The "What should I text next?" thread (for when you get stuck)
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Remington · 2015-11-18 21:35:00 · #1933
(11-18-2015 12:38 PM)BrunoCasanova Wrote:Quote:But how did I overgame do you think?
Her: Hi, where you at club X on Saturday too? [met this girl on the friday]
Thought I saw you btw
Bruno:
? Nah.
But listen, find a night you got time next week and ill hit you up (if youre lucky)
Her: What do you mean if i'm lucky? Either we talk or we dont..
Her: Feels like youre only after one thing
The try hard part is in the bold. No worries, learn from experience.
The whole thing about her saying how her friends saw you making out with another girl is just a shit test. Maintain your frame and power through it.
It sounded like you toned down the "cocky asshole" game when you said that she was a bit special. That change in texting through her off because she was anticipating a snarky response.
What was with the "are you leaving me again now?" text?
Raccoonpaw · 2015-11-19 12:59:00 · #1934
Posted this on a wrong thread so I am copy/pasting it here.
I am curious, once you get her number, do you continue texting her here and there? I ask this because I got this chick's number today on OKC, we had some exchanges here and there but I kind of feel texting too much before you meet her IRL ruins the conversation aspect of things since we would have talked about everything during our exchange. I basically told her "We should give our fingers a break and give our vocal cords some exercise instead. So let's meet later."
We couldn't meet today, so we're meeting Sunday and yeah I did get her phone number to confirm the plans. So should I even bother continuing texting her or should I stay ghost till Sunday?
I am curious, once you get her number, do you continue texting her here and there? I ask this because I got this chick's number today on OKC, we had some exchanges here and there but I kind of feel texting too much before you meet her IRL ruins the conversation aspect of things since we would have talked about everything during our exchange. I basically told her "We should give our fingers a break and give our vocal cords some exercise instead. So let's meet later."
We couldn't meet today, so we're meeting Sunday and yeah I did get her phone number to confirm the plans. So should I even bother continuing texting her or should I stay ghost till Sunday?
CynicalContrarian · 2015-11-19 15:21:00 · #1935
(11-19-2015 12:59 PM)Raccoonpaw Wrote: Posted this on a wrong thread so I am copy/pasting it here.
I am curious, once you get her number, do you continue texting her here and there? I ask this because I got this chick's number today on OKC, we had some exchanges here and there but I kind of feel texting too much before you meet her IRL ruins the conversation aspect of things since we would have talked about everything during our exchange. I basically told her "We should give our fingers a break and give our vocal cords some exercise instead. So let's meet later."
We couldn't meet today, so we're meeting Sunday and yeah I did get her phone number to confirm the plans. So should I even bother continuing texting her or should I stay ghost till Sunday?
For awhile now I've gone with a 'less is more' texting approach & it doesn't appear to hinder matters.
Although the caveat being, that's with girls I've met in person. Not from a purely online interaction.
If nothing else there's always the default notion of - if a chick is actually interested, she'll put in at least a modicum of effort.
Remington · 2015-11-19 16:00:00 · #1936
(11-19-2015 03:21 PM)CynicalContrarian Wrote:(11-19-2015 12:59 PM)Raccoonpaw Wrote: Posted this on a wrong thread so I am copy/pasting it here.
I am curious, once you get her number, do you continue texting her here and there? I ask this because I got this chick's number today on OKC, we had some exchanges here and there but I kind of feel texting too much before you meet her IRL ruins the conversation aspect of things since we would have talked about everything during our exchange. I basically told her "We should give our fingers a break and give our vocal cords some exercise instead. So let's meet later."
We couldn't meet today, so we're meeting Sunday and yeah I did get her phone number to confirm the plans. So should I even bother continuing texting her or should I stay ghost till Sunday?
For awhile now I've gone with a 'less is more' texting approach & it doesn't appear to hinder matters.
Although the caveat being, that's with girls I've met in person. Not from a purely online interaction.
If nothing else there's always the default notion of - if a chick is actually interested, she'll put in at least a modicum of effort.
I usually continue to text them to maintain and continue to build the comfort they need to prevent them from flaking. You don't want to blow up her phone but you don't want to go radio silent either. Find a happy medium so you decrease the odds of flaking.
keegs · 2015-11-19 21:09:00 · #1937
Tinder girl. Current exchange (after some decent rapport):
her: blabhblahblah
me: what are you doing
her: out in (neighborhood), how about you?
me: out in (different neighborhood)
No reply after like 20 min....how can I keep this going tonight for hopefully a meetup? I was gonna say "wanna meet halfway later for a drink"
thoughts?
her: blabhblahblah
me: what are you doing
her: out in (neighborhood), how about you?
me: out in (different neighborhood)
No reply after like 20 min....how can I keep this going tonight for hopefully a meetup? I was gonna say "wanna meet halfway later for a drink"
thoughts?
Remington · 2015-11-19 22:00:00 · #1938
^You gave her a close ended response. Not surprising she didn't respond back. Make your responses more entertaining/funny or BS them if you aren't doing anything cool.
"I'm at the shooting range dialing in my M-4"
"I went to a bar to watch professional midget tossing, the pmt organization"
"I was given box seats to tonight's game"
"I'm at the shooting range dialing in my M-4"
"I went to a bar to watch professional midget tossing, the pmt organization"
"I was given box seats to tonight's game"
keegs · 2015-11-19 22:02:00 · #1939
yeah good call, i realized that too.
she said some bs back and i said wanna meet half way, she said "sounds great but not tonight! feel bad leaving X havent seen her in a while"
prob legit
she said some bs back and i said wanna meet half way, she said "sounds great but not tonight! feel bad leaving X havent seen her in a while"
prob legit
Remington · 2015-11-19 22:10:00 · #1940
Make sure you're not over eager and respond immediately every time she texts you. Be patient and text other girls to keep you occupied and to keep your options open.
~wrIghter~ · 2015-11-19 23:46:00 · #1941
Rarely do online these days (lack of interested matches as well). Today blonde 7 (body 7, face 6.5). responded to a new opener I've worked with relating to my bio. She took the bait and agreed to meet. I take it over to text and I fuck up with the comfort building. I respond to her text right away and the convo isn't popping/entertaining. Comfort building is usually where I lose my leads.
My last text was asking how long she's been in the city (she's from NY). I'm not a fan of double texting but I'd like to have a date to meet up soon (Saturday maybe). My guess is to wait for the response before moving forward with the interaction?
My last text was asking how long she's been in the city (she's from NY). I'm not a fan of double texting but I'd like to have a date to meet up soon (Saturday maybe). My guess is to wait for the response before moving forward with the interaction?
keegs · 2015-11-20 13:58:00 · #1942
feel like im being needy in this thread so my apologies.
thoughts on opening this girl back up today:
(last night, on her not being able to leave her friends to meet me for a drink)
her: Sounds great but not tonight! Feel bad leaving since havent seen them in a while
me: honorable
her: Tell me about it
next??
thoughts on opening this girl back up today:
(last night, on her not being able to leave her friends to meet me for a drink)
her: Sounds great but not tonight! Feel bad leaving since havent seen them in a while
me: honorable
her: Tell me about it
next??
rudebwoy · 2015-11-20 14:06:00 · #1943
^You answered your own question.
Her friends took precedent over you.
Her friends took precedent over you.
kaotic · 2015-11-20 14:12:00 · #1944
(11-20-2015 01:58 PM)keegs Wrote: feel like im being needy in this thread so my apologies.
thoughts on opening this girl back up today:
(last night, on her not being able to leave her friends to meet me for a drink)
her: Sounds great but not tonight! Feel bad leaving since havent seen them in a while
me: honorable
her: Tell me about it
next??
Should of left it at her response, shouldn't of send the honarable - send a restart text in a few days when you're available. Next time feel her schedule out first, if it aligns with yours - then pull the trigger on a day, time, and location.
keegs · 2015-11-20 17:06:00 · #1945
^^yeah I regretted it immediately.
Another tinder girl. Told her "your flirting needs work" after she gave me a super lame response to my opener.
Then she goes "I only try when I don't think it's gonna be easy (laughing crying face)".
What's a good come back to that?
Another tinder girl. Told her "your flirting needs work" after she gave me a super lame response to my opener.
Then she goes "I only try when I don't think it's gonna be easy (laughing crying face)".
What's a good come back to that?
glugger · 2015-11-20 21:25:00 · #1946
More flirting. That line was good because now she is.
keegs · 2015-11-20 21:49:00 · #1947
I know. Any thoughts on a good comeback flirty line? I'm runnin dry
Remington · 2015-11-21 10:19:00 · #1948
studmuffin52 · 2015-11-22 03:02:00 · #1949
(11-16-2015 06:28 AM)studmuffin52 Wrote: Continuation from texting my 9. Texted her today.
Me: "Hey. I'll be in the city on Wednesday. Let's catch up for dinner."
Her: "hey yes that sounds good!"
Her: "please forgive me... is it studmuffin or struckmuffin?? it was really noisy at the club"
Me: "Think you owe me two drinks now"
Me: "I'll let you decide which one to use on Wednesday. Let's meet at 7:45"
Her: "hahaha"
Her: "okies 7:45 is good"
[10 hours later]
Her: "heyy"
Her: "I can't see you this wednesday I have work and I forgot about it!!"
Her: "another day??"
Me: "I am free tmr"
Her: "aww im kinda busy tmr. need to go doctors and find shoes for work. sorry for the slow replies! I just got home frm work. What about sometime next week? I just started this job and theres so many things I need to do! zz"
Haven't replied yet, but just thinking of going with "k". Is this suitable?
EDIT: Went with "Sure."
Is there any point in sending a text next week to meet up? She's a solid 9-9.5, almost every guy was hitting on her at the club. Wouldn't surprise me if she forgets about me next week. Admittedly, hope has gone down a few notches tonight.
Continued with this. Messaged her on Friday (3 days after last text above)...
[Friday]
Me: "hey troublemaker hows your week been" (purposely left out grammar)
Her: "trouble maker?? hahaha"
Her: "its goodd"
Her: "how are you?"
Me: "Office all week. Will be good to get out tonight."
Her: "
"[5 hours later]
Her: "studmuffin or struckmuffin??....
?"Her: "just tell me already!"
Me: "Guess when we meet up. I want to have a giggle"
[1 hour later]
Her: "
"Its Sunday now and would like to organise a meet up (I can only do evenings). What sort of text should I send?
CynicalContrarian · 2015-11-22 06:55:00 · #1950
studmuffin52.
Two choices really.
Try & pry a specific time-frame out of the girl. Noting nothing is actually guaranteed & she may still flake at any moment.
Or specify a specific time & place that suits you, where you have a back-up plan (that also suits you) in case the chick flakes.
If she's really interested, she'll make a modicum of effort.
Two choices really.
Try & pry a specific time-frame out of the girl. Noting nothing is actually guaranteed & she may still flake at any moment.
Or specify a specific time & place that suits you, where you have a back-up plan (that also suits you) in case the chick flakes.
If she's really interested, she'll make a modicum of effort.
studmuffin52 · 2015-11-22 23:08:00 · #1951
Thanks CC. I took your advice on board.
Below text conversation took place. Each of my texts is roughly 1 hour to 30 minutes after hers:
Me: “Hey hey. How was your weekend”
Her: “Hey studmuffin/struckmuffin J”
Her: “My weekend was boring. Just worked and studied, how was yours!!”
Me: “Is that how I am saved I am saved in your phone as?”
Her: “yup lol J”
Me: “Busy week this week?”
Her: “not as busy as lat week with work training and stuff haha”
Her: [sends screenshot of her mobile phone showing how I recorded in her mobile]
Her: “how about you? And what do you do??”
Me: “That colour scheme gives me a headache….”
Her: “haha its pretty!”
Me: “Didn’t I tell you? I am unemployed. Currently live in my parent’s basement…” (she knows I work in an office but didn’t want to qualify myself to her)
Her: “LOL”
Me: “My client is based in eastern suburbs. We should grab a drink this week.”
Her: “Yeah J”
Me: “Let’s do tmr. 7:45 in front of… [so and so shopping centre]”
Her: “aww I have work tmr til 8:30”
Her: [sends photo of her work timetable showing hours]
Me: “Those are odd hours, do you work those for the entire week”
Her: “yeah L”
Her: [finds me on a facebook and adds me]
Her: “STUDMUFFIN!”
Her: “I KNEW IT”
Her: “hahaha”
Me: “Stud is also acceptable”
Me: “You’ll have to suggest a time and I’ll see if I am in GW”
Her: “okay!! I’ll let you know soon studdy! L”
Pretty sure the interaction is dead. Mistake putting ball in her court to make a time. Certain she’ll forget and nothing will happen. This just teaches me that roosh is right, always go for the lay, no matter what, instead of the girl’s number. Night was completely wasted. Actually turned down an SNL for this 9.5.
Below text conversation took place. Each of my texts is roughly 1 hour to 30 minutes after hers:
Me: “Hey hey. How was your weekend”
Her: “Hey studmuffin/struckmuffin J”
Her: “My weekend was boring. Just worked and studied, how was yours!!”
Me: “Is that how I am saved I am saved in your phone as?”
Her: “yup lol J”
Me: “Busy week this week?”
Her: “not as busy as lat week with work training and stuff haha”
Her: [sends screenshot of her mobile phone showing how I recorded in her mobile]
Her: “how about you? And what do you do??”
Me: “That colour scheme gives me a headache….”
Her: “haha its pretty!
”Me: “Didn’t I tell you? I am unemployed. Currently live in my parent’s basement…” (she knows I work in an office but didn’t want to qualify myself to her)
Her: “LOL”
Me: “My client is based in eastern suburbs. We should grab a drink this week.”
Her: “Yeah J”
Me: “Let’s do tmr. 7:45 in front of… [so and so shopping centre]”
Her: “aww I have work tmr til 8:30”
Her: [sends photo of her work timetable showing hours]
Me: “Those are odd hours, do you work those for the entire week”
Her: “yeah L”
Her: [finds me on a facebook and adds me]
Her: “STUDMUFFIN!”
Her: “I KNEW IT”
Her: “hahaha”
Me: “Stud is also acceptable”
Me: “You’ll have to suggest a time and I’ll see if I am in GW”
Her: “okay!! I’ll let you know soon studdy! L”
Pretty sure the interaction is dead. Mistake putting ball in her court to make a time. Certain she’ll forget and nothing will happen. This just teaches me that roosh is right, always go for the lay, no matter what, instead of the girl’s number. Night was completely wasted. Actually turned down an SNL for this 9.5.
kaotic · 2015-11-22 23:55:00 · #1952
You kept probing, instead of straight up asking for her work schedule, once you knew her schedule, then plan a timeslot that's open for both of you.
Secondly, don't EVER add some random chick you don't know well on FB, personally I NEVER add a girl I'm banging on facebook.
You know exactly what you did wrong, you offered to to suggest a time, bad mistake.
Anytime a bitch says "I'll let you know" - it's usually a dead end.
Always take a control, always maintain the frame, and always set the dates/logistics up, strike while the iron is hot.
Secondly, don't EVER add some random chick you don't know well on FB, personally I NEVER add a girl I'm banging on facebook.
You know exactly what you did wrong, you offered to to suggest a time, bad mistake.
Anytime a bitch says "I'll let you know" - it's usually a dead end.
Always take a control, always maintain the frame, and always set the dates/logistics up, strike while the iron is hot.
studmuffin52 · 2015-11-23 00:04:00 · #1953
Anyway to recover?
kaotic · 2015-11-23 01:51:00 · #1954
Vaun · 2015-11-23 07:23:00 · #1955
I need some advice; shes 22 and we banged on Friday night. Shes mad at me that I got a hotel room instead of taking her to my place. Now she is acting all bitchy over text, but keeps texting me back all day, and called me after I told her to yesterday. She's very compliant now and calls me master, and doesnt seem to be going anywhere even though shes mad, in fact she texts me more often now. So I guess I am to believe her bitchyness is fake, and she wants to keep it going. I'd prefer her to keep the happy go lucky sweet college girl I met, and not have this weird whatever it is, but she seems to really like this dynamic. I dont want to lose frame over text, or look beta over text, I want to keep this going to keep banging her.
She's smoking hot, I'm almost 20 years older than her, and just worried about coming off thirsty or needy in text. Ideally she gets all cutesy and sweet again, instead of bitchy, she was also really rough during sex so I guess she digs it. I unwittingly fell into this. The dynamic now between us could play out like the movie The Secretary, http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0274812/ I'd like it to, but I have almost no experience in this. Where is Reaper when you need him.
How do I stay her master over text and keep this going?
EDIT: As I write this I realize it looks like she wants a master/slave type relationship. I've never done this before. Where do I begin, how do I learn this? Moving to the BDSM thread.
She's smoking hot, I'm almost 20 years older than her, and just worried about coming off thirsty or needy in text. Ideally she gets all cutesy and sweet again, instead of bitchy, she was also really rough during sex so I guess she digs it. I unwittingly fell into this. The dynamic now between us could play out like the movie The Secretary, http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0274812/ I'd like it to, but I have almost no experience in this. Where is Reaper when you need him.
How do I stay her master over text and keep this going?
EDIT: As I write this I realize it looks like she wants a master/slave type relationship. I've never done this before. Where do I begin, how do I learn this? Moving to the BDSM thread.
Remington · 2015-11-23 10:25:00 · #1956
^It seems like you are doing the right things when it comes to your text game and maintaining frame. Since it seems like she is very submissive, you can probably knock her down a peg when she gets all bitchy.
If I was you, I'd tell her via text or over the phone that I don't appreciate her bitchy attitude and that she better start to behave. It sounds like that attitude would best help you since she sounds so submissive. Maybe she wants you to put her in her place.
If I was you, I'd tell her via text or over the phone that I don't appreciate her bitchy attitude and that she better start to behave. It sounds like that attitude would best help you since she sounds so submissive. Maybe she wants you to put her in her place.
SomeFcksGiven · 2015-11-23 12:50:00 · #1957
(11-22-2015 11:08 PM)studmuffin52 Wrote: ...
Pretty sure the interaction is dead. Mistake putting ball in her court to make a time. Certain she’ll forget and nothing will happen. This just teaches me that roosh is right, always go for the lay, no matter what, instead of the girl’s number. Night was completely wasted. Actually turned down an SNL for this 9.5.
I don't know. I think some of the guys here are being overly skeptical. She's being flirty, using smileys, replying excitedly.. she seems interested. I don't think that's something to overlook. It could just be a classic case of logistics getting in the way.
I've been in this situation many times and got the bang. If she's enthusiastically replying, keep the momentum going and ask her out again in a few days. A week tops.