Post: #1

note: girl had/has a bf on the other side of the country, shes a transfer

long story short: met this girl a party in the city, happened to go to the same college, she came out with her friends to a party with me (wack night, bad circumstances). After, I started chasing her trying to set up a meetup (never got it), it seemed obvious she wasn't interested 1on1, she NEVER initiated the text first, but was down to party). We tried setting something up to meet up to party, jus this halloween we tried twice, but jus didn't work out. 1st night she says shes trying to come but couldn't cuz none of her friends would leave the party they were at to come to mine (i didn't feel like going to her). 2nd night I decided i was jus gonna go to her, she tries to find the address for me, her phone dies (which is probably true) and she texts me twice saying sorry. So 3rd night, I were jus exchanging texts, and then she stops texting, i might have said something wrong (teased her telling her to send me a photo of her costume).

I didn't like her behavior and just the whole situation, so I decided to stop giving her attention, I also want to see if she would react. She texted me tonight with some story about how she said hi to a stranger who she thought was me (lol is this a girl's version of "i just met your twin". This could be true, but who knows. I need some advice guys, Im having a hard time reading this chick. How should i respond to the text? How should i pursue?

Post: #2

Quote:How should i pursue?

Try other girls.

Post: #3

(11-11-2010 04:35 AM)Badstuber Wrote:  Try other girls.

+1. Don't loose your time with her

Post: #4

Yeah move on dude.. if she doesnt work out never ever spend your time figuring out why not.. who cares.. spend your time on new chicks that does.

Post: #5

(11-11-2010 05:03 AM)Quasi Wrote:  Yeah move on dude..

+3...anything except "yes" is "no".

That excuse with "can't go cause her friends won't go" is
classic chick-lie, intended to let you save face by not directly saying she's not interested.

It makes no sense after even a moment of thought, she can't go anywhere without a friend? How can she go buy a bottle of millK? How can she exist?

Any excuse that is not heavy physical or family reality is a lie. "I have to take the GRE that day" might be true, but if she likes you she'll suggest another date. The GRE exam gets out at 4 or something. "Me and my sister planned a camping trip" is STILL usually a lie, even though it COULD be true. Their inventiveness with social lies to avoid directly saying "I'm not attracted to you." is endless.

It took me YEARS to stop trying to figure out their excuses, and just take an excuse for what it is, a polite "no fucking way."

Post: #6

The only way to save this is to go hardcore direct, and change the preconceived notions about you that are holding her back. I've done this multiple times, and it almost always works, at least to some degree. Although, it may take her some time to come around. The shock has to wear off. If she doesn't know you very well, she may respond sooner.

As long as she still talks to you, all is not lost. As a matter of fact, I'd say that the failure is yours if she talks to you and you still can't turn it around. You just have to change the way that you interact with her.

Post: #7

If you are not interested, why are you still talking about her? Just let it go and see what happens.

Post: #8

If this is another girl, i would have dropped her already, but this girl is a very good catch.
I am still interested in her, I jus don't like her behavior. If I still wanna have a shot at this, maybe not exactly now, how should i go about with this?

Post: #9

(11-11-2010 08:36 AM)hydrogonian Wrote:  The only way to save this is to go hardcore direct, and change the preconceived notions about you that are holding her back. I've done this multiple times, and it almost always works, at least to some degree. Although, it may take her some time to come around. The shock has to wear off. If she doesn't know you very well, she may respond sooner.

As long as she still talks to you, all is not lost. As a matter of fact, I'd say that the failure is yours if she talks to you and you still can't turn it around. You just have to change the way that you interact with her.

Dude, she doesn't see you as a worthwhile date. you have to change your approach. I don't recommend becoming nicer. You have to go the other way and challenger her notions of you as a nice guy. Of course, you can't do it in a desperate/angry way either. You'll probably lose this one because you have to integrate what it means to be direct and sexual in an attractive way. That takes time. I always recommend ModeOne as the best route to getting rid of nice guy habits. The best general guide would be Roosh's Bang. Read them both.

Post: #10

We don't know each other well at all

its possible she didn't see me date worthy cuz she some kind of relationship with a guy on the other side of the country, maybe. But yeah i understand what you are saying, im def not gonna be nicer when she's been misbehaving. And yes ill probably lose this one, cuz im not ready yet, but at least ill learn something from this.

Update: so she follows up my text response to her Story, with

me (next afternoon): lol wat hapened after
her (same day at night): mmm well we got some dinner and then saw a movie

lol, this girl is something

Post: #11

Another "This one girl" thread....

Sidenote: Her phone probably didn't die. Most girls can't live without their phones.

Post: #12

I called her when I was near her party (i was at another party close by, party hopping is very frequent here) instead of texting to get the exact house number, and went straight to voicemail ehhh. i dont even know this girl, whats the point of her saying sorry to me twice, once with her twin's phone (that night) and another with her own phone later. why does she even bother, she doesn't know me