Post: #76

(08-18-2015 10:10 AM)Blackwell Wrote:  I disagree with the entire premise on whether or not you should buy them a drink or not. As in I disagree that it's something worth giving significant attention to.

I think it's something that newbies are concerned with. I think it's just falls into the background once you get some experience in the game and everything is relatively on point with your looks, wit, style etc.

You hit a spot, walk up to a cute girl and get a couple drinks for her or whoever your with and you just go about your game.

They wouldn't even have to ask me to buy them a drink. If I opened them and I was digging her look and her vibe I will just buy her a fucking drink and then let my game do the talking. I'm there to communicate a fun vibe with her and get her comfortable so I can get it going.

If I have to confidence to go out and game a chick directly I'm not gonna sweat a drink or two. If I go out and chat to a cute girl and I know I'm looking sharp I'm just going to get her one. I think this is something that comes with better screening.

I guarantee you that if you fail to succeed it isn't going to have anything to do with whether or not you bought her a drink or not.

That said, girls that come out and ask directly will you buy me a drink, which I understand was part of the OPs original question then I would bounce as those are probably the types of girls that ain't worth the hassle.

However, when I spot a girl who I can tell is a little lower caliber and a bit of a slut I probably won't bother and will just proceed with some more asshole type game. The damaged ones eat it up. This again also comes down to your ability to screen.

My two cents.

This is my position too. I read some guys saying here they would never buy a drink for a girl. I can only imagine how poor their sex lives must be. Buying drinks for others doesn't have to be an extreme between you either buy all the time or you don't buy at all. You can always screen and moderate how much you spend and on who you spend. Like you said I would buy a drink for a girl I approached but if a girl approached me and doesn't want to commit to me I wouldn't. It doesn't matter if it is a cheap drink or expensive one.

Post: #77

(08-18-2015 10:38 AM)turuk Wrote:  

(08-18-2015 10:10 AM)Blackwell Wrote:  I disagree with the entire premise on whether or not you should buy them a drink or not. As in I disagree that it's something worth giving significant attention to.

I think it's something that newbies are concerned with. I think it's just falls into the background once you get some experience in the game and everything is relatively on point with your looks, wit, style etc.

You hit a spot, walk up to a cute girl and get a couple drinks for her or whoever your with and you just go about your game.

They wouldn't even have to ask me to buy them a drink. If I opened them and I was digging her look and her vibe I will just buy her a fucking drink and then let my game do the talking. I'm there to communicate a fun vibe with her and get her comfortable so I can get it going.

If I have to confidence to go out and game a chick directly I'm not gonna sweat a drink or two. If I go out and chat to a cute girl and I know I'm looking sharp I'm just going to get her one. I think this is something that comes with better screening.

I guarantee you that if you fail to succeed it isn't going to have anything to do with whether or not you bought her a drink or not.

That said, girls that come out and ask directly will you buy me a drink, which I understand was part of the OPs original question then I would bounce as those are probably the types of girls that ain't worth the hassle.

However, when I spot a girl who I can tell is a little lower caliber and a bit of a slut I probably won't bother and will just proceed with some more asshole type game. The damaged ones eat it up. This again also comes down to your ability to screen.

My two cents.

This is my position too. I read some guys saying here they would never buy a drink for a girl. I can only imagine how poor their sex lives must be. Buying drinks for others doesn't have to be an extreme between you either buy all the time or you don't buy at all. You can always screen and moderate how much you spend and on who you spend. Like you said I would buy a drink for a girl I approached but if a girl approached me and doesn't want to commit to me I wouldn't. It doesn't matter if it is a cheap drink or expensive one.

Truth. You can be fluid with it.

It's just not something I give too much thought about. That probably comes off in my vibe also.

I've banged girls that I've bought drinks for and I've banged girls that I haven't. I think the overall effect is pretty negligible especially if your overall package is there. I don't think she is going to fret over whether you buy her a drink or not and neither should you.

I will sometimes do a thing where I will buy them a drink but I will choose what that drink is. For example, get her to try a shot of the strongest thing they have there with you.

If she's feeling you then she will go with it. This is for those of you that want something to use as a test for compliance or whatever you would call it. Something that let's you buy her a drink, hold frame and test her compliancy at the same time.

But again, don't sweat it. Dress up, look good and go out and enjoy your time on this earth.

Work to improve your ability to screen and loosen up. A calm, relaxed and confident vibe comes across in your body language and how you speak. It isn't determined in any strong way by whether or not you buy her a vodka soda.

Post: #78

(08-16-2015 06:05 PM)turuk Wrote:  It was already end of the night for me so I said I can't drink. I told her I had to wake up early.

If what you wrote is true, you are really just looking for a phone number at that point, and then bounce.

When she asks for the bottle, you can just say you wouldn't be staying long enough to drink it with her. But you and her can get together some other time.

Is it even a good use of your time to go out on a night when you can't stay out late and pull a ONS? You are just going to make excuses why you couldn't close a girl. Or why you don't want to because you have stuff to do the next day.

Post: #79

As with everything else, this depends on the clam, the situation, and my mood.

Generally speaking, I rarely buy drinks for girls I've just met at the bar. Especially girls that are asking for me to buy them a drink within minutes of meeting. I'm honestly more likely to buy another bro a drink, as counter-intuitive as that sounds.

Now if there's a good vibe, and the girl doesn't ask, I may just ask her what she's drinking. I'm not in the business of letting random clams drink on my dime though.

Post: #80

Thread should be closed. This topic has been covered ad naseum:

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/thread-37463.html
/thread-5156.html
/thread-41100.html
/thread-2004-post-17930.html
/thread-41010.html
/thread-17521.html

Post: #81

Delete

Post: #82

"I spent all my money on hookers and drugs. Buy me a drink."

(Thanks to Roosh for this line)

Post: #83

(08-18-2015 04:15 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  Thread should be closed. This topic has been covered ad naseum:

/thread-10968.html
/thread-37463.html
/thread-5156.html
/thread-41100.html
/thread-2004-post-17930.html
/thread-41010.html
/thread-17521.html

If you don't have anything to add to my thread and the situation I was in please stay away from my thread... Thanks in advance.

Post: #84

(08-18-2015 10:48 AM)Blackwell Wrote:  

(08-18-2015 10:38 AM)turuk Wrote:  

(08-18-2015 10:10 AM)Blackwell Wrote:  I disagree with the entire premise on whether or not you should buy them a drink or not. As in I disagree that it's something worth giving significant attention to.

I think it's something that newbies are concerned with. I think it's just falls into the background once you get some experience in the game and everything is relatively on point with your looks, wit, style etc.

You hit a spot, walk up to a cute girl and get a couple drinks for her or whoever your with and you just go about your game.

They wouldn't even have to ask me to buy them a drink. If I opened them and I was digging her look and her vibe I will just buy her a fucking drink and then let my game do the talking. I'm there to communicate a fun vibe with her and get her comfortable so I can get it going.

If I have to confidence to go out and game a chick directly I'm not gonna sweat a drink or two. If I go out and chat to a cute girl and I know I'm looking sharp I'm just going to get her one. I think this is something that comes with better screening.

I guarantee you that if you fail to succeed it isn't going to have anything to do with whether or not you bought her a drink or not.

That said, girls that come out and ask directly will you buy me a drink, which I understand was part of the OPs original question then I would bounce as those are probably the types of girls that ain't worth the hassle.

However, when I spot a girl who I can tell is a little lower caliber and a bit of a slut I probably won't bother and will just proceed with some more asshole type game. The damaged ones eat it up. This again also comes down to your ability to screen.

My two cents.

This is my position too. I read some guys saying here they would never buy a drink for a girl. I can only imagine how poor their sex lives must be. Buying drinks for others doesn't have to be an extreme between you either buy all the time or you don't buy at all. You can always screen and moderate how much you spend and on who you spend. Like you said I would buy a drink for a girl I approached but if a girl approached me and doesn't want to commit to me I wouldn't. It doesn't matter if it is a cheap drink or expensive one.

Truth. You can be fluid with it.

It's just not something I give too much thought about. That probably comes off in my vibe also.

I've banged girls that I've bought drinks for and I've banged girls that I haven't. I think the overall effect is pretty negligible especially if your overall package is there. I don't think she is going to fret over whether you buy her a drink or not and neither should you.

I will sometimes do a thing where I will buy them a drink but I will choose what that drink is. For example, get her to try a shot of the strongest thing they have there with you.

If she's feeling you then she will go with it. This is for those of you that want something to use as a test for compliance or whatever you would call it. Something that let's you buy her a drink, hold frame and test her compliancy at the same time.

But again, don't sweat it. Dress up, look good and go out and enjoy your time on this earth.

Work to improve your ability to screen and loosen up. A calm, relaxed and confident vibe comes across in your body language and how you speak. It isn't determined in any strong way by whether or not you buy her a vodka soda.

In my opinion if one doesn't have money to buy a drink for a girl they shouldn't go out.

My policy is actually pretty modest. I won't buy a drink for every girl I'm talking to. I will certainly not buy a drink for a girl who is asking one after 10 minutes.

Just as you are saying. One should go with the flow and one's feelings. If I have a good click (something you can't fake) then I will certainly buy a 3-4 euro drink or whatever the price.

This girl I met who asked a specific drink from me and a very expensive one was definitely a red flag. I kind of joked with her but in reality I was kind of insulted by her.

Post: #85

(08-18-2015 12:25 PM)Tigre Wrote:  

(08-16-2015 06:05 PM)turuk Wrote:  It was already end of the night for me so I said I can't drink. I told her I had to wake up early.

If what you wrote is true, you are really just looking for a phone number at that point, and then bounce.

When she asks for the bottle, you can just say you wouldn't be staying long enough to drink it with her. But you and her can get together some other time.

Is it even a good use of your time to go out on a night when you can't stay out late and pull a ONS? You are just going to make excuses why you couldn't close a girl. Or why you don't want to because you have stuff to do the next day.

I really had to go but even if I had time to stay and to drink I think I wouldn't buy her that kind of expensive drink.

Post: #86

(08-19-2015 10:14 AM)turuk Wrote:  

(08-18-2015 04:15 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  Thread should be closed. This topic has been covered ad naseum:

/thread-10968.html
/thread-37463.html
/thread-5156.html
/thread-41100.html
/thread-2004-post-17930.html
/thread-41010.html
/thread-17521.html

If you don't have anything to add to my thread and the situation I was in please stay away from my thread... Thanks in advance.

Post: #87

(08-19-2015 10:14 AM)turuk Wrote:  

(08-18-2015 04:15 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  Thread should be closed. This topic has been covered ad naseum:

/thread-10968.html
/thread-37463.html
/thread-5156.html
/thread-41100.html
/thread-2004-post-17930.html
/thread-41010.html
/thread-17521.html

If you don't have anything to add to my thread and the situation I was in please stay away from my thread... Thanks in advance.

Even though my first instinct is to report your post, I'd rather give you the benefit of the doubt since I gather our cultures aren't the same. Also I'll answer all three of your questions below.

With regards to adding to the thread, I did. I suggested it be closed, which I think is actually a good thing as everything has pretty much been covered in the thread and because there are already tons of in-depth threads on buying girls drinks. I added by doing a search and then paring down the results that I thought were most relevant and linking them. If you don't want to use older threads to learn and to find answers to questions that are common and have been covered in depth, I think you fundamentally misunderstand one of the cornerstones of this forum.

(08-16-2015 06:05 PM)turuk Wrote:  So I would like to have advice on this:

-what is your policy on buying drinks for girls?

-how to know if she is really interested or just faking?

-how would you have dealt with my situation?

I buy drinks for girls when I feel like it, just like I do for men. I generally pay for my own things and expect others to pay for theirs, I'm not a charity but sometimes I do enjoy being generous.

If she's interested, she won't demand a drink, especially not a high dollar one less than 5 minutes after meeting you. It's painfully obvious that she was primarily interested in free high dollar drinks or she wouldn't have demanded such.

I would've laughed it off and given her shit, knowing that the interaction will likely lead nowhere but having a good time fucking with her or if she continues, blowing her off.

This is 100% another one of those "special snowflake" threads where the writing is on the wall, but you want to ignore it and try to get the answer that you want instead of what reality is. If you don't like my opinion, that's fine, but you solicited forum member opinions so responding condescendingly because you don't like the answers is bullshit.

Post: #88

Buy her a drink, throw it in her face, say:"That's how I get it wet." Proceed to fuck after she's turned on.

Post: #89

(08-19-2015 10:14 AM)turuk Wrote:  If you don't have anything to add to my thread and the situation I was in please stay away from my thread... Thanks in advance.

3-day suspension for condescending to members. Guys are supposed to point out dupes and report forum "maintenance" issues. You don't police "your" thread.

This is a dupe. I recognized this on page one--meaning the OP (turuk) didn't use the search feature--but let it go because the conversation had already gone almost a whole page. In fact, I'm pretty sure even my response is a dupe of my response to a similar thread somewhere else on the forum.

Post: #90

I can't be the only one that saw this coming...

Post: #91

(08-18-2015 12:57 AM)HighSpeed_LowDrag Wrote:  I just laugh in their faces and walk away.

Girls who are so shamelessly brazen that they demand you buy them drinks don't even deserve a "no."

As was mentioned earlier, OP was seemingly worried about keeping the girl when the fact is, in those kind of situations, you never had the girl in the first place.

The second you realize that she sees you as nothing but a limitless ATM, she deserves not one more second of your time.

^^^This, here are few I used that work like Gold

Chick: you Should buy me a drink
me:I only buy girls drinks who are special
Chick:I'm Special!!!
Me:You're not Special to me

Seeing her face drop was classic

Chick: You Should buy me a drink
Me: Why Should I buy a drink?
Chick: I mean look at me, pointing at her body and perky tits
Me:Looking her up and down, down and up and in my best Will Smith Voice "Naw"

Post: #92

Sometimes they ask simply to get you to talk to them.

In many cases you can make friends by buying just one drink. If you have a lot of coin it doesn't hurt to play along.

But if you want the girl to sleep with you, don't roll over so easy.

Post: #93

(08-21-2015 08:31 PM)polymath Wrote:  Sometimes they ask simply to get you to talk to them.

In many cases you can make friends by buying just one drink. If you have a lot of coin it doesn't hurt to play along.

But if you want the girl to sleep with you, don't roll over so easy.

If they were asking just to get you to talk to them, then counter offering or doing nearly anything aside from dropping cash on a random chick you don't know would have the same effect, or a better effect, would it not?

I can't recall the number of times I've simply asked the chick next to me "whatcha drinkin" and then working from that. Never had to buy them a single drink, heck sometimes they buy the next round of their own volition because they enjoyed my intrusion.

Post: #94

Gentlemen, when a girl asks you for a drink.
The tables have turned. For many men, such instances are the rare occasions when they get to feel "chased" (mind the pun, alcoholic drinks & all)
Personally I take it as a cue from the game gods to...
SHIT TEST EM, ie.
"& you are, who again?"
"why should I buy you a drink?"
"& thought you were an independant woman"
"You are the 6th girl to ask me that"
"What's innit for me?"
"Why don't you have money?"
"Why aren't the guys at your table buying you drinks?"
"I only buy drinks for hot girls"
Etc, etc, etc. The options are endless, these I literally dropped off the top of my head.
The fun you will have will make you wish more girls asked you for drinks.
& you'll have the enduring pleasure of trying to see them "game out" a reply.
Worst case scenario, she flops & you get to eject with all the value.
Best case she passes the shit test & then the natural progress of seduction is in play (without you actually supplying the game needed).

1026

Post: #95

(08-18-2015 09:49 AM)Hardy Daytona Wrote:  Throws them off-guard. If they insist then I'll point to the nearest AFC I can see and suggest she get him to buy her a drink.

"Young lady, I am neither average, nor frustrated, nor a chump. Good day."

"However, bartender, I shall still buy a champagne".

Post: #96

if a girl asks you for a little bottle of champagne,something is wrong .
she's a pro,or she's a hooker .

Post: #97

My go-to line is "I'll buy you one if you buy me one".

This line doesn't make you out to be a smart-ass nor does it qualify you for any potential loss. If she is a drinks tout then she will show her true colours soon enough and any experienced guy will be able to see it. The typical reaction would be her asking why or agreeing to it.

Post: #98

Telling girls: "I can't because I am broke." seems to separate the girls I don't bang from the ones I do.

Post: #99

I hate buying drinks for girls. However, saying no could shoot you in the foot.

So go ahead and order a drink for yourself and order a coke.

Then give the girl the coke. She'll be all outraged that you didn't get her booze.

Then, slyly pull out a flask filled with rum and give the coke a dash of booze.

This way you save face, money, and most importantly do a partial zing by getting her a non-alcoholic beverage.

Post: #100

Girl: Can you buy me a drink?

Me: Sure, let's take 3 strong shots, then we're going to make out in that corner over there then go to my place for you know what (wink)