(07-14-2014 09:50 PM)Borealis Wrote:  Just opened up a chick that I haven't spoken to for almost a month. We actually met on tinder.



How should I respond without playing into her frame? Should I completely ignore her comments and go onto something else? Also does her responce mean she's uninterested or is it just a shit test?

When this shit happens to me, I just don't respond. I don't have the patience to attempt to recover a convo that immediately goes south that I'm not particularly invested in. She's talked to a crazy amount of dudes on Tinder in the last month. There are so many girls out there. Hotter ones too.

This thread is like one big research facility. Haha.

Keep it up guys!

Man, I hate mass swiping. I close my eyes now when I mass swipe to prevent myself from seeing numerous fat, ugly chicks.

G_E, I swipe so fast the pictures don't even have time to load

(07-14-2014 04:12 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(07-14-2014 01:10 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Could use some help here:

me: spit or swallow?

her:spit
her:why tho
her: O_O

me: seeing if you're my kinda girl

her: ooh i see

me: you know what they say about girls who spit, right?

her: no wat

me: they're cleaner

her: wow... i don't go down town

My advice is...try another opener haha.

This opener is good because it shows right away who's DTF, but if I used it on everyone, I wouldn't have gotten meet-ups with some sexy chicas. Direct is good. But with my sample of 10-20 "Spit or swallow?" I only got a few convos, and from there, only met up with one.

Good point. I've gotten about 45 matches, 10 replies and only 1 date from this opener so far. Probably better do a reset soon and mix up my openers. I imagine this opener is great for late night, but not so good for mid day when they couldn't even capitalise on their hoariness if they wanted to.

(07-14-2014 10:59 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(07-14-2014 09:50 PM)Borealis Wrote:  Just opened up a chick that I haven't spoken to for almost a month. We actually met on tinder.



How should I respond without playing into her frame? Should I completely ignore her comments and go onto something else? Also does her responce mean she's uninterested or is it just a shit test?

When this shit happens to me, I just don't respond. I don't have the patience to attempt to recover a convo that immediately goes south that I'm not particularly invested in. She's talked to a crazy amount of dudes on Tinder in the last month. There are so many girls out there. Hotter ones too.

Would texting her "how man numbers do you give out on tinder" get her on the defensive?

I've been experimenting with

"Hey you're cute! Let's make babies!" as an opener (assume-the-sale). Most responses are quite positive.

@Borealis, if I had to guess, she's going to have you remind her who you are. And my rule is that I never remind a chick who I am. You can always hail mary it: "Haha good one. Let's grab a drink tomorrow night."

@El Jefe, that's definitely a good opener. Said to a girl that our kids will be gorgeous -- and although she didn't give out her number (attention-whore) -- she responded very positively.

@Borealis: I'd go with "every number is the right one", but honestly it's kind of a hit and miss. Dunno.

So, this sunday I restarted my account and performed a few hacks that seem to be netting me a great deal of matches (50 matches in two days).

I have 1 professional looking photo of me wearing a suit and tie sitting on a bench, profile style. I also have one of me throwing a ball at the beach with no shirt on (plausible deniability with the no shirt at the beach).

my tagline is "you look at in that" and "5'10"

Now, I did fuck around and ask 99% of all the girls "spit or swallow?" this mostly lead to blow outs (about 40 blow outs, 9 convos with no numbers, and 1 number and date.)

I figure I could restart my account in 2 weeks and play around with different openers and increase my odds significantly.

(07-15-2014 09:38 AM)Fortis Wrote:  So, this sunday I restarted my account and performed a few hacks that seem to be netting me a great deal of matches (50 matches in two days).

I have 1 professional looking photo of me wearing a suit and tie sitting on a bench, profile style. I also have one of me throwing a ball at the beach with no shirt on (plausible deniability with the no shirt at the beach).

my tagline is "you look at in that" and "5'10"

Now, I did fuck around and ask 99% of all the girls "spit or swallow?" this mostly lead to blow outs (about 40 blow outs, 9 convos with no numbers, and 1 number and date.)

I figure I could restart my account in 2 weeks and play around with different openers and increase my odds significantly.

What are the hacks? PM me if it's too top secret.

I'm assuming by "hacks," Fortis means what he did with his photos and tagline.

But, if you've found some technical hack to the system, I'd love to hear about it.

(07-15-2014 06:06 AM)Renberg Wrote:  @Borealis, if I had to guess, she's going to have you remind her who you are. And my rule is that I never remind a chick who I am. You can always hail mary it: "Haha good one. Let's grab a drink tomorrow night."

But the thing is she's like 30 miles away so "grabbing a drink" wouldn't be too feasible. I'm almost with Renberg on this and just not respond.

(07-15-2014 06:20 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  @Borealis: I'd go with "every number is the right one", but honestly it's kind of a hit and miss. Dunno.

That almost sounds like playing into her frame so I dunno either.

Brother, there are so many girls out there. Don't even fret. Move on.

@Eljefe I went ahead and tried your opener.

So far I gotten something along the lines of, "I don't want a baby right now though"

What type of response do you get?

I always go with "you get the main idea."

Any thoughts or suggestions on this one?

Is there anyone here that's using both Tinder AND regular online dating?

I would figure your ROI in regular online dating would not be the same as it is on Tinder.

I know some sites like OkCupid have mobile apps but, it's still not as easy and to the point as swipe left or swipe right.

Not to mention you don't have to go through the same extensive screening process by listing all sorts of things about yourself and answering personal questions. Having a well written, lengthy profile, etc.

And her inbox is not being flooded with hundreds of guys, many of whom she doesn't like.

If you match with a girl, it's because she likes you. You're already halfway there.

I wonder what the future of regular online dating sites will be going forward.

Although women still hold the power on Tinder, it's not as big of a blowout as regular online dating.

(07-15-2014 10:55 AM)HankRearden Wrote:  

(07-15-2014 09:38 AM)Fortis Wrote:  So, this sunday I restarted my account and performed a few hacks that seem to be netting me a great deal of matches (50 matches in two days).

I have 1 professional looking photo of me wearing a suit and tie sitting on a bench, profile style. I also have one of me throwing a ball at the beach with no shirt on (plausible deniability with the no shirt at the beach).

my tagline is "you look at in that" and "5'10"

Now, I did fuck around and ask 99% of all the girls "spit or swallow?" this mostly lead to blow outs (about 40 blow outs, 9 convos with no numbers, and 1 number and date.)

I figure I could restart my account in 2 weeks and play around with different openers and increase my odds significantly.

What are the hacks? PM me if it's too top secret.

I'm not a hacker, I just mean a few "mods" if anything. I changed up a few things. I now have about 50+ matches in my inbox after only 3 days. Not bad.

So far: 1 date, 4 numbers, and a bunch of hilarious blow outs.

My Tinder pipeline is dry.

I flaked on a chick earlier because she lived too far and matches aren't rolling in as much as they used to.

Time to abandon shit. I'm gonna check out POF.

(07-15-2014 01:48 PM)Mister X Wrote:  Is there anyone here that's using both Tinder AND regular online dating?

I kinde have the feelings girls on okc are more relaxed/easier since tinder has been the hype. It might be me, but I'm currently scoring more chicks on okc.

Could also be because more guys are fixating on tinder instead of OKC, so the attention given to them there might've lowered a bit.

I find OKC to be a total no-go for me. I have to send out billions of emails to get a single lukewarm response from a girl who just wants a pen pal.

Been using this line with good success on those I match.

'My bed is broken. Can I use yours?'

http://i.imgur.com/fQkMcpE.jpg

Should I follow up or eject? She's decent enough for a ONS, little bit on the thick side though. I asked for her number yesterday, she ignored me, and now that I've re-engaged her, she gave it to me. Hadn't I said anything, she wouldn't have even acknowledged me. Just goes to show how steep the competition is. This may come off as conceited but getting ignored by a girl whom you consider less attractive than you really hurts your ego lol.

LOL. so, I was swiping through pictures and got a really funny match today

Me: My bed is broken....can I use yours.

Her: hahahahahaha.
Her: sorry, i'm out call.

Me: What?

her: I come to you and my time is money.

me: how much?

her: $300 an hour and $500 for an evening.

me: I like that you're real about it.

Her: so, how does that sound Mi amor.

Ended the convo at this point.

I didn't know that this app had a prostitution function. Bare in mind, this girl was about a hard 6, maybe a 6.5 with make-up and dressed to the 9s. I'm baffled by the fact that she can even possibly consider whoring herself out given her homely looks.

Oh tinder. I love thee.

(07-16-2014 08:58 PM)Fortis Wrote:  I didn't know that this app had a prostitution function.

What do you mean? Where there are men, whores follow. This is as certain as the sun coming up tomorrow.

Last three tinder dates have showed up 10-15 lbs heavier and 2-3 years older than their photos. Frustrated. How can I prevent this?

(07-16-2014 10:45 PM)Vytas Wrote:  Last three tinder dates have showed up 10-15 lbs heavier and 2-3 years older than their photos. Frustrated. How can I prevent this?

Start approaching in real life.