Number closed this chick at a bar/club last night. We were teasing each other throughout the interaction. I kino escalated and briefly got her on the dance floor. She then had to bounce to catch the train home with her friend who was a major wet blanket. Texted her this evening-

My initial message: hey xxx- put me in your phone as Master Player_1337

This was callback humor. She had been calling me 'Master Player_1337' because of my master's degree. I got the following back about 2 hours later-

Her: Oh hello. Not sure if you're good enough to be added yet so well see on that one

^"cute try doll. we both kno u already saved me and internet stalked my ass"

It Re-Frames it, but with humor and sarcasm. Keep it light unless she keeps it up.

Light + Firm + Playful + Less is more, wins the text game.

(06-01-2014 07:53 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^"cute try doll. we both kno u already saved me and internet stalked my ass"

It Re-Frames it, but with humor and sarcasm. Keep it light unless she keeps it up.

Light + Firm + Playful + Less is more, wins the text game.

Her response (about 5 mins later): Ha not your doll. And even if I wanted to I don't have a name to stalk. So good try... but not really


Some more background: she's 22, 6-7 range, great rack, and is in the process of becoming a hs art teacher. Should I go straight to trying to arrange a meet, or continue the banter?

Silly girl.

U can put someone's phone number in Google and find their name in 5 seconds. Anyway...

You could try one of these. Based on her having big tits and being in the 6-7 range she probably gets macked on a lot and has been pumped and dumped.

"a little pent up r we"

"u have sum sass. good now we can hang out"

"keep it up"

"it's called google search sweetheart"

"not my doll...yet"

"relax. don't get ur panties in a twist"

(06-01-2014 09:09 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Silly girl.

U can put someone's phone number in Google and find their name in 5 seconds. Anyway...

You could try one of these. Based on her having big tits and being in the 6-7 range she probably gets macked on a lot and has been pumped and dumped.

"a little pent up r we"

"u have sum sass. good now we can hang out"

"keep it up"

"it's called google search sweetheart"

"not my doll...yet"

"relax. don't get ur panties in a twist"

These are great. Sent her a variant of the 'sass' message. She responded immediately with: "You're forward aren't you"

(06-01-2014 09:15 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

(06-01-2014 09:09 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Silly girl.

U can put someone's phone number in Google and find their name in 5 seconds. Anyway...

You could try one of these. Based on her having big tits and being in the 6-7 range she probably gets macked on a lot and has been pumped and dumped.

"a little pent up r we"

"u have sum sass. good now we can hang out"

"keep it up"

"it's called google search sweetheart"

"not my doll...yet"

"relax. don't get ur panties in a twist"

These are great. Sent her a variant of the 'sass' message. She responded immediately with: "You're forward aren't you"

Me: how'd you guess
Her: What makes you'd think id even see you anyway

My hunch is to send: "Does this work on other guys?"

She's shit testing the hell out of you to see how you respond and if you can 'handle' her.

She's trying to get you to qualify yourself to her. Instead, flip the frame. Make her qualify herself to you.

Go with your hunch.

(06-01-2014 09:43 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  She's shit testing the hell out of you to see how you respond and if you can 'handle' her.

She's trying to get you to qualify yourself to her. Instead, flip the frame. Make her qualify herself to you.

Go with your hunch.

Her response: Hahaha not really trying to make anything work

Might be she's just a cold bitch.

Respond with "yawn"

Sounds like too much of a hassle already. Is she worth it? no just some club rat looking for validation. Next.

I met a cute 20-year-old Ethiopian at a bar, got her number. I called her a few days later on Monday to arrange a date but she said she was busy all that week, so I called her again on Saturday, and we agreed to meet this evening (Monday). I texted her two hours before to confirm, but she didn't answer, so I called her twenty-five minutes before our planned time to meet and she didn't pick up. A few minutes later I got a text canceling the date.... Here's the transcript (don't bother carefully dissecting the wording, it's translated from Hebrew):

Me (7:05 PM): hey what's up, i won't be able to make it at 9 so let's meet at 9:15 at the same place
(8:51 PM): [I call her, there's no answer]
Her (8:58 PM): i was under a lot of pressure at work because of the holiday tomorrow and forgot about our plans....
i'd be happy to meet with you sometime next week when i'll have more time and quiet.
(i also don't know you so well and this makes it difficult to decide)

This is obviously a bullshit excuse... she didn't just "forget" about our plans, plus I messaged her two hours before even if somehow she did. My instinct tells me that she might be legitimately inexperienced with dating, so her apprehension to meet me might be genuine. Or maybe I'm just being naive. Suggestions on how to continue?

You texted an Ethiopian in Hebrew?
Nice.

You called her too many times.

In my experience, girls these days are usually way more comfortable replying to texts than calls, at least till you build a comfortable rapport with them.


Might still be a legitimate excuse in her part, but notice she hasn't apologized or suggested a different date...just a vague date in the next week "when she ll have more peaceand quiet "

" ok " and forget about her.

Maybe if she means it, she all text u back in the next few days.

If she doesn't, wait a week or so before a restarter text ( although if ur doing all the texting and following up, ur not particularly too high on her priorities ).

Till then, don't call. Don't text. Get other numbers.

I'm supposed to meet a tinder girl tonight.
She just texted me (four hours before the date) "Holy shit you want me to travel far!"
I'm between answering "yep" and ignoring her

Got a cute fitness models number yesterday. She strikes me as an "alpha" girl.

She texts right back after yesterday's text when I met her.
I followed up this evening with "Hey..how's your day?"
She texts right back with " Busy...heading to the gym."

I'm going to follow up with something like "drinks later this week/ weekend?"

So...even though she's texting me right back ( a good sign ) I'm thinking of waiting an hour or more to let her get her shit done at the gym, etc. Sound about right?

(06-03-2014 07:49 PM)robreke Wrote:  Got a cute fitness models number yesterday. She strikes me as an "alpha" girl.

She texts right back after yesterday's text when I met her.
I followed up this evening with "Hey..how's your day?"
She texts right back with " Busy...heading to the gym."

I'm going to follow up with something like "drinks later this week/ weekend?"

So...even though she's texting me right back ( a good sign ) I'm thinking of waiting an hour or more to let her get her shit done at the gym, etc. Sound about right?

Your initial text is pretty boring. Make a statement, say something interesting, don't greet her and ask her how her day was like a doorman or a cashier at the grocery store.

Saying "drinks later this week/ weekend?" is too open ended. Tell her something like "drinks x place y day/time" No question mark, just a statement.

^co-signed.
Never ask how her day was.

You don't really care.

And that's the type of text she should be sending you. It's a chick text.

Establish logistics and make it happen. If needed, use some flirting + comfort to set up the logistics, but keep it non-needy and non-wordy.

Less is more when using text game.

Rootless,
Yeah I'd do the same.... or something like, "yep, hope you have AAA...see you in a few"


robreke,
General consensus is to not ask a girl how her day is. That is unless you've already been banging her a while/in a LTR/she's been in your rotation for a while.

Try simple leading things like, "guess what" After her response, "tuesday night, lets grab drinks at (whatever bar) at 8, lmk"

If she can't, and doesn't suggest another day let it go cold for a while. I usually just respond with "k" and leave it alone. But it's usually not a good sign if she doesn't suggest an alternate day.

If she suggest another day, tell her "perhaps" and you'll let her know later. That is assuming you're actually free. You never want to seem TOO AVAILABLE.

Or just go straight to direct. Opener: "whats your week looking like?" Giving McQueen credit, a line that has proven successful for me as well..."great lets meet me at (whatever bar) at 8, grab drinks and talk shit."

I did a quick "what's the rest of your week like?"....

the good news...she texted back. The Bad news.....she hit me with possibly the worst response I could imagine : "Helping a friend move" wtf!!??? what a blowoff.

I'm thinking radio silence til next week and give her one more chance with something like "drinks this thurs at piano bar?" then that's it.

I was working on my previous response during work, and AneroidOcean and McQueen beat me to the punch

Yeah, fuck that...no one helps their friend move all week. Next her, or send "k". Or you could be kinda shitty and say "cool...hit me up when you get back to the states"

A big MAYBE in a week, is invite a few buddies out...send her, "hey there, hittin up a cool bar with friends at 8 downtown...don't be shy and join us

Or way down the road, perhaps months send a restart text.

(06-03-2014 09:38 PM)mbare Wrote:  I was working on my previous response during work, and AneroidOcean and McQueen beat me to the punch

Yeah, fuck that...no one helps their friend move all week. Next her, or send "k". Or you could be kinda shitty and say "cool...hit me up when you get back to the states"

A big MAYBE in a week, is invite a few buddies out...send her, "hey there, hittin up a cool bar with friends at 8 downtown...don't be shy and join us

Or way down the road, perhaps months send a restart text.

I texted her "k" per your advice. Within 10 seconds she texts me back "You?" So....I'm thinking....okay...she's at least asking what I'm doing.

So I tell her I got a tournament on Saturday and we should meet for drinks one night. ( I probably should have just answered her question as to what I was doing this weekend)

She texts back "can't drink this week...I have competition in the weeks" meaning within the next few weeks as yesterday she was telling me about her upcoming fitness competitions.

So....I guess I'm gonna have to invite her for coffee or horseback riding or a walk in the park....shit like that. I'm thinkin I'll wait til next week. Will probably make it harder to get laid.....who knows maybe fitness women don't fuck in the weeks before competition because it messes with their muscle tone......lol

(06-03-2014 09:57 PM)robreke Wrote:  

(06-03-2014 09:38 PM)mbare Wrote:  I was working on my previous response during work, and AneroidOcean and McQueen beat me to the punch

Yeah, fuck that...no one helps their friend move all week. Next her, or send "k". Or you could be kinda shitty and say "cool...hit me up when you get back to the states"

A big MAYBE in a week, is invite a few buddies out...send her, "hey there, hittin up a cool bar with friends at 8 downtown...don't be shy and join us

Or way down the road, perhaps months send a restart text.

I texted her "k" per your advice. Within 10 seconds she texts me back "You?" So....I'm thinking....okay...she's at least asking what I'm doing.

So I tell her I got a tournament on Saturday and we should meet for drinks one night. ( I probably should have just answered her question as to what I was doing this weekend)

She texts back "can't drink this week...I have competition in the weeks" meaning within the next few weeks as yesterday she was telling me about her upcoming fitness competitions.

So....I guess I'm gonna have to invite her for coffee or horseback riding or a walk in the park....shit like that. I'm thinkin I'll wait til next week. Will probably make it harder to get laid.....who knows maybe fitness women don't fuck in the weeks before competition because it messes with their muscle tone......lol

Tell her if she needs to do Kegel exercises to prepare, she can use your cock as resistance. Kidding bro, don't use that. I couldn't help myself.

When she asked what "you?", should have just replied "gettin into some shit" Just keep things vague. Then say, "anyway, let's grab a bite at (whatever day and place)...im sure they serve shirley temples" "ill stick to my beer

(06-03-2014 08:18 PM)mbare Wrote:  Rootless,
Yeah I'd do the same.... or something like, "yep, hope you have AAA...see you in a few"

I didn't respond, and...

   
Her sentence is "Wished I could see those dimples in person".
Apparently I have epic dimples or something....
So I've garbed beer with buddy of mine instead of meeting her, not too shabby.

Needless to say I didn't bother responding to her last text.

What the hell do you answer to text chick saying "we'll see" when date is already agreed and you are only discussing time and place?

Like this:

-Saturday then. Afternoon?
-We'll see/Maybe/Another vague answer

(06-04-2014 08:58 AM)The Great Basilisk Wrote:  What the hell do you answer to text chick saying "we'll see" when date is already agreed and you are only discussing time and place?

Like this:

-Saturday then. Afternoon?
-We'll see/Maybe/Another vague answer

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/04/...irm-dates/

(06-04-2014 09:57 AM)Sketness Wrote:  

(06-04-2014 08:58 AM)The Great Basilisk Wrote:  What the hell do you answer to text chick saying "we'll see" when date is already agreed and you are only discussing time and place?

Like this:

-Saturday then. Afternoon?
-We'll see/Maybe/Another vague answer

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/04/...irm-dates/

I'm not worried about flaking because we haven't set the time or place yet. How do i proceed from me telling her a time and place and her answering with a "maybe" or similar? I get this shit all the time and i'm not sure how to respond.