Savage she seemed compliant when I set things up prior to "leaving." Set date/time and she was eager. Told her not be late, she said I promise. Told her what to wear she obliged. This was 2 days prior to her last text, I cancelled on her and she said enjoy your trip.
Does the above "who is this" formula still apply?

Nope that changes the situation. Give her a phone call to set up plans for you 2 to meet and catch up. Then gonfor the bang during the meet up.

Text chat on tinder, first time in a while I'm a little unsure how to respond. She opened me and after a little small talk:

Me: what are you doing on tinder anyway?

Her: Tbh I'm just looking for sex but you don't seem like the type so I don't wanna waste your time

- how to respond? My bio basically consists of me saying I'm not there for sex. Of course this is bs but it works. Looks like something a girl would put in her bio. I'm pretty sure it's a shit test as she has obviously read my profile she still liked me. Her pics don't look slutty and she writes nothing in her bio. Unsure on the best response here.

(01-13-2016 02:56 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  Text chat on tinder, first time in a while I'm a little unsure how to respond. She opened me and after a little small talk:

Me: what are you doing on tinder anyway?

Her: Tbh I'm just looking for sex but you don't seem like the type so I don't wanna waste your time

- how to respond? My bio basically consists of me saying I'm not there for sex. Of course this is bs but it works. Looks like something a girl would put in her bio. I'm pretty sure it's a shit test as she has obviously read my profile she still liked me. Her pics don't look slutty and she writes nothing in her bio. Unsure on the best response here.

Why does your bio state that you're not there for sex? Why would you ask her that, it qualifies her because the implication is that "what is a girl like you [attractive] doing on a dating site?"

Ignore the mention of sex. Reframe as her chasing you.

"I don't waste my time. Maybe you'll win me over. Drinks tuesday x time"

I'm sure others can suggest better actual wording, but the idea is that you need to reframe. Currently you're giving her near everything and I'm not sure why.

Yeah I'd get rid of the I'm not looking for sex line - that's just cockblocking yourself and setting yourself up for shit tests.

I like Aneroid's suggestion. I was honestly looking to see what other's would have suggested.

It's a tough one, I'd of just laughed it off, changed the subject and then number closed after a few messages.

Reframing it like that is an great response.

I get what you guys are saying but I should clarify that I am not in the west and outright hook ups are not the norm here. Putting that on my bio has increased my matches allot. Outright sluts who state they just wanna hook up are extremely rare.

(01-13-2016 03:37 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  I get what you guys are saying but I should clarify that I am not in the west and outright hook ups are not the norm here. Putting that on my bio has increased my matches allot. Outright sluts who state they just wanna hook up are extremely rare.

What region are you located in ?

I don't think it matters if outright hooks ups aren't the norm, that being in your bio is a dual sword, hence the shit tests, or trying to play nice guy saying you aren't here for hook ups.

What else have you done to increase your matches ? New pictures ? Additional bio info ? More specific about what girls you swipe right on ?

Eastern Europe, I rarely get shit treated about my bio actually. It's very rare, often I get comments on it from girls saying so great to find a guy like you here etc.
The girls always forget about it after I get them off the app anyway, it's no more difficult to get bangs when I actually get girls out. So I'm not going to change it because one girl shit tested me.

(01-13-2016 04:32 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  Eastern Europe, I rarely get shit treated about my bio actually. It's very rare, often I get comments on it from girls saying so great to find a guy like you here etc.
The girls always forget about it after I get them off the app anyway, it's no more difficult to get bangs when I actually get girls out. So I'm not going to change it because one girl shit tested me.

That's fair enough, if it works there awesome.

Just follow up with what Aneroid said, let us know how that goes.

a little back ground on tonight's date and her text: went out with a smoking mixed girl tonight ( black/Mexican). Athletic body.

During the date she mentioned going on missions and that she "is religious"

We laughed quite a bit throughout the date and had decent kino, hand holding ( at my apartment) and seemingly decent repartee.

Managed to pull her to my apartment. We were hand holding and she seemed to like it. When I went for the kiss, she smiled and pulled away. At first I was kind of pissed. we were watching a movie. I just said "hey, it's my job to try and it's your job to resist. I'll try again though ( smirk)"

After that I'd occasionally kiss her on the cheek and tell her she had nice skin. She said thank you and smiled. i'd whisper in her ear and she'd laugh some. She was a strong alpha type female and tried to bust my balls a few times about other things.

After a bit, she said she needed to go because "she's a lady and I shouldn't be here the first time I meet you" we'd both been drinking.

When it was clear she was ready to go and said that I said 'hey I respect that, I want you to be comfortable.' she said thanks.

When I dropped her off, again I went for the kiss and she pulled away and smiled shaking her heard slightly. I just smirked and said "had a good time, let me know when you get home."

As I was sitting back at home with blue balls, she texted a bit later: ' I made it home. Thank you so much for a wonderful evening.'

I was going to text her tomorrow as I'm willing to put in the work as she's got a gorgeous bod and a cool personality (normally I wouldn't bother with a girl who doesn't even kiss). But, given the no kisses, should I even text?

She seemed to enjoy herself and a minority of women do have a 'no kiss on first date rule' or so I've heard. Maybe she's one of them? I date shit tons of women and eventually one is going to run across all kinds. Also, she made it clear a few times, as I said, that she was religious.

That text she sent when she got home was at least her saying she had a good time. I was thinking of something along the lines of "You're welcome, we should do it again sometime." just to gauge if there's future interest on her part.

Ideas welcome.

(01-14-2016 01:45 AM)robreke Wrote:  a little back ground on tonight's date and her text: went out with a smoking mixed girl tonight ( black/Mexican). Athletic body.

<SNIP>

That text she sent when she got home was at least her saying she had a good time. I was thinking of something along the lines of "You're welcome, we should do it again sometime." just to gauge if there's future interest on her part.

Ideas welcome.

I have a bad feeling she's acting all chaste but instead of calibrating you're game you've just put her on a pedestal.

However, what's wrong with sending her (after an appropriate delay of course), "You owe me a kiss"

(01-13-2016 03:18 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(01-13-2016 02:56 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  Text chat on tinder, first time in a while I'm a little unsure how to respond. She opened me and after a little small talk:

Me: what are you doing on tinder anyway?

Her: Tbh I'm just looking for sex but you don't seem like the type so I don't wanna waste your time

- how to respond? My bio basically consists of me saying I'm not there for sex. Of course this is bs but it works. Looks like something a girl would put in her bio. I'm pretty sure it's a shit test as she has obviously read my profile she still liked me. Her pics don't look slutty and she writes nothing in her bio. Unsure on the best response here.

Why does your bio state that you're not there for sex? Why would you ask her that, it qualifies her because the implication is that "what is a girl like you [attractive] doing on a dating site?"

Ignore the mention of sex. Reframe as her chasing you.

"I don't waste my time. Maybe you'll win me over. Drinks tuesday x time"

I'm sure others can suggest better actual wording, but the idea is that you need to reframe. Currently you're giving her near everything and I'm not sure why.

Just to update on this one, I just logged into tinder for the first time since yesterday and the girl text me again before I got the chance to reply with anything with ''it was my friend who text you that, I'm sorry!''

Highly likely that's bs and she was shit testing me as I first thought. Then she saw I had been online and not responded and back-tracked with that excuse. I'll just proceed as normal now and get the number. Thanks for the feedback.

(01-14-2016 12:33 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  

(01-13-2016 03:18 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(01-13-2016 02:56 PM)_Samo_ Wrote:  Text chat on tinder, first time in a while I'm a little unsure how to respond. She opened me and after a little small talk:

Me: what are you doing on tinder anyway?

Her: Tbh I'm just looking for sex but you don't seem like the type so I don't wanna waste your time

- how to respond? My bio basically consists of me saying I'm not there for sex. Of course this is bs but it works. Looks like something a girl would put in her bio. I'm pretty sure it's a shit test as she has obviously read my profile she still liked me. Her pics don't look slutty and she writes nothing in her bio. Unsure on the best response here.

Why does your bio state that you're not there for sex? Why would you ask her that, it qualifies her because the implication is that "what is a girl like you [attractive] doing on a dating site?"

Ignore the mention of sex. Reframe as her chasing you.

"I don't waste my time. Maybe you'll win me over. Drinks tuesday x time"

I'm sure others can suggest better actual wording, but the idea is that you need to reframe. Currently you're giving her near everything and I'm not sure why.

Just to update on this one, I just logged into tinder for the first time since yesterday and the girl text me again before I got the chance to reply with anything with ''it was my friend who text you that, I'm sorry!''

Highly likely that's bs and she was shit testing me as I first thought. Then she saw I had been online and not responded and back-tracked with that excuse. I'll just proceed as normal now and get the number. Thanks for the feedback.

Hah ! She just put the ball in your court and her hamster is freaking out thinking you got offended.



The frame is yours dude, I better see a report in the I Just Had Sex Thread !

My creative juices are spent today. Need a saucy reply to this girl I opened on Tinder (translated from Swedish) to get the ball rolling.

Me: Give me two truths and one lie about yourself

Girl: Interesting opener 1. I work in a sports store but I'm not interested in sports at all! 2. I'm an extreme early riser! 3. Beards turn me ON!

(01-14-2016 01:52 PM)DarianFrey Wrote:  My creative juices are spent today. Need a saucy reply to this girl I opened on Tinder (translated from Swedish) to get the ball rolling.

Me: Give me two truths and one lie about yourself

Girl: Interesting opener 1. I work in a sports store but I'm not interested in sports at all! 2. I'm an extreme early riser! 3. Beards turn me ON!

IF you have a beard, "Luckily for you, I'm a handsome bearded devil" I'd focus on that since she said turned on about the beard. Disregard the other 2.

She'll probably send a "haha" or "lol" carry on from there.

Last night I slept with a girl in my not so close, friend group. She left her earrings at my place so I message her to let her know, and that i'll pass them to her when we meet again amongst our friends. She then replies with:

"We didn't do anything last night right?"

I know we did (sex), but she was pretty drunk. She has a bf and is getting close to getting engaged.

I don't plan to bang her again but we've been keeping it hush amongst our mutual friends (even though I am sure they suspect something).

What is she trying to do by asking that question? Alleviate her guilt? I am happy to just say "No", but I just want others' insight into what she's thinking here.

She knows, otherwise she wouldn't of asked. I know girls usually comment about sex the next day "I still feel you, bla bla bla".

To be real, I'd be honest about it. She's the one who fucked up and cheated. Of course she wants to alleviate the guilt and forget about it. She just needs you to make the lie of nothing happening your truth...if that makes any sense.

You got the bang. If you're not trying to bang her again, who gives a shit about easing her guilt. She's a cheating cum dumpster. Do the bf a favor by letting him know he's about to make the biggest mistake of his life by marrying this wench, and direct him to the rooshv forum.

Been working a Ukrainian girl for over a month, finally pulled her back to my apartment, we do everything but fuck. No big deal, this girl is a time investment like all the other girls in Kiev, it will happen soon enough.

That was on Friday. I text her once Saturday morning - no response. I call her Saturday night - no answer. All day Sunday goes by without any communication. She finally texts me an hour ago: "Where have you been?" I haven't answered yet.

She's playing aloof game and wants me to chase. Since we didn't fuck I think she's trying to use her pussy like a carrot on a stick. Now she's trying to put it on me when she's obviously the one who disappeared

Hot little 19 yo on OKC. Summary from her profile:

My self-summary:

Fitness freak. Future gym instructor/ballerina. Only looking for platonic relationships with people closer to my age. Interested in politics and whatnot.

You should message me if:
You're around my age with similar interests, only looking for an online friendship, can hold intelligent conversation, possibly discuss politics.

Bisexual, Woman, Single, 5’ 1”, Fit
Middle Eastern, Speaks English
Never smokes, Doesn’t drink, Capricorn

Looking for
people, located anywhere, ages 18‑26, for short & long term dating and new friends.

Our text exchange:

CP: You're an attractive girl but I don't usually date girls under 21. Good luck in your search.

19yo: Aha thank you, how flattering and you to.

I was hoping her hamster would try to qualify itself. Thoughts on what to text next?

CP

(01-17-2016 01:45 PM)NomadofEU Wrote:  Been working a Ukrainian girl for over a month, finally pulled her back to my apartment, we do everything but fuck. No big deal, this girl is a time investment like all the other girls in Kiev, it will happen soon enough.

That was on Friday. I text her once Saturday morning - no response. I call her Saturday night - no answer. All day Sunday goes by without any communication. She finally texts me an hour ago: "Where have you been?" I haven't answered yet.

She's playing aloof game and wants me to chase. Since we didn't fuck I think she's trying to use her pussy like a carrot on a stick. Now she's trying to put it on me when she's obviously the one who disappeared

Give her a day or so and call her. I've seen this a million times of a girl not replying even for a week, you confront her even subtly and she says "huh??" like a fucking retard. Don't engage on text, call her and ask her out. If she doesn't pick up call her as soon as you get another text from her. Definitely put her low on the priority list.

(01-17-2016 02:23 PM)Caractacus Potts Wrote:  Hot little 19 yo on OKC. Summary from her profile:

My self-summary:

You should message me if:
You're around my age with similar interests, only looking for an online friendship, can hold intelligent conversation, possibly discuss politics.

Looking for
people, located anywhere, ages 18‑26, for short & long term dating and new friends.

Our text exchange:

CP: You're an attractive girl but I don't usually date girls under 21. Good luck in your search.

19yo: Aha thank you, how flattering and you to.

I was hoping her hamster would try to qualify itself. Thoughts on what to text next?

CP

Sounds like she is only on OKC for attention. The online friendship quote pretty much said it all.

With your text, you already burned your bridge before you could even get started. You messaged her and immediately cut off any attempts at a positive response. She does not need to validate herself because of the hundreds messages she gets on a daily basis to stroke her ego. Internet dating is the easiest thing in the world for a woman due to the constant opportunities she can sift through to get a date with a man.

Salvaging this conversation will most likely not happen. Live and learn and continue stacking up numbers to convert to dates and bangs.

(01-17-2016 08:32 PM)Remington Wrote:  

(01-17-2016 02:23 PM)Caractacus Potts Wrote:  Hot little 19 yo on OKC. Summary from her profile:

My self-summary:

You should message me if:
You're around my age with similar interests, only looking for an online friendship, can hold intelligent conversation, possibly discuss politics.

Looking for
people, located anywhere, ages 18‑26, for short & long term dating and new friends.

Our text exchange:

CP: You're an attractive girl but I don't usually date girls under 21. Good luck in your search.

19yo: Aha thank you, how flattering and you to.

I was hoping her hamster would try to qualify itself. Thoughts on what to text next?

CP

Sounds like she is only on OKC for attention. The online friendship quote pretty much said it all.

With your text, you already burned your bridge before you could even get started. You messaged her and immediately cut off any attempts at a positive response. She does not need to validate herself because of the hundreds messages she gets on a daily basis to stroke her ego. Internet dating is the easiest thing in the world for a woman due to the constant opportunities she can sift through to get a date with a man.

Salvaging this conversation will most likely not happen. Live and learn and continue stacking up numbers to convert to dates and bangs.

Thanks, Hank. I saw that too but I have read enough here to know to watch what women do rather than what they say. I have contacted a few others (got laid last night from OKC) but would like to see if it can be salvaged. Any lines to try and reopen?

CP

(01-17-2016 08:55 PM)Caractacus Potts Wrote:  

(01-17-2016 08:32 PM)Remington Wrote:  

(01-17-2016 02:23 PM)Caractacus Potts Wrote:  Hot little 19 yo on OKC. Summary from her profile:

My self-summary:

You should message me if:
You're around my age with similar interests, only looking for an online friendship, can hold intelligent conversation, possibly discuss politics.

Looking for
people, located anywhere, ages 18‑26, for short & long term dating and new friends.

Our text exchange:

CP: You're an attractive girl but I don't usually date girls under 21. Good luck in your search.

19yo: Aha thank you, how flattering and you to.

I was hoping her hamster would try to qualify itself. Thoughts on what to text next?

CP

Sounds like she is only on OKC for attention. The online friendship quote pretty much said it all.

With your text, you already burned your bridge before you could even get started. You messaged her and immediately cut off any attempts at a positive response. She does not need to validate herself because of the hundreds messages she gets on a daily basis to stroke her ego. Internet dating is the easiest thing in the world for a woman due to the constant opportunities she can sift through to get a date with a man.

Salvaging this conversation will most likely not happen. Live and learn and continue stacking up numbers to convert to dates and bangs.

Thanks, Hank.

CP

Anyways, I wouldn't be worrying too much about trying to reopen her. But, since she is middle eastern, you could ask if she knows Farsi and if she could teach you some phrases or curse words.

(01-17-2016 10:34 PM)Remington Wrote:  

(01-17-2016 08:55 PM)Caractacus Potts Wrote:  

(01-17-2016 08:32 PM)Remington Wrote:  [quote='Caractacus Potts' pid='1194767' dateline='1453058632']
Hot little 19 yo on OKC. Summary from her profile:

My self-summary:

You should message me if:
You're around my age with similar interests, only looking for an online friendship, can hold intelligent conversation, possibly discuss politics.

Looking for
people, located anywhere, ages 18‑26, for short & long term dating and new friends.

Our text exchange:

CP: You're an attractive girl but I don't usually date girls under 21. Good luck in your search.

19yo: Aha thank you, how flattering and you to.

I was hoping her hamster would try to qualify itself. Thoughts on what to text next?

CP

Sounds like she is only on OKC for attention. The online friendship quote pretty much said it all.

With your text, you already burned your bridge before you could even get started. You messaged her and immediately cut off any attempts at a positive response. She does not need to validate herself because of the hundreds messages she gets on a daily basis to stroke her ego. Internet dating is the easiest thing in the world for a woman due to the constant opportunities she can sift through to get a date with a man.

Salvaging this conversation will most likely not happen. Live and learn and continue stacking up numbers to convert to dates and bangs.

Thanks, Hank.

CP

Disregard. Just logged in and it appears she pulled her profile. Must have found a friend to talk politics with.