(09-10-2015 09:37 PM)Goldhawkstar Wrote:  Just did my first round of Tinder swiping.

This is hilarious! How could she actually think "hmmm. This will attract guys."

Whenever I see a girl's first picture I think: "This is the most attractive she will ever look." And the girl above chose THAT picture!

Tinder is terrible in Germany in my experience as for Finland however wow match after match

I signed up for one month of Tinder Plus.

It's not worth the money. My matches decreased since I rebooted my profile and started over again. I think swiping too many people at once makes you invisible. You're better off just pacing yourself with the limited swipes from what I gather.

Quote:Just did my first round of Tinder swiping.

Did you match with her

Tinder pisses me off most of the time, alot of girls match but don't answer. I've had one girl whos matched with me like 5 times and never replies.. what the fuck.

I'm 0-4 on Tinder dates so far. Three of them I got age frauded the worst I've been in years- these lying women were using stated ages and pics that easily were over a decade old. I ended it quickly.

The last date sort of made up for it though- she was hotter than her pics-way hotter. I've met I'm sure hundreds of women from online and she was in the top three best looking I've ever met. She's in pharmaceutical sales, which if you know anything about the field, almost entirely consists of very hot women. We met halfway between our towns, so logistics weren't good, so I held back on the kino and built sexual tension with body language and eye contact, which seemed to work well. Did not kiss her until the very end of the date, which is unusual for me. She seems to be somewhat religious and maybe a bit conservative sexually, so I'm going to slow play it, which is something I normally don't have the patience for, but I find both her looks and personality very attractive, so it's worth some investment I think. Plus I'm banging two other girls, so it's not like I'm desperate. She's coming to my town this weekend for an event I invited her to, so I'll try to get her to my house and see what happens.

(09-14-2015 09:34 PM)MrXY Wrote:  I'm 0-4 on Tinder dates so far. Three of them I got age frauded the worst I've been in years- these lying women were using stated ages and pics that easily were over a decade old. I ended it quickly.

The last date sort of made up for it though- she was hotter than her pics-way hotter. I've met I'm sure hundreds of women from online and she was in the top three best looking I've ever met. She's in pharmaceutical sales, which if you know anything about the field, almost entirely consists of very hot women. We met halfway between our towns, so logistics weren't good, so I held back on the kino and built sexual tension with body language and eye contact, which seemed to work well. Did not kiss her until the very end of the date, which is unusual for me. She seems to be somewhat religious and maybe a bit conservative sexually, so I'm going to slow play it, which is something I normally don't have the patience for, but I find both her looks and personality very attractive, so it's worth some investment I think. Plus I'm banging two other girls, so it's not like I'm desperate. She's coming to my town this weekend for an event I invited her to, so I'll try to get her to my house and see what happens.

I'm interested to see how this one plays out. It seems like whenever I've had dates like these I never end up seeing them again. They almost always ghost on me.

(09-15-2015 08:48 AM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:  

(09-14-2015 09:34 PM)MrXY Wrote:  I'm 0-4 on Tinder dates so far. Three of them I got age frauded the worst I've been in years- these lying women were using stated ages and pics that easily were over a decade old. I ended it quickly.

The last date sort of made up for it though- she was hotter than her pics-way hotter. I've met I'm sure hundreds of women from online and she was in the top three best looking I've ever met. She's in pharmaceutical sales, which if you know anything about the field, almost entirely consists of very hot women. We met halfway between our towns, so logistics weren't good, so I held back on the kino and built sexual tension with body language and eye contact, which seemed to work well. Did not kiss her until the very end of the date, which is unusual for me. She seems to be somewhat religious and maybe a bit conservative sexually, so I'm going to slow play it, which is something I normally don't have the patience for, but I find both her looks and personality very attractive, so it's worth some investment I think. Plus I'm banging two other girls, so it's not like I'm desperate. She's coming to my town this weekend for an event I invited her to, so I'll try to get her to my house and see what happens.

I'm interested to see how this one plays out. It seems like whenever I've had dates like these I never end up seeing them again. They almost always ghost on me.

What do you mean Oregon? Dates where you didn't make a move until the very end?

The swipe limit while annoying I can deal with but I find for the most part in a large city girl's just aren't really getting to my profile a lot of the time, and with the age filter I'm probably completely exempt from some girls feed.

So here is something I've been experimenting with, for the particularly hot girls or the odd 18/19 year old I'll just follow her on instagram if we don't match immediately. Some will follow back some won't, for the ones that won't I just unfollow after a few days so as not to overfeed their ego. I monitor small things like follow/follower ratio so if she doesn't follow too many people that could be interpreted as interest, and just keep an eye on the ones that like your posts etc...

Then use the DM feature to strike up conversation based on one of their recent posts or something, usually send them a related picture (IG only allows DM's if you send a picture too). I've tried this method with about 10 or so girls recently and got 3 numbers but haven't had time to pursue further.

Probably only works for those that have a decent enough IG, but at the least you are getting around some of the limitations that would otherwise hinder you on Tinder.

(09-15-2015 08:50 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  What do you mean Oregon? Dates where you didn't make a move until the very end?

No, dates where I wasn't able to go for the bang due to logistics or her not wanting to come home with me. Call me jaded but I have little to no faith in there ever being a 'next time' if the bang doesn't happen on the first date.

The most common comment/ shit test I keep seeing is
"I'm not here for hookups"

A woman just messaged me that after I said we would get into trouble together if we met.

Anyone have a good response to "I'm not here for hookups"?

(09-15-2015 01:48 PM)Kane12:00 Wrote:  The most common comment/ shit test I keep seeing is
"I'm not here for hookups"

A woman just messaged me that after I said we would get into trouble together if we met.

Anyone have a good response to "I'm not here for hookups"?

If she says this to me in person or while speaking on the phone I'll reply with something like 'please, I'm too old for that' using a dismissive tone implying that was one of the stupidest things she could say.

Of course that won't derail me in the slightest from doing just that

(09-15-2015 04:37 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:  

(09-15-2015 01:48 PM)Kane12:00 Wrote:  The most common comment/ shit test I keep seeing is
"I'm not here for hookups"

A woman just messaged me that after I said we would get into trouble together if we met.

Anyone have a good response to "I'm not here for hookups"?

If she says this to me in person or while speaking on the phone I'll reply with something like 'please, I'm too old for that' using a dismissive tone implying that was one of the stupidest things she could say.

Of course that won't derail me in the slightest from doing just that

I decided to reply with:
That's great to hear because I just picked out the engagement ring, Hope you like Princess cut.

Seemed to work okay.

guys on here are such jerks. I'm so glad you're not like that

random crap:

I'm pregnant

come back later

It's yours

come back again

And I'm having it

for females absolutely nothing in their profiles on just any site: heeey. I can tell from your profile we would really get along great.

I'm getting almost exclusively bots, where before I was getting mostly real users. I'm not in a major city, but the c/b analysis of time spent will probably prompt me to discontinue using tinder in the near future.

you kind of look like emily blunt. speaking of blunt
[wait]
wanna smoke some weed and fuck

WTF.... every message I try to send on tinder fails, not like fails cause the girls laugh at my corny advances but fails to send. I tried closing it and powering off the phone and still nothing. I even paid the $9 to be tinder VIP.

Having the same issue today. Always best to move them to whatsapp as fast as possible...obviously this is a challenge in the us

I got Tinder a month ago. Maybe I'm missing something, but I find Tinder to be either terribly disappointing or I am really ugly. I got Tinder Plus and have probably swiped at 500+ girls so far. All I got was like 10 matches with most of them either unmatching within a few hours or bots (when did they become a thing?). The matches I got were ugly and didn't amount to anywhere. Was Tinder always this bad or was it better a few years ago? I'm hoping that I'm not getting automatically left swiped because of my black. Apps like Tinder make you really self-conscious about issues that you don't worry about in real life.

When I went to Europe, I got around 25 matches of much better quality (granted it didn't go anywhere with most of them). 0 bots. Only 2 girls unmatched me there.

(09-20-2015 10:37 PM)Iso Wrote:  I got Tinder a month ago. Maybe I'm missing something, but I find Tinder to be either terribly disappointing or I am really ugly. I got Tinder Plus and have probably swiped at 500+ girls so far. All I got was like 10 matches with most of them either unmatching within a few hours or bots (when did they become a thing?). The matches I got were ugly and didn't amount to anywhere. Was Tinder always this bad or was it better a few years ago? I'm hoping that I'm not getting automatically left swiped because of my black. Apps like Tinder make you really self-conscious about issues that you don't worry about in real life.

When I went to Europe, I got around 25 matches of much better quality (granted it didn't go anywhere with most of them). 0 bots. Only 2 girls unmatched me there.

What are your pics like? That can make a huge difference.

Also, pretty sure I've read on here that Tinder in the States can be rough for black dudes unfortunately. I'm white so obviously can't comment from personal experience in that regard but I've definitely seen that mentioned before.

(09-20-2015 10:37 PM)Iso Wrote:  I got Tinder a month ago. Maybe I'm missing something, but I find Tinder to be either terribly disappointing or I am really ugly. I got Tinder Plus and have probably swiped at 500+ girls so far. All I got was like 10 matches with most of them either unmatching within a few hours or bots (when did they become a thing?). The matches I got were ugly and didn't amount to anywhere. Was Tinder always this bad or was it better a few years ago? I'm hoping that I'm not getting automatically left swiped because of my black. Apps like Tinder make you really self-conscious about issues that you don't worry about in real life.

When I went to Europe, I got around 25 matches of much better quality (granted it didn't go anywhere with most of them). 0 bots. Only 2 girls unmatched me there.

I'm black as well, it could be your location, in my hometown I get zero when I travel I get a lot more matches, don't beat yourself up over it my good man just keep swiping.

(09-21-2015 07:54 PM)Mabina Wrote:  

(09-20-2015 10:37 PM)Iso Wrote:  I got Tinder a month ago. Maybe I'm missing something, but I find Tinder to be either terribly disappointing or I am really ugly. I got Tinder Plus and have probably swiped at 500+ girls so far. All I got was like 10 matches with most of them either unmatching within a few hours or bots (when did they become a thing?). The matches I got were ugly and didn't amount to anywhere. Was Tinder always this bad or was it better a few years ago? I'm hoping that I'm not getting automatically left swiped because of my black. Apps like Tinder make you really self-conscious about issues that you don't worry about in real life.

When I went to Europe, I got around 25 matches of much better quality (granted it didn't go anywhere with most of them). 0 bots. Only 2 girls unmatched me there.

I'm black as well, it could be your location, in my hometown I get zero when I travel I get a lot more matches, don't beat yourself up over it my good man just keep swiping.

Im in DC. Sometimes I wonder if Tinder even shows my profile to girls. My match rate is embarrassingly low.

(09-21-2015 09:52 PM)Iso Wrote:  

(09-21-2015 07:54 PM)Mabina Wrote:  

(09-20-2015 10:37 PM)Iso Wrote:  I got Tinder a month ago. Maybe I'm missing something, but I find Tinder to be either terribly disappointing or I am really ugly. I got Tinder Plus and have probably swiped at 500+ girls so far. All I got was like 10 matches with most of them either unmatching within a few hours or bots (when did they become a thing?). The matches I got were ugly and didn't amount to anywhere. Was Tinder always this bad or was it better a few years ago? I'm hoping that I'm not getting automatically left swiped because of my black. Apps like Tinder make you really self-conscious about issues that you don't worry about in real life.

When I went to Europe, I got around 25 matches of much better quality (granted it didn't go anywhere with most of them). 0 bots. Only 2 girls unmatched me there.

I'm black as well, it could be your location, in my hometown I get zero when I travel I get a lot more matches, don't beat yourself up over it my good man just keep swiping.

Im in DC. Sometimes I wonder if Tinder even shows my profile to girls. My match rate is embarrassingly low.

It's definitely your race and location. My solution is to keep swiping to maximum 20 mins a day and approach at least 2 girls a day. I started doing this and began to give a fuck about tinder less and less. When you get matches, but got the number of the cute chick at starbucks, you'll tend to put tinder on the back burner and get that confidence back it sounds like you need.

-CD

Accidentally had my Tinder Plus location set to a city further up north in Europe where I am, where I don't expect to be for just over another fortnight. Got a bunch of matches there. Reckon it wouldn't be too long a timeframe for them to lose interest?

(09-22-2015 04:37 AM)JWLZG Wrote:  Accidentally had my Tinder Plus location set to a city further up north in Europe where I am, where I don't expect to be for just over another fortnight. Got a bunch of matches there. Reckon it wouldn't be too long a timeframe for them to lose interest?

Possibly, but you have to keep interest going. Keep the wheels spinning. Add to Whatsapp, add to Facebook etc. I finally met a Tinder girl who I added MONTHS ago.