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ksbms · 2017-04-25 18:10:00 · #2908
(04-24-2017 07:59 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Heartiste: Best All-Purpose Alpha Male Text Responses

Yeah, these are good ones but like everything that not exact science, work most of the time only. Texted a girl, after having a date and some kissing, after her trying to be difficult, "nah", never heard back.

The "I understand" is in my portfolio for some time now - not sure if it's my own invention or I stole it from someone...
Sam Malone · 2017-04-26 18:18:00 · #2909
Notch from last week knows of a standing appointment I usually have this evening. Monday I told her to come by same time tonight (before my appointment):

Her: "I have a class Wednesday night so may not work out. I'll let you know."

My plans changed, I don't have my appointment tonight.

Suggestions on a good text to send to let her know I'm around tonight ?
Jack_Smith · 2017-04-27 07:29:00 · #2910
Let's have some fun...

Just got opened by a 19 YO Tinder match (Jack = 50+). Solid 7. My bio playfully references daddy issues.

BabyGirl: I have daddy issues

Jack:_______?_________

...
Jack_Smith · 2017-04-27 12:36:00 · #2911
(04-27-2017 07:29 AM)Jack_Smith Wrote:  Let's have some fun...

Just got opened by a 19 YO Tinder match (Jack = 50+). Solid 7. My bio playfully references daddy issues.

BabyGirl: I have daddy issues

Jack:_______?_________

...

(04-27-2017 07:56 AM)NordicTom Wrote:  JACK_SMITH - On your tinder match:

I had a similar conversation a week or so ago. I don't know what your girl looks like, but if she hasn't got the typical look (blue hair, choker, tattoos, pierced nose...) I'd play around that, making her qualify herself. Something along the lines of "Do you really? Where's your cliche choker necklace and nose piercing? Wink". Girls love talking about their looks and how you perceive them, in my experience.

The worst response would be to comply with her statement, saying something like "Then you've found you man" or something like that.

Let me know how it goes.

That's perfect. She's got that GND vibe going.

UPDATE FOR FEEDBACK

I typically move quickly to a drinks/coffee meetup and move to text for logistics, like below. Thoughts?


BabyGirl: I have daddy issues

Jack: you sure, woman??
Jack: Where's that ink, choker, barbell, and algae green undercut? Wink

BG: BlahBlahBlah

JS: Question

BG: Yeah

JS: You a Wine, Beer or Cocktails girl?

BG: BlahBlahBlah

JS: I want you to come have ____ with me.

BG: I'm down.

JS: Let's move logistics off Tinder. 222-222-2222.
wonderer1 · 2017-04-28 06:13:00 · #2912
I banged this girl last week. shes gone back 3.5 hours up north. But shes in her home town Kiev over the summer, I want to go there, and I want to bang her while im there. (full thread: https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-62228.html) Text convo so far:

Her: Ukranians are better than british people

Me: Ukranians look better with no underwear

Her: I hope thats not the only thing that makes us better

Me: Another things is what you do once you have no underwear

Her: Well now you know what nationality girlfriend to get (Can anyone tell me what shes trying to say here?)

Me: Maybe ill come across someone in Kiev

Her: Im sure loads will come and speak to you once you arrive. Taxi drivers love to speak to international people. Youll get the biggest attention as you wont know the prices for anything

Me: Sounds great. Im used to attention. Price issue doesnt matter as youll be showing me around.

Her: Yeah, you wish. Ill let them take as much money from you as I can

Me: Haha, youll try and take a slice for yourself, but ill be watching you. When are you there?

Her: You still think ill go there with you? Never

Me: Of course not. I want to try the local delicacy not deliveroo (she said she used to like deliveroo)

Her: we dont have shit like deliveroo, its a healthy country.

Me: How will you survive???

Her: I lived there for 12 years, I have survival skills.

Ive left it at that, shes said no to me seeing her while shes in Ukraine, I want to go there anyway and banging her there would be great. As she said no I replied but now i'm not giving her attention. Was thinking of texting this on Sunday.

Me: Survival of the fittest gone wrong. 12 years is good enough experience to show me around.

If I get anything other than a positive response I'm gone forever, she can reach out to me if she does end up coming down in 3 weeks like she said she might be.
C-Note · 2017-04-28 13:53:00 · #2913
Just had an hour-long coffee first date with a girl with a moderately inflated ego who I was able to get to qualify herself somewhat by using a few mild negs. Afterwards, she texted me, "What was your impression of me?"

I want to respond with something teasing and non-qualifying.
Sketness · 2017-04-28 18:29:00 · #2914
^^^^^

I'd text back something to the tune of a food review
: my impression, was good ,spicy but not to hot, I think I'll try the lemon pepper wings next time"
Agastya · 2017-05-01 20:44:00 · #2915
Me: this is agastya from tinder (devil emoji), save my number
Her: oh well arent you forward
Me: idk i just have some extra weed that im trying to get rid of
Her: lol glad i can come in handy
Me: how tall are you (dumb question)
Her: 5'11, why?

How should I play this in an attractive way? I'm pretty sure I can fuck her if I get her to my room to smoke.
Sam Malone · 2017-05-01 22:26:00 · #2916
^^

"Curious.. I'm (Agastya's height)"

<Send>

(Her garden variety response)

"Makes for a nice mental image (wink emoji)"

<Send>
Rang off the Pipe · 2017-05-03 18:25:00 · #2917
Here's a chick I recently got a number of from on Tinder. She seems interested but I'm not sure where to go from here.


E: Hey C (girl), E (me) from tinder here <devil smiley>
C: Hey what's yo
C: *Up
E: Thinking evil thoughts. You?
C: Eating dinner lol what ya thinking about?
E: Not sure if I should tell you. I wouldn't want to ruin an innocent girl's mind
C: I'm not that innocent
E: Evidence? Evil thoughts are evil after all
C: Evidence that I'm not innocent?
C: Hold up. What makes you think I'm innocent? (obvious shit test here)
E: Do you think I'm an innocent man?
C: Not after confessing evil thoughts <laughing smiley>
E: Oh, fine, fine you win for now
E: <insert picture of meeting spot here> I'll tell you my thoughts there on Friday at 6 <wink smiley>
C: Two words I love to here
C: *hear*
C: I won't be there Friday <laughing smiley>
Sketness · 2017-05-04 16:27:00 · #2918
@'Rang off the pipe

You fucked up when you texted "…not sure if I should tell you…etc "

STOP trying to fuck a girl over the phone!

It never works

The best thing you can do is GET THEM OUT IN PERSON

The text conversation should flow like this:

Light banter > normal everyday conversations (daly habits, what she is doing that week) > suggest a meet up

Outside of this you're just providing her with entertainment ( your just some guy she is texting that boost her ego,whom she doesn't have to commit to)

Then you (guys in general) wounder how to fix the conversation

The goal is to see her face to face

If you don't seem normal over text, how can she expect you to be normal in person?
duedue · 2017-05-10 19:16:00 · #2919
   

That was 6 hours ago.
ksbms · 2017-05-11 06:28:00 · #2920
I re-texted, hail-mary style a portugese girl from two weeks ago:

Quote:[...]saw a girl with a book sitting, couldn’t figure out if she was a tourist, waiting for a friend(s)/family, or something else? She just moved in for her internship. A Portuguese chick with a sexy choker and nice hair. Good chat, was smiling, welcoming body language but then she said her boyfriend was going the next day away for business to another country. Ignored, stacked, suggested coffee, she seemed keen. [...] Sent a feeler a few hours later. No reply.


It was straight up, cut-to-the-chase whatsapp msg asking when she's up to for either coffee or drinks. Surprisingly, she replied quickly asking when. My take was either she was bored or things with her boyfriend changed dynamic quite a bit. Either way, suggested next day - Sunday. She couldn't, then we settled on Thursday. Just to keep it going, I'd text her once or twice a day, she'd always reply, though she didn't seem overly eager. The last exchange, was as per the screenshot below upon which she immediately blocked me.

Good text game or bad text game?

Did I save myself time chasing a girl who didn't want to get caught or not?

What's your take on it?
Jack_Smith · 2017-05-11 11:51:00 · #2921
(05-11-2017 06:28 AM)ksbms Wrote:  I re-texted, hail-mary style a portugese girl from two weeks ago:


Good text game or bad text game?

Did I save myself time chasing a girl who didn't want to get caught or not?

What's your take on it?


I am a student, not an expert, but have a couple thoughts.

1) Excellent work with the re-text. Many would have let her go and missed the opportunity. That is ego game. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

2) Why escalate via text, as opposed to in person? I see no advantage to this, and several disadvantages, foremost among which is that you foreclose plausible deniability.

3) Is it smart to ping girls once the date is set? I know that the conventional wisdom is to text the bitch to lower her flake probability. I say "Fuck That." I have no interest in a woman that needs to be "tended" in order to honor a simple commitment a few days down the road. If she flakes, she is doing you a favor by self selecting OUT of your rotation. Also, every other guy is pinging her like that. Be fuckn different, make that bitch wonder about you.

...
duedue · 2017-05-12 08:41:00 · #2922
(05-11-2017 06:28 AM)ksbms Wrote:  I re-texted, hail-mary style a portugese girl from two weeks ago:

Quote:[...]saw a girl with a book sitting, couldn’t figure out if she was a tourist, waiting for a friend(s)/family, or something else? She just moved in for her internship. A Portuguese chick with a sexy choker and nice hair. Good chat, was smiling, welcoming body language but then she said her boyfriend was going the next day away for business to another country. Ignored, stacked, suggested coffee, she seemed keen. [...] Sent a feeler a few hours later. No reply.


It was straight up, cut-to-the-chase whatsapp msg asking when she's up to for either coffee or drinks. Surprisingly, she replied quickly asking when. My take was either she was bored or things with her boyfriend changed dynamic quite a bit. Either way, suggested next day - Sunday. She couldn't, then we settled on Thursday. Just to keep it going, I'd text her once or twice a day, she'd always reply, though she didn't seem overly eager. The last exchange, was as per the screenshot below upon which she immediately blocked me.

Good text game or bad text game?

Did I save myself time chasing a girl who didn't want to get caught or not?

What's your take on it?

IMO the picture and accompanying text not so good because they make it explicit that you lust after her.
duedue · 2017-05-12 17:59:00 · #2923
I have a question: if your last text is lame and the girl doesn't respond, but it's not something that she has to answer (so not a question or an invitation, just a remark) then should you still "punish" her with silence for a while? Did this to 2 girls today, one of them I had banged. Wanted to ask one of them out for tomorrow.
Jack_Smith · 2017-05-12 22:38:00 · #2924
(05-12-2017 05:59 PM)duedue Wrote:  I have a question: if your last text is lame and the girl doesn't respond, but it's not something that she has to answer (so not a question or an invitation, just a remark) then should you still "punish" her with silence for a while?

If you are the one left with your dick in your hand, both figuratively, by your poor text game, and literally, by not asking her out, whom are you really punishing?
duedue · 2017-05-14 10:39:00 · #2925
Set up a date with a black girl today. Were having a good banter over text (initiated by her) till I told her she didn't squat so it was not going to work out between us. Forgot to include the Wink but sent it later. No response yet. Don't know.
duedue · 2017-05-14 10:45:00 · #2926
(05-12-2017 10:38 PM)Jack_Smith Wrote:  
(05-12-2017 05:59 PM)duedue Wrote:  I have a question: if your last text is lame and the girl doesn't respond, but it's not something that she has to answer (so not a question or an invitation, just a remark) then should you still "punish" her with silence for a while?

If you are the one left with your dick in your hand, both figuratively, by your poor text game, and literally, by not asking her out, whom are you really punishing?

Well the risk is that this may raise her value relative to mine. I did so though; one of them agreed on a date, the other not.
Jack_Smith · 2017-05-14 11:25:00 · #2927
(05-14-2017 10:45 AM)duedue Wrote:  I did so though; one of them agreed on a date, the other not.

Boom. Now make that pussy sing.

(05-14-2017 10:45 AM)duedue Wrote:  Well the risk is that this may raise her value relative to mine.

WTFE. I am a student not a master, but to me this is the type of game thinking that leads to mental masturbation (and actual masturbation) instead of fucking. I like Zan Perrion's (sp?) thinking on this. It's the man's job to put out there what he wants. That's what it is to be a man. She may say "no." She may say "yes." You can't control that. Neither response raises or lowers your value.



Also - how did the other girl turn you down - offer alt date, no response, flat turn down?

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DallasDan · 2017-05-18 19:12:00 · #2928
Alright so I have a pretty rough start with this girl from tinder that I added on snapchat. My online game isn't strong (as in, before I meet someone in person, I'm pretty shit). Anyway, we had a conversation about how attractiveness (both mine and hers) isn't really unique... there are plenty of hotties out there. But good personalities are. And she mentioned getting called stuck up before by a guy who got mad because she didn't want to chill with him. She said she was far from stuck up. I replied "As I get to know you, I'm sure I will learn that." She then said "of course" with a smiley.

That convo kind of died so I didn't txt back again and its been a few days. I want to open up another conversation and was wondering if you guys had any advice
BrandonCodi · 2017-05-18 21:34:00 · #2929
(05-18-2017 07:12 PM)DallasDan Wrote:  Alright so I have a pretty rough start with this girl from tinder that I added on snapchat. My online game isn't strong (as in, before I meet someone in person, I'm pretty shit). Anyway, we had a conversation about how attractiveness (both mine and hers) isn't really unique... there are plenty of hotties out there. But good personalities are. And she mentioned getting called stuck up before by a guy who got mad because she didn't want to chill with him. She said she was far from stuck up. I replied "As I get to know you, I'm sure I will learn that." She then said "of course" with a smiley.

That convo kind of died so I didn't txt back again and its been a few days. I want to open up another conversation and was wondering if you guys had any advice

Lmao why would you say that?? You're implying she's stuck up already. She replied with a smiley at least so it isn't totally lost. I also wouldn't have waiting a few days. I would have opened another conversation the next day or something and moved on.

Whenever a girl sends you a text, you want to change up the amount of time it takes for you to respond. Why? Because you don’t want to be "predictable", and you want to establish the frame that you are a busy guy and aren’t sitting around waiting for her to text you.

Sometimes you’ll reply back within a minute or two; sometimes after an hour… maybe longer. Sometimes you’ll shoot a text back immediately. 

By changing up your response time you’re creating suspense. It’s going to hit one of those emotional buttons like we’ve been discussing. You want her to experience a wide range of emotions to keep her interested. 

When you’ve just spent 10 minutes in “Rapid Fire Reply”(RFR) mode, & then sort of drop off for a little while, she’s going to feel a bit of uncertainty; wondering things like, “Is he mad? Did he lose interest? Did I say something wrong? Did I send the text to the wrong person??” etc…


This is good! Seriously. Because, when you DO text her back again maybe 20 minutes later, or an hour later, she’ll feel that sense of relief & excitement. She’ll get butterflies from the adrenaline rush that your text delivers. It’s that kind of pleasure you feel, ONLY AFTER you’ve had a feeling of loss (or at least “potential” loss).

Yes it IS totally OK to respond right away. In fact, you SHOULD from time to time. It’s also perfectly fine to go into “RFR” for a while. So don’t make the mistake of thinking you always have to wait a long time to reply. She’ll just get tired of texting you altogether if she knows she’s going to have to wait forever to hear back.
Just be unpredictable, & you’ll be golden!

Cheers, brother
DallasDan · 2017-05-18 23:00:00 · #2930
(05-18-2017 09:34 PM)BrandonCodi Wrote:  
(05-18-2017 07:12 PM)DallasDan Wrote:  Alright so I have a pretty rough start with this girl from tinder that I added on snapchat. My online game isn't strong (as in, before I meet someone in person, I'm pretty shit). Anyway, we had a conversation about how attractiveness (both mine and hers) isn't really unique... there are plenty of hotties out there. But good personalities are. And she mentioned getting called stuck up before by a guy who got mad because she didn't want to chill with him. She said she was far from stuck up. I replied "As I get to know you, I'm sure I will learn that." She then said "of course" with a smiley.

That convo kind of died so I didn't txt back again and its been a few days. I want to open up another conversation and was wondering if you guys had any advice

Lmao why would you say that?? You're implying she's stuck up already. She replied with a smiley at least so it isn't totally lost. I also wouldn't have waiting a few days. I would have opened another conversation the next day or something and moved on.

Whenever a girl sends you a text, you want to change up the amount of time it takes for you to respond. Why? Because you don’t want to be "predictable", and you want to establish the frame that you are a busy guy and aren’t sitting around waiting for her to text you.

Sometimes you’ll reply back within a minute or two; sometimes after an hour… maybe longer. Sometimes you’ll shoot a text back immediately. 

By changing up your response time you’re creating suspense. It’s going to hit one of those emotional buttons like we’ve been discussing. You want her to experience a wide range of emotions to keep her interested. 

When you’ve just spent 10 minutes in “Rapid Fire Reply”(RFR) mode, & then sort of drop off for a little while, she’s going to feel a bit of uncertainty; wondering things like, “Is he mad? Did he lose interest? Did I say something wrong? Did I send the text to the wrong person??” etc…


This is good! Seriously. Because, when you DO text her back again maybe 20 minutes later, or an hour later, she’ll feel that sense of relief & excitement. She’ll get butterflies from the adrenaline rush that your text delivers. It’s that kind of pleasure you feel, ONLY AFTER you’ve had a feeling of loss (or at least “potential” loss).

Yes it IS totally OK to respond right away. In fact, you SHOULD from time to time. It’s also perfectly fine to go into “RFR” for a while. So don’t make the mistake of thinking you always have to wait a long time to reply. She’ll just get tired of texting you altogether if she knows she’s going to have to wait forever to hear back.
Just be unpredictable, & you’ll be golden!

Cheers, brother

Hmm yeah I mean I tend to switch it up kind of. Like I do RFR then wait a while. Maybe I wait too long is what you're saying. What I was going for was that I didn't know her enough yet to determine that she wasn't stuck up and kind of opening the door to prove herself to me. Did I fuck up?
AneroidOcean · 2017-05-19 21:00:00 · #2931
(05-18-2017 11:00 PM)DallasDan Wrote:  Hmm yeah I mean I tend to switch it up kind of. Like I do RFR then wait a while. Maybe I wait too long is what you're saying. What I was going for was that I didn't know her enough yet to determine that she wasn't stuck up and kind of opening the door to prove herself to me. Did I fuck up?

I don't think you fucked up. I think it was kind of boring and worse, ends the thread instead of taking it into a new direction, but I don't think you fucked it up.

I'd rate her response from neutral to positive.

Thing is, even if it's positive, there is no continuing that thread really and it's not EXCITING.

Not saying you have to be a dancing pony but check it out, I guarantee you she's talking to other guys on there, so you need to stand out and leave her wanting more.

But you are where you are. I'd send her a completely unrelated picture of you doing something cool/being somewhere cool. Make it interesting/unique.

Or hit her up with something cool you're doing in the near future that she can join you for. You're inviting her, but it's not necessarily even a specific date, something cool that you want to do.
Bland · 2017-05-25 09:53:00 · #2932
I'm really confused about this girl:

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Extremely long response times makes me think she's not interested, but she seems like she wants to keep the convo going with questions.

Background: From Tinder and we made out for a bit on the first date.

Note: Today on the last message was May 24th.
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