$1 tip?

Get off this thread and go start a "What Should I Tip Next?" Thread.

I figured you didn’t tip strippers and waitresses you want to fuck.. It is a self-serve buffet too. Bitch is lucky she got a dollar!

What's a good suggestion for a restart text ?

I travel for work. She's aware that I'm not from the area, and knows that I usually stay overnight in a hotel, but was up for meeting for drinks the last time we texted. She flaked on day of, wasn't feeling well. I left it with hoping she feels better.

I haven't texted this girl in about three weeks.

I will be in her area tonight. I plan on night gaming, but it would be nice to have something in the queue.

Hindsight is 20/20 I would of hit her up a day or 2 before you were in the area.

Warm her up, then pull the trigger on plans tonight.


You best bet is to reach out to her basically seeing how she is and that you're in town.

Sounds real spergy/trollish but I'll break it down for you. See below with my comments in BOLD:

(05-20-2016 09:02 AM)MasterCanvas Wrote:  So, I’m texting an FOB, where I got her number from a Chinese buffet I frequent. She is cute, and I’m not sure how to handle the texts right now. I have messed this up before, and actually sent her a dick pic and video of me.WHAT THE FUCK? lol.. She was on radio silence so I figured it would give me a laugh. I went to the restaurant last night, and seen her again so I started a conversation. You should've acted like she didn't exist until SHE opened you. She didn’t bring up the dick pics or anything; just that I looked good, and we should do something one night when she is free. I’m stuck on text right now; here is the conversation:

Sounds okay at the buffet, but remember it's her job to treat you nicely.

Canvas: Hey, this is (DHV Fake Name). I seen you at the restaurant tonight. How r u, cutie?

Way too long. You tell her you saw her at the restaurant even though you spoke to her and it's obvious she knows this. No reason to say it, very spergy. Pedestalizing behaviour telling her she's cute. No reason for that either.

FOB: No bad

At this point you should've have responded. This is a non-response/negative response. I would've ghosted unless she sent a followup.

Canvas: That’s good. We should go out when you are free one night. I know a few places in the city open until 12. What do u like to do for fun?

Again putting her on the pedestal and giving her all the frame. You are basically offering her a date doing anything she likes to do. You are completely vague with your offer to hang out, making it seem like you have nothing going on. Way too many words again.

FOB: You’re too stingy, only give me 1 doller for tip

She's either being a bitch towards you (likely, because I don't think she actually is interested) or this is an opportunity to flirt and give her a hard time.

Canvas: I will give you more next time maybe. How can I make it up to you?

You failed to flirt with her and you fell 100% into her frame and practically onto your knees with the groveling language.

FOB: I don’t know

I don't know AKA I'm bored AKA I'm not interested. Notice how her texts are short and there's zero investment.

Canvas: I can think of a few ways, but it will have to wait until next week. I am throwing a party this weekend with a lot of my friends. You should come.

Why would you invite her to an environment where it's you and all your friends. Not only is this intimidating to a girl, but you're inviting her right into your friend group instead of keeping her separate until she proves she's worthy of hanging around your friends. You try to act like you're grabbing frame, but you're losing the interaction with this.

FOB: No thanks

Case closed, she's not interested (or she was ever so slightly interested until you displayed very poor game, anti-game if you will. Good on you for trying, but you need to try harder and since this medium is text where you can consider what you say for a few minutes to a few hours before you send messages I'm being hard on you.

Canvas:

My plan was to DHV a lot and somehow maneuver ramble with sexual tension. I think I have something like that going, but I don’t know where to go at the moment. Any suggestions? Thanks bros!

Do not pass Go, Go directly to text-game jail. This one is lost. Read this thread in it's entirety, read some other threads here (use the search or check out my last few posts in here where I linked some resources) and check out CH or some of the manwhore text guides. Feel free to post here again but it would be better if you didn't have your entire interaction/failure completed when you do so we have a chance to give you help DURING the process not afterwards.

^Aneroid, he's got a whole thread on the newbie forum about it on 5/15. Then he's posting it here on 5/19.

been friends with this woman for a few years and recently she started working with me on a project. we went out for work drinks last night and I did the friendly thing and made sure she got a taxi home. she gives IOIs but maybe that's because of her friendly nature. we haven't slept together and I'm not sure if we should because of the project. she's good to talk to and all, but still wouldn't mind her as a plate. my intent is 'whatever happens happens'.
she messaged me this morning with an essay saying
"Also I need to quickly mention something before tomorrow. I was intending to do this another way but I'm not confident enough and I know it's slack. Um I don't know if the way you were last night was more because of alcohol but I just want to get it straight before this trip incase we do stay together in same room. I would really like to be treated like a friend and nothing more. Sorry if I have ever given you mixed signals And if you don't feel like I am treating you in a comfortable way please feel free to say something. I know sometimes I probably go over board with the jokes or possessive things but yeah . We work together and we will be doing projects together and staying in same room as well as going out drinking together. I really want us to both feel comfortable with that situation but unless we clear up last night I don't entirely feel comfortable. So we should really sort out whether we can just be friends and leave it at that or whether we need to kinda stop spending as much time together type thing . (Ie if it makes you feel uncomfortable being in same room)"

We're going on a work trip together tomorrow for 2 weeks so I'm not sure how to approach this/game in general

^^
After that novel she wrote you ? It deserves either a one word or zero word response.

That wall of text reads like plausible deniability on her part. Did something else happen between getting to the bar and getting her a cab ?

"incase we do stay together in same room".. What are the odds that the two of you will share a room ?

I wrote back saying we'll talk tomorrow and it's "no big deal". I can see where you're getting at with a one word response or no response but I read this too late.

odds of sharing a room is likely as we don't know anyone else on this trip.

nothing happened between the bar and cab apart from flirting and me giving some Kino. I invited her to stay the night which she considered but turned down later.

she's gone through boyfriends when we were friends before and she moved her attention away from me when she had them. she broke up with her latest boyfriend a month ago and I don't want to be her 'rent a friend' beta orbiter. after starting to swallow the red pill (last 3 months) I started to ignore her, neg her more, and give her something to chase. even if I don't get her on my rotation, I'll learn valuable lessons about game in general

hope I can get pointed in the right direction

Guys talked on on and off to this girl from tinder. She's 21 and her profile says buy me nachos and do my physics homework.

This is the ensuing conversation:

Me:What if you drop physics this semester? My purpose in life will end, no? I realize you will never get tired of eating nachos but physics can be put in its place.
Her: Ur right
Me:Not crashing any college parties tonight? Believe me you can learn more about physics at these places than what it seems!
Me:What toppings do you like on your nachos?
Her: guac sour cream black beans cheese lettuce
Me:Nom nom nom! While I understand nachos are the bane to your existence, what else matters to you?
Me:Charmi (her name on tinder) I m charm-ing. And that's not the only ing I can add to your life. Give me your number.

I know mistakes were made like being pushy about her number. How do I restart the conversation? I know she is active on tinder

^ jay,
This is a mess. You're playing into her frame, writing long paragraphs, asking dumb questions without getting answers.
And "nom nom nom"? WHat are you thinking?
My advice, you should reread this entire thread from the beginning.
In the future, use short, vague comments. Don't ask dumb questions every other sperg is asking. Dont ask for her number until you have engaged her. This chick never engaged. Didn't even answer your questions.
Any restart is going to include this embarrassing history. Better to just unmatch and not make the same mistakes again.

Alright guys haven't been gaming or interacting with chicks for some long time now. Need to get back at it and need to get my momentum going. So this is where I might need some help:

In the last 2 weeks I was using a different phone so I didn't receive any Whatsapp messages. Today I finally got my smartphone back and it comes with a new message from a cute girl I met last year.
(I approached her when I was just starting to learning game, it didn't go anywhere so I decided to move on)

Her text: Don't you recognize us anymore?
She probably saw me with her friends somewhere, I don't remember seeing her though. (her message is almost 2 weeks old now)

I don't expect anything from this but it would be good to use this to get back in to the game. Not sure how to respond now.

^ "Didn't use whatsapp for a while, no I can't remember seeing you. How are you doing?"

(05-22-2016 12:09 PM)Satoshi Wrote:  ^ "Didn't use whatsapp for a while, no I can't remember seeing you. How are you doing?"

It is so simple but that's the whole point of texting. I really need to stop overthinking this. Thanks I'll be using this.

Hit up a girl when I was visiting NY this week, unfortunatly we couldnt hang out because I had to leave.

Her:I miss you! You used to hang out all the time!

Me:oh we will we got some catching up to do

Her:yes we do!!

Her:you okay if I give you a big ass hug

Me:Only if you wear something sexy

Her:you would say something like that lol

Her:what have you been up to?

Not sure how to procced considering im gone, I can see her next month on a trip though.

(05-22-2016 05:12 PM)TheDuncan Wrote:  Hit up a girl when I was visiting NY this week, unfortunatly we couldnt hang out because I had to leave.

Her:I miss you! You used to hang out all the time!

Me:oh we will we got some catching up to do

Her:yes we do!!

Her:you okay if I give you a big ass hug

Me:Only if you wear something sexy

Her:you would say something like that lol

Her:what have you been up to?

Not sure how to procced considering im gone, I can see her next month on a trip though.

Don't get into a long winded "How have you been?" conversation. There is clearly attraction there and the more you talk the more likely you are to kill that attraction.

Organize to meet asap for when you return. Then send the occasional fun text, pic, hints on what you will do when you get back throughout the month until you meet up.

"How have you been?" conversations are attraction killers because as we know girls are boring as bat shit most of the time and give you zero material to keep the conversation going.

(05-22-2016 05:12 PM)TheDuncan Wrote:  Hit up a girl when I was visiting NY this week, unfortunatly we couldnt hang out because I had to leave.

Her:I miss you! You used to hang out all the time!

Me:oh we will we got some catching up to do

Her:yes we do!!

Her:you okay if I give you a big ass hug

Me:Only if you wear something sexy

Her:you would say something like that lol

Her:what have you been up to?

Not sure how to procced considering im gone, I can see her next month on a trip though.

"robbing banks and womanizing"

If you want to be a little less bold, just say "robbing banks"

Flaked on girl 2 days straight (actually busy) and got this:

"Like do u have a girl or something that u keep Blowing me off or was i some type of game or u just not interested in me. Bc I honestly don't get wtf is ur deal"

Fucked her once and havent seen her since, still gonna fuck her again but Im not gonna send some "sorry I was busy, I promise I'll see you x day" text lol

(05-22-2016 05:12 PM)TheDuncan Wrote:  Hit up a girl when I was visiting NY this week, unfortunatly we couldnt hang out because I had to leave.

Her:I miss you! You used to hang out all the time!

Me:oh we will we got some catching up to do

Her:yes we do!!

Her:you okay if I give you a big ass hug

[...]

Now you text "let's see what you got. let's meet at xyz..".

In situations like that you cut that silly back and forth and set it up. Funny/witty comebacks are fine if you really want to have that kind of a conversation and prolong things cause you enjoy texting with her. But since you asked what to text next I'm guessing you want to take it somewhere but don't know how. Cut the crap, take charge and make a move. That's how. She seems to miss you so you go faster.

General rule to live by is that anytime a girl makes a move in any kind of way, on her own, without having to do it you should recognize it ads a green light to take it further. It's her signaling you to she's in the game so you pick up the ball and take charge of the game.

However, once you get a feel for texting you can go way more fancy. Truth is you can text all day with a girl putting her through so many different emotions, taking it in different directions, changing pace, tone, topics, impact, using pauses, keeping her where you want her to be so to speak, almost like a puppet master and pull if off. And she will enjoy it a lot cause it's for her emotional fulfillment, not for your. But it's completely unnecessary in terms of moving forward with her.

(05-23-2016 03:22 AM)XXL Wrote:  General rule to live by is that anytime a girl makes a move in any kind of way, on her own, without having to do it you should recognize it ads a green light to take it further. It's her signaling you to she's in the game so you pick up the ball and take charge of the game.

I agree with this. However, I'm stuck with the girl from above. Since she texted me first the lights are green now, yet I'm putting some unnecessary pressure on myself to not fuck this up. I'm stuck with her latest reply.

She asks me if I'm a member at a local gym.
Me: yes I am why you asking?
Her: because you were looking me in the eyes there.

I don't remember seeing her though and I already told this her. (last time I remember seeing her is one year ago)

Should I just go along with something like this:
It's been a while, we should meet up, need to refresh my memory. Drinks at X this Wednesday.

I remember she is a shy girl not sure if suggesting a meetup is too soon.

Art, since she flaked before, I think your instinct is right. Drag it out for a while before asking for the meetup.
You could respond "I must have been looking at something I liked."
Don't even hint at getting together. Just keep building as much attraction as you can until she sends a clear signal.

My only concern, did she get fat and that's why you didn't recognize her? You can keep this game going by asking for a photo to refresh your memory. Just to be safe.

(05-23-2016 09:13 AM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  My only concern, did she get fat and that's why you didn't recognize her? You can keep this game going by asking for a photo to refresh your memory. Just to be safe.

Appreciate your reply, I don't think that she got fat. Maybe she was somewhere in the back of the gym. I always check out the chicks there. Also she texted me this 2 weeks ago. I'll go with your reply text and see what she's up to.

(05-23-2016 08:33 AM)YoungArt Wrote:  

(05-23-2016 03:22 AM)XXL Wrote:  General rule to live by is that anytime a girl makes a move in any kind of way, on her own, without having to do it you should recognize it ads a green light to take it further. It's her signaling you to she's in the game so you pick up the ball and take charge of the game.

I agree with this. However, I'm stuck with the girl from above. Since she texted me first the lights are green now, yet I'm putting some unnecessary pressure on myself to not fuck this up. I'm stuck with her latest reply.

She asks me if I'm a member at a local gym.
Me: yes I am why you asking?
Her: because you were looking me in the eyes there.

I don't remember seeing her though and I already told this her. (last time I remember seeing her is one year ago)

Should I just go along with something like this:
It's been a while, we should meet up, need to refresh my memory. Drinks at X this Wednesday.

I remember she is a shy girl not sure if suggesting a meetup is too soon.

Yes, text her something like "it's been a while it's a shame we're still texting let's meet up at xyz, you will hug me I will look you in the eyes even more, it'll be fun".

Just something simple, to the point and relevant to what you talked about before. Maybe you have an idea what you can do together, some commonalities, shared interests, etc

Any tips on getting a picture from the NY girl? Not even a nude just a selfie for now.

"send me a pic I havent seen you in forever"

Something like that?

(05-23-2016 02:23 PM)TheDuncan Wrote:  Any tips on getting a picture from the NY girl? Not even a nude just a selfie for now.

"send me a pic I havent seen you in forever"

Something like that?

"I need a contact pic for you"