(06-16-2014 01:53 AM)Cobra Wrote:  

(06-14-2014 03:49 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  ^too eager with your texting (girls are such cunts).

Should have waited at least a day to hit her up, but regardless - maybe text her again in a day or two: "you suck at this game" if she gives half a shit she'll text back something like "lol I know I'm so busy sorry" then follow up later "what's your sched like this week" if she gives you zero/indefinite options then forget about it.

Thanks General Stalin. I used this.

You may be on to something here but I may have screwed it up. See below.

Me: You suck at this game
Her: What game?
Me: If you play your cards right..Maybe you'll win
Her: Hmmm I'll keep that in mind
Me: But there are a few things I need to know first
Her: Like?
Me: Hmmm..#1 what's your sched like this week
Her: I work 10-7 all week
Me: I'm in the city on Wednesday..Let's grab a drink around 7:30

No response.. not sure if I pushed it but who knows. I'm confused between the camp that says use text only for logistics and the other side which advocates humor and being witty. I think I got caught in the middle.

So, she gives a shit but maybe not enough. Do girls generally take a little hiatus to get back to you after giving a time and does that correlate with attraction levels?

Suggestions welcome and thanks again fellas.

Any thoughts on this gents? It's been 2 days, no response.

Sorry for the 'restart' post.

^You're investing more in the text interaction then she does.

If you'll notice GIRLS are better at text game then guys.

Less is more.

I'd wait a week and shoot a restart text. If she doesn't respond keep it moving. Actually, keep it moving anyway. The more numbers you have the more you can practice with them. I get numbers sometimes just to send out Test Texts to see how girls respond with zero care if they don't come through.

The less I text them, the more they reply.

I used to text long ass sentences, basically mini paragraphs, and they lost interest.

Now I send 10 words max, usually 4-5, and my reply rate has gone through the roof. I guess their "thirsty meter" goes down.

Her "Sure lets meet up at XYZ at 8", me: "k".

I've been using tinder and have been having good responses with an opener off delicioustacos (the harry potter storyline opener)

I'm getting stuck when they reply with something along the lines of "Hahaha, how many times has that gotten you laid?"

I usually amplify with something like "hundreds of times, but I'm yet to find my soulmate... Who knows, it could be you?! We could move to the countryside, buy a small farms with (insert random animals here) and raise our brood of 9 children away from the evils of suburban life etcetc"

It works OK, and I can usually push through, but does anybody have some better answers to this shit test?

Met miss 22 yr old, darkly tanned blonde, fresh Ole'Miss graduate, on the street last week. She doesnt live here but comes here often. We hit it off in the approach, I knew who she was interviewing with. She was fun to talk to, great approach all around. She was lost, and I gave her some brief directions to find her friends.

Seeing an opportunity, I texted her right away to meet me and my buddies a few blocks from there for drinks. She said sure, she had three other friends with her.

We are hanging in this strip of bars, mostly pub draught spots, dumb sports bars, wine bars and one club for 21 year olds. Wanting to show these girls fun, I told them to meet us at the club.

They get there first and say, "where are you?" I am with a few buddies. We are dressed well and suited up. We meet up with the girls, and sure enough, my girl and another red head look smoking hot, getting swarmed by goons. In this setting 9's, on the street 7's, maybe 8.

We hang with the girls for a while, drink, do shots, laugh and connect. Except for one of them who we ignored, who was not feeling us. She snatched them all away to "dance" I stayed there, and didnt chase. But they never came back..... they bolted!

Now, if a girl bolts on me I NEVER text her again. But since I connected so well with my approach, and that she was probably influenced by her gargoyle friend who wasn't getting attention, I want to reconnect. I am starting to come around to the idea of not being so butt hurt over flakiness, if it doesn't cost me my money, health or large amount of time.

Its been a week and I want to text this girl back, but I have waited. Supposedly there is this Roissy text guide by age that a friend sticks to. But reading the text posts lately, I want to keep the vibe strong.

Text her after a week? Wait longer and reopen, then ignore? Honestly, never get caught up over this, but this one was different.

(06-17-2014 07:06 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 04:46 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:53 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:50 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-16-2014 03:51 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^

"new phone. who is this"

No reply of course.

I just noticed she added me on snap a few days ago.

Should I restart later or just eject ?

I know you shouldn't ever delete an old number

Why not snapchat her?

Who says you can't delete old numbers? I do all the time. Sure you can hold on to old ones and ping them once a month or whatever, but your energy would be better well spent focused on new prospects who aren't making you jump through hoops to get a glimpse at their 'golden' snatch.

Absolutely true. I ended up snapchatting, she responded, I didn't look (I use snapbox to view snaps without letting the user know i saw it) it said her name.

I'll let this simmer until tonight.

Here's another: TL;DR
Tinder>Number close>set up date> flakes (as is tradition)>says she owes me

Set plans again last tuesday, flakes. Sunday text her "so i see miss flake died, you such at this game"

Today girl: " oh shit, my bad, again. I still haven't bought a new cable and turned my phone off for a few days"

-She posted a pic of Instagram yesterday- so i know it's a BS lie

Last thing i'm going to do is get mad and call her out on it. The best thing I could do is say, "that's twice you owe me, drinks are on you on x at y" or "who is this" <--I can't say "new phone, who is this" since i just texted sunday

thoughts anyone ?

Sounds like it might be time to let this one go. Two flakes in a row is normally my cue to next a girl. Not to mention all this crap about her phone being turned off. What modern woman can go without her phone for "a few days"? She would have bought a new one immediately upon realising she lost the original one.

Exactly what I said, what modern female can live without their phone. She was just posting to IG also.

After her excuse the following took place:

Girl: oh shit, my bad, again. I still haven't bought a new cable and turned my phone off for a few days
Kaotic: That's twice you owe me, now how about those drinks.
Girl: I definitely owe you drinks, but my car part hasn't come in yet (its 1.5 weeks)
Kaotic: Yaw, just say you're to scared and shy to meet up.
Girl: No I'm not scared, you are really cute.
Girl: But my car isn't happy.
Girl: Makes me feel like a bum.

Anything I can say ? Seems like trying to guilt her isn't working, plans aren't working, she's making every excuse in the book.

I didn't even bother replying, she isn't going to take responsibility for flaking, def went down on the list of girls.

(06-18-2014 12:34 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 07:06 PM)Blue Streak Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 04:46 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:53 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

(06-17-2014 12:50 PM)kaotic Wrote:  No reply of course.

I just noticed she added me on snap a few days ago.

Should I restart later or just eject ?

I know you shouldn't ever delete an old number

Why not snapchat her?

Who says you can't delete old numbers? I do all the time. Sure you can hold on to old ones and ping them once a month or whatever, but your energy would be better well spent focused on new prospects who aren't making you jump through hoops to get a glimpse at their 'golden' snatch.

Absolutely true. I ended up snapchatting, she responded, I didn't look (I use snapbox to view snaps without letting the user know i saw it) it said her name.

I'll let this simmer until tonight.

Here's another: TL;DR
Tinder>Number close>set up date> flakes (as is tradition)>says she owes me

Set plans again last tuesday, flakes. Sunday text her "so i see miss flake died, you such at this game"

Today girl: " oh shit, my bad, again. I still haven't bought a new cable and turned my phone off for a few days"

-She posted a pic of Instagram yesterday- so i know it's a BS lie

Last thing i'm going to do is get mad and call her out on it. The best thing I could do is say, "that's twice you owe me, drinks are on you on x at y" or "who is this" <--I can't say "new phone, who is this" since i just texted sunday

thoughts anyone ?

Sounds like it might be time to let this one go. Two flakes in a row is normally my cue to next a girl. Not to mention all this crap about her phone being turned off. What modern woman can go without her phone for "a few days"? She would have bought a new one immediately upon realising she lost the original one.

Exactly what I said, what modern female can live without their phone. She was just posting to IG also.

After her excuse the following took place:

Girl: oh shit, my bad, again. I still haven't bought a new cable and turned my phone off for a few days
Kaotic: That's twice you owe me, now how about those drinks.
Girl: I definitely owe you drinks, but my car part hasn't come in yet (its 1.5 weeks)
Kaotic: Yaw, just say you're to scared and shy to meet up.
Girl: No I'm not scared, you are really cute.
Girl: But my car isn't happy.
Girl: Makes me feel like a bum.

Anything I can say ? Seems like trying to guilt her isn't working, plans aren't working, she's making every excuse in the book.

I didn't even bother replying, she isn't going to take responsibility for flaking, def went down on the list of girls.

No contact.
Until she texts you "Hi!". And to which you reply "Heythere. I'm going to be at bar XX tonight, hop by if you want, I'm bored with all this texting"

Been talking on the phone and texting back and forth with this girl about bringing her out for a drink or whatever. But then later on, she took a whole day to respond a text and then when I called her on Sunday night she didn't answer the phone.

Now it's Thursday and I thought I shoot her a text today, I'm pretty sure she's just trying to play some sort of a game. Any ideas what to text next? I thought I would just tell her upfront that either she comes out for a drink or I'll just delete her number now. What do you think?

Went out on a date last night. We had a couple of drinks at a bar, I touched her, she was fine with it... then we bounced to my place. The vibe was good, but when I tried to escalate, laid next to her and kissed her, she got scared and left.
This morning, she texted me. Our conversation so far:

-all was good, why did you have to do that?
-?
-u threw yourself on me even after I said no 3 times

What do I reply?

^^^Got lost in the moment...

I don't want to explain myself or give excuses, just looking for a clever and funny response.

It is. This is what an aloof asshole would send, unless she really is pissed then you A) fucked up bad or B) She's a fucking prude or has a bad experience with sex in general (rape)

I thought I'd share a story about what to text next:

TL;DR background, banged this coworker chick a few times when she was 18, then she traveled the south pacific, got back recently, and is about to turn 21. Was interested in hanging out again, wanted to do some blow and drink (my she's grown up).

1:51am
Girl: Hey asshole.
Kaotic: Your ass is lucky I'm coming home from a show and not sleeping.(value?)
Girl: I am lucky? I think it's the other way around.
Kaotic: Whatever makes you feels better, what you up too? (counter her)
Girl: Haha do you still have snap?
Kaotic: Call me I'm to lazy to text (compliancy)
Girl: I am a lil to buzzed/drunk to talk. Haha (at least we know who you're texting late night)
Girl: Go to sleep old man.
Kaotic: Stfu and call me thanks (reiterate compliancy)
Girl: You going to bed?
Kaotic: Nah I'm at the after party for the show. What you doing
Girl: Drinking with some friends
Kaotic: Sounds boring, lets hang and drink this weekend.
Girl: Actually havin a good time.
Girl: yeah maybe
Girl: Let's like actually do somethin...not just hangout at your house. (back to back texts, brings up our history of hanging out aka sex)
Kaotic: Are you asking me to take you out on a date ?
Girl: No I am saying freinds lets hangout outside your house. I refuse to go to x bar!!!!
Kaotic: Nah, I have plenty of friends, don't need girlfriends. I'm down to take you out on a date, nothing less. (strong show of force, let's put it all on the table)
2:28am
Girl: But a date leads to more and that's not what I am saying....I want me and you to go out as friends be able to hang out and talk shit with no intentions. (lolz because we haven't had sex already right ? no thanks)
Kaotic: K. (I'm lmao because I can't wait for the response)
Girl:Don't do that
-IMMEDIATELY CALLS ME- (Of course I ignore it)
Girl: Really ?
2:46am
Girl: Alright whatever Kaotic !
-female hamster spinning in full effect-

Of course I'm going to pretend the last thing I got was "Don't do that"

and text her later today saying, "Huh, don't do what?" have her rephrase what she wants.

By all means texting her was a way to sharpen my text game. I could give 2 fucks if I bang her again.

(06-19-2014 09:35 AM)Brodiaga Wrote:  Went out on a date last night. We had a couple of drinks at a bar, I touched her, she was fine with it... then we bounced to my place. The vibe was good, but when I tried to escalate, laid next to her and kissed her, she got scared and left.
This morning, she texted me. Our conversation so far:

-all was good, why did you have to do that?
-?
-u threw yourself on me even after I said no 3 times

What do I reply?

I didn't really throw myself on her, just kissed her before she left. I didn't want to admit over text to something that never actually happened, so I replied after a few hours:

-Did I?

(radio silence from her)

Not sure how to proceed from here, maybe I should give it some time and then re-initiate the conversation later?

She has hand in the interaction by the looks of it. Don't initiate anything, that would be chasing let her stew and hit up other girls. She sounds like a fucking drama queen if what u said is true. Weird as fuck that she would blow up a kiss for "rape". Dumb cunt.

OK, so I used one of the quality openers mentioned here:
"you look like trouble"

and I got back:
"believe me I am"

What's a good response to that?

(06-19-2014 09:44 PM)DJ-Matt Wrote:  OK, so I used one of the quality openers mentioned here:
"you look like trouble"

and I got back:
"believe me I am"

What's a good response to that?

"excellent"

"we mite just get along"

Set up logistics for date.

"good. im the worst kind"

"my instincts never fail me"

setting up a date. I'm only in town for a week or so.

girl said: "Use and abuse me then you leave lol"

^^^K. I'll stop by later^^^

Seems better to screen her if she's DTF now then spending a day or two on a attention whore and her not put out. IMO, anyway.

dang that's good. I went with "i'm worth it just ask your mom." I like this line but it feels too much like I'm qualifying myself.

Yep. When i hear the word mom in any joke/txt i think of Kelso for some reason. Shame you already sent the txt...

it had been too long. I didn't even think of this thread until an hour after she texted.

Remember to ask here next time, maybe I'll be around and give you a shout.

met a girl at a bar last week, made
out with her there, tried taking her home but dealt with the "I don't normally do this" spiel. I ended up grabbing drinks with her later on during the week and we vibed pretty well. There was a good amount of touching but I failed to get her back to my place (waited too late) and didn't kiss her. I should have done better.

She mentioned loving to cook and being a huge fan of mac and cheese so i sent her this today:

me: come over monday ill cook a mac n cheese dinner. maybe u can teach me something
her: that sounds nice but i actually have a work thing monday night

I just want to get confirmation from you guys that this is a next before I delete this number.

NEWBIE:

Suggestions needed.

Ok, not sure what I should do next.

Just got this chick's number. Totally my type, brunette, nice face, nice tits. Went out with random people I've never seen before, new friend opens chick, I engage and #-closed, after talking about getting a drink "soon". She says she's travelling, but will be back next week. At the time, she's waiting for some friends. We kiss goodbye (just cheeks) and part ways.

Later on, I bump into her at the bar we were going to (she said she was gonna be there too eventually), and she's looking for her friends. I was heading home, so hug goodbye (or something, can't remember for sure) and go home.

Should I text "nice to meet u" or something in the next 24-36 hours or so? Or do it mid week? Or wait till next week, when she's back in town? She's one of the hottest chicks I've gotten a number from, so I wanna see her again!