(06-21-2014 07:52 PM)redonion Wrote:  met a girl at a bar last week, made
out with her there, tried taking her home but dealt with the "I don't normally do this" spiel. I ended up grabbing drinks with her later on during the week and we vibed pretty well. There was a good amount of touching but I failed to get her back to my place (waited too late) and didn't kiss her. I should have done better.

She mentioned loving to cook and being a huge fan of mac and cheese so i sent her this today:

me: come over monday ill cook a mac n cheese dinner. maybe u can teach me something
her: that sounds nice but i actually have a work thing monday night

I just want to get confirmation from you guys that this is a next before I delete this number.

Txt back: "Work thing?"

You invested too much in the interaction. Mac & Cheese? Nah man, drinks or drugs a are better choice. I see her flaking but let her "explain" herself to you and end it by being on top not the other way around. Other than her offering another time to meet, next her but don't delete the #. With the above, she'll dig your aloofness and maybe chase you in the future.

(06-21-2014 08:07 PM)Frank Wrote:  NEWBIE:

Suggestions needed.

Ok, not sure what I should do next.

Just got this chick's number. Totally my type, brunette, nice face, nice tits. Went out with random people I've never seen before, new friend opens chick, I engage and #-closed, after talking about getting a drink "soon". She says she's travelling, but will be back next week. At the time, she's waiting for some friends. We kiss goodbye (just cheeks) and part ways.

Later on, I bump into her at the bar we were going to (she said she was gonna be there too eventually), and she's looking for her friends. I was heading home, so hug goodbye (or something, can't remember for sure) and go home.

Should I text "nice to meet u" or something in the next 24-36 hours or so? Or do it mid week? Or wait till next week, when she's back in town? She's one of the hottest chicks I've gotten a number from, so I wanna see her again!

U sound thirsty brother. Hugs/cheek kisses are beta, unless your grabbing her ass or saying goodbye the "French way". Txt her midweek with
"Its ___ from xxxx. drinks at xxx on xxx day?

Then after confirming txt her this (30-40 mins later): "Koo. skrt n heels... (got it from McQueen)

(06-21-2014 08:29 PM)J.B Wrote:  U sound thirsty brother. Hugs/cheek kisses are beta, unless your grabbing her ass or saying goodbye the "French way". Txt her midweek with
"Its ___ from xxxx. drinks at xxx on xxx day?

Then after confirming txt her this (30-40 mins later): "Koo. skrt n heels... (got it from McQueen)

Yeah, I am.

Yes, I had a hand down by her ass. Don't think I squeezed it or anything.

Right on. Thanks.

I had a little post-negotiation party at a bar with some coworkers and another firm last night. Our company was paying, so drinks were flowing and the feast was on. Got pretty handsy with one if their girls, but couldn't close due to logistics. She seemed way down, so I settled for a number. Then today I got a text that seems a little bit too much like beta bait...

"Hi Skotch
The drinking party was great! I really enjoyed it last night. Thank you
for a good time and great food "

If she was slightly less attractive, I wouldn't be so suspicious, but she's close to a 9, and that kind if enthusiasm is rare for Japanese people. I was in charge of the reservations and the company card, so it's not really weird that she's thanking me, but it just seems strange. Kind of like she's fishing. Am I reading too much into this, or am I right in assuming it's a test? Any ideas for responses?

^Skotch
Text: 'Friday we're at (some other place)'

Send no other message. Don't speak about it in person.
If she follows up, she's interested. Just pull half a dozen people together and make it happen.
If she doesn't follow up, I'd say forget it.

A girl that I'm suppose to hang out with (we met online) tomorrow suddenly told me that she's going to Germany. Now that's a pretty unique flake! Anyone got a good response?

(06-22-2014 07:41 PM)Borealis Wrote:  A girl that I'm suppose to hang out with (we met online) tomorrow suddenly told me that she's going to Germany. Now that's a pretty unique flake! Anyone got a good response?

gay

^^Are you telling me to text her that? LOL

(06-22-2014 08:13 PM)Borealis Wrote:  ^^Are you telling me to text her that? LOL

yuup

Texted her that and she just asked me if I was gay. Ugh I think I'm gonna take her off the list

I sent a girl a text saying

"Hey, this is Simon from pool party"

Replied in 15 min " Hey" but couldn't answer since I was working and I didn't reply the rest of the day. Had an ok chemistry with her like 7/10. Reengage and how?
I was thinking just calling like at night instead of text.

Also if a girl doesnt reply to first text, do you kill that lead or try some other time?

(06-22-2014 09:07 PM)Borealis Wrote:  Texted her that and she just asked me if I was gay. Ugh I think I'm gonna take her off the list

"You need to be spanked"

Girl I number-closed via day game last week. Sent a couple of messages- she said yes to meeting for a drink. Sent a feeler about her schedule- then radio silence. She sent this novel of a text today-

Her: Good morning. I'm sorry I've been so mia and haven't responded to your texts. I don't want to leave you hanging. You're very sweet and it was nice talking to you the other day but I'm just not interested in dating right now. I'm sorry!

(06-23-2014 10:58 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Girl I number-closed via day game last week. Sent a couple of messages- she said yes to meeting for a drink. Sent a feeler about her schedule- then radio silence. She sent this novel of a text today-

Her: Good morning. I'm sorry I've been so mia and haven't responded to your texts. I don't want to leave you hanging. You're very sweet and it was nice talking to you the other day but I'm just not interested in dating right now. I'm sorry!

"k"

Or don't respond.

(06-23-2014 10:58 AM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Girl I number-closed via day game last week. Sent a couple of messages- she said yes to meeting for a drink. Sent a feeler about her schedule- then radio silence. She sent this novel of a text today-

Her: Good morning. I'm sorry I've been so mia and haven't responded to your texts. I don't want to leave you hanging. You're very sweet and it was nice talking to you the other day but I'm just not interested in dating right now. I'm sorry!

You've got nothing to lose at this point. So I'd go non-sequitur all the way. Something like "..." or that Kitty someone posted last week laughing.

I wish I could find a text emoticon for this:

I just wouldn't respond. She's obviously not interested, no point in making further contact.

(06-23-2014 01:20 PM)game_ethic Wrote:  I just wouldn't respond. She's obviously not interested, no point in making further contact.

To add onto this. To respond with even a "k" or saying something funny/insulting shows you care way to much. You'll also be feeding her ego.

No response is always the way to go when a woman specifically states no interest.

(06-23-2014 01:02 AM)simondice Wrote:  I sent a girl a text saying

"Hey, this is Simon from pool party"

Replied in 15 min " Hey" but couldn't answer since I was working and I didn't reply the rest of the day. Had an ok chemistry with her like 7/10. Reengage and how?
I was thinking just calling like at night instead of text.

Also if a girl doesnt reply to first text, do you kill that lead or try some other time?

I went ahead and called them both and set up dates throughout the whole week. If a girl doesn't respond initial text, call her, there's a good chance she didn't see it ( in my case she never did and was excited that I called) or gives you a chance to close the deal with lukewarm leads.

^I feel like that's quite the exception. Girls are fucking glued to their phones an are 100% on top of their texts. They know when they get messages, who it's from, and how much they care to text back. Ever spend an evening with a girl who is chatting with her girlfriend(s) back and forth? Phone is either in her hand or right by her side the entire time and they check it insistently and will text back immediately. Their text-game trumps ours 9 times out of 10.

I txted to this chick: "Hey its___, sexy mofo from___, save my #"

Her: "who?"

A shit test IMO, what the best response to this bullshit?

^That text is supposed to be used when you immediately get the number and you're still standing with the girl.

1. The text is tongue in cheek, the girl laughs and now you won't have the issue you're having now.

2. A cute girl could give her number out multiple times in a night. When you do this WITH her (sending the text after she puts her number in), then she won't forget you.

To answer your question: where did you meet her?

School, cold approach.

So she was sober (maybe ha).

You: 'give the phone back to (whatever her name is)'

or

You: 'amnesia is a terrible thing'

or

You: (you can drop a detail or two of where you met, something that stands out)

but, it does seem off. She could be sitting beside her boyfriend and he's like who the hell is that (it's happened to me), and that's why she responded like that etc.

If she doesn't respond to your next text, I'd just eject.

Thanks bro. Yeah, she had a "bitchy/preppy" tone when I talked to her and # closed. My guess is she's looking for attention from guys or stringing them along. I'll try the 2nd one.

Also, don't use 'save my #'.

That line I came up with is specific for a reason.

"it's joe blow the sexy muthafucka u met at the library"

Done. Saying "save my #" is almost as though you think she wouldn't save your number which comes across needy. Plus it's redundant. Expect her to save the number.