Post: #501

I'm going to share one of my best tricks for online dating that has got my penis in the door so many times.

go online and find a guy who looks pretty similar or close to you but is more buff and ripped (with no headshot at best) and put it.
second thing is augment your height by a couple of inches, most girls don't know what an exactly 6 and 6'4 guy is anyway and even they inflate their height and decrease their weight. a lot of girls are fixated on height when looking online for someone to bone em cuz to them it's like shopping.

If a girl asks you (for her to ask she has to see you naked) tell her that the picture was last summer when you were training real hard. When you and her are in bed, she wont care that much.

It worked for me.

Post: #502

I mentioned earlier I totally changed my profile, my self summary became a "here's what the critics are saying about me" with fake reviews from magazines and papers about me, thought it was a bit original. Took some advice from dc1000 and stole and modified some of his following lines but the reaction hasn't been good. I'm getting reallly abrupt and rude messages back from girls who I've sent friendly messages out to saying they've read my profile and I'm "arrogant" and instantly dismissing me, saying "you're not what i'm looking for so please don't contact me again" or "we want different things, this won't work, bye". I was having more luck before with my old profile. Managed to get a few dates from the old profile, can't even get anywhere near that at the moment, gettng shut down left, right and centre.

Quote:The kind of guy your mom warned you about."

What I'm doing with my life:
"Looking for a woman who isn't a self-rationalizing attention-whoring entitlement pig. I'm tired of weeding through all the useless women who aren't worth my time."

The first things people usually notice about me:
"I'm tall, good looking, and smart. Actually...I'm really tall, very good looking, and exceptionally smart. No more Mr. Modest for me."

You should message me if:
"Do not message me if you are stupid, careless or self-centered, I have had plenty enough women who were only attractive on the outside

Post: #503

You guys need to understand that you can't copy people's profiles. You need a motif and style that fits your own persona. If you aren't that, it aint gonna work bucko.

Post: #504

(10-15-2011 04:43 PM)Gmac Wrote:  You guys need to understand that you can't copy people's profiles.

The thing is that extremely few people understand this. That's why superb lines and profiles are ruined by dweebs who can't act congruently to save their lives outside the copy+paste they've gathered.

For this reason I would advise an immediate moratorium on giving word-for-word advise on online dating.

Post: #505

I'm just experimenting with different ideas until I see what starts working for me, hence using some of the lines mentioned here. I changed it again just now as the reaction I had was abysmal. Downright hostility from some girls in their responses to me even when my messages weren't arrogant and could just be a simple question (on something I was genuinely interested in) that I read on their profile. Previously if a girl wasn't interested she just didn't message me back, they seem to be taking time and effort to send rude / hostile messages back with the current one so it must have annoyed them some what.

My original profile yielded the best results to date (in terms of messages to dates) but even then the ratio was terrible so there has to be a better option. Gonna tweak that I guess.

One thing I've been doing to get people to look at my profile is looking at there's but not sending a message, they get curious and look back but most don't send a message so I what I started doing was sending a quick message after they've looked saying "Don't be shy, say hello, you're not scared are you?". Most would reply something along the lines of "I'm not really shy just didn't know what to say".

Post: #506

How do you normally reply on a date when a girl from OKCupid asks you how many OKC dates you've had before? I got that question two different times, I played down the number so as not to set off her "warning: player" alarm. Maybe I should have confused them with a nonsense, jokey answer.

Post: #507

(10-16-2011 09:12 AM)RandalGraves Wrote:  How do you normally reply on a date when a girl from OKCupid asks you how many OKC dates you've had before? I got that question two different times, I played down the number so as not to set off her "warning: player" alarm. Maybe I should have confused them with a nonsense, jokey answer.

tell her : "more than you ;-)"

Post: #508

(10-16-2011 09:12 AM)RandalGraves Wrote:  How do you normally reply on a date when a girl from OKCupid asks you how many OKC dates you've had before? I got that question two different times, I played down the number so as not to set off her "warning: player" alarm. Maybe I should have confused them with a nonsense, jokey answer.

I answered, "Four or five" even on my tenth and eleventh--then I would add that most were way more "boring" than they portrayed themselves to be online.

Post: #509

(10-16-2011 09:12 AM)RandalGraves Wrote:  How do you normally reply on a date when a girl from OKCupid asks you how many OKC dates you've had before? I got that question two different times, I played down the number so as not to set off her "warning: player" alarm. Maybe I should have confused them with a nonsense, jokey answer.

You could also DHV by saying like "many but a lot didn't go past the first date as the gap between the women and their profiles was just too wide". This could lead you describing some fake crazy stories(or real ones if you have any), which might further lead to make herself qualify to you.

Post: #510

(10-16-2011 09:12 AM)RandalGraves Wrote:  How do you normally reply on a date when a girl from OKCupid asks you how many OKC dates you've had before? I got that question two different times, I played down the number so as not to set off her "warning: player" alarm. Maybe I should have confused them with a nonsense, jokey answer.

I agree and amplify... "Around 500. In fact, this is my second date so far today. If you're lucky, I'll even cancel the one I had planned in 2 hours. Fair enough?"

Something like that, which I just came up with on the top of my head. Girls eat that shit up 99% of the time. Delivery is key of course, whatever you come up with should mesh with your personality.

Post: #511

So the pure asshole profile did NOT work.

I've revamped it to more of the feel of my prior profile and we'll go from there. There is some DQ'ing going on but playfully instead of pure mean.

I also have noted that the women OKCupid is putting before me have changed dramatically. Gone are the fat black chicks and in its place is a steady stream of 4's-7's white girls.

I suspect that the new profile will yield the results

One thing that hasn't changed is this:

If a girl views your profile and doesnt send a message but you think she's good enough, send her this line or something like it:

"awww, too shy to leave a message?"

gets them virtually every time.

Post: #512

(10-19-2011 04:20 PM)dc1000 Wrote:  So the pure asshole profile did NOT work.

I've revamped it to more of the feel of my prior profile and we'll go from there. There is some DQ'ing going on but playfully instead of pure mean.

I also have noted that the women OKCupid is putting before me have changed dramatically. Gone are the fat black chicks and in its place is a steady stream of 4's-7's white girls.

I suspect that the new profile will yield the results

One thing that hasn't changed is this:

If a girl views your profile and doesnt send a message but you think she's good enough, send her this line or something like it:

"awww, too shy to leave a message?"

gets them virtually every time.

BAM. 13 minutes later:

"does every girl that looks at your profile leave you a message? somebody thinks highly of himself. "

Post: #513

[quote='KingofScotland' pid='105317' dateline='1318713822']
getting shut down left, right and centre.

Quote:"Looking for a woman who isn't a self-rationalizing attention-whoring entitlement pig. I'm tired of weeding through all the useless women who aren't worth my time."
...
"Do not message me if you are stupid, careless or self-centered, I have had plenty enough women who were only attractive on the outside

This looks terribly bitter and conceited, like the self-rationalizing fat women who preemptively reject men. You use a lot a negatives, and nasty words like "whore", "pig", "useless", and "stupid". Think positive.

Post: #514

(10-19-2011 05:39 PM)kimleebj Wrote:  [quote='KingofScotland' pid='105317' dateline='1318713822']
getting shut down left, right and centre.

Quote:"Looking for a woman who isn't a self-rationalizing attention-whoring entitlement pig. I'm tired of weeding through all the useless women who aren't worth my time."
...
"Do not message me if you are stupid, careless or self-centered, I have had plenty enough women who were only attractive on the outside

This looks terribly bitter and conceited, like the self-rationalizing fat women who preemptively reject men. You use a lot a negatives, and nasty words like "whore", "pig", "useless", and "stupid". Think positive.

"Looking for a woman who knows how to be a woman, isn't just on here for attention, and is down to earth. There are a lot of women on here, and I don't want to waste time with women who aren't what I'm looking for"
...
"Message me if you're smart, caring, and giving. I'm not looking for women who are only attractive on the outside"

Chef In Jeans
A culinary website for men

Post: #515

(10-19-2011 05:39 PM)kimleebj Wrote:  [quote='KingofScotland' pid='105317' dateline='1318713822']
getting shut down left, right and centre.

Quote:"Looking for a woman who isn't a self-rationalizing attention-whoring entitlement pig. I'm tired of weeding through all the useless women who aren't worth my time."
...
"Do not message me if you are stupid, careless or self-centered, I have had plenty enough women who were only attractive on the outside

This looks terribly bitter and conceited, like the self-rationalizing fat women who preemptively reject men. You use a lot a negatives, and nasty words like "whore", "pig", "useless", and "stupid". Think positive.

"Looking for a woman who knows how to be a woman, isn't just on here for attention, and is down to earth. There are a lot of women on here, and I don't want to waste time with women who aren't what I'm looking for"
...
"Message me if you're smart, caring, and giving. I'm not looking for women who are only attractive on the outside"

Chef In Jeans
A culinary website for men

Post: #516

Quote:If a girl views your profile and doesnt send a message but you think she's good enough, send her this line or something like it:

"awww, too shy to leave a message?"

gets them virtually every time.

I've been using a line similar to this recently and indeed most do come back with a response, usually to claim they're not shy.

Post: #517

One thing that I have told other dudes to do is to limit the number of pictures they have up to three or fewer.

If a girl sees you in a variety of places/activities in your batch of pictures (what most guys do), she will think that whatever you're doing is all there is to you, that she's already figured you all out within the 10 seconds it took to scan your pictures. Far better to hold back and retain an air of mystery.

Also limit talk of your accomplishments and career and job title; direct DHV's don't work online, and even the most impressive shit sounds banal because it's on an online dating profile. Concentrate on connotative, indirect DHV's instead, like the "Don't message me if..." thing.

ymmv.

Post: #518

"If a girl sees you in a variety of places/activities in your batch of pictures (what most guys do), she will think that whatever you're doing is all there is to you, that she's already figured you all out within the 10 seconds it took to scan your pictures. Far better to hold back and retain an air of mystery."

What types of pictures are you using then? I disagree.

Post: #519

(10-21-2011 11:05 AM)DLuzhin Wrote:  One thing that I have told other dudes to do is to limit the number of pictures they have up to three or fewer.

If a girl sees you in a variety of places/activities in your batch of pictures (what most guys do), she will think that whatever you're doing is all there is to you, that she's already figured you all out within the 10 seconds it took to scan your pictures. Far better to hold back and retain an air of mystery.

Also limit talk of your accomplishments and career and job title; direct DHV's don't work online, and even the most impressive shit sounds banal because it's on an online dating profile. Concentrate on connotative, indirect DHV's instead, like the "Don't message me if..." thing.

ymmv.

I think there's 2 approaches here.

1) Talk about yourself in your profile, and only use 3 (of the best of you possible) pictures

2) Be mysterious (+ cocky, sarcastic, etc.), but don't really say much in your profile, and have a virtual photo essay of cool shit that you do.

I've had a ton of success with #2. Many girls have even commented that they love my photos because they all say something about me. (For example I have photos of me w/ Brazilian girls at carnaval, kayaking in NZ, on top of Mayan ruins, a professional shot w/ my dog for a local ad campaign, etc.)

However, I am going to try #1 for my next iteration.

Post: #520

(10-21-2011 12:13 PM)PDX Wrote:  

(10-21-2011 11:05 AM)DLuzhin Wrote:  One thing that I have told other dudes to do is to limit the number of pictures they have up to three or fewer.

If a girl sees you in a variety of places/activities in your batch of pictures (what most guys do), she will think that whatever you're doing is all there is to you, that she's already figured you all out within the 10 seconds it took to scan your pictures. Far better to hold back and retain an air of mystery.

Also limit talk of your accomplishments and career and job title; direct DHV's don't work online, and even the most impressive shit sounds banal because it's on an online dating profile. Concentrate on connotative, indirect DHV's instead, like the "Don't message me if..." thing.

ymmv.

I think there's 2 approaches here.

1) Talk about yourself in your profile, and only use 3 (of the best of you possible) pictures

2) Be mysterious (+ cocky, sarcastic, etc.), but don't really say much in your profile, and have a virtual photo essay of cool shit that you do.

I've had a ton of success with #2. Many girls have even commented that they love my photos because they all say something about me. (For example I have photos of me w/ Brazilian girls at carnaval, kayaking in NZ, on top of Mayan ruins, a professional shot w/ my dog for a local ad campaign, etc.)

However, I am going to try #1 for my next iteration.

Yup, those are the two ways to do it.

Ask one of your girl friends on OKC about who she goes out with from the site, and she'll tell you that she goes on dates with guys that seem:
1) attractive
2) interesting

This can be achieved in a variety of ways. Conventionally the goal of your pictures is to seem attractive and not unfuckable, and then the goal of your profile is to seem interesting ("interesting" being the effective antipode of obvious] Just don't do what the average guy does: 10 pictures of him at his "favorite times" (Madden! A baseball game! Cooking a steak!) along with his entire life-story profile that reeks of try-hard desperation.

For reference, I'm not on that site anymore, but when I was I didn't say anything about myself in my profile and just had a bunch of weird shit. I ended up getting three-hundred messages in about a year, 8 or so awards from random girls, and then I'd occasionally go out on dates with girls that messaged me first, and also with a few others that I messaged first. I had four pictures of me: two webcam, one regular cam, and then one of me writhing on the grass holding a can of Four Loko..

Post: #521

I've gotten several messages in the last few weeks from women that say something "Cool pics!" and nothing else.
I know women are flooded with messages on okcupid, but they should be able to say more than two words.
Should I respond or is this spam?

Post: #522

(10-23-2011 07:53 AM)Smitty Wrote:  I've gotten several messages in the last few weeks from women that say something "Cool pics!" and nothing else.
I know women are flooded with messages on okcupid, but they should be able to say more than two words.
Should I respond or is this spam?

if they're bangable i'd definitely respond. the messages i've gotten from girls are typically 4 words or less, although usually its just ugly chicks so i guess they're trying out volume approach

Post: #523

(10-23-2011 12:41 PM)Brian Wrote:  

(10-23-2011 07:53 AM)Smitty Wrote:  I've gotten several messages in the last few weeks from women that say something "Cool pics!" and nothing else.
I know women are flooded with messages on okcupid, but they should be able to say more than two words.
Should I respond or is this spam?

if they're bangable i'd definitely respond. the messages i've gotten from girls are typically 4 words or less, although usually its just ugly chicks so i guess they're trying out volume approach

Girls send those two word messages constantly. Send back two words.
Her: Cool pics! lol

Edit: I just went back and looked at the last 20 first messages sent to me. Not one of them are more than a sentence. So normal. Maybe we should start a separate thread on how to read into these lame openers.

You: And so?

They want you to do all the work and think out a better message than the last 4000 they got but when they are browsing it's just a "HI" or "Sexy" or some shit. That means they like you.

Post: #524

well i've managed to snag a model and actress again on okcupid. we're ready to meet, unfortunately for her i'm fake.

Post: #525

she's the one on the left


her stats from her modeling page:

Details
Height: 5' 9"

Weight: 115 lbs

Bust: 34"

Waist: 24"

Hips: 36"

Cup: B

Dress: 2

Shoe: 8.0

Hair color: Brown

Hair length: Medium

Eye color: Green

Ethnicity: Caucasian

Skin color: White

Shoot nudes: No

Experience: Experienced

Compensation: Depends on Assignment

Genres: n/a




for science sake, i reviewed the messages and timing behind this hook. it turns out that she viewed my profile and i sent her a short message with this:

"saw you viewed my profile - too scared to say hello?"

and she replied (of course - the chicks can not seem to stay away from that teaser).

she initially saw my pure asshole cranky mutherfucker profile with all that bitterness and shit in it.

back and forth banter, exchange of stories, some comfort..and we're ready to go.

too bad i'm not real! shit. she's kinda hot. too skinny for my tastes usually, but i'd still hit it.