(05-29-2014 02:47 PM)kaotic Wrote:  TL;DR- put up with massive resistance, had to struggle and maintain frame, i'm never letting that happen with this girl ever again. She will be a 0 effort bang, i'm not going out anywhere with her, solely movie bang.

Yeah, if you ever find yourself debating or trying to convince a girl of something logically, ABORT and change the subject. This should be avoided at nearly all times.

(05-29-2014 03:31 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(05-29-2014 02:47 PM)kaotic Wrote:  TL;DR- put up with massive resistance, had to struggle and maintain frame, i'm never letting that happen with this girl ever again. She will be a 0 effort bang, i'm not going out anywhere with her, solely movie bang.

Yeah, if you ever find yourself debating or trying to convince a girl of something logically, ABORT and change the subject. This should be avoided at nearly all times.

I cringed when I dove into it, i was only wanting to make a sexual joke and turn it on her, and she just rolled the hamster wheel onto it. Luckily I salvaged it.

(05-28-2014 02:06 AM)ElJefe Wrote:  

(05-28-2014 12:08 AM)Rootless Wrote:  So I've met with this girl last Friday. This time I went all in and played my cards right. We went to my place after some beers and I got the bang.

I've texted her on Monday, suggested meeting on Friday.
She said she can't blah blah. Suggested next Monday to which she replayed with "Just got my schedule for next week and I'll be out of town"
The sad face was in her text.


My guess is ignoring and try to restart with simple "how was the trip?" somewhere next week.
What would you say?

"gay"

is a response you can send now. See what she says

Follow up
I didn't end up sending anything, yesterday evening she texted me out of the blue that we can hit base when she comes back.

I'll respond later with K or sounds good or something.

Girl just texted me this, 10 mins before we were about to meet:
"I'm really sorry, but my best friend just came from Europe and surprised me and I lost track of time. Seems like I won't be able to make it. I'm extremely sorry."

I still want to meet her. But what should be the appropriate response? Sucks that she calls it off so close, though it seems she is sorry.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/06/1...indicated/

Reply a day later saying "gay." She'll either reschedule for another day or she'll think of another excuse to string you along, and if it's the latter, you should next her.

(05-30-2014 06:26 PM)Staros Wrote:  Girl just texted me this, 10 mins before we were about to meet:
"I'm really sorry, but my best friend just came from Europe and surprised me and I lost track of time. Seems like I won't be able to make it. I'm extremely sorry."

I still want to meet her. But what should be the appropriate response? Sucks that she calls it off so close, though it seems she is sorry.

I wouldn't respond.

Wait a couple of days and if she doesn't respond try a restart text.

A "surprise" visit from her friend from EUROPE?

Bullshit.

No one flies overseas to surprise someone without knowing if they'll be in town etc. Fuck that noise.

(05-28-2014 08:32 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Well fuck what now this is a tough one

Weren't the guides talking about this? I forget which one now. Might have been Bang even.

The correct response to "i'm not sleeping with you" or "OK, but nothing's going to happen" was to chuckle in the affirmative "of course not", as you escorted her to your lair.

Number closed this chick at a bar/club last night. We were teasing each other throughout the interaction. I kino escalated and briefly got her on the dance floor. She then had to bounce to catch the train home with her friend who was a major wet blanket. Texted her this evening-

My initial message: hey xxx- put me in your phone as Master Player_1337

This was callback humor. She had been calling me 'Master Player_1337' because of my master's degree. I got the following back about 2 hours later-

Her: Oh hello. Not sure if you're good enough to be added yet so well see on that one

^"cute try doll. we both kno u already saved me and internet stalked my ass"

It Re-Frames it, but with humor and sarcasm. Keep it light unless she keeps it up.

Light + Firm + Playful + Less is more, wins the text game.

(06-01-2014 07:53 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  ^"cute try doll. we both kno u already saved me and internet stalked my ass"

It Re-Frames it, but with humor and sarcasm. Keep it light unless she keeps it up.

Light + Firm + Playful + Less is more, wins the text game.

Her response (about 5 mins later): Ha not your doll. And even if I wanted to I don't have a name to stalk. So good try... but not really


Some more background: she's 22, 6-7 range, great rack, and is in the process of becoming a hs art teacher. Should I go straight to trying to arrange a meet, or continue the banter?

Silly girl.

U can put someone's phone number in Google and find their name in 5 seconds. Anyway...

You could try one of these. Based on her having big tits and being in the 6-7 range she probably gets macked on a lot and has been pumped and dumped.

"a little pent up r we"

"u have sum sass. good now we can hang out"

"keep it up"

"it's called google search sweetheart"

"not my doll...yet"

"relax. don't get ur panties in a twist"

(06-01-2014 09:09 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Silly girl.

U can put someone's phone number in Google and find their name in 5 seconds. Anyway...

You could try one of these. Based on her having big tits and being in the 6-7 range she probably gets macked on a lot and has been pumped and dumped.

"a little pent up r we"

"u have sum sass. good now we can hang out"

"keep it up"

"it's called google search sweetheart"

"not my doll...yet"

"relax. don't get ur panties in a twist"

These are great. Sent her a variant of the 'sass' message. She responded immediately with: "You're forward aren't you"

(06-01-2014 09:15 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

(06-01-2014 09:09 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Silly girl.

U can put someone's phone number in Google and find their name in 5 seconds. Anyway...

You could try one of these. Based on her having big tits and being in the 6-7 range she probably gets macked on a lot and has been pumped and dumped.

"a little pent up r we"

"u have sum sass. good now we can hang out"

"keep it up"

"it's called google search sweetheart"

"not my doll...yet"

"relax. don't get ur panties in a twist"

These are great. Sent her a variant of the 'sass' message. She responded immediately with: "You're forward aren't you"

Me: how'd you guess
Her: What makes you'd think id even see you anyway

My hunch is to send: "Does this work on other guys?"

She's shit testing the hell out of you to see how you respond and if you can 'handle' her.

She's trying to get you to qualify yourself to her. Instead, flip the frame. Make her qualify herself to you.

Go with your hunch.

(06-01-2014 09:43 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  She's shit testing the hell out of you to see how you respond and if you can 'handle' her.

She's trying to get you to qualify yourself to her. Instead, flip the frame. Make her qualify herself to you.

Go with your hunch.

Her response: Hahaha not really trying to make anything work

Might be she's just a cold bitch.

Respond with "yawn"

Sounds like too much of a hassle already. Is she worth it? no just some club rat looking for validation. Next.

I met a cute 20-year-old Ethiopian at a bar, got her number. I called her a few days later on Monday to arrange a date but she said she was busy all that week, so I called her again on Saturday, and we agreed to meet this evening (Monday). I texted her two hours before to confirm, but she didn't answer, so I called her twenty-five minutes before our planned time to meet and she didn't pick up. A few minutes later I got a text canceling the date.... Here's the transcript (don't bother carefully dissecting the wording, it's translated from Hebrew):

Me (7:05 PM): hey what's up, i won't be able to make it at 9 so let's meet at 9:15 at the same place
(8:51 PM): [I call her, there's no answer]
Her (8:58 PM): i was under a lot of pressure at work because of the holiday tomorrow and forgot about our plans....
i'd be happy to meet with you sometime next week when i'll have more time and quiet.
(i also don't know you so well and this makes it difficult to decide)

This is obviously a bullshit excuse... she didn't just "forget" about our plans, plus I messaged her two hours before even if somehow she did. My instinct tells me that she might be legitimately inexperienced with dating, so her apprehension to meet me might be genuine. Or maybe I'm just being naive. Suggestions on how to continue?

You texted an Ethiopian in Hebrew?
Nice.

You called her too many times.

In my experience, girls these days are usually way more comfortable replying to texts than calls, at least till you build a comfortable rapport with them.


Might still be a legitimate excuse in her part, but notice she hasn't apologized or suggested a different date...just a vague date in the next week "when she ll have more peaceand quiet "

" ok " and forget about her.

Maybe if she means it, she all text u back in the next few days.

If she doesn't, wait a week or so before a restarter text ( although if ur doing all the texting and following up, ur not particularly too high on her priorities ).

Till then, don't call. Don't text. Get other numbers.

I'm supposed to meet a tinder girl tonight.
She just texted me (four hours before the date) "Holy shit you want me to travel far!"
I'm between answering "yep" and ignoring her

Got a cute fitness models number yesterday. She strikes me as an "alpha" girl.

She texts right back after yesterday's text when I met her.
I followed up this evening with "Hey..how's your day?"
She texts right back with " Busy...heading to the gym."

I'm going to follow up with something like "drinks later this week/ weekend?"

So...even though she's texting me right back ( a good sign ) I'm thinking of waiting an hour or more to let her get her shit done at the gym, etc. Sound about right?

(06-03-2014 07:49 PM)robreke Wrote:  Got a cute fitness models number yesterday. She strikes me as an "alpha" girl.

She texts right back after yesterday's text when I met her.
I followed up this evening with "Hey..how's your day?"
She texts right back with " Busy...heading to the gym."

I'm going to follow up with something like "drinks later this week/ weekend?"

So...even though she's texting me right back ( a good sign ) I'm thinking of waiting an hour or more to let her get her shit done at the gym, etc. Sound about right?

Your initial text is pretty boring. Make a statement, say something interesting, don't greet her and ask her how her day was like a doorman or a cashier at the grocery store.

Saying "drinks later this week/ weekend?" is too open ended. Tell her something like "drinks x place y day/time" No question mark, just a statement.

^co-signed.
Never ask how her day was.

You don't really care.

And that's the type of text she should be sending you. It's a chick text.

Establish logistics and make it happen. If needed, use some flirting + comfort to set up the logistics, but keep it non-needy and non-wordy.

Less is more when using text game.

Rootless,
Yeah I'd do the same.... or something like, "yep, hope you have AAA...see you in a few"


robreke,
General consensus is to not ask a girl how her day is. That is unless you've already been banging her a while/in a LTR/she's been in your rotation for a while.

Try simple leading things like, "guess what" After her response, "tuesday night, lets grab drinks at (whatever bar) at 8, lmk"

If she can't, and doesn't suggest another day let it go cold for a while. I usually just respond with "k" and leave it alone. But it's usually not a good sign if she doesn't suggest an alternate day.

If she suggest another day, tell her "perhaps" and you'll let her know later. That is assuming you're actually free. You never want to seem TOO AVAILABLE.

Or just go straight to direct. Opener: "whats your week looking like?" Giving McQueen credit, a line that has proven successful for me as well..."great lets meet me at (whatever bar) at 8, grab drinks and talk shit."

I did a quick "what's the rest of your week like?"....

the good news...she texted back. The Bad news.....she hit me with possibly the worst response I could imagine : "Helping a friend move" wtf!!??? what a blowoff.

I'm thinking radio silence til next week and give her one more chance with something like "drinks this thurs at piano bar?" then that's it.