I still can't work out how to quote somebody on here with my cellphone.

Anyway it's carried on over the past 24 hours like this...

Me: you bring it, I'll make it.
Her: Iv never made it, what do I bring!?!?!?!?
Me: Fuck it bring Ben & Jerrys instead
Her: Haha... your not even supplying the ice
cream
Her: it's getting disappointing (wink emoji laughing emoji)
Me: I supply the spoon (wink emoji)
Me: Give me your number we can arrange something
Her: 555.. blah blah blah

Good job MediumRare.

You can't quote on mobile. It's been a long time request on the forum. Switch to full version at the bottom to quote.

(12-13-2016 11:51 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  "you die?" on Thursday night at the earliest.

Possibilities:

1. She wanted to fuck that night, she has a BF in your hometown.
2. She's busy moving back home/with family.
3. She wasn't as interested as you think.
4. She didn't see your text (it didn't come through...very unlikely).

In all cases, the Thursday night at the earliest time-frame is best. You have shit to do, no need to follow up.

However, I'm going to break it to you that if she had anything but real serious interest, your text game may have killed any continued attraction. Breaking it down:

Quote:Sunday 1pm me: Hey "girl" this is Newguy. Nice meeting you last night

Throughout you are way too literal/formal. If she's reading your texts like a book, what kind of book do you want to be? A history/science dry/formal text, or a fantasy romance novel? Okay, you can't/don't want to be Fabio, okay, but don't be Stephen Hawking. Some simple suggestions:

"Hey [red scarf]"

"Hey softlips"

"Hey [girl's name], was fun making you blush"

Quote: 2pm her: Oh hey, what's up? Yeah it was nice meeting you too!

Doesn't sound that positive. If she had put the exclamation point after the what's up part, then it'd look more positive. The "Yeah it was nice meeting you too!" reads like fake positivity.

Quote: 4pm me: I'm studying! When are you headed back home?

Again, what image are you trying to paint in her head? That you're excited about studying? You're excited to talk to her about what you're doing? You answer her question directly, logically. You're falling into her frame. I would feel weird if you were a male classmate and you responded to me with excitement about studying. Why would it be any LESS weird for her?

Okay, some suggestions:

"Your lips were nice"

"back home?"

"come in an hour" (mistaken text play, get her intrigued)

Quote: 5pm her: I think I'm leaving tomorrow morning

You probably lost this long before, but she says she "thinks" she's leaving tomorrow morning. The girl knows when she's leaving otherwise she would explain or ask if you'll be heading home soon or find out your schedule or make some other ploy to have you see her.

Quote: 8pm me: Come meet me for coffee at "place" on Wednesday at 2!

No, why is she worth your time with these non-invested answers of hers?

Why are you EXCITED to invite her to coffee when she's gone from fake enthusiastic to obviously fake answer?

This might sound harsh, but you must've had way better game in person. This means you can improve a lot over text. Go read the rest of this thread and the newbie text guide and pick up as much as you can. Experiment with girls you're not interested in, game your friends. See how they respond to you.

I'm typing all this shit up in sentences and with correct grammar/punctuation in hopes that you'll read it and process it (and it's the forum rules). If I had the benefit of body language and we were sitting across from each other I'd be laughing and telling you all this in about a quarter of the words. I'd probably also be seeking out dateable girls to fuck with showing them the texts to analyze her interest so you can see how quickly this kind of texting dries up their mental vagina right in front of you.

Thanks for the detailed breakdown AO. I've read over a lot of this thread, memorable text exchanges, and the text guide. I made drastic changes over the past couple days, but I still need experience. Girls seem to be much more engaged and are texting back quicker. Regarding the original girl, I texted her last night with your suggestion.

8pm Me: "you die?"
10pm Her: "hahah wassup ya night of the living dead"
11pm Me: "Call them" ( probably should have sent it in the morning)

No response. I might send out a restart after Christmas.

Sorry i read quickly so pretty sure im missing something, but whats "call them" supposed to mean here? Who's them?

This was a conversation after she went cold when I tried to set up a date.

My goal was to make her wonder what I was talking about. If she replied, I would have said something like "The ghost busters" or "My dog charlie"-->"He is dead" and then gauge her response before proceeding. Feel free to be harsh, I'm trying to learn.

I dont know man it seems really random and weird, not to mention useless.
Shes probably as confused as i am and even if she inquires about it, your response is still gonna be awkward.

Whole setup doesnt help you advance things in any way, and isnt even smalltalk.

Id have probably went with something along the lines of finding zombies sexy or taking her out if she promises not to bite your neck, some shit like that. Might be lame too but at least its pointing towards something.

I like it newguy. I see what Beirut is saying, but you didn't respond too quickly and you had a good follow up.
You're just going to have to catch her when she's bored over vacation (as long as she doesn't have a boyfriend which she probably does.) girls don't like mixing their school guys with their home world.
Get on POF or OKC to practice your text game more. Have no expectations and you won't burn out.

Thanks guys, I'll practice more on dating apps.
-- got a reply
Her: "What do you mean?"
Me 10min: "Dated a couple zombies, all fun n games till they bite u"
Her 1hr later: "I don't recall every biting u :/"

Here is the progression.
Me: "Dated a couple zombies, all fun n games till they bite u"
Her: "I don't recall every biting u :/" (1hr later)
Me: "Oh dear aggression and memory loss r the first symptoms" (2hr later)
Her: "what're the other symptoms" (2hr later)
Me: "You must have an examination" (texts are 5min between here and on)
Her: "damn I must be quite ill then :/"
Me: "U attacked me viciously and it can only get worse"
Her: "wait I'm actually lost"
Me: "See no memory!"
Her: "okay, well I'm sorry for any attack! I truly do not remember such a thing"
Me: "Tiny but mighty"
Her: "actually, when did I attack u"
Me: "Picture this"
Me: "I was at [club] having fun with some friends. Then this zombie chick out of nowhere attacks my lips"
Her: "Yikes. Hey, honestly I'm super sorry for that night. It was my friend's birthday so we all kind of got out of hand."
Me: "Haha your lips were nice"

I really don't think she was drunk. Like AO and TBP said before, based off her responses, she probably has a bf.

Guess I should ping her every week or so to stay on her mind.

Girl explaining her NYE plans, adding: 'yes it is always exciting what the night is going to bring'

I could say nothing, but maybe also something flirty?

(12-27-2016 01:41 PM)Lime Wrote:  Girl explaining her NYE plans, adding: 'yes it is always exciting what the night is going to bring'

I could say nothing, but maybe also something flirty?

Give us context. What are her plans?

^^^ What's your goal? Get her out on NYE?

^She has two parties that night with female friends and I will be out of the country on NYE

(12-27-2016 03:17 PM)Lime Wrote:  ^She has two parties that night with female friends and I will be out of the country on NYE

Send her this picture on NYE:



Include "Let's make it our New Year's resolutions to have drinks and talk shit". Depending on her response, set something up right away or hit her up when you're back home.

I wanna send a restart text to all cold leads wishing them a happy new year. Anyone think of any fun/witty thing to say?

Opened this girl on the bus from airport to parking lot. We spoke about 15 minutes and had a good vibe.
   
   
   


It's dead I know but wanted to know how bad my text game is.

This is something that requires common sense. If you do not have any, then it cannot be taught to you.

We do not know the situation, and we do not know if you are a liar.

Don't make yourself look like an idiot

Been talking to this girl I met a couple weeks ago I'd say she's a 7,5

We spent almost all day talking about relatioships and now the conversation is like this

her: I don't have anyone at the moment
me: do you want to have someone?
her: I don't know
me: oh
her: relationships are too much trouble
me: yes right
her: there's are no longer men like in the old days... (by this she means that men today are mostly liars, cheaters...)

Now I want a killer response, keep in mind this is a girl I really want to bang

Pablo, I wouldn't try to have that conversation over text. That's best in person while escalating.
Also, you're selling yourself as a beta provider with your line of questions. Looks like you're begging her for a relationship.

(01-09-2017 05:59 PM)pablogaviria Wrote:  Been talking to this girl I met a couple weeks ago I'd say she's a 7,5

her: I don't have anyone at the moment
me: do you want to have someone?
her: I don't know
you: life is short, we only live once. no time ot be boring lol. what are you doing friday?

In the above, I wouldn't go into the line of questioning about her relationship status in the first place, it seems needy. Have the balls to straight-up ask her out and if she has someone she'll let you know. I know it's tempting to be safe but great men didn't achieve great things by being safe. They did it by being bold. Even if you do ask and she says "I don't have anyone at the moment" (which btw doesn't mean she doesn't have a FWB or 2), then change the topic before asking her for a date.

Quote:her: there's are no longer men like in the old days...
you: psh, old men are overrated. what are you doing friday?

Off of OKC I quickly set up a date an' everything, but very shortly after, she bailed, reasoning, among other bullshit, how my lack of punctuation in my texts "adds to the unsettling feeling". These women are truly worthless.

Been texting with this girl for about a week. I actually "met" her through a friend of a friend. We were basically introduced to each other over Facebook but haven't met in person yet. We have a date set up for this evening, and she's coming straight to my place for drinks. She's 32, going through a divorce, and from what I can tell this is only her 2nd date since the divorce with someone. Through her texts I can tell that she's nervous but also excited about meeting.

I just get this text from her this morning

"So I spaced out when I set our date for tonight. I forgot I'm supposed to meet some friends later tonight so I will probably only be able to hang out for a couple of hours. But if things go well, and I don't scare you away, I'm also free tomorrow night as well. Just throwing that out there"

Any suggested responses? Was thinking something along the lines of :

"Couple of hours will be more than enough time for me to lock you up in my basement" (In reference to a joke she made earlier about coming straight to my house and me holding her captive or being an axe murderer)

"Couple of hours? How long do you think an axe murderer needs?"

Turnus,
Changing plans last minute is very disrespectful. I don't see any reason to make a joke of it.
She's obviously planning her escape in case you are a creep. It's better to turn it around on her.

"let's see how tonight goes before we think about tomorrow"

(01-13-2017 10:22 AM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  Turnus,
Changing plans last minute is very disrespectful. I don't see any reason to make a joke of it.
She's obviously planning her escape in case you are a creep. It's better to turn it around on her.

"let's see how tonight goes before we think about tomorrow"

Response is good, but I don't understand the negativity.

It's a friend of a friend date setup over Facebook of all things. They've never met in person and she's going straight to his place. Apprehension on her part is normal and to be expected. Definitely better to not overreact in this situation. TornadoByProxy is right that this is probably just a way for her to have an escape plan. Nothing big to be concerned about.

Make sure she's comfortable then 2 steps forward, 1 step back until you're there. Be forewarned that she'll probably be at least 10 lbs heavier than she appears on Facebook.

(01-06-2017 08:50 PM)duedue Wrote:  Opened this girl on the bus from airport to parking lot. We spoke about 15 minutes and had a good vibe.

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It's dead I know but wanted to know how bad my text game is.

Your texts seem a little tryhard and hers seem disinterested. Example, the "I see u have a XXX number" is a pointless text. Here is a few rules about what you should be saying when texting a girl:

1: salutations
2: jokes
3: logistics
4: responses to her questions

Any other content is needless. You don't need to make random observations unless you are making a joke or poking fun at her. You don't need to ask her questions over text that are not related to making plans. When texting women, I use it for funny chat/banter and logistics only. No getting to know eachother or idle chat.

As for how to save this lead, considering it has been about a week, I would restart "Hey whats up" and go from there. When she says "not much you?" you can say "just got back from the gym. Whatchoo got going on this week" her response will tell you her interest in seeing you. If she makes herself sound mad busy then she is not giving you any opportunity to make plans. If she says "oh just work" or "not much" whatever then say "lets get together one of these nights" and get her to give up her schedule/what nights she is free. If she makes herself seem open then just pick a night "I'm free xxxday" - if she says she can't then ask her what night(s) shes free.

(01-09-2017 05:59 PM)pablogaviria Wrote:  Been talking to this girl I met a couple weeks ago I'd say she's a 7,5

We spent almost all day talking about relatioships and now the conversation is like this

her: I don't have anyone at the moment
me: do you want to have someone?
her: I don't know
me: oh
her: relationships are too much trouble
me: yes right
her: there's are no longer men like in the old days... (by this she means that men today are mostly liars, cheaters...)

Now I want a killer response, keep in mind this is a girl I really want to bang

You shot yourself in the foot right off with the "do you want someone?" line. Your response should have been "What a coincidence me neither!" then you could play off of that. Don't ask girls what they want. Tell them what you want or make jokes off of their statements etc.

Anyway, say this:

"Do you consider yourself old fashioned?"

She'll say "yes" and maybe elaborate or give a "sort of" answer whatever. She will qualify herself. Then you respond with simply "I like that" then angle towards making plans from there.