Post: #1

The title is pretty self explanatory. It's not just those though, she doesn't like giving handjobs either. There's not a lot of foreplay for me before sex. It's always me getting her warmed up. Has anyone been in a similar situation to this? It's really frustrating when she starfishes every single god damn time

Post: #2

Spring is here, time to find a new girlfriend.

Post: #3

Her sexual energy sounds terrible - some women just aren't into sex as us men.

rudebwoy is right - time to replace her !

Remember if a woman isn't willing to suck your dick and swallow your seed, she isn't worth keeping around.

Spitters are quitters.

Post: #4

Bro just dump her ass. It's that simple.

There is no reason whatsoever to keep an underperformer unless dumping her could hurt you financially. Then it's a judgement call.

But other than that, no reason to stay.

None. None. None.

There are tons of other bitches out there who love sucking cock.

Do not settle. Cheat on her. Let her know.

Her worth is a figment of your imagination.

Why are you with her?

Post: #5

(05-08-2017 02:00 PM)Steelex Wrote:  Why are you with her?

Right--are you just with her for a hookup? In that case, seems like you should move on. Does she have other redeeming qualities? Is this something that could be fixed with a simple "hey, I wish you would do X" conversation? If not, move on.

Post: #6

(05-08-2017 01:22 PM)BrandonCodi Wrote:  The title is pretty self explanatory. It's not just those though, she doesn't like giving handjobs either. There's not a lot of foreplay for me before sex. It's always me getting her warmed up. Has anyone been in a similar situation to this? It's really frustrating when she starfishes every single god damn time

How in the fuck do even craft a phrase in which the words "GF" and "hates BJs" appear together?

That said - I have two constructive thoughts (from another post)

(04-20-2017 02:51 PM)Jack_Smith Wrote:  Two thoughts - Turn Her Out + Get Clear on Your Sexual Standards

Turn Her Out
What she is telling you is what she already knows how to do. That's fine as a starting point, but she is almost certainly capable of more. I believe that all women are. That said, the fact that she says "that is just the way I am" is concerning, there is no guarantee that you can bring more out of her, and regardless, you may not want to make that investment.

Try this and report back. I found the link in a thread here on women who cannot cum. Really good starting point, fun reading, and over a decade of success stories about making women cum faster and harder than they ever thought possible.


Get Clear on Your Sexual Standards
Decide what you want, sexually. Shop for compatible partners. Invest your sexual energy where you will get your best return.

I screen hard for sexual compatibility. I want ongoing FBs, FWBs, MLTRs, where the sex is fun, chill, and continuously escalating/improving. I am definitely willing to invest sexually to turn a girl out - that's some fun shit - but she's got to be ready and have her mind right. There is some shit on which life is simply too short to spend time. For reference.

Jack's Sex Nexts

• Limp Dick (her problem)
• Lack of Enthusiasm / Quiet
• Doesn't Like Being Naked
• Clitoral Inorgasmia
• Vaginal Inorgasmia
• Not Multi-Orgasmic
• Spitting
• Won't Taste Her Own Pussy (from finger, lips AND dick)
• Won't Call You "Daddy" (or whatever)
• Not Submissive
• Unresponsive Nips
• Complains about Light Biting, Hair Pulling, Spanking
• Not Up for Sexual Adventure/Escalation
  

Bonus Points for

• Anal Play
• Anal Penetration
• Anal Fuck
• Anally Orgasmic
• ATM
• Deep Spot Orgasm (Anterior Fornix?)
• Multiple Clitoral Orgasms
• Multiple Anal Orgasms
• Ability to Cum 10+ Times/session
• Public/Outdoor Sex
• 3some
• Teaching Me Something
  

Post: #7

Wife her up, she's so pure.
   

Post: #8

It's very easy to simply say dump her.

If she's fulfilling the majority of your other needs emotionally/financially etc, you may just need to get a side bish who will handle the rest.

Post: #9

(05-08-2017 02:22 PM)DimeBait Wrote:  It's very easy to simply say dump her.

If she's fulfilling the majority of your other needs emotionally/financially etc, you may just need to get a side bish who will handle the rest.

I can agree with this - but really depends on the history he has with this woman.

But there's nothing like having a main girl who on the same sexual level as you, or one that is willing to be taught.

Post: #10

Next.

Women will do whatever to please you, if you're attractive enough. You are not, apparently, and you didn't correct that shit early.

You're not married, why would you accept that behaviour?

Post: #11

If my toy is broken I just simply get a new one.

Post: #12

All great advice.

I've talked to her about these things before but she says she feels self conscious giving head? I tell her that she is great and has nothing to worry about. I don't know. She just overthinks a lot. I don't necessarily want to break up with her. She is really great girl and has a lot of other things going for her and she cares a lot about me. I don't think this reason is enough to break it off, but if this were to be combined with several others then I would have a problem. I just wonder if anyone has been in a situation like this before and how/if they were able to overcome it.

Post: #13

Yeah it's easy to say dump her. A hot woman who isn't pleasing her man is like a nice car with a busted motor.

It only takes a few things to really fuck up a relationship.

Post: #14

It all depends how important sex is to you.

For me, I am not going to last long with a girl that doesn't satisfy me in bed.

For you to come on here and start a thread, would imply sex is important to you as well.

Maybe dumping her is too harsh, I would be looking at other girls and keeping my options open.

Life is too short for bad sex.

Post: #15

Don't complain. If you are an obedient boy, she'll let you eat her out.

Post: #16

BJs are not for her, they're for you. If she was into you enough, she'd do them anyway. Same goes with anal. It's all about having a woman who is willing to submit herself to you whether it's something she likes or not. If BJs are important to you, do you really want to be in a relationship where you're not getting something you clearly like enough to start a thread about it?

Post: #17

(05-08-2017 03:50 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  It all depends how important sex is to you.

For me, I am not going to last long with a girl that doesn't satisfy me in bed.

For you to come on here and start a thread, would imply sex is important to you as well.

Maybe dumping her is too harsh, I would be looking at other girls and keeping my options open.

Life is too short for bad sex.

It is important, maybe not as important for me as it is for some of the gents here. All these replies are helpful though. Some forums it takes forever to get a reply but this one is super fast!

Post: #18

(05-08-2017 03:37 PM)BrandonCodi Wrote:  All great advice.

I've talked to her about these things before but she says she feels self conscious giving head? I tell her that she is great and has nothing to worry about. I don't know. She just overthinks a lot. I don't necessarily want to break up with her. She is really great girl and has a lot of other things going for her and she cares a lot about me. I don't think this reason is enough to break it off, but if this were to be combined with several others then I would have a problem. I just wonder if anyone has been in a situation like this before and how/if they were able to overcome it.

Serious question: Hows your hygiene?

If she doesn't like giving you blowjobs or handjobs then she seemingly has an aversion to your tub puppet...why?

Does she like chocolate?

Post: #19

So how did she become your GF in the first place?

Post: #20

My buddy's ex girlfriend gave him similar reasons for never giving him head. "I don't think I'll be any good at it." "I'm just not into that." etc, etc.

Then come to find out she used to throat dick like a porn star at every party. The point being, her reasons are bullshit. A girl will slobber the dick of a man she craves, and your girl doesn't crave you. If you're ok with that, then carry on. If not, then consider other options.

Post: #21

OP I've had that problem as well. They might start off making an effort and then taper off.

They might come up with all excuses.

Bottom line, they are just not into it.

Very tough if she is great in other ways....

Bottom line is that she is just not into you. Even a woman that hates doing it will have done it willingingly for other alphas before you.

At the back of your mind, it starts to create resentment and feelings of dislike, spelling doom in the long term for the relationship.

At least withdraw from eating her out. Only do it for her after she has hooked you up.

Post: #22

(05-08-2017 04:49 PM)XXL Wrote:  So how did she become your GF in the first place?

She gives good

Post: #23

The problem with your girl is that she's a starfish, not that she's not giving bjs.
She's either too young or not in love enough with you, so ejecting her won't be much of a loss.

Things may not be that bad though:
I had a gf that hated blowjobs, however she had no problem giving ass, so you can try this before taking the more radical approach.

Post: #24

Dump her. Plenty of other girls will suck cock, willingly....

Post: #25

She'd love sucking dick if you were Channing Tatum.