^^^^^ haha!

I miss this thread

Been texting this girl for a bit, she went silent on me for a week then drops a "sorry I'm bad at replying to people" message yesterday. We kept texting some then I had a shower and went to bed during which she sent two texts describing her outlandish travel dreams.

I would like to text back later today "looks like we need to plan your escape from the real world. Drinks tomorrow around 8?"

Smooth yay/nay?

(02-17-2016 01:47 AM)Gregmo Wrote:  Been texting this girl for a bit, she went silent on me for a week then drops a "sorry I'm bad at replying to people" message yesterday. We kept texting some then I had a shower and went to bed during which she sent two texts describing her outlandish travel dreams.

I would like to text back later today "looks like we need to plan your escape from the real world. Drinks tomorrow around 8?"

Smooth yay/nay?

I'd also add a place suggestion like 'at xxxx bar on xxxxx street'.
What I did once when I was suggesting meeting up for drinks with a girl, was take a picture of me holding a beer can over my crotch area (so it looks like my dick) and text her: 'want some beer?'.
She replied back saying she was out with friends and it made her laugh really loud at the table. I banged her the next day.

(02-17-2016 08:06 PM)zmgty150 Wrote:  

(02-17-2016 01:47 AM)Gregmo Wrote:  Been texting this girl for a bit, she went silent on me for a week then drops a "sorry I'm bad at replying to people" message yesterday. We kept texting some then I had a shower and went to bed during which she sent two texts describing her outlandish travel dreams.

I would like to text back later today "looks like we need to plan your escape from the real world. Drinks tomorrow around 8?"

Smooth yay/nay?

I'd also add a place suggestion like 'at xxxx bar on xxxxx street'.
What I did once when I was suggesting meeting up for drinks with a girl, was take a picture of me holding a beer can over my crotch area (so it looks like my dick) and text her: 'want some beer?'.
She replied back saying she was out with friends and it made her laugh really loud at the table. I banged her the next day.

"Looks like we need to plan your escape from the real world over a drink or two tomorrow (or whatever day)! Does 8pm in -insert area- work?"

I stopped giving exact address (and by exact address I mean "corner of x & y") until the meeting day. It shows too much interest otherwise plus I can use it as an excuse to confirm with her later. If she's interested, she'll appreciate the confirmation in meeting day and you'll hear from her. If you don't hear from her or hear -insert excuse-, you can make other plans.

^ don't ask if it works. Never ask permission.

Call me old fashioned but I hate all the wordy, cutesy, gay-as-fuck replies that some people like to use. This is why I hate texting. I'll use it for logistics and that's it. If I find myself pondering about what to text, I know I've already lost.

(02-15-2016 01:37 PM)kaotic Wrote:  After three dates she blew you but didn't fuck you ?

Yeah and the vibe was cool. that we would hang out again etc. I pushed pretty hard for sex every date though... She just wouldn't go for it. I think this whole thing is related to Valentines Day and her birthday maybe... the dude reappeared in her life maybe?

(02-15-2016 08:49 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  Do you really think a girl is going to look forward to having to plan a date, much less what she's going to cook for you? A girl who is fully on board with you and considers you much higher value than her and is totally enthralled with you, yes. This girl and nearly all others, no.

Her birthday is nearing and she wants to hang out with all her friends and have a great time but she wants to have her boyfriend around instead of having to explain to all her friends about how they broke up. Your possible response has over use of punctuation, is much too long, and has unnecessary use of smileys.

Do you really think that girls want to fuck a guy who uses smileys before they fuck him?

You don't, since you said you'd send something quick and next her. Problem solved at this point, but keep this in mind for the future. Having a girl invest in you is one thing, but it needs to come from a position of their intense interest in you and you obviously being higher value compared to her.

Women that hot have a shitload of options, you didn't make yourself a good enough one to warrant being boyfriend-less for her upcoming birthday.

Those are some really good points...I was a bit lost as to what to text her and now I am pissed off at myself as this girl was really cute. I did feel as though I was chasing her the whole time (and trying too hard). I agree about the cooking text though.. It was more of a joke to get the conversation started but maybe she took it too serious... I will try something more generic and logistical in my texts to girls from now on until I have fucked them.

Besides moving on... which I am doing.. any thoughts on when and what to text her? I was thinking in a couple of weeks maybe a quick hey how was your birthday? text
I just find it strange that 3 days previous she was all over me and drunk texting me... then she can't see me... :O

(02-18-2016 06:02 PM)spaceman Wrote:  Besides moving on... which I am doing.. any thoughts on when and what to text her? I was thinking in a couple of weeks maybe a quick hey how was your birthday? text
I just find it strange that 3 days previous she was all over me and drunk texting me... then she can't see me... :O

"you die?"

Guys, do you have good suggestions as to how to deal with girls putting off a date?

I just got a message from a chick saying she's too booked this weekend, but maybe next one.
She can't be THAT busy...

(02-19-2016 07:08 PM)zmgty150 Wrote:  Guys, do you have good suggestions as to how to deal with girls putting off a date?

I just got a message from a chick saying she's too booked this weekend, but maybe next one.
She can't be THAT busy...

Why are you hanging out weekends ?

She can't hangout evening weekdays ? Can you ?

Is this your first time hanging with her ?

How many dates have you been on ?

I don't try and hangout with girls on weekend unless they really can't.

Sounds like she's giving you the soft next.

(02-19-2016 07:29 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(02-19-2016 07:08 PM)zmgty150 Wrote:  Guys, do you have good suggestions as to how to deal with girls putting off a date?

I just got a message from a chick saying she's too booked this weekend, but maybe next one.
She can't be THAT busy...

Why are you hanging out weekends ?

She can't hangout evening weekdays ? Can you ?

Is this your first time hanging with her ?

How many dates have you been on ?

I don't try and hangout with girls on weekend unless they really can't.

Sounds like she's giving you the soft next.

It's an Asian tinder match, we never met up before. We've been messaging on tinder for a week now, and I suggested meeting up this coming weekend.

I prefer weekends because work comes in the way of playing during the week. Tho if push comes a shove, play can be arranged during the week.
But yeah, she might be giving me the soft next, because she didn't suggest any other time, but just said 'Sounds like fun, but I'm booked this weekend. maybe next weekend?'.

So move on to the next one?

Usually when a woman doesn't counter offer and she isn't show much interest, you're low on her cock totem pole.

I wouldn't next her quite yet, just leave it be till middle of next week, set up a a time, place, location and drop that on her, see how she responds.

If she's interested she'll reply agreeing or counter, if not, next.

Keep gaming other girls.

(02-19-2016 04:28 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  "you die?"

haha... isn't that harsh?
i was thinking: how was your birthday old lady?

No, it's not. It is short, simple, easy and a low investement of your time which she can respond to, or not.

Most of al it show less thirst. Birthday? Oh, you didn't remember because you were busy banging other girls, not having her on your mind.

Calling a girl "old lady" is a surefire way to dry up the pussy.

(02-19-2016 04:28 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(02-18-2016 06:02 PM)spaceman Wrote:  Besides moving on... which I am doing.. any thoughts on when and what to text her? I was thinking in a couple of weeks maybe a quick hey how was your birthday? text
I just find it strange that 3 days previous she was all over me and drunk texting me... then she can't see me... :O

"you die?"

Ha last time I sent this, I wasn't paying close attention and it auto-corrected as I hit send to say, "did you died?" I immediately wanted that message back because it sounded like something a 3-year-old would say... But she thought it was funny and it worked as a restart.

I had SNL with a hot (8-9) chick last Saturday. Fucked her brains out and everything went rather smooth except of few little things I did that might have come across as a little needy. I kissed her very briefly the following morning downstairs and walked her into a cab. When I was about to say my usual "It was nice meeting you, let's hang out sometime." and give her a goodbye hug, she basically cut me in with "Ok, ok" and got into the cab. I asked something like "maybe we'll hang out next weekend?", to which she replied "Maybe" and shut the car door. Mind you this is in China and she's from here so the dynamics are a bit different than in the West, sometimes it's difficult to adjust my game between more promiscuous HBs and more traditional women. I'm a tall and pretty good looking dude.

I contact her the same day in the afternoon (in hindsight might have been too soon, but I sort of wanted to minimize her buyer's remorse) via text, get her number (but she says she prefers to text - everyone in China just uses Wechat). I try to set up a date on either Wed or Thu (I mentioned a cool beer place I want to take her to), she says she'll let me know because "she's not sure now. Where about?". I tell her name of the area and 2 days of radio silence later I send her a bait text. She responds after half an hour and then I ask:

G-g: anyways, how is tomorrow evening looking
HB: Haha I don't know if I still got the interests <coy emoji> I always do things follow my mood <chuckle emoji>

What do you think? My buddy told me she's being a bitch and I shouldn't reply until next week.

I'm perplexed because as far as I know I gave her an amazing sex and this week she's in her peak horniness (I asked when was her last period).
But who knows how many other guys she's dating. One thing I know for sure is that I haven't really built any deep connection, it was a pretty quick and smooth pull. I've read the "Securing 2nd dates after SNL" thread and a bunch of other advice but at this point I'm still wondering if there's anything I can do to increase the chances of banging her/seeing her again, if not this week, then in the future.

You were way too thirsty and clingy. Imagine you banged some chick just because you felt like banging and she starts planning an ton of 'things we should do together' right after the bang..

Just say your goodbye's and wait for her to make the first move. If she doesn't you can always text her after a week or so.

Try restarting her maybe by the end of next week. Tell her you have got something fun plannend and that she's welcome to come along.

Sounds like you didn't read the situation well. Probably got to work on that. I'd give it a month. Then send some bait text like 'my friend has vip at some club friday'.
Don't think you're turning it around though. Good luck.

Arranged to meetup with a girl from OKCupid.

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Pause. 2 hours later. Ok. Thursday 7.30pm
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Some Gin and Tonic and Martini. Who knows?
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Yeah i am good.
Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family
Me. Read and blanking.

Correct way ?

(02-23-2016 03:32 PM)pantsonfire Wrote:  Arranged to meetup with a girl from OKCupid.

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Pause. 2 hours later. Ok. Thursday 7.30pm
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Some Gin and Tonic and Martini. Who knows?
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Yeah i am good.
Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family
Me. Read and blanking.

Correct way ?

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Cool, 9.30 works better for me.
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Drinks at Bull and Horn pub. (close to your pad)
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Cool

Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family

(02-23-2016 06:21 AM)Go-getter Wrote:  I had SNL with a hot (8-9) chick last Saturday. Fucked her brains out and everything went rather smooth except of few little things I did that might have come across as a little needy. I kissed her very briefly the following morning downstairs and walked her into a cab. When I was about to say my usual "It was nice meeting you, let's hang out sometime." and give her a goodbye hug, she basically cut me in with "Ok, ok" and got into the cab. I asked something like "maybe we'll hang out next weekend?", to which she replied "Maybe" and shut the car door. Mind you this is in China and she's from here so the dynamics are a bit different than in the West, sometimes it's difficult to adjust my game between more promiscuous HBs and more traditional women. I'm a tall and pretty good looking dude.

I contact her the same day in the afternoon (in hindsight might have been too soon, but I sort of wanted to minimize her buyer's remorse) via text, get her number (but she says she prefers to text - everyone in China just uses Wechat). I try to set up a date on either Wed or Thu (I mentioned a cool beer place I want to take her to), she says she'll let me know because "she's not sure now. Where about?". I tell her name of the area and 2 days of radio silence later I send her a bait text. She responds after half an hour and then I ask:

G-g: anyways, how is tomorrow evening looking
HB: Haha I don't know if I still got the interests <coy emoji> I always do things follow my mood <chuckle emoji>

What do you think? My buddy told me she's being a bitch and I shouldn't reply until next week.

I'm perplexed because as far as I know I gave her an amazing sex and this week she's in her peak horniness (I asked when was her last period).
But who knows how many other guys she's dating. One thing I know for sure is that I haven't really built any deep connection, it was a pretty quick and smooth pull. I've read the "Securing 2nd dates after SNL" thread and a bunch of other advice but at this point I'm still wondering if there's anything I can do to increase the chances of banging her/seeing her again, if not this week, then in the future.

Not replying worked like a charm. 4 hours later she sends me a text in Chinese (weird - her English was really good) what time I want to meet up cause she doesn't go to work tomorrow. So it's on tonight.

(02-23-2016 03:41 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  

(02-23-2016 03:32 PM)pantsonfire Wrote:  Arranged to meetup with a girl from OKCupid.

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Pause. 2 hours later. Ok. Thursday 7.30pm
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Some Gin and Tonic and Martini. Who knows?
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Yeah i am good.
Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family
Me. Read and blanking.

Correct way ?

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Cool, 9.30 works better for me.
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Drinks at Bull and Horn pub. (close to your pad)
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Cool

Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family

Forgot to mention i stated the bar too. I dont fancy waiting around after work till 9pm.

(02-24-2016 03:36 AM)pantsonfire Wrote:  

(02-23-2016 03:41 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  

(02-23-2016 03:32 PM)pantsonfire Wrote:  Arranged to meetup with a girl from OKCupid.

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Pause. 2 hours later. Ok. Thursday 7.30pm
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Some Gin and Tonic and Martini. Who knows?
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Yeah i am good.
Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family
Me. Read and blanking.

Correct way ?

Her. What day we are meeting up?
Me. Wednesday 7pm
Her. Can we change it thursday as got work meetings till 9pm
Me. Cool, 9.30 works better for me.
Her. Ok cool. What are we doing?
Me. Drinks at Bull and Horn pub. (close to your pad)
Her. Ok sounds good.
Me. Cool

Her. Next day. Lets do 9-11 as we are going for drinks, I will have dinner with my family

Forgot to mention i stated the bar too. I dont fancy waiting around after work till 9pm.

Update

Me. After 24 hours. - No. I finish work at 6.30pm. Meet me 7pm at xxx bar.
Her. Oh, I've just booked a table for my family for dinner at 7pm.

What to reply?

You aren't listening. Once they say family, they're telling you they're not going to bump it.
So you won't go have drinks solo for 2 hours before meeting her at 9? What can I say? Just meet her at 9.