(12-11-2015 06:46 AM)Roccker Wrote: Cool thanks!
What storylines / frames do you guys use? Eg 'Hanging out here for a month, holiday', 'I work here for now cause i can work from anywhere', 'My company sent me for a while', 'I am here for holiday and perhaps i find love', 'I live here', 'I consider living here longterm', 'I consider returning here more often for holiday', (also: 'already here a while' vs 'just arrived')
On one hand i don't wanna lie, on the other i guess i am ok with a bit of it.
Real reason is wanting to enjoy lots and beautiful women. Was thinking about telling i do website programming, on the other hand my netbook is tiny. Could tell i work in rented office with good internet but then lies are already piling up.
If she is asking why you're here, it means she's interested and you just need a good enough answer for her to rationalize. You don't really need to get defensive and start explaining yourself, you can just tell her something simple and if she continues to press, ask her why she's being so nosy. Depending on what you tell them, it helps if you know the basics of the residency and business laws to make it more plausible. It will show you did some research, which makes you look genuinely interested.
If you're saying you're thinking about opening a business there, you can say you own a business but are considering opening a BPO(business process outsourcing) office there. If you're staying in QC and not Makati or the Fort, this may seem less believable.
If you're saying you're thinking of living there, you can say you like the weather/cost of living/friendliness of the people/english ability. Brush up on residency laws: how to stay for 3 years on a tourist visa, how you could stay on a retirement visa once you hit a certain age.
One thing that will help you seem genuine, and is rewarding in itself is to learn about their culture and history. Do some quick research on Jose Rizal, Mano po, saving face vs. being frank. Learn some basic phrases like salamat po, hindi po, magandang umaga, kumusta ka. Try some chicken adobo and beef kare kare. Filipinos are proud of their culture, and seeing people make an effort to understand their customs and language makes it easier for them to be comfortable with you.
After your first trip, "I want to move here eventually" probably won't be a lie anyway.
(12-11-2015 06:46 AM)Roccker Wrote: ps On filipinocupid i leave the ones that write 'i only want something serious!!' in their profile be. Also the ones that seem super-religious. Do you screen at all regarding their profile?
Don't fall for the their tricks. These girls are on a dating site, and that line is to trick old guys who will wife them up or send them $200 every month. Meanwhile these same chicks will be sleeping with every young foreigner who comes through town. Ignore it. Follow their actions, not their words. If they're willing to come back to your apartment after the first meet up, they're not a good girl.
Avoiding the ones who demand you meet their family at the first meeting should make your life easier. If a girl is a virgin, that's another story. I think it's kind of fucked up to intentionally pop a girl's cherry you're not interested in long term, but that's me.