(12-18-2015 01:23 AM)gandt Wrote:  Alright boys, first post here in a while. Feels great to be back I must say.

A little backstory with my situation...

I do beauty photography and I had this sexy girl come over to my place for a shoot three days ago. The vibe at the shoot was good; lots of playfulness, teasing... the vibe was light.

She is super responsive to my text messages and she's already asked to do another shoot.

I am not going to type out the whole text convo because it's basically all about the pictures we took minus some playful banter. Here is how it ended:

Her: *Sends sexy picture to me that she edited (Yesterday 12:20am)
Me: I could get used to waking up to these kinds of pics every morning (the next day)
Her: Hahaha

Anyway. I am wondering if you fine gentlemen have some insight on how I can turn the vibe more sexual and playful rather than keeping it work related?

Probably would have responded with something like "cool" or "your photoshop skills are decent." Something where it deviates from every other guy who sends her thirsty responses.

(12-18-2015 07:30 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(12-18-2015 01:23 AM)gandt Wrote:  Her: *Sends sexy picture to me that she edited (Yesterday 12:20am)
Me: I could get used to waking up to these kinds of pics every morning (the next day)
Her: Hahaha

Anyway. I am wondering if you fine gentlemen have some insight on how I can turn the vibe more sexual and playful rather than keeping it work related?

Your response was very, very thirsty.

You realize as a model guys call her sexy and compliment her beauty all the time right?

You realize that if you're an in-demand, high SMV guy who ALSO is a model photographer that you should have about the least amount of thirst short of a rock star or other famous person, right?

You've gotta be VERY careful about putting her on a pedestal. The only way you should be complimenting her appearance is from an artistic perspective, but better if it's a critique and you're showing your mastery of the domain.

Can you see how that contrasts starkly with what you said?

I agree with others that her response is negative. It's a pretty avoidant response.

I'd keep the texts professional from here on out, get her on more shoots, and keep it light/playful and only escalate if she's really showing interest.

I love this forum. What an incredible source of unbiased and unfiltered advice that men need to succeed. I see you are still putting out stellar advice and content @AneroidOcean. I'd rep you again if I could.

(12-17-2015 02:39 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(12-17-2015 02:02 AM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  With a busier than usual weekend, I asked a girl out for a date Sunday. (Friday_busy, Saturday_gym_work, Sunday_free).

w:"come join me out @xx Sunday, we'll have drinks and ill seduce u in front of strangers"
her: I work till 4.

She didn't say no but I'm trying to figure out how to make something happen given the time. (She

Note: This is a girl who mentioned she likes guys who lead(makes the plans etc)/are dominant/etc. I probably wouldn't have a problem if I had my own place (as I'd suggest that), but now I'm not sure where to steer.

Ignore. Her answer isn't very positive. It's not explicitly sour, but a non-response is best. See if she follows it up. Also you didn't specify what time you called out so it's hard to tell if she was responding that she couldn't make it because she works beyond the time you want to meet up, or if she was just saying she didn't want to because she works.

That was her way of being open/free after 4. I didn't respond for a day and when I went to set the time she had new plans.

(12-19-2015 09:40 PM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  

(12-17-2015 02:39 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(12-17-2015 02:02 AM)~wrIghter~ Wrote:  With a busier than usual weekend, I asked a girl out for a date Sunday. (Friday_busy, Saturday_gym_work, Sunday_free).

w:"come join me out @xx Sunday, we'll have drinks and ill seduce u in front of strangers"
her: I work till 4.

She didn't say no but I'm trying to figure out how to make something happen given the time. (She

Note: This is a girl who mentioned she likes guys who lead(makes the plans etc)/are dominant/etc. I probably wouldn't have a problem if I had my own place (as I'd suggest that), but now I'm not sure where to steer.

Ignore. Her answer isn't very positive. It's not explicitly sour, but a non-response is best. See if she follows it up. Also you didn't specify what time you called out so it's hard to tell if she was responding that she couldn't make it because she works beyond the time you want to meet up, or if she was just saying she didn't want to because she works.

That was her way of being open/free after 4. I didn't respond for a day and when I went to set the time she had new plans.

I will say that I'm a little disappointed that my advice ended up wrong. I definitely missed that you were leaving the time frame open, kind of a bonehead misread on my part especially given the context you gave so I apologize for that. Wish I'd got that clearer. Hopefully you can recover leading and salvaging your frame. Let us know if you manage to save it and thanks for the feedback as I'll definitely pay more attention in the future.

EDIT: (CONTEXT) met her friday. made out, she grabbed my dick through my jeans. i ended up at her place the next night, she gave me a handjob but refused to fuck... if it doesn't happen the next time we hang out im moving on.



I need a good reply to this.

me: what are you up to later

her: Not sure yet. Staying dry i suppose (its raining)

I need something clever referring to how she wont be dry once i show up. Help me out!

^without any context it's not possible to help you out..

Is this a girl you've already banged?

Someone you've never met..?

etc.

Depending on the situation a sexual reply could be money or it could get you blown out

(12-22-2015 07:53 PM)SomeFcksGiven Wrote:  ^without any context it's not possible to help you out..

Is this a girl you've already banged?

Someone you've never met..?

etc.

Depending on the situation a sexual reply could be money or it could get you blown out

met her friday. made out, she grabbed my dick through my jeans. i ended up at her place the next night, she gave me a handjob but refused to fuck... if it doesn't happen the next time we hang out im moving on.

Since you said it's raining, send these two texts in quick succession:

"Let's go play a round of mini golf. Or movie/drinks at my place"

"You'll be wet either way"

context
got a number off SA. we've chatted here and there. she's a self proclaimed model. the interaction has been "stiff" so far.

me: I was in Italy
HER: ohhh so why were you in italy. Sounds fun
*i ignore her
HER: Business or pleasure
me: when in italy business turns to pleasure
HER: yea?

did i screw my response to her, either way, whats next?

^She's curious, probably would be better to have a phone chat with her. After she says yea, I'd try making it about the two of you doing something...or perhaps asking about her. Again phone conversations seem to flow easier. I think that's going to be my move with online gaming soon. If a girl can't talk over the phone, I have little interest in taking things further.

(12-24-2015 09:36 PM)toejam Wrote:  context
got a number off SA. we've chatted here and there. she's a self proclaimed model. the interaction has been "stiff" so far.

me: I was in Italy
HER: ohhh so why were you in italy. Sounds fun
*i ignore her
HER: Business or pleasure
me: when in italy business turns to pleasure
HER: yea?

did i screw my response to her, either way, whats next?

You are still in good shape. You haven't messed anything up. I do like your last text about business turning into pleasure.

You can always respond with something along the lines of referring to the culture or joking around about how she needs to see to believe. So far, you have the frame. Escalate by saying you could describe the transition over a drink at xx bar.

Messaged chick on SA. 18years old from about 4 hours from me. My intent wasnt really to travel that far but whatever.
I get her number.

Light chat and then

Me: ill be in your town for business. Meet me for drinks wednesday at 5.
Her: are you asking?
Me: no
Her: well have fun alone

^ Why would you even consider a 4 hour one way travel for some chick you've never even met?

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(12-28-2015 08:39 AM)NYrrugac Wrote:  "What did Santa get you?"

Any thoughts on funny responses?

"santa got me a 12 inch strap on...think he mixed up my place with my neighbors because she got a chainsaw"

Girl who I've hooked up with a couple times (but not fucked) and then went cold a few weeks ago texted me a few hours ago "How was christmas" out of nowhere. Worth responding? She went cold after basically not committing to plans and not suggesting a different day.

I don't understand, what is "hooked up with but not fucked", I always thought that hooking up=fucking.

"come over tomorrow at 830pm and I'll tell you all about my christmas" would be fine, you've already met the girl a couple of times. See this as a chance to seal the deal. If she balks, next her, she is not serious.

(12-22-2015 07:46 PM)Red_Pillage Wrote:  EDIT: (CONTEXT) met her friday. made out, she grabbed my dick through my jeans. i ended up at her place the next night, she gave me a handjob but refused to fuck... if it doesn't happen the next time we hang out im moving on.



I need a good reply to this.

me: what are you up to later

her: Not sure yet. Staying dry i suppose (its raining)

I need something clever referring to how she wont be dry once i show up. Help me out!

For the record, I secured the bang last night.

Blowjob last time hung with her. And nah, at least where I went to college etc hooking up could mean basically anything past kissing.

Anyway, texted her back "joyous. What did Santa bring you" (got that from above, thanks) and she said "coal. On the naughty list unfortunately." I feel like she's either fucking with me or this should be a slam dunk. Any good replies back to seal the deal asap?

Something like: "Naughty is my specialty. Drop by -date/time- and we'll check if you can still be saved."

(12-30-2015 09:03 PM)keegs Wrote:  Anyway, texted her back "joyous. What did Santa bring you" (got that from above, thanks) and she said "coal. On the naughty list unfortunately."

"Bring that coal to my place so I can grill up some steaks. Been wanting to try a new marinade."

Like always, don't include punctuation. This response will get her curious as to whether or not this counts as an invitation and may directly ask you if she is part of the whole thing.

Ha @ Remington
Nice one

After checking out the Tinder thread I decided to try out the Fake GPS app for the first time.

Shortly after changing my location to Rio I match up with a 21yr old sexy Carioca who is 12 years my junior and I immediately know I would have a 90% chance to fuck her tonight if I was in Rio. But I'm not in Rio and won't be in Rio for the foreseeable future.

She mentioned how she may be attending her sister's wedding an hour away from me in the States and I've been to Rio twice so while it's probably a lost cause I figured it was worth presenting to you gentlemen as I'd like to keep her as an option in the future.

She thinks I'm leaving Rio Monday, made plans to see her tonight and she's currently asking what time...

My ex just group texted me and some of my boys to go out for her birthday. They're waiting to see what I decide.

I was just with my exes close friend the other night (we didn't find out until half way through the night). She stayed over and after things were done my phone got hit up at 4:00 AM from two diff girls and woke us both up. I then took my exes close friend out to brunch the next day to the same place I used to take my ex haha.

That night I went to a bowl game and while I was there my ex texted me out of nowhere rooting for my school. I said thanks and then she asked if I was driving a new car. I didn't respond.

What do you guys think? I'm trying to decide whether or not I should go not really what I should respond with.

I think she may be jealous because of the friend thing and If I go, there will be massive shit testing and drama to deal with.

A little more info:
She's a solid 9
Crazy AF service industry girl
Trust fund baby
I would say she has predatory woman tendencies but she parties too much to be consistently predatory
Ex and I were seeing each other a year ago she's ran through some dick since to say the least.

Ex's are ex's for reason slyyr.

Don't respond to her shit, don't hang out with her. Just with that info, i'd stay the fuck away from her. I don't care how hot she is.