(05-19-2014 12:23 PM)Renberg Wrote:  

(05-19-2014 12:20 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Texted chick we should grab a quick drink this week (we've been on one date). She took a day to respond with the following-

Her: Hey 1337, thank you for the invitation, but I don't really think we're a good match.

How long have you known this chick?/Have you banged?/Was she a random approach whose number you received?/Has she been a bitch to you in the past?

Acquaintance from undergrad. Didn't bang on first meet (about a month ago). Got the vibe she was running cold from her texts. Sent a restart text recently.

(05-19-2014 12:26 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Acquaintance from undergrad. Didn't bang on first meet (about a month ago). Got the vibe she was running cold from her texts. Sent a restart text recently.

I feel you. If you're going to keep hinting that you should get together, it'll come off as desperate. IMO, you have a few options.

1. Ignore, go fuck another broad
2. Call her out ("*Next*)
3. Move forward with it -- "XYZ Bar, Tuesday night, 9:00, see you there."

Hey dudes, Perhaps you can help me within this thread.

Background: I know this girl through a mutual friend. We met about a year ago, but nothing ever really kicked off. She's one of those effervescent types, so i can't tell if she's into me, or just friendly. She's a cute colombian au pair.

Me: My future ex-wife how was the concert?

Her: Helloooo it was amazing !!!

Her again: How was your show ?

Me:It was a lot of fun. So evil

Her: Cool I'm glad you had fun without me

me: hopefully you didn't have too much fun without me.

Her: I did, and for that I apologize

me: Look at you. So sweet and nice.

Her: Sweet as honey

*About an Hour later*

me: Damn, I am almost going to feel bad divorcing you.

Her: Hahahaha you have to move on. Haha we should hang out soon
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I figure I should just go with it and push for a place close to me and go for it?

(05-19-2014 04:38 PM)Fortis Wrote:  I figure I should just go with it and push for a place close to me and go for it?

Yes, or have her come over for wine and movie.

(05-19-2014 04:50 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

(05-19-2014 04:38 PM)Fortis Wrote:  I figure I should just go with it and push for a place close to me and go for it?

Yes, or have her come over for wine and movie.

Thanks Dude.

Got a little embarrassed yesterday...so last week at the mall I got approached by an african girl (probably in her teens) asking for my number, said I was "cute" so after chatting with her a bit, trying to determine whether she's my type or not, I told her to give me her number

Yesterday I texted her on the way to the mall, telling her to meet me there at 2:40, got a quick reply saying "Ok see u there (;" but things went downhill quickly after I said "Btw dress nice" which was met with "Like heels? Why?"
"cuz its a special occasion"
"The mall is a special occasion?"
"it is when im there"
"No its not i cant make it"
so after that i just went silent (wasn't that attracted to her anyways) but i kept thinking maybe if i had went one step further i could've salvaged it? anyway yeah, did i get too greedy? i welcome all advice and criticism

Tobias, I think your line needs to be tweaked a little. "dress nice" is far too broad and lead to confusion on her part and killed the attraction and banter. "dress sexy" might have been a little more straightforward. As for now, I'd call her in a few days and ask to meet up somewhere. Personally, I hate taking chicks to malls it's like they expect you're going to buy them something and I hate that. Try a bar/restaurant or take her somewhere cool where you can show off one of your hobbies (if you're a hockey player take her skating, if you're a golfer take her golfing, if you love wine take her to a wine farm, etc). Think about it and try to take her somewhere different, and if you can't then default to a restaurant/bar.

A lot of girls are taking you guys for granted here. They string you on for validation and are very apathetic in meeting you all. If she gives you some bs response like, "Oh maybe.. or i'll see.." then you're not top priority for her sexually.

I'll never forget what this one girl told me a while back. I met up a friend at a bar and he was with some girl he was seeing. She was very friendly and not stuck up in anyway. We made conversation and she saw me snapchating a beer to a girl I didn't get to meet up in the past week. She said, "Snapchatting right now? Really?" in a playful tone. I said, "Yeah, I actually met this girl here but could'nt get her to go out." Without missing a beat she said, "Stop snapping with her and enjoy yourself. By snapping her right now, you're showing that you're not having fun. Trust me, if a girl really wants to have you, she will find a way. We always find a way. "

I was a bit surprised that I would hear such honesty straight from the horses mouth, but eh, these situation happen every now and then if you keep your eyes peeled.

If a girl gives you an excuse or seems apathetic in meeting you, then give her some radio silence for 5-7 days. Keep in mind that you can't really created much attraction, if any at all, via text. Anyway, after this radio silence, you offer her another day and time. If she's down with it, great you got yourself a date. If not, then text her the following:

"If youre not about this then do me a favor and delete my number. I'll be sure to do the same for you"

This gives her a small nip of dread, which if she likes you enough, she will feel and want to reconciliate. She may either say something along the lines of, "wait, sorry. I can do (insert day and time)." Or she will say, "bye" or go silent on you. In that case, it was all over anyway and you saved yourself time and headache from some ho on the fence about you.


Now, if you're one of those guys who likes to keep all of his numbers and send a mass text, then go ahead and save the number. But if you don't want to waste time and you're consistent with getting fresh leads, I would take my approach. It's worked 3 of the 5 times that I've used it.

In regards to us drinking on Friday, and me picking her up-

Her: If we're gonna go drink though shouldn't you not be driving ::sad face emoji::

I'm not exactly "stuck" here but I'd appreciate some feedback to see if I could have done better. Had one date with this chick, came back to my place to make out but wouldn't let me get any further. She said she had to study this week and then spend time with her parents, who are visiting from out of town. Here's the exchange:

Me: Hey there. Studying hard?
Her: Hey! Not anymore lol I just wrote it :)
Me: Hell yeah. hopefully your weekend of bad behaviour didn't keep you from aceing it? (referencing her getting really drunk that weekend then fooling around with me)
Her: Hahah bad behaviour. Never ;) Think I did pretty good :)
Me: Okay, we'll work on that bad behaviour part... ;)
Me: So you going to let me rescue you from the tedium of family gatherings at some point this weekend?
Her: I'll try ;) well I'm actually not sure you can. I'm going to be with my mom and uncle for as much as I can...don't get to see them that often.
Me: No sweat...you can bring me leftovers from Atelier as compensation ;) hit me up when you're free (Atelier is an excellent restaurant recommendation I gave her to try with her folks)
Her: Yeah haha I'll let you know if we end up going! Will do :)

I feel a bit silly overanalyzing this but I want to be sure I'm not making rookie mistakes. It's a bit difficult for me to affect The Vibe as it's really not in my nature, but I'm trying to keep it light and sexual and fun here.

(05-20-2014 10:48 PM)Unfadeable Wrote:  I'm not exactly "stuck" here but I'd appreciate some feedback to see if I could have done better. Had one date with this chick, came back to my place to make out but wouldn't let me get any further. She said she had to study this week and then spend time with her parents, who are visiting from out of town. Here's the exchange:

Me: Hey there. Studying hard?
Her: Hey! Not anymore lol I just wrote it
Me: Hell yeah. hopefully your weekend of bad behaviour didn't keep you from aceing it? (referencing her getting really drunk that weekend then fooling around with me)
Her: Hahah bad behaviour. Never Think I did pretty good
Me: Okay, we'll work on that bad behaviour part...
Me: So you going to let me rescue you from the tedium of family gatherings at some point this weekend?
Her: I'll try well I'm actually not sure you can. I'm going to be with my mom and uncle for as much as I can...don't get to see them that often.
Me: No sweat...you can bring me leftovers from Atelier as compensation hit me up when you're free (Atelier is an excellent restaurant recommendation I gave her to try with her folks)
Her: Yeah haha I'll let you know if we end up going! Will do

I feel a bit silly overanalyzing this but I want to be sure I'm not making rookie mistakes. It's a bit difficult for me to affect The Vibe as it's really not in my nature, but I'm trying to keep it light and sexual and fun here.

It seems to me like no harm done; she's interested, you kept it short and concise and you can easily reboot this conversation at a later point to get a bang. You went hard on the emojis...but to each his own.

(05-20-2014 10:54 PM)Renberg Wrote:  It seems to me like no harm done; she's interested, you kept it short and concise and you can easily reboot this conversation at a later point to get a bang. You went hard on the emojis...but to each his own.

Thanks for the reply. Yeah, I hadn't really noticed that, I guess because she uses them so often it kind of puts me in that mindset...but it's definitely a crutch, I'll try to phase them out somewhat

So this girl didn't contact me after that text. I've restarted with the classic "I'll be there in a few", she answered wrong number blah blah and called me a stranger.
I kinda jumped the gun and told her to elaborate over beers at [time].
She said that she's busy, so I've asked her "what's your scheduled looks like?" - Yes, I am aware that it's better to lead then ask questions. But I didn't want to take stabs at random dates till something sticks.

Anyway, she replayed with "Ummm 4 months later?"

What is a good respond? I lean towards ignoring her.
What would you say?

Dude, it's a lost cause. Even the "hamster pellet" responses like "gay" or "..." won't do you too much good at this point. I suggest just dropping it.

Feel free to try "..." though.

New to this game, but been txting a girl off of pof.

Me: I'm working up the courage to ask you to tour me around the city this weekend.
(Shes in a bigger city about 35min away from me)
Her: Lol I'm working this weekend.
Me: Lame, I'm much more fun than a 9-5.
Her: Lol I work everyday to pay my bills which is much more important than fun.
Me: Bills come once a month, i come once in a lifetime.
Her: Lol well I work hard to pay my bills every month and support my daughter.
Me: Ok ok i'll settle for Monday - the holiday.

(About an hour later)

Her: We'll see.

Should I text back anything?

(05-21-2014 03:49 PM)jayesco Wrote:  New to this game, but been txting a girl off of pof.

Me: I'm working up the courage to ask you to tour me around the city this weekend.
(Shes in a bigger city about 35min away from me)
Her: Lol I'm working this weekend.
Me: Lame, I'm much more fun than a 9-5.
Her: Lol I work everyday to pay my bills which is much more important than fun.
Me: Bills come once a month, i come once in a lifetime.
Her: Lol well I work hard to pay my bills every month and support my daughter.
Me: Ok ok i'll settle for Monday - the holiday.

(About an hour later)

Her: We'll see.

Should I text back anything?

I wouldn't text her back.

You lost it really early on in this exchange when you said, "I'm working up the courage to ask you to tour me around the city this weekend." That comes across a try-hard and shows that you lack confidence.

Your "...once in a lifetime" comment wasn't much better.

Let her text you back. If she does, great. If she doesn't, move on.

Plus, she's a single mother. Need to think of it from that angle too, since she can't just go out at the drop of a hat.

To wit: You did well to get her off POF into a text conversation. Use whatever "game" you did in POF in your text "game" and you'll be fine.

Got the following from an okc prospect (around 8:40) for a meet set for 9,9:30ish. She wanted to exchange pics today- sent her one and never got one back. Had a feeling she'd flake and double-booked.

Her: I have to work late my cover just called in sick

I posted some shit poem about not recycling that involved "If you tell me to recycle, I'll kick your ass." Hot girl commented telling me to recycle. I said I had to kick her ass, then. She pulled the "it'll be all over the news if you do =P" card and I failed the shit test by saying "the great conundrum.... follow through with what you said you will do or follow the code of chivalry.... I'll let you go.... once.... "

She had a very strange response (for me as a noob, anyway). She said "Haha. nahh. you'll be letting me go much more than once."

I said "what makes you think that?"

IDK where the hell to go from here.

(05-21-2014 08:22 PM)Krusyos Wrote:  I posted some shit poem about not recycling that involved "If you tell me to recycle, I'll kick your ass." Hot girl commented telling me to recycle. I said I had to kick her ass, then. She pulled the "it'll be all over the news if you do =P" card and I failed the shit test by saying "the great conundrum.... follow through with what you said you will do or follow the code of chivalry.... I'll let you go.... once.... "

She had a very strange response (for me as a noob, anyway). She said "Haha. nahh. you'll be letting me go much more than once."

I said "what makes you think that?"

IDK where the hell to go from here.

Instead of "what makes you think that" I would just go for logistics. "Sounds good. meet @ xyz bar @ 8pm thursday. Wear heels."

(05-21-2014 08:12 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  Got the following from an okc prospect (around 8:40) for a meet set for 9,9:30ish. She wanted to exchange pics today- sent her one and never got one back. Had a feeling she'd flake and double-booked.

Her: I have to work late my cover just called in sick

Wait a week game other girls in the meantime and try again for logistics, assuming you don't hear anything back from her. If you hear back from her and she says "hey when are we meeting up?" then respond.

I always get stuck when fishing girls to make plans and they toss out:

"And do what?"

I never know how to read it. In my head it seems like a coy shot to sniff for some D from the broad. But I've had it backfire on my in being to aggressive in a response. I don't like telling girls specifics of our plans to keep it spontaneous so I usually reply:
"Don't worry about what, I got tag covered, just be game for a good time"

I'll tr her to wear heels or some shit like that or a lipstick I seen on her and liked.

But lately. Especially with these younger broads it's been fizzling out. So in wondering what you guys find works and any patterns when hit with that test.

Does it differ from a girl I've banged to a fresh peruse?

I'm interested in how you guys think I've played this so far, and how you think I should continue the interaction.

Background summary:
I met an Australian girl at a bar, a 6.5 or 7, got the number. I called her and set up an evening coffee date because she doesn't like to drink. Date goes seemingly okay except in the beginning she asks how old I am, I truthfully say 23. Meanwhile, she's 26. This seemed to put her off but the date went forward anyway.

The date didn't even end in a kiss or make out. This is the first time a first date ended without a kiss or make out for me in years. I wrote it off as she's not interested. However, the day after she messages me, and then two days after that messages me again, so now I think that maybe she is interested.

However, the second time she messaged me was to invite me to the vacation city of Eilat, which is a 6 hour bus ride away. It wasn't clear if she meant alone with me or with her and her friends. Either way, it seemed like a shit test to see if I'd drop everything to go along with her last minute plans to go spend a few days with her, plus drop a ton of money on hotels. I pretended briefly like I was going along with it, but I never had any real intention of going with her. A 6 hour bus ride (each way), plus hotel expenses is not worth a notch for me, even if I somehow knew with 100% certainty that the bang is guaranteed. Here's how it went; sometimes I took my time getting back to her to make her sweat a little:

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Note: The Facebook picture she sent me is of a stupid post someone wrote. We were joking about how dumb people are on Facebook during the date.

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(05-23-2014 09:22 AM)RealityCheck Wrote:  Date goes seemingly okay except in the beginning she asks how old I am, I truthfully say 23

This likely killed a bunch of possibility here. You can usually get around it, but I VASTLY prefer answering this one with a question (and I do it to all women of all ages because I genuinely hearing such a broad spectrum of answers). I RARELY get any serious push back on it other than "Oh I'm not good at guessing" which I answer with "That's fine, so what do you think?"

If in your situation they guess same age as them or older than them (they usually will if they're on a date with you) just say something innocuous like "yeah, close enough" with a sly grin and move on to the next topic.

The key is you have to be confident in your age even if you eventually tell them the real number. It's completely out of your control, why would you care what your age is? Trust me she doesn't, she cares a lot more about your reaction.

(05-23-2014 03:18 AM)kosko Wrote:  I always get stuck when fishing girls to make plans and they toss out:

"And do what?"

I never know how to read it. In my head it seems like a coy shot to sniff for some D from the broad. But I've had it backfire on my in being to aggressive in a response. I don't like telling girls specifics of our plans to keep it spontaneous so I usually reply:
"Don't worry about what, I got tag covered, just be game for a good time"

I'll tr her to wear heels or some shit like that or a lipstick I seen on her and liked.

But lately. Especially with these younger broads it's been fizzling out. So in wondering what you guys find works and any patterns when hit with that test.

Does it differ from a girl I've banged to a fresh peruse?

Usually i come up with something sarcastic, like a girl whose into punk, nerdy stuff, "oh you know the usual, load up the rifles go hunting for zombies"

or if she's fit and lifts, "oh you know chug some pre workout, and watch you do some squats"

I keep it funny, light, and relate able. This puts them at ease, and they'll respond with the standard "k sounds good lol". THEN I'll tell them simple plans like grabbing drinks and after we do what we joked about.

Girl's always want to know what you'll be doing with them, where are you taking them, what bar, what lounge, blah blah blah. I just troll them, deflect the questions and keep it simple.

Girl asks on OKC "are you always that confident?"

Stuck on good replies.

(05-25-2014 12:11 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  Girl asks on OKC "are you always that confident?"

Stuck on good replies.

no only on sundays