Post: #226

>>> "Just downloaded the app for tinder. Does anyone know how to change which facebook picture the app uses for your profile pics?
Also, I've had one match so far, but didn't message immediately, intending to do so later in the day. The match has since disappeared from my list. What gives? "

Icon in the top left corner, click "Profile", click "Edit" in top right corner.

If your match disappeared it means she blocked you. She saw she had a match with you, checked you out again, and changed her mind. Don't take it hard, a lot of people make their initial decision based soley on the one picture that pops up, then after they get match they actually look more closely and decide.

Post: #227

Just got back from my fifth Tinder date (five different women) and I'm about to fuckin' delete this app! I'm still pretty frustrated and haven't had a chance to cool down so this is going to be a combo rant/field report. So far in my experience Tinder has been anything but the guaranteed hookup app everyone is touting it to be. Here's my breakdown so far date by date:

Date 1. Super hot asian girl, solid 8, met for drinks and sushi, ran my usual online first date game. Things seemed to be going well and when we were walking to venue #2 she had to go to her car to get "eye drops" and a few minutes later I get a text saying she had to leave. Never had that happen to me in the hundreds of POF/OKC dates I've been on.

Date 2. Even hotter Latina girl than date 1. Had absolutely zero personality and was more guarded than Fort Knox. Would not open up to me about anything.

Date 3. Cute Latina, 6.5, seemed really fun and flirtatious. After going to second venue for more drinks did a lot of making out in the booth, hands on her legs and ass (she was wearing a skirt). Logistics sucked so I couldn't go for SNL but we made plans for the weekend. When I followed up with her she said it wouldn't work out since she "didn't feel a spark". WTF, you felt the spark when your tongue was down my throat!

Date 4. Really hot Mexican Milf with a body that was a dead ringer for newscaster Sharon Tay for those of you in the LA area. Sat at the bar and I did my best to work in kino whenever possible and flirt with her but you guessed it, she was having none of it. The entire date felt like a battle and all I got was a quick peck on the lips at the end.

Date 5 tonight. Cute Latina, 6.5, and the most frustrating of all. We had been texting for a while and she even initiated a sexting convo. She went off the grid for a few days so I sent her a dick pick as a way of restarting the convo. She loved that and told me how she loves big cock and is really sexual, yada yada yada. I was able to get her to drive almost an hour to meet me and while we were at the bar I kino'ed right from the start. I could tell she was really attracted to me by her body language but she was also super shy acting and closed off. Tried to kiss her at the bar, no go. After the drink I invited her back to my place for a second one and she said no but needed to look for a "slutty" cocktail dress for an upcoming party. Since we were at the mall I figured it would be fun to go with her and have her model some dresses for me. Ugh, it was miserable. The dresses sucked and I was bored out of my brain. As we left I pitched the drink idea again and she declined. Walked her to her car and got just a peck on the lips.

Sorry for the wall of text but my experience with Tinder seems to be women who are the complete opposites of those you meet on POF and OKC. They have been anything but DTF...

Post: #228

(07-22-2013 11:20 PM)RCron Wrote:  Just got back from my fifth Tinder date (five different women) and I'm about to fuckin' delete this app! I'm still pretty frustrated and haven't had a chance to cool down so this is going to be a combo rant/field report. So far in my experience Tinder has been anything but the guaranteed hookup app everyone is touting it to be. Here's my breakdown so far date by date:

Date 1. Super hot asian girl, solid 8, met for drinks and sushi, ran my usual online first date game. Things seemed to be going well and when we were walking to venue #2 she had to go to her car to get "eye drops" and a few minutes later I get a text saying she had to leave. Never had that happen to me in the hundreds of POF/OKC dates I've been on.

Date 2. Even hotter Latina girl than date 1. Had absolutely zero personality and was more guarded than Fort Knox. Would not open up to me about anything.

Date 3. Cute Latina, 6.5, seemed really fun and flirtatious. After going to second venue for more drinks did a lot of making out in the booth, hands on her legs and ass (she was wearing a skirt). Logistics sucked so I couldn't go for SNL but we made plans for the weekend. When I followed up with her she said it wouldn't work out since she "didn't feel a spark". WTF, you felt the spark when your tongue was down my throat!

Date 4. Really hot Mexican Milf with a body that was a dead ringer for newscaster Sharon Tay for those of you in the LA area. Sat at the bar and I did my best to work in kino whenever possible and flirt with her but you guessed it, she was having none of it. The entire date felt like a battle and all I got was a quick peck on the lips at the end.

Date 5 tonight. Cute Latina, 6.5, and the most frustrating of all. We had been texting for a while and she even initiated a sexting convo. She went off the grid for a few days so I sent her a dick pick as a way of restarting the convo. She loved that and told me how she loves big cock and is really sexual, yada yada yada. I was able to get her to drive almost an hour to meet me and while we were at the bar I kino'ed right from the start. I could tell she was really attracted to me by her body language but she was also super shy acting and closed off. Tried to kiss her at the bar, no go. After the drink I invited her back to my place for a second one and she said no but needed to look for a "slutty" cocktail dress for an upcoming party. Since we were at the mall I figured it would be fun to go with her and have her model some dresses for me. Ugh, it was miserable. The dresses sucked and I was bored out of my brain. As we left I pitched the drink idea again and she declined. Walked her to her car and got just a peck on the lips.

Sorry for the wall of text but my experience with Tinder seems to be women who are the complete opposites of those you meet on POF and OKC. They have been anything but DTF...

"Even his own balls will impede a bad dancer" - Russian proverb

Why don't you follow the advice of others in this thread and stop fucking around with dates. tinder is clearly designed for an anonymous "hot or not" hookup. so get the girl over and fuck her, none of this gay date bullshit. The asian girl gave you a lesson. take heed

Post: #229

(07-22-2013 11:20 PM)RCron Wrote:  Date 1. Super hot

Date 2. Even hotter

Date 3. Logistics sucked

Date 4. Really hot

Date 5. we were at the mall

I distilled your post to the most salient points you made. The writing is on the wall, as they say.

How could a girl be "hotter" than "super hot?" Why did your logistics suck? What in the world were you doing at a mall? I don't want to say the reason you're struggling is because you're putting these girls on a pedestal, but it might be a part of it. At the very least it's affecting your frame.

For the Date #5 it sounds like you were just an accessory to her afternoon of shopping. Unless she is under 21 then you shouldn't be doing boyfriend shit with her at the mall. Especially if you were sexting before, why wouldn't you have just invited her to come over to your place? She's already seen a picture of your dick, quit stalling by going on a drinks date, and just go for the bang instead.

I don't want to discourage you or make it seem like Tinder girls are a sure-thing (because they're not), but it sounds like you are placing more blame on the app than you are on your own game. Take a step back, reexamine your game, and try again. If you're able to get these girls offline, there's no reason you shouldn't be able to make some changes to your game, and get them into bed too.

Post: #230

I appreciate the feedback and you're right the first couple of dates I was putting them on a pedestal. The thing I didn't mention is that for date 1 and 5 I did invite them directly to my place and got the "I don't even know you, let's meet somewhere half way" to which I was able to get them to a place about 15 mins from where I live. I'm obviously here on this forum because there's something amiss in my game and I'm asking for help. So, if they don't want to come directly over and they shut down all of my attempts at escalation where does that leave me? Them just not being interested? I'm fine with that but I'm definitely not fine with leaving bangs on the table, or bar if you will....

Post: #231

I envy your situation RCron. I can't even get a match.

Post: #232

(07-23-2013 12:17 PM)RCron Wrote:  I appreciate the feedback and you're right the first couple of dates I was putting them on a pedestal. The thing I didn't mention is that for date 1 and 5 I did invite them directly to my place and got the "I don't even know you, let's meet somewhere half way" to which I was able to get them to a place about 15 mins from where I live. I'm obviously here on this forum because there's something amiss in my game and I'm asking for help. So, if they don't want to come directly over and they shut down all of my attempts at escalation where does that leave me? Them just not being interested? I'm fine with that but I'm definitely not fine with leaving bangs on the table, or bar if you will....

When you invite her directly over, it's all or nothing. You can't budge after that and agree to meet her out halfway. Not only are you giving her hand, you're pretty much guaranteeing that she won't come back home with you, because now she knows your intention. Even if she does just want to bang, you're not giving her the plausible deniability she needs.

She is going to shit test you hard when you invite her over. This is normal and expected. But if she's replying to you, then it's still game on - this is her way of subtly telling you "I'm still interested but I'm not 100% sold yet. Keep trying." If she straight up wasn't interested in you, she wouldn't even reply to your texts.

When she says "I don't even know you" you need to play a bit of beta comfort game. Don't be confrontational or cocky, be funny and easy going. Say "You're right, I don't know you either, what if you're a fat old lady?"

Just keep the conversation going, build a little comfort, and when it feels right you say "so how about 9 tonight? I'll txt you my address when you're ready to head over." Assume the sale, don't ask her, just tell her.

This game requires an abundance mentality. You have to be willing to lose the girl if she doesn't agree to come over. When you refuse to budge, she'll sense that you don't give a shit about her, which of course turns her on.

Here is the mindset you need to be in: pretend you are the President of a big country - a married, easily recognizable, high status man. You want to bang girls, but the only way it will work is if they come to you. You can't be seen in public with these sluts, and going on dates with them is not even remotely an option. That would be a suicide mission. So the only option you have is to get them to come over. Sure, a lot of them will flake and bail, but if you stick to your guns, it will work.

Post: #233

I would never take a Tinder girl out on a date. At least not until we were banging. I've hooked up with 2 Tinder girls now and both we just met up "when we were out". Here's the mentality of the girls on Tinder:

Oh this app is so fun and this attractive guy who's funny wants to meet up lol and maybe he'll not be a total creep and if we do meet up it will "just happen" and did I mention this app is fun and definitely not a "dating" app

That's pretty much the female hamster when using this thing. Most of the girls on it just want to "see where it goes". You need to guide it there.

Post: #234

Does anyone know if this app shares anything on your facebook feed? I hate to announce to the world through social media, that I'm using a casual encounter dating app. I've always been a very discrete person.

Post: #235

(07-25-2013 11:53 PM)numanist Wrote:  Does anyone know if this app shares anything on your facebook feed? I hate to announce to the world through social media, that I'm using a casual encounter dating app. I've always been a very discrete person.

Good question, I tried installing the app but stopped when this popped up

Quote:Your friends can see apps you use with Facebook.

Post: #236

Got my first Tinder bang last night. Thanks to everyone on this thread for pointing out this app and all your advice!

Second Tinder date tonight, this could be good.

Post: #237

^^ that post above is great. Playful banter until they seem comfortable then transition to texting ---> meet up ---> game

Post: #238

Am I the only one here using the Android version and get "there was a problem logging into Facebook" error?

Post: #239

I have an HB9 friend who just posted this picture. Makes me doubt the Tinder well will run deep for us.

Post: #240

(07-28-2013 09:34 PM)Nolecbo Wrote:  I have an HB9 friend who just posted this picture. Makes me doubt the Tinder well will run deep for us.

I always wondered about this. Tinder has no real ways to help the back end of the interaction for girls. Most sign up, go hard for like a week or two then get bored of the App and stop messing with it.

But then your friend... is she trolling because that means she is clicking yes on evreybody?

Post: #241

(07-28-2013 09:34 PM)Nolecbo Wrote:  I have an HB9 friend who just posted this picture. Makes me doubt the Tinder well will run deep for us.

holy shit.

Post: #242

I have a feeling that Tinder is also gaming users. If I don't check the app for a day, I tend to get many more matches when I come back to it as opposed to if I'm constantly checking it throughout the day.

Post: #243

(07-29-2013 01:58 AM)soup Wrote:  I have a feeling that Tinder is also gaming users. If I don't check the app for a day, I tend to get many more matches when I come back to it as opposed to if I'm constantly checking it throughout the day.

I've experienced the same thing. I've restricted my Tinder activity to only once a day. I seem to yield many more matches this way.

Post: #244

its so full of bots and bull shit


there is no way that there are so many 21 year old hotties near me. no chance.

Post: #245

that being said have been chatting with two chicks on there, but nothing is going to happen there. one a ukranian girl, but she is not hot and has been here 6 years so she is likely corrupted.

Post: #246

(07-28-2013 10:55 PM)kosko Wrote:  

(07-28-2013 09:34 PM)Nolecbo Wrote:  I have an HB9 friend who just posted this picture. Makes me doubt the Tinder well will run deep for us.

But then your friend... is she trolling because that means she is clicking yes on evreybody?

She is an alpha widow, so is pounding on 'like' and posting the picture to get his attention.

Post: #247

(07-29-2013 08:42 AM)reaper23 Wrote:  that being said have been chatting with two chicks on there, but nothing is going to happen there. one a ukranian girl, but she is not hot and has been here 6 years so she is likely corrupted.

true. gotta close them fresh off the boat. after 12 months their brain is starting to re-wire to North American attitude..

one a separate note, I signed up and looked at the profile preview and just below 'about me' text there was a scroller showing ALL my friends and no option to turn that off. anyone noticed that?

Post: #248

Just installed the app. Sorry if this is a stupid question, but my facebook public profile picture doesn't show my face, is there any way I can have my face pic on Tinder and not share it on Facebook?

How about having different first names on FB and Tinder? is that possible?

Post: #249

Just make a completely private Facebook account and link tinder with that.

Post: #250

(07-30-2013 10:51 PM)Brodiaga Wrote:  is there any way I can have my face pic on Tinder and not share it on Facebook?

Upload the pic to fb, but set the privacy to "Only Me". Switch back to Tinder and the picture is available.