.

Quote:Your text game is terrible.

Noted.

Quote:If you haven't already, start gaming other girls and start forgetting about this one. It is probably a lost cause.

Yeah, already doing this.

Thanks everybody for your advice.

So i was browsing through this girls instagram (she followed me first around when i first made instagram almost 2 years ago and i followed her back) and ended up liking a few old pics in the process.

We have mutual connections and she went to a neighbouring highschool where i know a lot of people from growing up. She obviously knows of me now because of how long shes been following me and liking my pictures as well.

She messaged me shortly after out of the blue:

Her: Lol last week u liked my pics which were rlly old
Her: And rn you randomly liked a pic from years ago
Her: ??

Me: I liked what i saw, but hahaha sorry i didnt know liking pictures on instagram was a crime ?

Her: Noooo
Her: It's not
Her: I just saw it
Her: So im like lol do i know you maybe

Not sure what to say next in order to create a little conversation to leave an impression on her. Keep in mind I'm still in india and she knows this. But i will be returning home in 2 months.

I definately think this could be an IOI because otherwise she wouldve just ignored my actions. Anyways what i want to donis just transition into a short fun convo, so that i can leave on impression where it would be possible pick up from where i left off when i get back.

All i need is the transition guys i can handle it from there

Edit: Forgot to mention this was instagram direct message, maybe i shouldve posted this in vinny and ragnar's IG thread

Also, the question mark at the end of my message is actually supposed to be a laughing emoji, didnt realise the forum doesnt support them

Vet boy,
You need better text game.

I liked what i saw - don't be defensive
but hahaha sorry - never apologize
i didnt know liking pictures on instagram was a crime - don't be confrontational
? - emojis are for girls

Best response is to just leave it until you get back. You're not going to keep her attention for 2 months.
When you get back, dm her or just like some more old pictures.

Update:

Funny story, I was actually waiting to check for one of you guys to give me a potential response after my workout, and i left the girl on read for the mean time.

Turns out when i got back i saw that she messaged me again after seeing that i read and didnt respond

Here's what she said:

Her: Hey
Her: Sorry for acting up
Her: Let's start over
Her: Hi

I still havent opened the messages, I guess this goes to show sometimes the best response is no response.

@TornadoByProxy I'll keep those things in mind, but when i said " i liked what i saw" i meant it in a straight up, yes i find you attractive way. The liking pictures being a crime was meant to be a joke/sarcasm but i understand text isnt the best form of communicating these things. I agree on the emojis part but i only threw it in there to lighten my tone and not come across so serious.

Anyways your spot on on the attention part and I dont plan on keeping regular conversation going for the 2 months, just want to leave an impression with a short flirty interaction.

Also added her on snapchat and shes added me back, snapchatting every now and then or getting a streak going will be a much better way of staying on her mind i believe.

Any other comments, criticism and advice are welcome

Fired up Tinder again. One of the few openers I used I found on CH somewhere I think.

Me: "How normal are you?"
Her: "In bed or real life?"

(06-01-2017 08:42 PM)RustyShackleford Wrote:  Fired up Tinder again. One of the few openers I used I found on CH somewhere I think.

Me: "How normal are you?"
Her: "In bed or real life?"

Fuck Tinder, go out and get some

Tinder, like going out to eat, should not be a staple of someone's diet. Occasionally, it's not going to kill me. A friend of mine took some nice photos of me and my quality of matches have shot up, but it's certainly not the best or only one someone should game.

Me: So how normal are you?
Her: In bed or real life?
Me: Both
Me: I don't want a normal girl in either
Her: Well good thing I'm not a normal girl then

Went on solid date with online prospect. Ended up back at my place and made out a bit. Tried to push further but she recoiled. Texted her a few days after- no response. Waited about a month and sent restart today.

Me: do ya like ice cream
20 mins later
Her: Sorry... who is this?
2 hours later
Her: Hey come back!

(06-12-2017 01:48 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Went on solid date with online prospect. Ended up back at my place and made out a bit. Tried to push further but she recoiled. Texted her a few days after- no response. Waited about a month and sent restart today.

Me: do ya like ice cream
20 mins later
Her: Sorry... who is this?
2 hours later
Her: Hey come back!

Sounds like you were lost in the flood of her 2500 other Attention Whore Heroin dealers. But maybe not. We'll assume she's pulling your chain.

Possible responses:

1 - sounds tempting, are you going to offer me candy next?

2 - say, do you always talk to strangers?

3 - you forgot the magic word. You might need a lesson!

(06-12-2017 02:15 PM)Baphomet Wrote:  

(06-12-2017 01:48 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Went on solid date with online prospect. Ended up back at my place and made out a bit. Tried to push further but she recoiled. Texted her a few days after- no response. Waited about a month and sent restart today.

Me: do ya like ice cream
20 mins later
Her: Sorry... who is this?
2 hours later
Her: Hey come back!

Sounds like you were lost in the flood of her 2500 other Attention Whore Heroin dealers. But maybe not. We'll assume she's pulling your chain.

Possible responses:

1 - sounds tempting, are you going to offer me candy next?

2 - say, do you always talk to strangers?

3 - you forgot the magic word. You might need a lesson!

went with strangers line. she responded a few mins later.

Her: No my phone deletes messages because I don't have enough storage ::angry emoji:: this number wasn't saved

(06-12-2017 02:26 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  went with strangers line. she responded a few mins later.

Her: No my phone deletes messages because I don't have enough storage ::angry emoji:: this number wasn't saved

Yeah that's a load of shit - phone don't delete messages automatically unless the user agrees to do so.

Also, who the fuck runs out of space for simple texts ? Noone, every bitch makes damn sure they have space for a 1000 selfies.


(Obviously don't call her out, play stupid)

Females hamsters are hilarious.

(06-12-2017 03:12 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-12-2017 02:26 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  went with strangers line. she responded a few mins later.

Her: No my phone deletes messages because I don't have enough storage ::angry emoji:: this number wasn't saved

Yeah that's a load of shit - phone don't delete messages automatically unless the user agrees to do so.

Also, who the fuck runs out of space for simple texts ? Noone, every bitch makes damn sure they have space for a 1000 selfies.


(Obviously don't call her out, play stupid)

Females hamsters are hilarious.

There actually is an iphone setting to auto-delete messages, but I still think she's full of shit.

(06-12-2017 03:46 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

(06-12-2017 03:12 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-12-2017 02:26 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  went with strangers line. she responded a few mins later.

Her: No my phone deletes messages because I don't have enough storage ::angry emoji:: this number wasn't saved

Yeah that's a load of shit - phone don't delete messages automatically unless the user agrees to do so.

Also, who the fuck runs out of space for simple texts ? Noone, every bitch makes damn sure they have space for a 1000 selfies.


(Obviously don't call her out, play stupid)

Females hamsters are hilarious.

There actually is an iphone setting to auto-delete messages, but I still think she's full of shit.

Just checked, never knew that, looks like settings are 1 month, 1 year, or keep forever.

This girl and I just started this new job where we sit at info table for the freshman orientations last week, and during our shift we were vibing pretty well and she was laughing at everything I was saying, and I had my arm around her and shit while we were leaving, and we grabbed some burritos (paid separately) and she dropped me off at my place.

I feel like I def could have gone for the makeout but it was our first shift so I held back. I feel like she's still receptive because she thought she was working my shift on Sunday, and when she said hi she put her arm around my back, but I didn't respond because I was talking to my other coworker.

I'm only working this for summer and I have a better paying job lined up for the fall semester, so I'm not too concerned about shitting where I eat.

Also we pick which days we want to work, so I don't know when she works next so I want to ask her out again without bullshitting over text.

So since she's busy this week should I hit her up this weekend or try to go for something this week, I don't want to come off as needy though?

Calidude,
Ask her when she's working again. Tell her you should put in for the same days. Say "It seems to go by faster. We work well together." Plant those seeds now.
Anything before Saturday seems needy at this point. Just get on the same schedule next week if you can, and assume the sale from there on.

(06-13-2017 02:57 PM)calidude Wrote:  

In addition to what calidude said, let's break down your texts:

Your words: 68
Her words: 44
Verdict: Too wordy.

Your emoticons: 0
Her emoticons: 2
Verdict: You're not using emoticons too much, that's great. However...

Your unecessary "haha" or "lol": 2
Her unecessary "haha" or "lol": 1 (I'm not counting her "Hahah for real!" because she was laughing and agreeing with what you said)
Verdict: Since you shouldn't be using them at all at the end of a sentence, you need to cut that shit out.

Your questions: 3 (counting the weak text that you were GOING to ask her out where you already told her it's all good that she wasn't available even though you never even fucking asked her)
Her questions: 1
Verdict: You're interviewing her instead of making interesting comments, making her laugh, or engaging her emotion and playfulness/sexuality. In addition, you always answered her questions, falling into her frame. Even your answer on the dive bar was very weak, admitting that you didn't even know where it was. Do you really think a girl wants a guy that invites her somewhere he has no idea where it is, much less a random friend? I don't want to go somewhere you sort of heard of that's maybe in a certain area. Why would I want to wander around maybe finding a place? Sounds boring.

I think if she was actually still physical with you your in-person game is a lot better than your text game. You had your arms around this girl and you thought (I hope correctly) that she was into you. Why would you then act like a doormat/meekly over text?

Totally incongruent, which will dry up the pussy rather fast. Get her in person either working or otherwise and escalate using that same fun game that got her interested in the first place.

I just had a pretty strange text exchange. Not going to screen shot it but it goes like this:

Girl: blah blah blah. We should be having this conversation over drinks. blah blah
ME: blah blah blah. I'm game to have this convo over drinks. You free this sunday or sometime early next week? blah blah

This girl usually responds in 30 minutes-2 hours and I respond in 1-4 hours. I responded 2 hours after that text and it's been 2 days and she still hasn't responded to mine. She's normally a very prompt responder. I'm sure she's figuring out her schedule but this shit is fucking stupid.

Background: Girl is my coworker (although we rarely work together). Been working on her for ~5 months. I've been seriously chipping away for a while. Very high quality girl that I'd be down to LTR. Everyone at work has tried and failed to get it in. She's quite passive and hard to get out 1v1. I grabbed the social reigns at my work and throw events just so we can sit next to each other for a few hours. I was excited to see her push it forward. But don't understand why she'd suggest that then go silent. Any idea what to do? I have other options so not trying to smother.

(06-16-2017 04:13 PM)Balkan Wrote:  I just had a pretty strange text exchange. Not going to screen shot it but it goes like this:

Girl: blah blah blah. We should be having this conversation over drinks. blah blah
ME: blah blah blah. I'm game to have this convo over drinks. You free this sunday or sometime early next week? blah blah

This girl usually responds in 30 minutes-2 hours and I respond in 1-4 hours. I responded 2 hours after that text and it's been 2 days and she still hasn't responded to mine. She's normally a very prompt responder. I'm sure she's figuring out her schedule but this shit is fucking stupid.

Background: Girl is my coworker (although we rarely work together). Been working on her for ~5 months. I've been seriously chipping away for a while. Very high quality girl that I'd be down to LTR. Everyone at work has tried and failed to get it in. She's quite passive and hard to get out 1v1. I grabbed the social reigns at my work and throw events just so we can sit next to each other for a few hours. I was excited to see her push it forward. But don't understand why she'd suggest that then go silent. Any idea what to do? I have other options so not trying to smother.

Nooooooooooooooo!

5 months? Talk about slow-game. Is she really all that great or are you severely pedestalizing her?

When she suggested you should have the conversation over drinks you shouldn't have directly accepted her frame. Sure you want to encourage getting drinks with her but make it sound exciting, make it sound intriguing, and be direct.

Ask her what her favorite drink is...one of those bright pink drinks with a curly straw? Poke fun/flirt with her, don't make it easy for her. Girls don't want stuff offered up on a platter to them.

I would've slow-played it, talked to her about how boring the day is going and how you're going to go grab a drink after work (don't even invite her initially), she'll probably invite herself along.

She has to want to hang out with you, you have to engage her emotion and get her intrigued in you.