Just failed to bring a girl back to my place.

I think I'm not being up front with people about what I want.

Do we have a wedding game thread? Am I the only one that dislikes the new search feature? Have two weddings I can go to. Ome in Monterrey and one in houston. Ready to suit up.

We do need wedding thread and maybe a funeral thread too.

Got a drink date with an SA girl tomorrow night; I'll feel her out and then go out and cold approach. A date with an SA girl Fri night-pretty sure the bang is going to happen on that one-she agreed to drive over an hour to meet me in another town. I'm getting a hotel room regardless-might stay the next night and see if I can set up another SA or POF date the following night. If not I can cold approach- lot of quality girls in that town

There is one cute 7 with a tight ass that is enlisted and goes to the same PT session as me. I didn't really have time to chat her up because I was too busy planting my face in the dirt doing bear crawls for what felt like miles.

Will look into it.

I have a wedding saturday.. hate them. Would be cool to see people's thoughts on Wedding game..? Not sure watching Wedding Crashers will cut it.

Had an OKC date last night, pleased she looked as good as photos (always a worry!), couple of mojitos down and extracted back to the flat to 'watch Anchorman'. Slight concerns on the walk home as turned out she lives within a few minutes of me, i don't know why but this concerned me greatly at the time? Think i was worried she'd want to go back to hers (i'm much worse at closing the deal at theirs).
By the time Brick expressed his love for lamp i was balls deep.
Post lay chat revealed she had freshly shaved as she had a feeling we'd end up having sex. Once again a case of just not scaring the cat..
I really need to get my day (and to a degree night) game up to the level of my internet game.. time to man up.

Just get wasted a the wedding and call it a day.

Maybe bring some blow and invite the bridesmaids to join you.

*I haven't done either of those things but I look forward to it. Just need to get invited to more weddings.

Seeing a POF girl tonight. She has to watch her sisters kids to 11. Shes coming over after that. A midnight date is around a 90% bang chance, I'm gonna go take a nap.

Going to surf for a while, clean up then hit the strip club before I play poker at eight. Been on a nasty losing streak. Hopefully the strippers will bring me some luck. I have two waitresses numbers. Never used them. Hope to game one of them tonight. Do we have a waiteress game thread? I have banged a few. They serve dudes all day so you can tell when they are interested in you. I got an Ihop girls number on Tuesday but didnt put it to use.

A realization I had today based on my own experience:

It is not difficult to juggle multiple girls at a time (specifically "loving" relationships, not just ONS's)

Growing up, I'd say many of us watch shows and each show at one point or another has an episode where a guy develops a second relationship. Of course, because of how our society is, this all blows up in the playboy's face roughly 22 (or 44) minutes later and he ends up with nothing or having to crawl back to the original girl.

I currently have two girls absolutely in love with me, another that I'm sure still does and wants me to "take her back" and another that I believe is about to ask me if I'll commit to her. Below is the text I received from her today:

"I've been doing a lot of thinking about you... so I was wondering if it'd be okay if I could call you when you're free and we could talk about it? or I could wait and do it in person. Whichever works". [She is out of town for two weeks from now]

My other thought is she wants to end our FWB status, but that seems unlikely because she was a virgin before me, and last time I saw her she was all over me and unusually cuddly.

Anyway, my point is that none of these girls know anything about the other girls.

I don't even consider myself that skilled of a liar or anything, and am admittedly nervous sometimes of what I text to which girl, but otherwise this is nowhere near as difficult as I would have imagined before learning game.

This girl has been dating a buddy of mine for a couple years. We've hung out as a group with some other friends a few times this summer.

I went away for a month, got back, and this girl started texting me out of nowhere. Asking me where I am going out and that she wants to see me out sometime.

I ran into her last night at a student club night. She was very drunk (not only visibly, but she mentions it as well) and jumps on me and we dance.

Thing is, I don't know if she's unhappy in the relationship, if she broke up or not.. I know her reasonably well and although many girls do, she is unlikely the type to go behind the bf's back. I do remember they were having a couple really bad fights a couple months ago.

Anyways, it was a weird spot for me because I can't really dance without trying to escalate. I danced with her quite a bit for fun, but it was almost as if she was the one doing the escalating and I was being passive. She was very clingy, groped me and kissed my cheek several times.

In no case was I going to try and bang her. And I actually considered it for theoretical purpose. It felt very strange. I found myself using the crowd at times to split from her, use my buddies to dance with her instead, and grab another girl in between to give me some space. She kept coming back regardless. On the positive, at least I made her have a fun night, with no possible consequence.

On another note, I did my first day approach in months today, on the commute back from school on the train.

Didn't go for the number. I wanted a more natural conversation this time, instead of having a goal to get a number at the end. I let some short silences develop, let her talk more, looked off in thought. Maybe I will get it when I see her next time.

The positive from this was that I got over the hurdle of not having done a day approach in time, and I fought my limiting belief that I had to be in a social mood to talk to girls. All day I barely talked to anyone at school, and prior to chatting her up on the train I took a 10 minute snooze on the bus.

(09-05-2013 10:26 PM)Hallasan Wrote:  Anyway, my point is that none of these girls know anything about the other girls.

I don't even consider myself that skilled of a liar or anything, and am admittedly nervous sometimes of what I text to which girl, but otherwise this is nowhere near as difficult as I would have imagined before learning game.

I agree, at least for a guy who knows what he's doing - it's not very hard at all.

And I have to confess, there's a unique pleasure to be had from knowing that you're successfully juggling these chicks, all of whom may imagine they're the only one.

But don't assume this works indefinitely. The smarter and more attractive girls will drop out of the game as time goes on. Just because you aren't investing enough in them. They know the score, even without putting their finger on it. In that case, renew your subscription by bringing new broads in.

I gotta stop letting these chicks get in my head.
I don't wanna be the sketch guy in the hall but like after today it's prolly sealed.

Walk into chicks room by accident play it off awkwardly saying I thought it was an RA.

Lacrosse chicks wanted to know why I did that and like then wanted to know why I was talking to one of their lacrosse friends (Who was asking me for drugs). We had a conversation and was kicking it for a while but it just felt really weird to me. As if they were probing me.

Lessons:
Never attempt to sell to try to connect with people. People are sketchy themselves. That type of game is for pros at shit like that.

People tell others shit so fast. So it's best not to trust anyone.

Lots of people know me on campus but never rally hang out with me.

Chicks who say "Oh it's okay" are lying.

(09-05-2013 11:44 PM)Nascimento Wrote:  Didn't go for the number. I wanted a more natural conversation this time, instead of having a goal to get a number at the end. I let some short silences develop, let her talk more, looked off in thought. Maybe I will get it when I see her next time.

Do most guys just ask for a number?

When I can summon the balls to ask a girl out after approaching a girl during the day, I end the conversation by saying, "I had a fun time talking to you. Would you like to hang out again?"

Then she says yes. Then I get her number as a way to set up the date, rather than just to have her number in my phone.

So far, no flakes from ending a conversation this way.

(08-31-2013 01:43 PM)soup Wrote:  thinks I'm wasting energy by throwing myself into the game like I have.

Disagree. What it is is learning... it's a learning curve. You've spent your time learning the ins and outs of all of it.

There's never wasted energy. You've simply put in your time and effort to learn it. Some people have that happen naturally, so they have a biased perspective - others learn it through hard work. Same end result, different journey.

(09-06-2013 05:17 AM)All or Nothing Wrote:  

(09-05-2013 11:44 PM)Nascimento Wrote:  Didn't go for the number. I wanted a more natural conversation this time, instead of having a goal to get a number at the end. I let some short silences develop, let her talk more, looked off in thought. Maybe I will get it when I see her next time.

Do most guys just ask for a number?

When I can summon the balls to ask a girl out after approaching a girl during the day, I end the conversation by saying, "I had a fun time talking to you. Would you like to hang out again?"

Then she says yes. Then I get her number as a way to set up the date, rather than just to have her number in my phone.

So far, no flakes from ending a conversation this way.

Almost every single time I've done something similar to what you said, I've gotten a number.

A lot of flakes when it comes to meeting up though. I'm trying to polish this side of my game up so that I convert more dates from numbers, unlike my early approach days.

(09-06-2013 05:17 AM)All or Nothing Wrote:  

(09-05-2013 11:44 PM)Nascimento Wrote:  Didn't go for the number. I wanted a more natural conversation this time, instead of having a goal to get a number at the end. I let some short silences develop, let her talk more, looked off in thought. Maybe I will get it when I see her next time.

Do most guys just ask for a number?

When I can summon the balls to ask a girl out after approaching a girl during the day, I end the conversation by saying, "I had a fun time talking to you. Would you like to hang out again?"

Then she says yes. Then I get her number as a way to set up the date, rather than just to have her number in my phone.

So far, no flakes from ending a conversation this way.

Almost every single time I've done something similar to what you said, I've gotten a number.

A lot of flakes when it comes to meeting up though. I'm trying to polish this side of my game up so that I convert more dates from numbers, unlike my early approach days.

I went to this bar and played poker, I was drunk; didn't last ten hands.

Anyways, I sat at a booth and ate some food, I noticed there was a girl sitting by herself on the other side of my booth. She was watching her friend play.

I asked her if that's what she was doing, she said yes, I said oh me too, I'm kind of bored, I'm going to sit with you.

I sat down with her, we talked for a bit, blah blah blah,
I go out to have a smoke with my friends who are on a break.

I come back and she's gone! I wonder to myself wtf happened, she seemed really jnto the conversation nd even gave me some fried pickles!

Fast forward, I'm sitting in the garage with a few friends and one says, hey you know that girl you were talking to?
I'm like yeah, what about her? He said she came up to me and her friend and told me that you that she wanted to fuck you tonight until you asked her how often you vote? (big misunderstanding here! I was talking about local legislation that you can vote on. She made it seem like I didn't know how often the presidential election comes around. I know politics is a no go but I was only going to touch on it for a second since she likes politics a lot.)

Anyways that would have been a story to tell had I banged her.

-Married to a soldier whose over seas(didn't know that until my friend toldme aabout her)
-Kindergarten teacher
-Has a 5 year old son

Oh well

(09-06-2013 12:42 PM)Nascimento Wrote:  A lot of flakes when it comes to meeting up though. I'm trying to polish this side of my game up so that I convert more dates from numbers, unlike my early approach days.

Nascimento, here is what I do to get first dates.

The girl has to go, so I say: "I had a fun time talking to you. Would you like to hang out again?"

If she says yes, I say, "Do you know any days of the week when you will be free?" or "Can you meet up this Thursday or Sunday?" Something along those lines, so that when I text her to meet up, I am not completely shooting in the dark.

Then, my text conversations go like this:






In an ideal world, all text conversations would go like this:
1. Triangulation on first text (a half hour to one and a half hours after the initial conversation), possible call back to something we talked about in the conversation.
2. One light joke at most, mostly light banter for four to eight texts.
3. Ask her out the next day, I use "Would you like to do X?" or "If you are down, we should go do X." This is just my personality here. For whatever reason, I always want the girl to feel that she can walk away at anytime.
4. Set up logistics for the date.

I have done this text conversation with about 6 girls over summer. No flakes. They all were around a 7 in attractiveness.

Was out at the bar with some buddies last night. Spent most of the night gaming this multiple piercing, all girls catholic college girl who was definitely a slut and definitely into me and gave me her number but in the end got cock blocked by an omega in the group who wanted her to himself. Oh well, I'll probably still get the bang. However, at one point in the night I got to experience some eye opening whore behavior from another chick I talked to.

Went up to the bar to get a drink later in the night and found myself next to this chick who would have been an 8 if she lost a few pounds, probably a 6 as she was. Bar was very busy, so I turned to her and said "Will you just flash your tits already so we can both get served?" She laughed, game was on. Went back and forth about why we were out that night, summer vacations we've had and wish we've had, and who the fuck knows what else, I was drunk. She thought I was hilarious, and suggested we should meet up some time. Even though I didn't really plan on calling her because of the few extra pounds thing I asked for her number as a purely ego move.

She said that wouldn't be a good idea....because her husband goes through her phone sometimes. She hadn't mentioned him up to this point and had been playfully touching me the entire conversation. I had nothing to lose so I asked her why she was trying to get in my pants even though she had a husband. Her response? "Married life gets so boring sometimes, I need a change of pace." I asked her how long she's been married....6 months. She was probably about 27-29 years old. Still insisting we hang out, she wrote her email address on the back of my drink receipt and told me she was only in town for the next week so I should email her before she leaves. I've never been with a married whore before so she suddenly became appealing to me for purely bucket list reasons. I suggested we just bounce to a "less busy bar" instead. She said she couldn't, because her fucking husband was waiting for her at their table.

Wow. Just wow.

Thanks for the feedback AoN.

On another note, had some great night game nights this week.

One observation I've found to be absolutely true. I either read this in Bang, RVF, or heartiste.

Age questions. I've always played around with my age since I discovered in my early days that being truthful will get you nowhere, especially when you are younger than 90% of the girls you interact with. If she is visibly attracted to me and asking because she really wants to know (as opposed to shit testing) I tell her to guess. Usually the age they guess is the age they want you to be.

I had approached this girl on the dance floor who was visibly attracted after a couple minutes of us dancing. I tell her to guess my age after she asks. She thinks about it for a second, '25'.

There is no way I remotely look like I am 25. I might look a bit more mature than the average college crowd at this club, but her guessing 5 years above my actual age is just the age she wants or hopes me to be. I tell her 'close, I'm 24.'

She gets excited, tells me she is 20, and we continue dancing. She tells me she has to get back to take care of her drunk friend, I tell her to give me a kiss, she does and leaves.

In the past, I've played around with age questions. I remember one distinct occasion where the girl was very attracted, and I was playing really aloof with my answers. Eventually I just told her the truth, that I was a second year kid (leaving me around 19-20) and she immediately noticed she was older than me when she told me she was a third year. The interaction died within 20 seconds as I was no longer able to hold her close, she pulled away and went back to her friends.

Went shopping to update my look a bit, its been awhile since I got new clothes. Went to express to pick some dark wash jeans, the attendant was super cute and handpicked some good ones for me after I told her what I want. Another attendant came over and joined our conversation. Had some good banter back and forth for five minutes or so, they both dug my humor and I poked fun at them a bit. They go to a local college that I'm planning a big party for in a couple weeks, they loved it and plan on coming. I didn't go for the numbers for reasons listed below.

My daygame is pretty rusty, so I did a couple more approaches to work on it. I got three chicks in the rotation now with two more in the pipeline, and with everything else going I'm not worried about new numbers. My schedule is already costing me bangs so I'm not trying to further complicate it. However I'm starting to think thats it's going to be bad in the long run to do practice approaches and not go for the number.

Either way, my new threads and shoes look great on me.

The two new girls are double booked on thursday. The first one is coming to me around 7:30. I'm going to second ones house a 11:00. If date A goes well, I'll cancel date B. If not, date B should be a walk in the park. If they both flake I'll try a hail mary on a regular or just cry myself to sweet slumber

How do you handle a sweet girl crying?

My main chick (hot Japanese chick) is going back to Japan in a week. We had sex last night, and she started balling tears and couldnt stop crying. She said she loves me and is going to miss me so much.

-I kept comforting her and saying things like "Sweetie, we had a good time together and a lot of fun. There is no reason to be sad. This is going is a happy ending."
- I hugged her tightly and just held her when she cried
- I teased her by pretend-picking her nose and wiping it on her forehead (thanks Fisto). She started laughing, then crying after again.

Breaks my heart when I see a sweet girl cry.

How do you guys handle it?

Went to this hipster bar on Saturday. Got a feeling of what the hipster vibe is like. Not bad, I was one of the few dark skin guys there so I have an advantage with some women. Quality of most girls is definitely average. Most girls are nerdy, socially awkward and try to blend in the crowd by having pointless intellectual conversations that don't lead to sexual stimulation, at least not for me. It's funny how this place is exactly what some members paint hipster bars to be. This place has a outside patio bar where the music is not loud at all. Everyone was just talking outside basically. I was the loudest one there. These people are really mellow and laid back normally. There were a lot of girls visiting from other places. This looks like a promising territory for ONS which is what I go for only. I don't collect numbers much. I have gotten more ONS this past year than bangs from numbers collected. That's funny. Will definitely go back there.

Any players in NY hit me up.

(09-04-2013 06:50 PM)soup Wrote:  Just failed to bring a girl back to my place.

I think I'm not being up front with people about what I want.

That happens to me sometimes. With certain girls you have to be more upfront than with others. Some girls just like having the presence of a fun guy to talk to but not all of them want to bang that guy.