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RE: Player's Log / Lounge
I have a chic I've banged a couple times. It took me hanging out with her a few times first so she didn't feel easy (you know the lines). So we've hung out quite a bit and had sex a few times. Mind you, I have a couple other babes in the wheelhouse.
Anyway, she's thrown out the "we're looking for different things...we should probably keep our space...but I do hope to see you again" texts. I haven't really responded, and I'm not really into playing games...it's annoying when a girl is trying to play a game, and I'm pretty sure she is purposefully not texting much, spacing between texts, denying hang out.
She's hot but nothing I'm really pursuing...in fact, everything she says is true, I'm not really looking for a girlfriend, and definitely not looking for one who uses sex as a control device. Actually, if she wasn't trying to be so controlling ("when was the last time you had sex with someone else?"), I might be interested in her for a relationship. So I'm curious...
Do you guys ever troll with nice guy beta to meet up with a chic? Like I've thrown out the "Will I ever get to see you again, sigh" sorta text. She knows it's layered with hyperbole...really passive-aggressive and ambiguous, but she knows I want to hang out. Even to do this to just meet up for a drink.
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kaotic
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RE: Player's Log / Lounge
Why bother ? She gave you a polite exit.
I don't ever troll some needy nice guy thing to hook a girl. Fuck that man, you're better than that.
The last thing you need to be doing is chasing her, she isn't the prize, you are !
You're holding onto this because she's hot, I get it. But I'd go radio silent on her if she's trying to flip your game tactics.
Anytime I hear a girl say something along the lines of "we want different things" "we should take things slow" "i'm not sure what I want" red flags.
It means:
-I found another dick.
-I don't want to be a slut anymore.
-I'm dating around.
-I found a chump I want to lock down.
That's grounds for a simple reply, and/or radio silence.
If she then says "let's just be friends" "I need some time" "i need some space" "I hope to still talk to you/see you again". The writings on the wall.
That's grounds for an automatic next.
Just go silent on her, it won't be long till she starts probing for validation from you and tries to make you her Option B.
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RE: Player's Log / Lounge
(10-30-2015 01:32 PM)heavy Wrote: I have a chic I've banged a couple times. It took me hanging out with her a few times first so she didn't feel easy (you know the lines). So we've hung out quite a bit and had sex a few times. Mind you, I have a couple other babes in the wheelhouse.
Anyway, she's thrown out the "we're looking for different things...we should probably keep our space...but I do hope to see you again" texts. I haven't really responded, and I'm not really into playing games...it's annoying when a girl is trying to play a game, and I'm pretty sure she is purposefully not texting much, spacing between texts, denying hang out.
She's hot but nothing I'm really pursuing...in fact, everything she says is true, I'm not really looking for a girlfriend, and definitely not looking for one who uses sex as a control device. Actually, if she wasn't trying to be so controlling ("when was the last time you had sex with someone else?"), I might be interested in her for a relationship. So I'm curious...
Do you guys ever troll with nice guy beta to meet up with a chic? Like I've thrown out the "Will I ever get to see you again, sigh" sorta text. She knows it's layered with hyperbole...really passive-aggressive and ambiguous, but she knows I want to hang out. Even to do this to just meet up for a drink.
I would never troll with nice guy beta stuff.
You guys are mistaking normal non-complete-slut female questioning for being controlling.
A simple agree and amplify "5 times today and once while I was helping this girl bag her groceries" or "it's all a blur, cathy, bethanie, frankie, sally, cindy, and bendy wendy, I can't keep track" and then chuckle and smirk.
Or you could go the other route and tell her, "Look, I don't just go around sleeping with random people, I think we have a connection and I want to see where that goes, but I've jumped into relationships too fast before and I learned that nothing good comes from that. We're having a great time getting to know each other so let's keep it simple."
It's subtle but you have to avoid the question or answer it indirectly without making it so obvious that she knows you're fucking other people. You need to hold frame. She needs to have that plausible deniability.
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RE: Player's Log / Lounge
(10-30-2015 06:21 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote: (10-30-2015 01:32 PM)heavy Wrote: I have a chic I've banged a couple times. It took me hanging out with her a few times first so she didn't feel easy (you know the lines). So we've hung out quite a bit and had sex a few times. Mind you, I have a couple other babes in the wheelhouse.
Anyway, she's thrown out the "we're looking for different things...we should probably keep our space...but I do hope to see you again" texts. I haven't really responded, and I'm not really into playing games...it's annoying when a girl is trying to play a game, and I'm pretty sure she is purposefully not texting much, spacing between texts, denying hang out.
She's hot but nothing I'm really pursuing...in fact, everything she says is true, I'm not really looking for a girlfriend, and definitely not looking for one who uses sex as a control device. Actually, if she wasn't trying to be so controlling ("when was the last time you had sex with someone else?"), I might be interested in her for a relationship. So I'm curious...
Do you guys ever troll with nice guy beta to meet up with a chic? Like I've thrown out the "Will I ever get to see you again, sigh" sorta text. She knows it's layered with hyperbole...really passive-aggressive and ambiguous, but she knows I want to hang out. Even to do this to just meet up for a drink.
I would never troll with nice guy beta stuff.
You guys are mistaking normal non-complete-slut female questioning for being controlling.
A simple agree and amplify "5 times today and once while I was helping this girl bag her groceries" or "it's all a blur, cathy, bethanie, frankie, sally, cindy, and bendy wendy, I can't keep track" and then chuckle and smirk.
Or you could go the other route and tell her, "Look, I don't just go around sleeping with random people, I think we have a connection and I want to see where that goes, but I've jumped into relationships too fast before and I learned that nothing good comes from that. We're having a great time getting to know each other so let's keep it simple."
It's subtle but you have to avoid the question or answer it indirectly without making it so obvious that she knows you're fucking other people. You need to hold frame. She needs to have that plausible deniability.
The enlarged line above makes me believe otherwise, it sounds like she's soft nexting him.
However, the enlarged red line, shows probing for LTR potential OR maybe she just doesn't want him sleeping with anyone else.
The best way is to answer that with a smart ass funny response that does instill a bit of dread BUT end it with a direct response.
I know this isn't controlling but a woman possibly trying to mark her territory. Then again who knows what the hamster is really trying to do.
I've gotten the "what are we" "are you seeing anyone else" like other guys have on here.
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RE: Player's Log / Lounge
(10-29-2015 01:31 PM)Remington Wrote: The other weekend, I was out with a girl (mini relationship) in a city where she got a text from a guy. She pretty much said, "hey, just wanted to let you know that we might run into a guy I hooked up with once." I asked her why she felt the need to let me know that. She replied saying that she didn't want to make it weird.
Guess it was her opportunity to let me know that she has a lot of gentleman callers. She claims that she is in the single digits for her notch count (not believing). That kind of stuff doesn't really bother me but I was wondering what you all would have said or done in that situation.
She's using it against you because she thinks you're weak. First she told you about the text, and second she is hoping to make it weird when you see him. Immediately eject this bitch. Just break it off with her completely and tell her to fuck off. No fighting, arguing, etc. Just swift, fast and cold hearted.
Nothing bugs me more when girls do this. Its not that I am jealous. Its that I dont want to be around or with anyone that try's to pull this on me. It just makes her look so petty and stupid, like a child. I kicked a serious LTR out into the street at 2am when she started pulling this. Guess what. She came back looking for me the next day and I was with another women. She stormed out and had a nervous breakdown(Latina). She came crawling back and never pulled this shit again.
Girls will do this when they think you are straying away from them, and that you are weak. Its a major shit test. If she gets away with it she'll do it more, then your no better than a married cuck. Stomp out that behavior quickly and she'll be groveling to come back to you.
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RE: Player's Log / Lounge
What up guys, I’m 5’7’’, decent good looking face, decent game, my two last pull and bang were last month with absolutely no objections but since then, I’ve had crazy resistance all the time when I tried to pull local girls (krakow) end of night, always the same scenario I always arrive on the front door of my location, she tells me she wants to join her friend, wants to go home after 1 hour of battle I’m done and I let her go.
Anyway, once she follows my lead it’s good, the issue is the front door location, what can I do to make her follow my lead inside the hostel? I missed an episode? Should have had built more comfort before?(I don’t think so, I built it pretty easily) should I spend more time building a connexion with her? Or more polarizing? I always struggle with the end.
I've read by browsing some old post, to completely *freeze out when she objectify, take the risk of losing anyway, but after a good moment of "no, I must go home, I work early tomorrow" it starts playing with my nerves.
I need some solid advices guys, thanks for taking your time,
S.
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