Well if you're looking for my advice I already told you I would ignore her/delete number. Sounds like she is just fucking with you. She already told you in the last text exchange she is basically too busy to see you "so much planned for the next few days and I'm leaving Tuesday" and she has not even given you one hint she is interested in going out of her way to spend any kind of time with you or actually meet you besides saying "you should have joined us"

I'd stop wasting my time texting this girl. You need to be talking to more women. If you're desperate to meet her then you can ask to tag along to whatever bullshit her and her friends are up to.

(10-16-2016 02:07 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  Well if you're looking for my advice I already told you I would ignore her/delete number. Sounds like she is just fucking with you. She already told you in the last text exchange she is basically too busy to see you "so much planned for the next few days and I'm leaving Tuesday" and she has not even given you one hint she is interested in going out of her way to spend any kind of time with you or actually meet you besides saying "you should have joined us"

I'd stop wasting my time texting this girl. You need to be talking to more women. If you're desperate to meet her then you can ask to tag along to whatever bullshit her and her friends are up to.

Well she did try to invite me to this stupid concert that I didn't want to go to. That's what the "you should have joined us" comment was all about.

Okay this is really unique. That chick just texted me yesterday

She: "We will be on a booze cruise tonight. You can come along."

Me: Time, place?

No response

About 5 hours later she out of nowhere texted me a photo of her with her friends on the cruise. I take it as in she was mocking me or something. I was fucking furious.

^

Borealis:

First off, she said "You CAN come along." Not "you should come along", not "Join us". Right from the start, she framed it as though you were her little brother and mom said she needed to bring you with her. Should never have responded in the first place.

Ok. I was walking my dogs earlier today and this girl was walking the opposite direction on the sidewalk. We cross paths, my dogs jump on her. Her face is red/she's sweating, I say looks like she's been jogging. Yeah, blah blah blah, we talk for a few minutes, I say, "We should get drinks sometime. Meeting someone like this is way better than meeting in bar." she says she's pretty busy studying for her CPA exam, but yeah, sometime. Ok. Give her my phone, she puts in her number and full name, I say bye.

Text her a few hours later:

"Wanted to start your week off on a high note by saying hi....so without further ado.....hi!"

She replies an hour later:

"Well hello haha"


I wasn't expecting much given how short of an interaction it was. Ideas about a response?

Just got a text from Ivanka....

^

You should ask if her sister is single.

9/10 met at a bar. A combo of bad logistics, her fat cockblock and hordes of chumps having had bought her drinks all night stopped the encounter at a number close. She had the hots for me hard but she was intoxicated so I'm not taking that as a definitive "come over and fuck me" Anyway;

her: .....
me: ..... (built some rapport)
her: .....
me: .....
me: Which brings us to
me: Drinks this Friday
me: And bring me some party gear <party hat emoji> (this is in context for two reasons I wont go into)
her: Haha <thing about me> and <another thing that conflicts with the first thing>, you are a man of many surprises
her: Do I dare to have a drink with you?
me: Drink*s*

Message read an hour and a half after I sent it (was during work hours but this is maybe only a third of the reason) Then gone cold. How do I reboot?

I gave as much detail as possible while maintaining anonimity. I value detailed background info because I work in IT where people come to me with "MY COMPUTER DOESNT WORK.!!!11" Ask in PM if you need anything else.

Gone cold as in how long? I'd leave it until she responds. If no response after a few days, maybe "you die?"

Doubt this will lead anywhere, you made yourself too available after she was rip roaring ready to go and you number "closed."

Tinder chick. Requested the digits quick after some banter and implying meeting.

Me: hey (nickname/teasing based on earlier convo) it's Player_1337.
Her: Haha hey : )

Next day-
Me: meet at TIME tomorrow. wonder woman attire encouraged (based on one of her pics)
Her: Haha where are we going?
Me: VENUE NAME
Her: Ok : )

Day of meet-
She sent the following ~4 hours before scheduled time:

Her: Hey I'm sorry I can't meet you tonight, something came up at work :/


Mediocre excuse with no offer of reschedule. Should I send something curt or joking- or just go radio silent for a few days? Eh, she's probably just attention whoring.

Might as well post something here since I'm on the prowl.

Got digits from a girl that was giving about 10 different signs of being very into me. Texted the next day. Got zero response until some stupid ass hour something like 36 hours later.

Pretty much wrote her off already but decided to send her an interesting picture of something I was doing that was cool.

Nada. Zilch.

Should've got her friend's number too.

Haven't been frozen out that quickly in a long time. Was a splash of cold water on the face.

(10-26-2016 08:40 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Tinder chick. Requested the digits quick after some banter and implying meeting.

Me: hey (nickname/teasing based on earlier convo) it's Player_1337.
Her: Haha hey : )

Next day-
Me: meet at TIME tomorrow. wonder woman attire encouraged (based on one of her pics)
Her: Haha where are we going?
Me: VENUE NAME
Her: Ok : )

Day of meet-
She sent the following ~4 hours before scheduled time:

Her: Hey I'm sorry I can't meet you tonight, something came up at work :/


Mediocre excuse with no offer of reschedule. Should I send something curt or joking- or just go radio silent for a few days? Eh, she's probably just attention whoring.

Update:

I've remained radio silent, but just got the following from her this morning.

Her: Hey I'm so sorry about last night, I had to sub for a girl who got sick. Any chance you want to reschedule?

Good sign, but not sure I buy it (she didn't put forth a specific day/time to reschedule). Still seems like she could be bluffing and is just looking for me to chase. Do I go with a nonchalant reschedule at original venue, or go caveman telling her to just come straight to my place?

(10-27-2016 11:04 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  , or go caveman telling her to just come straight to my place?

No. Why would you do that? That's not "caveman", besides. Cavemen had no virtual internet conversations.

(10-27-2016 11:04 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Do I go with a nonchalant reschedule at original venue

No. That's too boring.

She might need comfort, or some fun vibes. Think of something in that vein.

The most common reason for flakes is that girls don't really know you and are afraid that meeting you could give her a bad and awkward time. So prove her the opposite.

Quick background: Went out with a chick once. Hooked up with her but no sex. She texted me afterwards saying how much fun she had. This was last week.

I text her last night asking how her halloween hangover was.
Her (3 hours later): Do not have one! I'm a pro at avoiding them
Me (this AM around 10): Solid, you wouldn't believe what happened to my buddy when we were out. Pretty busy this week but let's meet up Weds night
Her (3 hours later): Crazy Halloweekend I guess! I have a meeting after exercise class Weds, so Weds doesn't work for me.

What do I say next? I am thinking of saying
"I can't do tonight or Tuesday. Thurs is the only other night, let's do that"
vs changing the subject completely
vs no response but I think this is too extreme

I obviously wish she would have tried to pick another date, but am wondering if by her saying "so Weds doesn't work for me" she is implying that maybe other nights would. For what its worth she is a student and knows I work a full time, very busy job. Any help is appreciated.

Tinder matches.

- How normal are you?
+ Not normal at all.

- How normal are you?
+ Pretty normal

Most of the time I get "define normal" and I can take it from there but these two always make me stumble. I try to look for something in her profile to go with and that ends up hit and miss.

I've been texting the girl from this "approach", there was a fair bit of text ping pong as she tried to ask my last name and Facebook.

I ended up responding with "Why do you want to stalk me?" with a laughter emoticon. To which she replied "Yeah sure".

Australians have terrible comma usage, so it may have come across as "Why, do you want to stalk me?"

I texted back: "I dunno, if you search my name, it should be the most good looking dude that shows up".

Like I said in the "Last name" thread, I evidently have a really common name so that would've been quite a troll.

Silence. Would that line not have gone down well?

I was aiming to go for a zero date bang either tonight or Wednesday, since I found out on FB that she lives in the next suburb to mine.

(11-07-2016 12:48 AM)JWLZG Wrote:  I've been texting the girl from this "approach", there was a fair bit of text ping pong as she tried to ask my last name and Facebook.

"I don't do facebook." Simple as that. The beauty of this answer is it doesn't mean that you don't HAVE facebook (just in case she'd find you there). It implies you just don't want to engage facebook as a means of communication with her. If she'd keep inquiring, you could reply indirectly DHV saying: "I don't have time for petty stuff."

The downside is some girls will get suspicious but that's their problem they believe that having built internet based identity makes you someone more trustworthy than without it. If they think that then they've never been really keen in the first place and/or have serious trust issues.

Now, I have fbk with one pic and almost nothing else there but I'm friends there with just a few dozen of people whom I know very well. I never add girls I sleep with or girlfriends. Some moan about it but I don't add them. If they do keep moaning and we'd message on fbk (or they would stalk me and find me and message me), I still don't add them or let them add me. I just tell them that I prefer to have real experiences with them. I never follow their fbk, 'like' anything or make any comments. Frankly, I'd rather not have fbk but so many people rely on that, I'd miss out on some things that matter to me.

JWLZG,

I just read some of your approaches. You do an excellent job describing them.

I think you're over gaming. Once she gave in and said "yeah sure", you should have just given her your name. Push, pull, push, pull.

I'd have skipped the line about being the best looking guy. She already knows what you look like and you come off as conceited. I think that's where you lost her.

She's probably going to respond eventually.

(11-07-2016 06:22 AM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  JWLZG,

I just read some of your approaches. You do an excellent job describing them.

I think you're over gaming. Once she gave in and said "yeah sure", you should have just given her your name. Push, pull, push, pull.

I'd have skipped the line about being the best looking guy. She already knows what you look like and you come off as conceited. I think that's where you lost her.

She's probably going to respond eventually.

Thanks Tornado. I think I'm just taking the game a bit too fundamentally.

She responded a couple of hours later with, "Unless you find me".

She's either giving me a chance, or is keen herself and indicating I should just stop beating around the bush.

I reckon I should do just that; cut through the bullshit and message back around midday tomorrow to have her around for drinks that night.

What are the ways to respond to "you're too young for me" other than "you're too old for me"

edit: Just occurred to me "thats the point " "you sound intimidated..dont be"(i used this one) "I know ". But yea any suggestions of others will be greatly appreciated

edit: also is there a way to search threads in the search link? I'm sure that this has been asked before but I'm not about to go through 106 other pages...

(11-08-2016 03:01 PM)Mufasa Wrote:  What are the ways to respond to "you're too young for me" other than "you're too old for me"

edit: Just occurred to me "thats the point " "you sound intimidated..dont be"(i used this one) "I know ". But yea any suggestions of others will be greatly appreciated

edit: also is there a way to search threads in the search link? I'm sure that this has been asked before but I'm not about to go through 106 other pages...

   

Ha thanks AO, If it were a snake it woulda bit me.

(11-08-2016 03:01 PM)Mufasa Wrote:  What are the ways to respond to "you're too young for me" other than "you're too old for me"

edit: Just occurred to me "thats the point " "you sound intimidated..dont be"(i used this one) "I know ". But yea any suggestions of others will be greatly appreciated

edit: also is there a way to search threads in the search link? I'm sure that this has been asked before but I'm not about to go through 106 other pages...

Yes, I could be your dad.

Good way to introduce her to calling you daddy.

I find this one bad though "you sound intimidated...don't be"

Hit up an old lead about having wine tonight. She shit tested me and asked more about the wine. Kept it brief, assumed the sale and invited her over. Received one of the bitchiest and most nuclear shit tests of all time.

Her: What are you doing right now?
Me: getting in soon. come at 730
Her: What?! lol I'm about to drive for a little to meet my friend... I figured you can entertain me on my way.

She double texts 5 mins later:
Her: It's cute that you thought I'd want to drop everything and to meet you... haha

So here is the deal:
Most of the time, after making out with a girl, I don't usually text her. Days later she asks how I am doing. Here is where I schedule another date. Simple. I should be fucking busy

However, there are times where you are about to leave the city in 1 or 2 days, and you need to expedite the process. Can't wait for her to miss me. I invite her and things don't go as expected. She is not replying too much etc.

What is your favorite move to push without being needy?