Anyone got suggestions for some restart text blasts I can send next month when I head back to school? I've got a metric fuck ton of cold leads in my phone and besides the ones that graduated they're all gonna be there this semester.

My circle stretches pretty far and a lot of people knew why I've been gone so I feel like playing up the "international man of mystery" card at some point would be an effective teaser.

**I missed spring semester for study abroad

Me: Drinks, movie, cuddling?

Her: would like to, but i'm hitting up the city this weekend.

I was thinking of pushing for monday night. Or some week night.

What do you think, players?

(06-27-2014 12:57 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Me: Drinks, movie, cuddling?

Her: would like to, but i'm hitting up the city this weekend.

I was thinking of pushing for monday night. Or some week night.

What do you think, players?

I'd say you're firmly in her rear-view mirror. Next.

Really? damn.

(06-27-2014 12:57 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Me: Drinks, movie, cuddling? -(not original, seriously cuddling ?, don't use winky faces)


Her: would like to, but i'm hitting up the city this weekend. (I definitely have better plans and probably fucking a dude in the city)

I was thinking of pushing for monday night. Or some week night.

What do you think, players?

Bapho said it. She ejected and flatly turned you down with no counter-offer.

Sure do a restart text, actually, don't do this, but do the following:

To quote McQueen:

(06-26-2014 06:46 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  What a bullshit excuse.

You can guarantee that bitch was typing, swiping and scrolling on her iPhone, iPad and Laptop when she "was in bed", but didn't respond.

Personally, I wouldn't respond, then in a week send her the "wrong" text such as:

"yea I'll see u around 8 at (fill in popular bar)"

This will send her hamster into overdrive, she'll probably text you, then you say "wrong person. watsup w u"

Then take it from there, never mentioning the flake.

When you don't react to a flaked text it does a couple of things:

1. Shows she's not even a blip on your radar so you can't even be bothered to respond.
2. The "wrong" text puts in her mind that you have other options and gets her intrigued again, ESPECIALLY since you didn't chase her.

I don't know where you live, but here in the US, much of game with chicks now days, is merely out not-caring the most.

(06-27-2014 01:09 PM)Baphomet Wrote:  

(06-27-2014 12:57 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Me: Drinks, movie, cuddling?

Her: would like to, but i'm hitting up the city this weekend.

I was thinking of pushing for monday night. Or some week night.

What do you think, players?

I'd say you're firmly in her rear-view mirror. Next.

No way. She's going to the city for one weekend(could be a million reasons) and your going to next?

She sent you a freakin winky face for chrissakes.

Mcqueen is right about the out not-caring thing. Respond with a 'K' or not at all. Just don't seem to care too much and text her in the middle of next week and go for the meet. Unless she is in your close-ish social circle, you have nothing to lose and sex to gain.

clutch quote from McQueen, man. thank you.

so, if someone has prior plans and can't meet up, then it's next? doesn't that seem a bit overly zealous? just because she won't meet up now doesn't mean she's necessarily completely gone. or am I missing something.

This was in reference to a convo mcqueen helped me with last week:

Post #619 and beyond http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-28919-page-25.html

I played the "New phone. who is this" over a few days.

I think I did a pretty good job of maintaining frame.

Thoughts ? Critiques ? Much appreciated.

NOTE: Blocked out text is a venue she supposedly "works" at. She saw my snap chat story line. (I knew that would piss her off of course)

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(06-27-2014 03:22 PM)Fortis Wrote:  clutch quote from McQueen, man. thank you.

so, if someone has prior plans and can't meet up, then it's next? doesn't that seem a bit overly zealous? just because she won't meet up now doesn't mean she's necessarily completely gone. or am I missing something.

I read your convo to fast and jumped the gun. Yes follow up with her later on don't eject.


But the whole cuddling thing and winky faces...that's gotta go (imo). Heres another text that i learned from McQueen...be more direct: "Meet me at X at Y time, wear something cute"

Scroll back a few pages, LOTS of great texts to use.

(06-27-2014 03:48 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-27-2014 03:22 PM)Fortis Wrote:  clutch quote from McQueen, man. thank you.

so, if someone has prior plans and can't meet up, then it's next? doesn't that seem a bit overly zealous? just because she won't meet up now doesn't mean she's necessarily completely gone. or am I missing something.

I read your convo to fast and jumped the gun. Yes follow up with her later on don't eject.


But the whole cuddling thing and winky faces...that's gotta go (imo). Heres another text that i learned from McQueen...be more direct: "Meet me at X at Y time, wear something cute"

Scroll back a few pages, LOTS of great texts to use.

Gotcha. I figured as much, given that her text seemed warm. I'll avoid smiley faces in the future. Thanks man,

Fortis

(06-27-2014 03:52 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Gotcha. I figured as much, given that her text seemed warm. I'll avoid smiley faces in the future. Thanks man,

Fortis

Sounds like you might've missed it, but he was saying not only to not include the smiley, but to drop the cuddling part.

The only time you should be inviting a girl over to cuddle is if it's done tongue in cheek and blatantly obvious you're not asking her to cuddle.

Such as, "I'm gonna cuddle the fuck out of you" or "I'm gonna cuddle you so hard" etc...

(06-27-2014 04:17 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(06-27-2014 03:52 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Gotcha. I figured as much, given that her text seemed warm. I'll avoid smiley faces in the future. Thanks man,

Fortis

Sounds like you might've missed it, but he was saying not only to not include the smiley, but to drop the cuddling part.

The only time you should be inviting a girl over to cuddle is if it's done tongue in cheek and blatantly obvious you're not asking her to cuddle.

Such as, "I'm gonna cuddle the fuck out of you" or "I'm gonna cuddle you so hard" etc...

Yeah, the cuddle part was meant to be sarcasm, but I think she got it. Either way, the important bit was that she was down to come over and hang out.

(06-27-2014 01:58 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Personally, I wouldn't respond, then in a week send her the "wrong" text such as:

"yea I'll see u around 8 at (fill in popular bar)"

This will send her hamster into overdrive, she'll probably text you, then you say "wrong person. watsup w u"

Wouldn't girls recognise this for the play for attention that this is?

There's two ways ex's try to reopen me via text:

1) The 'accidental text', as above

2) The mass text to everyone, including me, followed by a "Sorry, I didn't know you were still on that list. BTW, how are you?" A common enough holiday tactic that it must be in some chick-friendly movie.

^^^ @Anon

I think it totally depends on the girl. also, I believe her need for attention plays a huge part.

"Wouldn't girls recognise this for the play for attention that this is?"

I discovered this move years ago when I really did text the wrong girl.

It works about 80% of the time for me, so apparently girls aren't very bright, or they see through it but engage anyway.

So, the girl in question texted me this:

"So i guess i'm staying here (referring to the city) for the weekend."

I decided to just ignore given that it was unprovoked and redundant given that she already told me she was staying in the city for the weekend.

(06-27-2014 11:10 AM)Hans Dix Wrote:  Anyone got suggestions for some restart text blasts I can send next month when I head back to school? I've got a metric fuck ton of cold leads in my phone and besides the ones that graduated they're all gonna be there this semester.

My circle stretches pretty far and a lot of people knew why I've been gone so I feel like playing up the "international man of mystery" card at some point would be an effective teaser.

**I missed spring semester for study abroad

It's not clear on exactly what you wanna accomplish with this, are these all girls you want to bang?

Or are you just looking to get out and start back into certain social circles for parties/events?

You'd prolly wanna play up the contrast of people being stuck in same boring spot vs you out travelling.

Anyway, some restart texts I've used to good effect, and that I've recommended to others with success:

"Hey you/stranger" (normally I wouldn't add the "you/stranger" but it takes girls by surprise when you've been gone a long time)

"Pretty sure I met your long list twin overseas"

"Finally home, and just remembered something you told me before I left"

"Back in town, prepare your liver"

"Just landed back home and I already need a drink"


Basically, the idea is you're not spitting out exact details/travel stories to someone out of the blue, but you're leaving them some bait with a fairly short text.

(06-26-2014 01:55 AM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-25-2014 10:21 PM)CJ Wrote:  ^ If you completely didn't care, then what would be the point? I'd go with option B, and hit up another girl.

Personally, I'd have said, keep your Weds night free, and then this afternoon said meet me here at this time, but what do I know? I'm not really skilled with internet chicks either, but I'd imagine your flake rate is going to be way higher with someone that has zero invested in your interactions with her.

As a side note, I'm really pleased to see where this topic has gone.

Actually we've hungout a few times with mutual friends, never hungout alone.

Why are you pissed ?

Pissed about what? I said, really "pleased" ha ha. Sorry that I read the encounter wrong though, hope it worked out in your favor!

Anyone ever had anything like this happen?

I messaged a polish girl on OKC that she should teach me polish, at first she said, "no way, it's too hard for you."

But I persisted and now she's like, "when do you want to do our first lesson?" But I think she's totally serious. Should I just try to parlay it into drinks or something, or should I actually get free polish lessons. Lol

(06-28-2014 08:33 PM)Fortis Wrote:  Anyone ever had anything like this happen?

I messaged a polish girl on OKC that she should teach me polish, at first she said, "no way, it's too hard for you."

But I persisted and now she's like, "when do you want to do our first lesson?" But I think she's totally serious. Should I just try to parlay it into drinks or something, or should I actually get free polish lessons. Lol

Why couldn't you do both ?

Can you tell me what you would have texted. And before I next here I'm going to do a restart next week. How would you handle that?


Watching the world cup yesterday I texted

[Me] I'm home at 12 come by
[Girl] What about the club?
[Me] Aren't going, just come
[Girl] What about [her friend]?
[Me] No double date
[Girl] So it's a date?
[Me] Would it be better if we would call it that?
[Girl] Nop
[Me] K
[Girl] Haha stop it
[Me] Don't play uninterested
[Girl] It's more than that but ok *(My friend told me she has a boyfriend, she has never brought it up though)
[Me] Find an excuse
[Girl]

Then I stopped texting. My guess is she just wants attention.

Later she and her friend showed up where we were watching the world cup and we spoke some. I didn't push (alot of kino when I initially met her), just pull and I realize that was kind of a beta move.

Got this text later.

[Girl] Have you gone home yet?
[Me] Yes
[Girl] Why?

Only answered the first text since there was a chance she was referring to the earlier convo.

Her text: 'Ya sure how about you bring a friend and i bring one of mine so we can all hang out'

I met her last night after brief conversations, some dancing, and light kissing. I tend not to take phone numbers but I like to experiment with telling girls they can take mine and to send me a text, a sort of compliance. She texted me this morning and signs were that she was receptive. After 2-3 texts I asked her to hang sometime this week, and she replied with the above text. I'm guessing it's either a shit test or because I didn't build enough comfort, maybe that's an area I need to work on for night game as I just go for attraction sometimes.

Of course I'm going to deny hanging out with her and a friend. But I'm not sure the best way to do it. I've known about this situation before and know to avoid it but this is the first time I've had it happen. In anyway I'm looking to learn so that I'm prepared for this now and in the future, because if I were to deal with this like the average guy I know its an easy way to a friend zone.

I'm thinking something along the lines of 'I'm sure your girlfriends are cool, but id rather spend my time just with you to get to know you better'. Obviously some improvement can be made here.

My text game isn't the strongest but I'm more than aware not to get caught in message hell and to screen and move on to the next if I have to.

Any ideas?

A girl that I met a few nights ago chatted me up because she was sick at home due to the bad weather (we had a 10 days of really bad weather, far more common in NL/UK rather than here... Rain-sun-rain-sun-rain...).

She's 38 or 39, probably single.

Here's the conversation:

11h ago
HER Ciao Joe, everything's fine? I am at home sick
ME In june?
ME: Wink
ME: Weather is changed continously here in such a short time

10h ago
ME: C'mon, rest in bed, take a couple of aspirins and relax
HER: I've already doing that! Aspirins.. and a good bottle of cognac Wink
HER: Tomorrow I'll be back on my feet
ME: Nice, so Wednesday we can go out having a drink
HER: Why not? Let's do it for Tuesday!
ME: Tuesday I can't - I've already something else to do
HER: If you can't we could do it on Saturday...
ME: Saturday? Saturday it's full of children running around, I prefer going out during the weekdays
HER: Ok, you old man Wink .. And Friday?
ME: Young Woman Wink ... You can go out only on Tuesdays? Wink
HER: No, Tuesdays I can't, Wednesdays too and .. Friday, yes!
ME: Fine for Friday
ME: Thursday I am out with an ex colleague
HER: Ok
ME: I'll put it on my agenda for friday
ME: Noted. Wink
ME: I'll call you Wednesday to set up the meeting
HER: Where?

4 hours ago
ME: Where?
ME: We will decide it on Wednesday Wink

2 hours ago
HER: Sorry Joe, I'll be honest but I've been a bit too.. hurried up... I'd prefer going out with a Group of friends.. I don't know when.. I'm telling this to you in all honesty.. See you soon and good night...

What should I text next?
I just did not reply so far...

Thanks everyone!

(06-28-2014 12:12 AM)LeBeau Wrote:  

(06-27-2014 11:10 AM)Hans Dix Wrote:  Anyone got suggestions for some restart text blasts I can send next month when I head back to school? I've got a metric fuck ton of cold leads in my phone and besides the ones that graduated they're all gonna be there this semester.

My circle stretches pretty far and a lot of people knew why I've been gone so I feel like playing up the "international man of mystery" card at some point would be an effective teaser.

**I missed spring semester for study abroad

It's not clear on exactly what you wanna accomplish with this, are these all girls you want to bang?

Or are you just looking to get out and start back into certain social circles for parties/events?

You'd prolly wanna play up the contrast of people being stuck in same boring spot vs you out travelling.

Anyway, some restart texts I've used to good effect, and that I've recommended to others with success:

"Hey you/stranger" (normally I wouldn't add the "you/stranger" but it takes girls by surprise when you've been gone a long time)

"Pretty sure I met your long list twin overseas"

"Finally home, and just remembered something you told me before I left"

"Back in town, prepare your liver"

"Just landed back home and I already need a drink"


Basically, the idea is you're not spitting out exact details/travel stories to someone out of the blue, but you're leaving them some bait with a fairly short text.

My social circle hasn't changed a bit. Once I'm back I'll have as many connections to pregames/parties/bars as I did the day I left.

Mostly just some girls I pipelined and forgot about and/or may have blew it with.

What's a good response to "do you have an instagram account"