Lately I've noticed a weird response from online leads. Never really seen this before although im sure it happens:
I get a number and immediately go into logistics mode via text, after receptive intro.
Me: hey its toejam
Her: I was thinking who then I remembered. Lol how are you?
Me: thirsty. Let's go for drinks this week.
Her: lol thirsty? & sure where at?
Me: xday at 9, xxyyzz address
*a day goes by with no response from her, then:
Her: hey

What-the-heck

This has happened with like three or four different chicks in the past two weeks. They'll ignore a question or response and just come back with "hey" a day later as if nothing is going on.

I'm still working on my online game but damn this is a new one

(02-02-2016 11:48 AM)toejam Wrote:  Lately I've noticed a weird response from online leads. Never really seen this before although im sure it happens:
I get a number and immediately go into logistics mode via text, after receptive intro.
Me: hey its toejam
Her: I was thinking who then I remembered. Lol how are you?
Me: thirsty. Let's go for drinks this week.
Her: lol thirsty? & sure where at?
Me: xday at 9, xxyyzz address
*a day goes by with no response from her, then:
Her: hey

What-the-heck

This has happened with like three or four different chicks in the past two weeks. They'll ignore a question or response and just come back with "hey" a day later as if nothing is going on.

I'm still working on my online game but damn this is a new one

I don't know shit about online game, but my guess would be you're pushing too hard, too quick or they're just not that interested/a better option came along.

Try experimenting on some of these bozos, by mixing it up with a joke in there.

Me: thirsty. Let's go for drinks this week.
Her: lol thirsty? & sure where at?
Me: I was thinking at The Bar, February 5th
Me: 2017

or

Me: thirsty. Let's go for drinks this week.
Her: lol thirsty? & sure where at?
Me: Friday, in Vegas! You get the plane tickets, I'll get the drinks

This may show you've got a better sense of humor than the other 300 guys messaging her, and might, just might get her intrigued enough to come out.

Lads, another girl and another text, and unlike my previous one (above), I took far more sensible approach.

Met her last friday and started texting yesterday

Quote:Me (21:32): Hey [name], it's [my name]. How's it going?
Her (08:38): Hey^^ it couldn't go better. How about you?
Me (14:03): That's a very cheerful attitude... I like it. All good with me, almost Friday. What are you up to this weekend?
Her (14:33): I am a very cheerful person I don't know yet. I'd like to go out again but I don't know where yet.
Her (14:33): And you? Any plans?
Me (14:45): Plans for Saturday, but not tomorrow...
Me (14:45): Seem like you now have plans for Friday ;-)
Her (14:57):
Her (14:59): I'll ask my roommates if we go out together tomorrow. But if we don't... Why not?

First could I ask for comments on my texts? Then what do you think of hers? It seems like she is interested, but then just put me as a second option. How should I proceed?

Thanks in advance

First, I don't ever plan on meeting girls weekends, they have too many damned options then.

Secondly, don't ask her what her plans are, MAKE your plans with her, then she'll either agree, counter offer, or not reply.

She does seem receptive to you, at this point follow up, then lock in a location, day, and time.

Quote:Me (21:32): Hey [name], it's [my name]. How's it going?
Her (08:38): Hey^^ it couldn't go better. How about you?

Standard start, nothing to comment on here - her enthusiasm is encouraging

Quote:Me (14:03): That's a very cheerful attitude... I like it. All good with me, almost Friday. What are you up to this weekend?

I know there's a "keep it logistical" but I'm starting to think that doesn't work on all girls, maybe not even most girls. I also wouldn't ask what she's up to on a weekend, as most people are busy those days and it's trickier to get a girl out. I reserve my weekends for guaranteed bangs, and going out to meet new girls.

Mind you in this case things worked out, but that's my usual routine, although I'll obviously adjust if I feel pretty strongly I can bang a new girl on a Friday or Saturday.

Quote:Her (14:33): I am a very cheerful person I don't know yet. I'd like to go out again but I don't know where yet.
Her (14:33): And you? Any plans?

This is good that she's asking what your plans are AND saying she wants to see you again.

Quote:Me (14:45): Plans for Saturday, but not tomorrow...
Me (14:45): Seem like you now have plans for Friday ;-)

Well played, forward and making the decision for her. Plus you indicate you're not available all weekend.

Quote:Her (14:57):
Her (14:59): I'll ask my roommates if we go out together tomorrow. But if we don't... Why not?

Don't read too much into this, she's playing games and trying to not come off as too available.

Overall just minor tweaks, but you look like you're on the right track.

Cheers man!

Every often I get stumped.

19 yo, I'm headed out of town, planning my night.

Me: I'm free tomorrow let's meet.
Her: that would be nice. Are we doing dinner?
Me: drinks around 9.
Her: I don't drink.

Anyone ever go out with someone who doesnt drink?
How was it? Doesn't seem appealing at all.

(02-04-2016 07:14 PM)toejam Wrote:  Every often I get stumped.

19 yo, I'm headed out of town, planning my night.

Me: I'm free tomorrow let's meet.
Her: that would be nice. Are we doing dinner?
Me: drinks around 9.
Her: I don't drink.

Anyone ever go out with someone who doesnt drink?
How was it? Doesn't seem appealing at all.

As soon as she said dinner I'd laugh and say "that last thing I want to do is see you stuff your face while we try to have a convo, that's so cliche"

Frozen yogurt dude, bitches love frozen yogurt !

Go for coffee, go bowling, shoot some pool or darts !

You've gotta get creative.

Have you hungout with her before ?
Have you suggested your place ? Can you even bring her to your place ?
Zero Date Bang Recipe doesn't need booze to happen

I've gone a few first dates with girls who can't or don't drink, it's no big deal.

Some guys think it's the end of the world if they don't drink to loosen up.

I think we should focus on completely stone cold sober game before introducing booze.

(02-04-2016 07:33 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(02-04-2016 07:14 PM)toejam Wrote:  Every often I get stumped.

19 yo, I'm headed out of town, planning my night.

Me: I'm free tomorrow let's meet.
Her: that would be nice. Are we doing dinner?
Me: drinks around 9.
Her: I don't drink.

Anyone ever go out with someone who doesnt drink?
How was it? Doesn't seem appealing at all.

As soon as she said dinner I'd laugh and say "that last thing I want to do is see you stuff your face while we try to have a convo, that's so cliche"

Frozen yogurt dude, bitches love frozen yogurt !

Go for coffee, go bowling, shoot some pool or darts !

You've gotta get creative.

Have you hungout with her before ?
Have you suggested your place ? Can you even bring her to your place ?
Zero Date Bang Recipe doesn't need booze to happen

I've gone a few first dates with girls who can't or don't drink, it's no big deal.

Some guys think it's the end of the world if they don't drink to loosen up.

I think we should focus on completely stone cold sober game before introducing booze.

I dont drink.
this is a pipeline lead for an out of towner, ill be driving there tomorrow on business for a day. i'll be securing a hotel, although ive considered airbnb to use as "my vacation home" but haven't found anything nice.

i like the idea of working on no-alcohol game but ive never really done anything other than meet at bar/lounge -> game ->bang

i need to try other things, but ill be out of town

so far ive been gaming it sober i havent had a drink in years (literally) but i like the focus. i can think, i can remember things

That's awesome you quit drinking, more than likely I need to cut back also.

Well try exploring other options man, make shit fun. I've met a girl at a nice shopping center with this dope ass fountain and walkway, took her straight back to my house and banged.

I've done plenty of pulls just meeting at a starbucks and walking around.

Make a woman feel comfortable, game her, and she's all yours.

You can still do the bar idea if you like, just get mocktails. But I like kaotic's idea better, sounds more fun.

   

I need a message to say - hey how r u doing / still sick , and something along the lines of I'm guessing you no longer want to do a second date , let me know; type of thing.

I know I should just go silent , next , and i'm probably dead on arrival but I just want some closure.

Background : 1 date, made out , she asked for a second date by the end of the night.
1 cancellation she was sick sounded sick on the phone. 2 phones calls and a few msgs back and forth. I sent that message last Sun Jan 31st

It's driving me insane not knowing where I stand.

Met a girl that works at my gym in the city. Got this response:

Her: Hey Bill Brasky, availability is non-existing through Tuesday. That being said, I am going to have to decline your invitation to coffee. Although flattering, you completely caught me off guard last night and honestly I'd rather not hang out with gym members. I hope you understand. Thanks again, and I'll see you around.

I honestly expected this response and it seems reasonable. How to proceed?

(02-05-2016 09:33 PM)Bill Brasky Wrote:  Met a girl that works at my gym in the city. Got this response:

Her: Hey Bill Brasky, availability is non-existing through Tuesday. That being said, I am going to have to decline your invitation to coffee. Although flattering, you completely caught me off guard last night and honestly I'd rather not hang out with gym members. I hope you understand. Thanks again, and I'll see you around.

I honestly expected this response and it seems reasonable. How to proceed?

She made up quite the excuse to not hang out with you. Don't respond and continue lifting at the gym. If you run into her, treat her like nothing happened (regarding the rejection). Don't act weird around her. Treat everything like the situation never took place.

This will establish a strong frame to emulate that you have other options, and it will show her that you don't care about what she said.

Edit: Keep saying "Hi" or "What's up" if you are within close proximity. Don't go out of your way to establish contact or try to create conversation.

I met a girl here in New York last week. I asked her to meet me yesterday, friday. I'm confused by her text. I want to get you guy's interpretation. Her text was:

"Hi, I'm not in town. I'll be in towere in Sunday."

Bear in mind that I don't know where she ives here in New York. Does this mean she'll be available to meet Sunday? Or that she's away and will return back from traveling or whatever on Sunday?

Assume that she's be available then. Get logistics down for Sunday

(02-06-2016 01:18 PM)The Man w/ the Golden Gun Wrote:  Assume that she's be available then. Get logistics down for Sunday

But do you think she's trying to say shes available to meet Sunday? Or that she'll be back in town on Sunday, meaning she wont meeet Sunday?

assume she's in town sunday and up for meeting; she mentioned it.

If she's not interested, next.

I have an ex that keeps bombarding my phone with tons of selfies. I'm guessing she's not getting enough likes on the snapchat/facebook/instagram. Not sure exactly how to respond.

^With pictures of hot babes especially with you in them.

(02-07-2016 11:54 AM)lex the impaler Wrote:  I have an ex that keeps bombarding my phone with tons of selfies. I'm guessing she's not getting enough likes on the snapchat/facebook/instagram. Not sure exactly how to respond.

If she keeps sending selfies, respond with this:

(02-07-2016 11:54 AM)lex the impaler Wrote:  I have an ex that keeps bombarding my phone with tons of selfies. I'm guessing she's not getting enough likes on the snapchat/facebook/instagram. Not sure exactly how to respond.

My system for any unwanted text (UT) from a chick:

UT -",,,"

PT-" Message 401a: The ATT subscriber has changed their settings and is no longer receiving your messages"

UT -"Ha ha"

Copy and pasted for immediate delivery...repeat after any subsequent message

PT-" Message 401a: The ATT subscriber has changed their settings and is no longer receiving your messages"

UT- "Seriously?"

PT-" Message 401a: The ATT subscriber has changed their settings and is no longer receiving your messages"

UT "Cmon. Stop it"

PT-" Message 401a: The ATT subscriber has changed their settings and is no longer receiving your messages"

Usually they get it and stop at 3-4 rounds, I know there are ways to block them for real but this is more fun

Excellent advice. She's hit the wall and she's fishing for attention. Going to use this an opportunity to squeeze in one more bang....

(02-05-2016 09:33 PM)Bill Brasky Wrote:  Met a girl that works at my gym in the city. Got this response:

Her: Hey Bill Brasky, availability is non-existing through Tuesday. That being said, I am going to have to decline your invitation to coffee. Although flattering, you completely caught me off guard last night and honestly I'd rather not hang out with gym members. I hope you understand. Thanks again, and I'll see you around.

I honestly expected this response and it seems reasonable. How to proceed?

"Hey [x]! No drama, totally understand. I hope you have a nice life, or alternatively step off the curb tomorrow morning and get hit by a truck. Either is cool with me. Cheers."

(02-04-2016 07:33 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(02-04-2016 07:14 PM)toejam Wrote:  Every often I get stumped.

19 yo, I'm headed out of town, planning my night.

Me: I'm free tomorrow let's meet.
Her: that would be nice. Are we doing dinner?
Me: drinks around 9.
Her: I don't drink.

Anyone ever go out with someone who doesnt drink?
How was it? Doesn't seem appealing at all.

As soon as she said dinner I'd laugh and say "that last thing I want to do is see you stuff your face while we try to have a convo, that's so cliche"

Frozen yogurt dude, bitches love frozen yogurt !

Go for coffee, go bowling, shoot some pool or darts !

You've gotta get creative.

Have you hungout with her before ?
Have you suggested your place ? Can you even bring her to your place ?
Zero Date Bang Recipe doesn't need booze to happen

I've gone a few first dates with girls who can't or don't drink, it's no big deal.

Some guys think it's the end of the world if they don't drink to loosen up.

I think we should focus on completely stone cold sober game before introducing booze.

used this twice and it worked. 2 separate dinner request turned into "drinks" and i ended up 50/50 on the bang. got one bang, the other i let escape as i was too tired to work it out. i think the bang would have happened regardless, but avoiding dinner was a great relief for me. i hate the whole dinner thing on first dates. sitting across from someone watching them eat really is terrible.

props given and rep added