Context: Been on three dates with this woman (36 7/10). No bang yet due to logistics and her past although she was sorely tempted and said so via text.

Anyway, there has been a bit of back and forth teasing via text (mainly her bemoaning the fact that I let her walk home alone in the rain after our last date etc ... nothing that I'm particularly bothered about).

She recently updated her whatsapp pic which showed her alongside a friend.

Me: Prefer the one on the right (which happens to be her)
Her: Rumour has it she was seen out kissing a handsome man
Me: I guess I'll have to look elsewhere ...
Her: Don't worry I heard he let her walk home at night in the rain so she's still available
Me: I guess chivalry is dead
Her: Is there any glimmer of it coming back from the dead or shall I order the cats now?
Me: I hear that are a few handsome masculine no-nonsense men out there so you can put your order for catnip on hold
Her: Great I will look forward to going for a drink with one soon
Her: Are you just going to the gym to get hot and sweaty?

So ... I have come up with a few responses but wanted your opinion/s:

1) No
2) I go there exclusively to chat up hot women in tight fitting clothes and lycra
3) Gotta take the guns to the range

Still a novice to the "game" but her last message seems to be a mild shit test especially as she knows that I like to stay fit so I'm leaning towards #2 but #3 may be less confrontational.

Advice/thoughts/input appreciated gentlemen ...

Dude, that's not a shit test, she's flirting and making it sexual. I'd go with,
"It's my second favorite way to get hot and sweaty"

(02-09-2016 10:10 AM)Ensam Wrote:  Dude, that's not a shit test, she's flirting and making it sexual. I'd go with,
"It's my second favorite way to get hot and sweaty"

Thanks Ensam and I like your response. But I get the impression she is trying to work out whether I am hooking up with other women and I'd like to perpetuate that idea if it gets me closer to the bang.

Don't over think it. Communicate your prowess through your actions not your words.

The response I suggested plays along with the sexual innuendo and sets up an opportunity for you to invite her over to show her what your favorite way is. That's what a guy who gets a lot of women would do.

(02-08-2016 06:42 AM)southern120 Wrote:  

(02-05-2016 09:33 PM)Bill Brasky Wrote:  Met a girl that works at my gym in the city. Got this response:

Her: Hey Bill Brasky, availability is non-existing through Tuesday. That being said, I am going to have to decline your invitation to coffee. Although flattering, you completely caught me off guard last night and honestly I'd rather not hang out with gym members. I hope you understand. Thanks again, and I'll see you around.

I honestly expected this response and it seems reasonable. How to proceed?

"Hey [x]! No drama, totally understand. I hope you have a nice life, or alternatively step off the curb tomorrow morning and get hit by a truck. Either is cool with me. Cheers."

haha that response is so G and funny at the same time. I am gonna start using this line. Have you ever used it?

(02-08-2016 06:42 AM)southern120 Wrote:  

(02-05-2016 09:33 PM)Bill Brasky Wrote:  Met a girl that works at my gym in the city. Got this response:

Her: Hey Bill Brasky, availability is non-existing through Tuesday. That being said, I am going to have to decline your invitation to coffee. Although flattering, you completely caught me off guard last night and honestly I'd rather not hang out with gym members. I hope you understand. Thanks again, and I'll see you around.

I honestly expected this response and it seems reasonable. How to proceed?

"Hey [x]! No drama, totally understand. I hope you have a nice life, or alternatively step off the curb tomorrow morning and get hit by a truck. Either is cool with me. Cheers."

Goddamn that made me laugh.

If an ex texts you, or you get unwanted texts from a chick, ignore than bitch.

If you have an iPhone, block that bitch.

Eventually they go away and ignore them.

The last thing you need to be doing is wasting energy on "loser females" as Jariel would say.

Use your time texting new chicks.

(02-09-2016 12:12 PM)pitt Wrote:  

(02-08-2016 06:42 AM)southern120 Wrote:  "Hey [x]! No drama, totally understand. I hope you have a nice life, or alternatively step off the curb tomorrow morning and get hit by a truck. Either is cool with me. Cheers."

haha that response is so G and funny at the same time. I am gonna start using this line. Have you ever used it?

Nope, all yours. Enjoy.

Matched a girl from Tinder on Sunday and got her number, had a few whatsapp messages after getting her number. Arranged to meet her next weekend (was suppose to be this friday but she said maybe depending on her bro and didnt want to be backup). Havent messaged her since sunday, question is should i message her to remind her of me or leave it till next week?

^I'd send her a message to stay on her radar. Just send her a picture of something you both were talking about previously or something you both laughed about when you were on whatsapp (i.e., saw a guy doing xx on the subway today haha).

Quick one. Been out with this tinder girl 3x times. No bang but real close. Hung out with her Thursday.. Next night she texted me at like 2 am asking if I was out. Texted her back next morning. Got no response.

Now it's 3 days later.. We had made plans on the last date to potentially make dinner.. So I texted: What did u decide to cook for me?

No response again. What's my next move?

PS: she did this before where she didn't respond to my text.. I waited a week and gave her a restart text.. We went out the next night. That was the last date. But she was in the middle of exams so busy.. I'm lost now

(02-14-2016 05:36 PM)spaceman Wrote:  Quick one. Been out with this tinder girl 3x times. No bang but real close. Hung out with her Thursday.. Next night she texted me at like 2 am asking if I was out. Texted her back next morning. Got no response.

Now it's 3 days later.. We had made plans on the last date to potentially make dinner.. So I texted: What did u decide to cook for me?

No response again. What's my next move?

PS: she did this before where she didn't respond to my text.. I waited a week and gave her a restart text.. We went out the next night. That was the last date. But she was in the middle of exams so busy.. I'm lost now

My goto is "chu doin"

I'm more asking when should I text again? Plus this chick is German so her English isn't perfect.

Was thinking about Maybe tomorrow? ( we were supposed to hang out in 2 days.. The night before her birthday):

Hey hey xxx hope you had a nice weekend I'm soo sore from snowboarding. How’s your birthday week looking?

Feels like it's too soon though

OK nm.. She wrote back:
I'm sorry space but I can't meet you again...there are some problems with my ex. Actually we broke up but I'm not over him. Sorry for that

Thoughts? I'm pretty sure I can nail her in the future but she goes to second tier

Was thinking of writing back: hey xxx.. No worries. I knew u were trouble from the beginning have a nice bday.. Let's chat soon

Its her bday in 2 days. I'd ping her again in a week or so. How's that sound?

^^ As long as you're working on other solid leads. Otherwise it reeks of desperation.

I've got my regular chick I'm dating.. This one was just another one for the rotation.. Pretty hot though. Should I text something else instead?

(02-15-2016 11:20 AM)spaceman Wrote:  I've got my regular chick I'm dating.. This one was just another one for the rotation.. Pretty hot though. Should I text something else instead?

She's soft nexting you dude, basically using a scapegoat for why she doesn't want to see you anymore.

If she was polite to you, then just tell her no worries, doors always open and move on.

Personally, I wouldn't even bother responding back and wasting my time with her.

I'll bet you anything she was still seeing her ex when she went on that first date with you.

Thanks I also considered that.. Weird cause she blew me like 3 days ago.. No sex though. Stupid girls. I'll send something quick and next her

After three dates she blew you but didn't fuck you ?

Something's not right here, have you pushed for the bang consistently ?

She obviously entertained the idea of fucking you, she had your dick in her mouth.

Sounds like you failed some sort of shit test and she ran off back to her boyfriend or you didn't push for the bang enough.

(02-14-2016 05:36 PM)spaceman Wrote:  Quick one. Been out with this tinder girl 3x times. No bang but real close. Hung out with her Thursday.. Next night she texted me at like 2 am asking if I was out. Texted her back next morning. Got no response.

Now it's 3 days later.. We had made plans on the last date to potentially make dinner.. So I texted: What did u decide to cook for me?

No response again. What's my next move?

PS: she did this before where she didn't respond to my text.. I waited a week and gave her a restart text.. We went out the next night. That was the last date. But she was in the middle of exams so busy.. I'm lost now

Do you really think a girl is going to look forward to having to plan a date, much less what she's going to cook for you? A girl who is fully on board with you and considers you much higher value than her and is totally enthralled with you, yes. This girl and nearly all others, no.

(02-15-2016 08:20 AM)spaceman Wrote:  OK nm.. She wrote back:
I'm sorry space but I can't meet you again...there are some problems with my ex. Actually we broke up but I'm not over him. Sorry for that

Thoughts? I'm pretty sure I can nail her in the future but she goes to second tier

Was thinking of writing back: hey xxx.. No worries. I knew u were trouble from the beginning have a nice bday.. Let's chat soon

Its her bday in 2 days. I'd ping her again in a week or so. How's that sound?

Her birthday is nearing and she wants to hang out with all her friends and have a great time but she wants to have her boyfriend around instead of having to explain to all her friends about how they broke up. Your possible response has over use of punctuation, is much too long, and has unnecessary use of smileys.

Do you really think that girls want to fuck a guy who uses smileys before they fuck him?

You don't, since you said you'd send something quick and next her. Problem solved at this point, but keep this in mind for the future. Having a girl invest in you is one thing, but it needs to come from a position of their intense interest in you and you obviously being higher value compared to her.

Women that hot have a shitload of options, you didn't make yourself a good enough one to warrant being boyfriend-less for her upcoming birthday.

Weird situation, trying to keep it brief while including the pertinent stuff.

I've got two Tinder profiles. One is for local swiping (real name), the other is for when the job takes me out of town (false name). The 'Home' profile is more refined, less direct, and with face pics but has been successful to a degree. The 'Away' profile takes a page out of VforVlad's "Serbian Notch" Tinder game (older man vs Serbian), no face pics, suggestive body pics, and gets right to the point. The success rate between the two is about 50/50. And sometimes I use both profiles in the same area.

Last week, I was using the away profile, and matched with a 8/10, 36. She sent a message, I sent one a while later. The next morning, she asks why there's no face pic. I respond that afternoon, asking why there's not a body pic. She responds that evening. The usual banter, then she asks again why no face pic. I tell her to send me a body pic, XXX-XXXX (throwaway number), half thinking she'll go cold on that.
The next day, she sends me a body pic with "Hey (George)". I sent her a face pic with "Hi (her name)". She sends another pic, nothing revealing, but shows off her body nicely. I reciprocate.

We get to texting more, and she has a five year old daughter (not a big deal, I have three kids myself). We're both divorced, both have 50/50 custody, yada yada yada.

(Brief interlude, I went through a divorce about a year and a half ago. Did a lot of research, prepared my case well, and settled on the courthouse steps on day of. Ended up with most of what I wanted, including the house. I'm not an attorney, but I've got a pretty good idea what I'm talking about, especially regarding the above).

I stated something factual (that who stays in the marital home plays a big part where it can, ex school districts). She retorted that "hate to tell you but that doesn't mean anything", then tells me that because my kids are older (my oldest is twelve) they can decide for themselves (which is another falsehood).
I ask when she doesn't have her kid, she texts back about 20 minutes later that she was putting her kid to bed, I say "that's cool, do you have her a lot ?"

Silence. No response. I write it off.

This morning I'm swiping on my home profile, and this same girl matched with my home profile now.



I'm not opposed to unmatching, but it does say something that this chick doesn't recognize that the face pic I sent via text from the away profile looks a lot like the face in the home profile. I don't think it's the face she's looking for...

I've got two throwaway numbers (one for online dating, one for selling stuff on CL and the like). So I could throw her the CL number.

Ideas on how to approach this would be appreciated.

^ You turned her off with overly personal shit instead of going straight for the meet. Don't talk about your family or your opinions on shit, no good will come of it. Keep it light and playful.

(02-16-2016 10:20 AM)George is King Wrote:  I ask when she doesn't have her kid, she texts back about 20 minutes later that she was putting her kid to bed, I say "that's cool, do you have her a lot ?"

Silence. No response. I write it off.

Women try to express via social media and dating websites that there "kids always come first." You were pretty much asking when she has the next opportunity to ditch the thing she loves most in the world.

Like Red_Pillage said, keep it light and playful. You can talk about that kind of stuff if you meet up with her in person. If I was you, I may send a re-engage text in a few days to feel her out. But, in all honesty, I'd forget about her and move onto the next five prospects.

Don't be stagnate. Keep moving through Tinder and real life approaches.

I match with an asian girl on tinder. Her profile reads that she's into video games. I open with:

Me: "I challenge you to a game of street fighter"

Her: "I'm not good at fighting games D:"

What's a good reply?

What game do you like to play, besides video games?