Post: #5426

(04-26-2017 12:18 PM)thedarkknight Wrote:  Man. I got in deep.

So, you remember that Pakistani psychiatrist I walked away ( in Feb) from because I knew a relationship would never be possible and I wanted her to keep her virginity because it would be wasted on me. Well, I've been banging her from two days after that til now. And guess what, that issue kf race and religion never went away. Who would have thought!?

Questions
1) stop being a pussy and enjoy the emotional rollercoaster and enjoy the spicy pussy til I change city in August. As of April, weve been working at different hospitals so no more work place drama.
2) or back out of increasingly pleasureable submissive pussy because of fucked up cultural baggage in Pakistan.She has no family members in the UK and the Muslim community in this city is less than 0.9 %.

DarkKnight,

I can sort of relate to your story. As I have mentioned here before, I live in the Netherlands, which has a large Moroccan population. The Moroccan population has been the underlying reason for some interesting discourse in this country as they try to find their "place" in the Netherlands. From what I've gathered, Moroccans are perceived as the bottom of the social "totem pole", essentially the African Americans of the Netherlands. This actually plays a large role in dating...

A while ago I was in a FB situation with a Moroccan girl, who to this day, is one of the freakiest girls I have ever been with, and I've been with a wide variety of women from different regions of the world. This Moroccan girl is definitely near the top of the list for best and freakiest sex. I think it's all that sexual repression, common in those Muslim cultures.

However, that cultural difference led to the one issue in our correspondence. I wanted to upgrade her to FWB, but at the beginning she basically explained we could only be fuck buddies. Although she was quite liberal, her parents were very traditional and wouldn't except any relationship with a non-Muslim man, especially a brotha. She explained that there is a term in Moroccan used as an insult for women that date black men, "nigger slut".

Normally this is deemed as a blessing, having a girl that only wants to fuck and nothing else. However, the religion is too powerful an influence, even if she isn't conservative/traditional and this limits how far you can take the 'relationship'. Unfortunately, you have to be cognizant of the fact that at the very beginning, there is a clear expiration date when dealing with culturally Muslim girls. Almost like a ticking time bomb (pun intended) warning you of when it will all blow up in your face. No matter how much enjoyment you derive from your interaction with her, it is most likely doomed to abruptly end.

Your situation definitely differs from mine. You are in the UK (quite open to interracial/inter-religion relationships), in a city that doesn't have a large Muslim population and none of her family in close proximity. That is HUGE mate! That alleviates many of the social pressures faced by Muslim women that want to date freely outside of their religion.

I think you should go with option 1, and ride that roller coaster while enjoying the spicy pussy. Even with all the negatives, a great plus of dating Muslim girls is that you have a built-in OUT. That out is the religion factor, you can use it as an excuse to back out of most relationship with a Muslim girls, as they know any relationship with anyone outside the faith has limitations. Plus, you are leaving in August so that also factors in how far this relationship can go. So I say just enjoy her company while it lasts, but keep it real with her and let her know that as much as you two click, there is an expiration date to your 'relationship'. It's nothing to stress over, just enjoy the moments that you will have together, while you can.

**EDIT**: Something I find interesting is how people hate when black men date their women. So whenever I meet Moroccan men in the Netherlands, we sort of have this bond of 'marginalized peoples' in a predominately white society. We sort of feel like brothers, fighting against the white hegemony. I've even had some Moroccan guys call me their "African brotha", even though I'm from the US. Even with this "camaraderie", it seems to go down the drain when I want to date their women. Suddenly that brotherhood is lost, replaced by jealousy. Which explains the slurs for Moroccan women that are open to dating black men...

Post: #5427

(04-26-2017 12:18 PM)thedarkknight Wrote:  Man. I got in deep.

So, you remember that Pakistani psychiatrist I walked away ( in Feb) from because I knew a relationship would never be possible and I wanted her to keep her virginity because it would be wasted on me. Well, I've been banging her from two days after that til now. And guess what, that issue kf race and religion never went away. Who would have thought!?

I took her vaginal virginity and the sex is getting better each time. She cooks for me. She's really kind but highly emotional. Apparently south Asian women are like that? Extremely low maintence.Before or during the bangs Barely spent a penny.

On Sunday, after afternoon sex, she causally said if her family found out. They would, and I quote, " kill me and at best disown her or at worst kill her." She then went on, "if you ever went to Pakistan, your life would be in danger. I'd never do that to you." I then got pissed and merked that cultural bullshit and called her family/ country hypocrites for being pious/religious but having no issues with honor killing/xenophobia/racism.

Thing is, we break up a lot then bang soon after but this is a fixed thing. Religion and race ain't changing. The sex is getting better each time and it's becoming addictive. She has no family in the Uk and we are both in a homogenously white English area. We go out together twice a month but smash/ stay at each other's place 3/4 nights a week.

Questions
1) stop being a pussy and enjoy the emotional rollercoaster and enjoy the spicy pussy til I change city in August. As of April, weve been working at different hospitals so no more work place drama.
2) or back out of increasingly pleasureable submissive pussy because of fucked up cultural baggage in Pakistan.She has no family members in the UK and the Muslim community in this city is less than 0.9 %.

Logically, I know what I should do but this pussy is driving me crazy. I'm usually a very conservative and reserved guy but when I'm with this girl.... I think less /become primal. She sends texts like I dreamt we were fucking/ I want you inside of me right now. Sends sexy pics. No flaking, no bullshit, just straight up sex with this F cup, thick jet black haired, Arab looking chick. My physical ideal.

What do?

Addendum: I just feel bad because I can see she wants a relationship but knows it cannot work. I don't want her to do something stupid because of feelings and land both of us in deep shit. Also, I'm starting to develop feelings and am considering taking the relationship seriously when I know it would be a DEATH wish.

Female nature observation: after sex, she would sometimes mock previous dudes she dated in Pakistan/UAE. Saying stuff like, I would call them motherfucker in public and they would apologise. They would take me shopping and They would buy me whatever I wanted. The thing I like about you is...you can handle me. You're not a wimp. I can see her pupils literally dilate when I check her. Lol the blowouts she's done but... I either laugh or escalate her buffonery and she calms down/ falls in line.

My brother was in a very similar situation. He began dating a Pakistani woman, from a conservative Muslim family. Her brother had already wed via arranged marriage, and her parents had the same in mind for her. Eventually, the family found out about the relationship with my brother. They were opposed, obviously. I did have some concern about familial retribution, and at one point I thought things were going to have to get resolved in the streets. Luckily, it never came to that. He and the woman decided to stick it out, and eventually they got married. What my brother ended up doing, to appease the family, was 'convert' to Islam, and have the requisite 2 or 3 weddings, hosted by the family. They never completely accepted him, but he got the girl and currently could not give a shit about their disapproval. They have kids now, and most definitely do not practice Islam. They live a secular life, but celebrate most of the major U.S. holidays, including Christmas.

*If* this girl meets your requirements for a LTR, and you took her virginity, and she more or less has her life together, I would ride it out and see where things go. Obviously you have to make calculated moves in order to protect yourself, but don't operate out of a position of fear.

Good luck Brother.

Post: #5428

Don't worry. It's over. I basically said some stuff and I got blocked. She's blocked in the last and then unblocked mebut I guess it's easier to move on when I'm blocked.

There comes a time when it's best to move on. If it's a choice between pussy and me. I just me every fucking time.

Post: #5429

Don't worry. It's over. I basically said some stuff and I got blocked. She's blocked me in the past and then unblocked me but I guess it's easier to move on when I'm blocked.

There comes a time when it's best to move on. If it's a choice between pussy and me. I choose me every fucking time. Rudebwoy, your post swayed me! Wise words.

Post: #5430

(04-26-2017 11:44 PM)thedarkknight Wrote:  Don't worry. It's over. I basically said some stuff and I got blocked. She's blocked in the last and then unblocked mebut I guess it's easier to move on when I'm blocked.

There comes a time when it's best to move on. If it's a choice between pussy and me. I just me every fucking time.

What do you mean by got blocked?

Post: #5431

WhatsApp. Blocked on whatsapp

Post: #5432

(04-27-2017 06:13 AM)thedarkknight Wrote:  WhatsApp. Blocked on whatsapp

Hm.

Most Americans don't even know what WhatsApp is.

I mostly use it to communicate with family in Nigeria.

WhatsApp is big amongst Nigerians. The Chinese have WeChat, Koreans use KaTalk.

Asking about these apps could be a great way to screen for women that are, at the very least, aware of a world outside of the US. If she doesn't know about it, then you talk about your travels, make sure you have some pics to back it up though...

Gaming in a restaurant: Are the basics to be cool with the staff (social proof), start conversation with her and her friend (assuming she ain't alone) based on culinary or cultural observation, and then it's a combination of giving attention and withdrawing it afterwards?

I have the basics of building trust down, but when it comes to building attraction, my general go to is to be seen talking to other women -- pre-selection. Pre-selection > humor, and humor has been my go to for the longest. Having the waitress hug you and kiss you on the cheek is better than being uproariously funny.

But of course, you're not actively gaming the waitress, you're just doing it to be seen by the patrons. So again, some combination of being seen as a cool guy by others.

Pre-selection = social proof?

Post: #5433

@Darkknight - it isn't over.

Post: #5434

basket, whatsapp is big in most developing countries. Also big in the UK. Jamaica has whatsapp, DR, Trinidad, I'm sure BIM, Grenada and Guyana follow suit plus many more

Post: #5435

(04-27-2017 09:09 AM)rudebwoy Wrote:  @Darkknight - it isn't over.

She will unblock him within 3 months, guaranteed.

Post: #5436

(04-26-2017 11:44 PM)thedarkknight Wrote:  Don't worry. It's over. I basically said some stuff and I got blocked. She's blocked in the last and then unblocked mebut I guess it's easier to move on when I'm blocked.

There comes a time when it's best to move on. If it's a choice between pussy and me. I just me every fucking time.

She'll unblock you before long. Pretty sure of it.

My boy had a very loosely similar story to yours. Back in school, he was pretty good friends with this pakistani guy, and then became friends with the guy's sister. Eventually, he and the sister started talking -- and when I say talking, I mean the beginning of courtship, not even dating or having sex. Phone calls in secret, walking each other to class, hanging out sometimes. It never got intimate but it was def getting more romantic. (this is in the US, btw)

Anyway, the brother somehow found out and told their father. The father pulled a shotgun on the girl, who only got out of the house because her mother shielded her as she ran.

My boy is black, if it wasn't clear before. Tall, clean cut, good looking, articulate, but as we know black trumps all. The girl crashed with a friend for a few weeks until her mom convinced her father to not murder her, and she moved back home. We never saw or heard from her after that, and her brother told my boy (who he was friends with before) never to contact her or their family again.

I hate stories like yours because I hate when the potential of love is shattered by something outside and uncontrollable. You did say her family isn't in the UK and the muslim pop is small. That helps immensely. But in the event that her family finds out about you -- which could happen from her blurting it out in anger towards them to hurt them, or one of her other family members finding out and spilling the beans -- its not at all beneath them to travel to where you guys are with the intent of doing harm.

I'd never ask someone to deny a great relationship (if/when it rekindles) for bullshit like religious fanatical racism. She sounds remarkable in contrast to the rest of the vapid, superficial, masculine hoes running around the western world. Just remember to be ultra careful in the event you end up together.

Post: #5437

(04-27-2017 03:06 PM)jackflag Wrote:  

(04-26-2017 11:44 PM)thedarkknight Wrote:  Don't worry. It's over. I basically said some stuff and I got blocked. She's blocked in the last and then unblocked mebut I guess it's easier to move on when I'm blocked.

There comes a time when it's best to move on. If it's a choice between pussy and me. I just me every fucking time.

She'll unblock you before long. Pretty sure of it.

My boy had a very loosely similar story to yours. Back in school, he was pretty good friends with this pakistani guy, and then became friends with the guy's sister. Eventually, he and the sister started talking -- and when I say talking, I mean the beginning of courtship, not even dating or having sex. Phone calls in secret, walking each other to class, hanging out sometimes. It never got intimate but it was def getting more romantic. (this is in the US, btw)

Anyway, the brother somehow found out and told their father. The father pulled a shotgun on the girl, who only got out of the house because her mother shielded her as she ran.

My boy is black, if it wasn't clear before. Tall, clean cut, good looking, articulate, but as we know black trumps all. The girl crashed with a friend for a few weeks until her mom convinced her father to not murder her, and she moved back home. We never saw or heard from her after that, and her brother told my boy (who he was friends with before) never to contact her or their family again.

I hate stories like yours because I hate when the potential of love is shattered by something outside and uncontrollable. You did say her family isn't in the UK and the muslim pop is small. That helps immensely. But in the event that her family finds out about you -- which could happen from her blurting it out in anger towards them to hurt them, or one of her other family members finding out and spilling the beans -- its not at all beneath them to travel to where you guys are with the intent of doing harm.

I'd never ask someone to deny a great relationship (if/when it rekindles) for bullshit like religious fanatical racism. She sounds remarkable in contrast to the rest of the vapid, superficial, masculine hoes running around the western world. Just remember to be ultra careful in the event you end up together.

Disgusting that this happens. I recommend that if you guys are really into South Asian broads, don't go for the traditional Afghans and Pakistanis. Hindu/Muslim/Sikh Indians will still be racist, but they won't go to the extreme of threatening your life or the life of their own daughters. Muslim Bangladeshis could be a better option too (at least here in the states), as they tend to be a little less religious.

Post: #5438

. . . which is why it's infinitely more easier to stick with chicks that look like you. You could be a fucking neuro surgeon and some fucking sheep farmer has the nerve to act like his daughter is making a bad decision based on the color of your skin. Fuck them ignant bastards.

I went through this shit first hand with my ex-wife of Mexican decent. Like somehow, my pedigree ass needed to qualify myself to her brown trash family, lol.

Conversely, I've been reading the book "Black Passenger Yellow Cabs: Of Exile and Excess in Japan" by Stefhen Bryan, and surprisingly, he talked about how Japanese women parents were very accepting of their daughters dating a brother and showed him genuine respect.

Post: #5439

Man said sheep farmer lollllllllllllllll, I'm crying right now hahaha

Post: #5440

1) it's not Islam, it's straight up racism. Not xenophobia, but the belief that Africans are subhuman. There is a shit ton more intermarriage with whites than blacks, specifically for this reason. Like Black Dominicans versus the more mestizo Dominicans.

It's tribalism, when it's black on black. Or Asian on Asian, Latin on Latin.

I've rocked with a few Indians and other exotics, and like I been saying - if you're trying to long term a truly foreign broad - you have to cut out her racist family but also provide the social network that gives her life.

That's a lot more than dudes typically deal with. So if you're shopping in a new neighborhood - best to figure out how much freedom you have before *you* get attached.

2) restaurant game on a first date, attraction build

Option 1 - the default

Humor is making her accept your view of the world, your take on a scenario, and then showing her the ill logic of it. She has to accept your frame. Once that happens, you ask her to accept more things to comply with.

The theory is that her hind brain interprets the fact that her conscious brain is submitting to you, thus she is sexually attracted.

So when you read a lot of classic game pulls - that's the operating hypothesis.

I don't doubt that this works, I just find it conceptually difficult.

Applied to the dinner setting, you tell jokes, say witty stuff, and she laughs. Then you order for her. Every normal thing during the meal is forcing her into a social scenario where culture, practicality, make it easy for you to be a take charge kind of guy. She doesn't have to think, much less decide. And everything falls into place.

Option 2 - social proof

What social proof does is create social value. So going to your favorite place, owner, bartender, etc show their love - and you also interact with strangers well, and can deal with issues as they come up - do more for value build, but also trust.

As the old saying goes, the game is won in trust because attraction is easy to build. If a chick gives you shit, she wants to fuck you, but is really trying to see if she can trust you.

Now clearly this is not the objective truth, but we create these fictions in order to take action. Because if a man approaches a shit test like a regular guy, he'll bounce at even the hint of discomfort. In doing so, he never asserts his own power over a chick who's essentially a weakling. How you supposed to protect her and a future family if you break when she starts barking like a little bitch?

In practice, this is engineering spots where you know everyone, and going to new spots and understanding the social roles of strangers you meet. So you talk to the waiter and build rapport with him, same with the box office at the movies. Basically just be chatty with strangers, which is something that is far more valuable than people actually realize.

But social proof, builds value, but she's not going to want to fuck you off knowing everybody. Social proof is a great long term trait.

3) pre selection

Other girls want to fuck me, so she'd better figure out why, and whether she meets your high standards.

For you muscle heads, if a chick is impressed, she may also be intimidated. For you guys with lots of attractive female friends, she may feel that she doesn't measure up.

What you want to do is give her a game she can win, but not guaranteed to win. You're a sexual sudoku in some respects. She has to put in work to get you. This is more pleasurable for a girl, especially when there is true competition.

How you turn preselection into actual sex in a dinner setting means having her ask questions or do things that give her hope and opportunity to win your favor.

A lingering question of who was that chick (to you, sexually and romantically) is something you need to manufacture, so that she can get her heart involved.

So when big titty Brenda hugs you up at Applebees,

A) she asks about that, you have a preselection story

B) if she doesn't ask, you ask her if she ever embarrasses people like that

Option 4 - juicing the pussy

Guys that fuck a lot of club bitches tend to go from sweet, hard charging/"alpha", to sexually vulgar.

The operative stuff here is the sex talk.

If the waitress is a bitch, you suggest that the Hooters girl hasn't been fucked in a week, and follow it with a question about fried pickles.

Sex is not a big deal, everyone is having it, it's fun and funny.

This is tone setting, framing.

But you're not talking about sexing the girl in front of you, not your date, but third parties.

I'd say most guys do the first three, and are wary of the last. They're wary because they're inexperienced. And they stay inexperienced because they are wary and never try it.

How alpha are you truly if you can't even broach the subject?

WIA

Post: #5441

It's hilarious when other cultures are going through hardships like the Mexican border stuff or the terrorism issues and they reach out to black folk to use our strength for numbers in the "POC" struggle.However as soon as the hard work is out the way, they won't even let you say hi to their daughters. I found in my years on this planet that I can pull from any race, but if you want respect and understanding you need someone that looks like you when your a black man just like dimebait said. I couldn't imagine changing my faith to make a man feel comfortable being with his daughter either like the earlier story I read in the thread either. I'd just get a new bitch.

Post: #5442

(04-27-2017 11:55 PM)Mayweather Wrote:  It's hilarious when other cultures are going through hardships like the Mexican border stuff or the terrorism issues and they reach out to black folk to use our strength for numbers in the "POC" struggle.However as soon as the hard work is out the way, they won't even let you say hi to their daughters. I found in my years on this planet that I can pull from any race, but if you want respect and understanding you need someone that looks like you when your a black man just like dimebait said. I couldn't imagine changing my faith to make a man feel comfortable being with his daughter either like the earlier story I read in the thread either. I'd just get a new bitch.

Unfortunately the quality of American black women is really low. Competition for quality western women is high enough. With black women it's even tougher to find a good one due to hood culture, obesity, kids out of wedlock, and even fucking STD rates. I mean jesus fucking christ.

But your rant is spot on. When I see Muslims, Asians and Hispanics and shit trying to ask black people for help in the social struggle I'm like

Those people not only don't like blacks, they don't want us in their home countries and they don't want their kids marrying or procreating with us. To hell with all of em. Build that wall Trump! I don't give a shit!

Post: #5443

(04-27-2017 11:55 PM)Mayweather Wrote:  It's hilarious when other cultures are going through hardships like the Mexican border stuff or the terrorism issues and they reach out to black folk to use our strength for numbers in the "POC" struggle.However as soon as the hard work is out the way, they won't even let you say hi to their daughters. I found in my years on this planet that I can pull from any race, but if you want respect and understanding you need someone that looks like you when your a black man just like dimebait said. I couldn't imagine changing my faith to make a man feel comfortable being with his daughter either like the earlier story I read in the thread either. I'd just get a new bitch.

This is the unfortunate truth about brown people especially. Every race of people between Morocco and Bangladesh seems to look down on black people to a certain degree. I'm actually not sure why. India and Africa barely have a historical relationship, so I'm unsure why black people are looked down upon in Indian culture.

I wouldn't advise getting in too deep with these girls unless their parents are really cool/liberal. Some such parents definitely exist, for the record. I'm following this Sri Lankan girl on Instagram who's having a kid with her black boyfriend. This girl is incredibly beautiful by the way, solid 9/10 with green eyes. Her sister (also incredibly attractive) is also dating a black guy. Their parents do seem cool with the whole thing, I saw a video of the older daughter's baby shower. It was pretty hilarious, to be honest. There were black people on one side blasting rap music and Sri Lankan parents yelling "take a picture! take a picture" in full Indian accents.

I don't think black guys should completely write off Indian/South Asian girls vis a vis a relationship, but you guys definitely should be cognizant of the culture. Racism against black people is unfortunately pretty prevalent in our communities.

I'd say it can be a lot worse than among white people. Tons of white girls have parents who played sports with black people, went to school with them, and have black friends. I definitely can't say the same about Indian girls, especially those brought up in America. Our communities are generally pretty segregated from each other. Indian parents rarely have black friends and don't generally encounter them/live near them.

Indian racism towards black people can best be described as a fear of the unknown coupled with the general insecurity of Indian culture. Basically, a culture that was once one of the richest and most powerful on earth has been reduced to an overpopulated shithole that has been dominated and bullied by others for the past thousand years. This has created a massive racial/cultural insecurity which results in Indians looking down on people who have historically had it even worse than them.

Post: #5444

"The candle that burns twice as bright, burns twice as fast"

Lao Tzu

Whenever you're in deep with a chick like dark knight is, it never lasts. Not saying that to be pessimistic but that sort of shit is hormones and that shit is always insane. I had that a month or two ago with this random Chinese chick.

Nothing as bad, but she ended up blocking me after I told her a bit about herself after she said some dumb shit to me.

Do not let them fuck with your head like that.

Post: #5445

(04-28-2017 02:39 AM)Agastya Wrote:  This is the unfortunate truth about brown people especially. Every race of people between Morocco and Bangladesh seems to look down on black people to a certain degree. I'm actually not sure why. India and Africa barely have a historical relationship, so I'm unsure why black people are looked down upon in Indian culture.

I wouldn't advise getting in too deep with these girls unless their parents are really cool/liberal. Some such parents definitely exist, for the record. I'm following this Sri Lankan girl on Instagram who's having a kid with her black boyfriend. This girl is incredibly beautiful by the way, solid 9/10 with green eyes. Her sister (also incredibly attractive) is also dating a black guy. Their parents do seem cool with the whole thing, I saw a video of the older daughter's baby shower. It was pretty hilarious, to be honest. There were black people on one side blasting rap music and Sri Lankan parents yelling "take a picture! take a picture" in full Indian accents.

I don't think black guys should completely write off Indian/South Asian girls vis a vis a relationship, but you guys definitely should be cognizant of the culture. Racism against black people is unfortunately pretty prevalent in our communities.

I'd say it can be a lot worse than among white people. Tons of white girls have parents who played sports with black people, went to school with them, and have black friends. I definitely can't say the same about Indian girls, especially those brought up in America. Our communities are generally pretty segregated from each other. Indian parents rarely have black friends and don't generally encounter them/live near them.

Indian racism towards black people can best be described as a fear of the unknown coupled with the general insecurity of Indian culture. Basically, a culture that was once one of the richest and most powerful on earth has been reduced to an overpopulated shithole that has been dominated and bullied by others for the past thousand years. This has created a massive racial/cultural insecurity which results in Indians looking down on people who have historically had it even worse than them.

The answer to your question possibly lies in postcolonial theory. Since imperialists increasingly were unable to use the class structure to oppress their subjects, they had to devise a new hierarchy of superiority to discriminate against the indigenous populations.

That new hierarchy was race and skin color. For example, Spain used this hierarchy in Latin America during colonial times to determine how much privilege one can attain. The indigenous population was at the bottom of the totem pole while 'white' Spaniards born in Spain were at the top. Second was Spaniards born in the colonies, third was mestizos (Spanish mixed with indigenous), etc...

In postcolonial theory, it's natural to assume that any region with colonial history (i.e. India) would be affected by these racial hierarchies. Which stands to explain why countries like India would be racist towards darker skinned people (black of African descent included). This sort of discrimination is really common in so many regions.

However, we on this forum prefer to look at solutions instead of focusing on the problem. It's important to understand the history of this discrimination, but pointless to dwell on it. So what does that mean for us in contemporary times? Well I do believe interracial relations between black and South Asians have definitely gotten better over time while still having room for improvement.

I think it is only improved by exposure and experience with high caliber black men like ourselves. We are all ambassadors for interracial dating, even if inadvertently. I'm not saying all brothas have to purposely try to build diplomatic relations, just be cognizant that our actions carry weight. I'll give an example. A while ago I went on a date with a Hungarian girl that had previous experience with a Black American veteran. She told me that really enjoyed her time with that guy, so when she found out I was ex-military she was ecstatic to go on a date with me. Deep down I thanked this unknown comrade who laid down a great foundation to build upon, instead of leaving this girl with a negative impression that she would most likely attribute to ALL brothas. This could be applied elsewhere as well. There is this youtube couple that posts about their relationship, the guy is a brotha from the US and the girl is from the UK but of South Indian descent (from Pakistan I think but can't remember). I noticed that in the comment section were testimonials of other interracial couples similar to the youtubers. However, what stuck out to me most were people who were surprised to see this union but also seemed open to the idea, and were ultimately congratulatory.

I think the discussion of brothas dating South Indians and/or culturally Muslim girls is an intriguing one. Along with less than fortunate ones like Dark Knight and mine (with the Moroccan girl), it would be interested to hear stories of brothas that successfully navigated around these cultural differences.

Post: #5446

(04-28-2017 02:39 AM)Agastya Wrote:  ....
Indian racism towards black people can best be described as a fear of the unknown coupled with the general insecurity of Indian culture. Basically, a culture that was once one of the richest and most powerful on earth has been reduced to an overpopulated shithole that has been dominated and bullied by others for the past thousand years. This has created a massive racial/cultural insecurity which results in Indians looking down on people who have historically had it even worse than them.

My observation is that even within their own peoples/tribes, the various desi subcultures seems to be fixated on skin complexion.

Post: #5447

in the UK, honour killings and acid attacks are very common.
To my knowledge, these killings aren't limited to one sect/religion. Most Asian/Indian groups partake in this and there was a famous case in Canada that involved an Afghan family. The brother and father teamed up to chop the daughter(s) into pieces, for dating some guys outside the "tribe".

http://news.nationalpost.com/news/canada...-new-trial

There are cities in the UK that have a very heavy Asian/Indian presence and you almost feel like you are in Bombay. The good news for DKnight, is that he isn't in one of those cities and the gal he is "dating" doesn't have a auntie or uncle over her shoulder.

Years ago I worked with an attractive Sikh gal, she showed interest in me but of the bat she stated her father would never accept us in a relationship. I wasn't interested in her in that way and was a bit peeved she would tell me that nonsense. We became good friends and the times we hung out, people would gawk hard at us.

The juice isn't worth the squeeze for me when dealing with these chicks, I never been one for headaches in life. Then again, I have never met one with a 36F chest. lol

Post: #5448

(04-28-2017 02:39 AM)Agastya Wrote:  

(04-27-2017 11:55 PM)Mayweather Wrote:  It's hilarious when other cultures are going through hardships like the Mexican border stuff or the terrorism issues and they reach out to black folk to use our strength for numbers in the "POC" struggle.However as soon as the hard work is out the way, they won't even let you say hi to their daughters. I found in my years on this planet that I can pull from any race, but if you want respect and understanding you need someone that looks like you when your a black man just like dimebait said. I couldn't imagine changing my faith to make a man feel comfortable being with his daughter either like the earlier story I read in the thread either. I'd just get a new bitch.

This is the unfortunate truth about brown people especially. Every race of people between Morocco and Bangladesh seems to look down on black people to a certain degree. I'm actually not sure why. India and Africa barely have a historical relationship, so I'm unsure why black people are looked down upon in Indian culture.

I wouldn't advise getting in too deep with these girls unless their parents are really cool/liberal. Some such parents definitely exist, for the record. I'm following this Sri Lankan girl on Instagram who's having a kid with her black boyfriend. This girl is incredibly beautiful by the way, solid 9/10 with green eyes. Her sister (also incredibly attractive) is also dating a black guy. Their parents do seem cool with the whole thing, I saw a video of the older daughter's baby shower. It was pretty hilarious, to be honest. There were black people on one side blasting rap music and Sri Lankan parents yelling "take a picture! take a picture" in full Indian accents.

I don't think black guys should completely write off Indian/South Asian girls vis a vis a relationship, but you guys definitely should be cognizant of the culture. Racism against black people is unfortunately pretty prevalent in our communities.

I'd say it can be a lot worse than among white people. Tons of white girls have parents who played sports with black people, went to school with them, and have black friends. I definitely can't say the same about Indian girls, especially those brought up in America. Our communities are generally pretty segregated from each other. Indian parents rarely have black friends and don't generally encounter them/live near them.

Indian racism towards black people can best be described as a fear of the unknown coupled with the general insecurity of Indian culture. Basically, a culture that was once one of the richest and most powerful on earth has been reduced to an overpopulated shithole that has been dominated and bullied by others for the past thousand years. This has created a massive racial/cultural insecurity which results in Indians looking down on people who have historically had it even worse than them.

I live in Toronto which has a huge brown population, and long histories of tensions between black and indian people. Tamil and Jamaicans had huge beefs in the 90's and 2000's. Even back in Africa on the east coast there has been racial tensions in places like tanzania, kenya, ethiopia for millenia now. It's funny cause many indians seem to see themselves as "dark skinned caucasians cause of their hair, particularly after british imperialism was brough to their shores, which is a fact you touched on. The hatred towards blacks though also comes heavily from arabs as well who have had tensions with indians on their northern borders for a long time.

Me personally if I get any vibe a girl doesn't like me because of my skin or her family even hints at it, I have enough respect where I'm out the door first take. No conversion, no dowry, no cooking a dish from your native land to show "look I'm one of you and your fav house negro". Just fuck and chuck.

A lot of brothers are surprised when they find out their masters, Ph.d and golfing skills still leave them out in the cold. Thats why reading the history and knowing who you are is so important, cause you know off the bat supplication will get you nowhere.

Post: #5449

(04-28-2017 05:55 AM)Fury Wrote:  

(04-28-2017 02:39 AM)Agastya Wrote:  This is the unfortunate truth about brown people especially. Every race of people between Morocco and Bangladesh seems to look down on black people to a certain degree. I'm actually not sure why. India and Africa barely have a historical relationship, so I'm unsure why black people are looked down upon in Indian culture.

I wouldn't advise getting in too deep with these girls unless their parents are really cool/liberal. Some such parents definitely exist, for the record. I'm following this Sri Lankan girl on Instagram who's having a kid with her black boyfriend. This girl is incredibly beautiful by the way, solid 9/10 with green eyes. Her sister (also incredibly attractive) is also dating a black guy. Their parents do seem cool with the whole thing, I saw a video of the older daughter's baby shower. It was pretty hilarious, to be honest. There were black people on one side blasting rap music and Sri Lankan parents yelling "take a picture! take a picture" in full Indian accents.

I don't think black guys should completely write off Indian/South Asian girls vis a vis a relationship, but you guys definitely should be cognizant of the culture. Racism against black people is unfortunately pretty prevalent in our communities.

I'd say it can be a lot worse than among white people. Tons of white girls have parents who played sports with black people, went to school with them, and have black friends. I definitely can't say the same about Indian girls, especially those brought up in America. Our communities are generally pretty segregated from each other. Indian parents rarely have black friends and don't generally encounter them/live near them.

Indian racism towards black people can best be described as a fear of the unknown coupled with the general insecurity of Indian culture. Basically, a culture that was once one of the richest and most powerful on earth has been reduced to an overpopulated shithole that has been dominated and bullied by others for the past thousand years. This has created a massive racial/cultural insecurity which results in Indians looking down on people who have historically had it even worse than them.

The answer to your question possibly lies in postcolonial theory. Since imperialists increasingly were unable to use the class structure to oppress their subjects, they had to devise a new hierarchy of superiority to discriminate against the indigenous populations.

That new hierarchy was race and skin color. For example, Spain used this hierarchy in Latin America during colonial times to determine how much privilege one can attain. The indigenous population was at the bottom of the totem pole while 'white' Spaniards born in Spain were at the top. Second was Spaniards born in the colonies, third was mestizos (Spanish mixed with indigenous), etc...

In postcolonial theory, it's natural to assume that any region with colonial history (i.e. India) would be affected by these racial hierarchies. Which stands to explain why countries like India would be racist towards darker skinned people (black of African descent included). This sort of discrimination is really common in so many regions.

However, we on this forum prefer to look at solutions instead of focusing on the problem. It's important to understand the history of this discrimination, but pointless to dwell on it. So what does that mean for us in contemporary times? Well I do believe interracial relations between black and South Asians have definitely gotten better over time while still having room for improvement.

I think it is only improved by exposure and experience with high caliber black men like ourselves. We are all ambassadors for interracial dating, even if inadvertently. I'm not saying all brothas have to purposely try to build diplomatic relations, just be cognizant that our actions carry weight. I'll give an example. A while ago I went on a date with a Hungarian girl that had previous experience with a Black American veteran. She told me that really enjoyed her time with that guy, so when she found out I was ex-military she was ecstatic to go on a date with me. Deep down I thanked this unknown comrade who laid down a great foundation to build upon, instead of leaving this girl with a negative impression that she would most likely attribute to ALL brothas. This could be applied elsewhere as well. There is this youtube couple that posts about their relationship, the guy is a brotha from the US and the girl is from the UK but of South Indian descent (from Pakistan I think but can't remember). I noticed that in the comment section were testimonials of other interracial couples similar to the youtubers. However, what stuck out to me most were people who were surprised to see this union but also seemed open to the idea, and were ultimately congratulatory.

I think the discussion of brothas dating South Indians and/or culturally Muslim girls is an intriguing one. Along with less than fortunate ones like Dark Knight and mine (with the Moroccan girl), it would be interested to hear stories of brothas that successfully navigated around these cultural differences.

You guys just reminded me about this movie. I think its funny that it even got made back in the day but it makes sense when you consider that it took a female director to release it.

   

Post: #5450

(04-26-2017 03:14 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  What is the golden poossy talk?

When I have to explain to a bish how her poossy is not a commodity to me and ask what else she brings to the table.
It really brings them down a few notches and they will begin to qualify themselves. However, usually, by this point my interest has waned considerably.