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Andre 路 2016-04-11 05:59:00 路 #2308
(04-10-2016 10:11 PM)BromigoMike Wrote:  here's one off okc...she writes about being against booty calls in her profile.

I msg "who's looking for booty calls"
she responds with "lol you =p"

I personally wouldn麓t use that as an opener in the first place. But since the cat is out of the bag, I would play it sarcastically and just overdo it. If you sexualise the conversation this early without building any comfort, it will be hard to transit to number game. How about? "me? no, never, I don麓t play like that. I麓m looking for someone to go halves on a baby" or "I麓m simply looking for a steady sidechick, please don麓t tell my wife".
Laser 路 2016-04-11 09:29:00 路 #2309
I got a girls number off POF. After getting her number, we had a few good exhanges of banter. She reponded quickly when i texted, I waited a bit between replies.

I then asked if she was free to grab a drink this week and got no response. Its been 24 hrs. If she doesnt respond, how can I salvage this? I feel like if I send another message without her acknowledging my invitation I'll lose all frame.
kaotic 路 2016-04-11 16:29:00 路 #2310
Exercise:

A fun fuck session plate asks you if you've been tested, you say you have recently and you're clean, you flip the script asking her if she has something (you know she's probably fucking other dudes) but now she has the tits to lay it out there:

   

What would you do ?

What would you text back?

What would you say ?

What would factor into that ?
Do you have an abundance mentality ?
Would you standards next a girl who flat said to your face she's fucking other dudes ?
Would you just keep her as a fun plate ?
Morgy 路 2016-04-11 16:50:00 路 #2311
Long time lurker first time poster.

I ended up in paris for a week and trying out tinder a bit. Matched with really cute girl. She is definitely interested.
However after asking what she was doing this week she said:

"A lot of university.
Can't meet anyone i guess. Sorry."

After that she continued the conversation.

I'm think about calling her out on her weak resolve and see what happens. What do you guys think?
Will that work or scare her away. (she's also now and than in the city where i live, however... rather meet her here)


@Kaotic, Keep her as plate. Girls that you see as just fun are less a hassle if they also see it the same way. As long as you don't wanna marry her it doesn't matter imho.
Agastya 路 2016-04-12 22:43:00 路 #2312
Trying to schedule a smoke sesh(netflix and chill) with a girl who says "we can maybe meet later in the week"

Me: "I can't smoke till Friday afternoon"

Her: "You reaaallly want to smoke with me, don't you?"

How to evade/surpass this shit test?
TornadoByProxy 路 2016-04-12 23:12:00 路 #2313
(04-12-2016 10:43 PM)Agastya Wrote:  Trying to schedule a smoke sesh(netflix and chill) with a girl who says "we can maybe meet later in the week"

Me: "I can't smoke till Friday afternoon"

Her: "You reaaallly want to smoke with me, don't you?"

How to evade/surpass this shit test?

Slow down. It's not like I asked you to smoke on 4/20.
KingOfGame0423 路 2016-04-12 23:21:00 路 #2314
Girl i messaged earlier

me: I hope you dont have plans this summer im kidnapping you
her: lol what did you have in mind?:>
me: well talk when its time to collect ransom Wink
her: haha sounds good then :>
Wahawahwah 路 2016-04-12 23:29:00 路 #2315
"I was born for this."

"Can you bake cookies?"

"Unsubscribe"

Random Emoticon

"just have this extra weed I need to get rid of"

Its not really a nuclear shit test, she's flattered and fishing for more validation

(04-12-2016 10:43 PM)Agastya Wrote:  Trying to schedule a smoke sesh(netflix and chill) with a girl who says "we can maybe meet later in the week"

Me: "I can't smoke till Friday afternoon"

Her: "You reaaallly want to smoke with me, don't you?"

How to evade/surpass this shit test?
Sam Malone 路 2016-04-13 17:03:00 路 #2316
Matched with a 21 year old on Tinder.

My profile roughly says:
Quote:Looking for a cool girl to have fun with. No hookups (with a smirk emoji)
Ask yourself if it's time for an upgrade.

We send a couple messages back and forth. She's about 80 miles away, but (for me) it's not a big deal. I travel for work, and the job pays for hotels depending on the situation.

Then she asks, "What's your profile mean ? Are you looking for a SB or something like that ?"

Not sure if I should come at it with, "Yeah, you want to interview ?", "Nah, just looking for a hookup" or some other variation.
kaotic 路 2016-04-13 17:26:00 路 #2317
She dropped the Sugar Babby line.

She knows the score and she definitely knows about Seeking Arrangement, and putting everything in the open makes you a Sugar Daddy.

I'd play it off funny, saying nah I'm just looking for my 5th ex wife and 5th illegitimate child.

Or simply restate what you put, "I'm just looking for a cool girl to hangout with."

Or play stupid, "Huh SB ? What's that?"

Papaya Trapper has some skill with SA type girls, paging !
General Stalin 路 2016-04-13 18:29:00 路 #2318
(04-11-2016 04:29 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Exercise:

A fun fuck session plate asks you if you've been tested, you say you have recently and you're clean, you flip the script asking her if she has something (you know she's probably fucking other dudes) but now she has the tits to lay it out there:

   

What would you do ?

What would you text back?

What would you say ?

What would factor into that ?
Do you have an abundance mentality ?
Would you standards next a girl who flat said to your face she's fucking other dudes ?
Would you just keep her as a fun plate ?

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This is a good question. I assume girls I'm banging are banging other dudes, but I certainly don't like hearing it from the harlot's mouth.

It would really make me want to use protection - which I hate doing.

If she is really hot and the sex is really great and she is no hassle then I may continue to bang away.

Though, it is also tempting to say "lol gross. see ya"
BromigoMike 路 2016-04-14 10:54:00 路 #2319
got this match on bumble and getting stuck...any suggestions

Her: "Sorry I was resetting my iPhone and my app restarted. Surprised I found ya again"
Me: no worries..do you text? My app gets buggy sometimes too
Her: Yes, but I don't know you yet so I can't give you my number. Sorry. I know it sounds weird but this app makes it way too easy to meet someone.
Me: that's not the goal?
Her: Not this easy lol. Asking for a number or going out for a drink. Before even knowing a little back ground. ? Call me old fashion. I've only had one date off of bumble. I guess I'm playing it safe? Sorry I'm weird
Me: struck out on that one?
Her: No lol. You're very forward. We actually became good friends
kaotic 路 2016-04-14 11:18:00 路 #2320
(04-13-2016 06:29 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  This is a good question. I assume girls I'm banging are banging other dudes, but I certainly don't like hearing it from the harlot's mouth.

It would really make me want to use protection - which I hate doing.

If she is really hot and the sex is really great and she is no hassle then I may continue to bang away.

Though, it is also tempting to say "lol gross. see ya"

I didn't respond for a day, and when I did, I never addressed her previous comments.

I sent her some random ass picture of an indian dude swagged out in gold:

[Image: d1.jpg]

I told her it was my spirit animal and she laughed her ass off.

Planned on meeting this saturday - told her we'll check out this brewery, she accused me of "wanting drunk X(girls name) haha"

Laughed and said nah, I just want to go out, she's the one that wants my handsome face and body.

She laughs, then lectures me about not wearing my seatbelt.....I tell her motorcycles don't have seat belts, she tells me the idea of me being on a bike is sexy as fuck but scary.

Then starts trying to validate with "do you think you know me well?"

"Is there a pop quiz involved ? I know you decently, and getting to know you more"

I flip the question on her, she tells me she knows me a bit, but she needs to not get drunk because I've only really seen her drunk self.

She tells me I like things "organic" and I'm a dare devil.

"Who thinks he can be a mean tough scary guy, but it doesn't work with me Wink. Cause I find you super sweet....sometimes"

I simply respond "Drinking or not we've had plenty of fun. I never said I was a tough scary guy, just a sarcastic asshole!"



I hate using condoms, but she forced the issue last time we fucked, she couldn't find her condom, and I banged her to rawdom cum.

The sex is absolutely great, she can suck a mean dick, condoms just put a damper on it.

Obviously I need to wrap up, but it's hard between fuck sessions AND I can't keep it up if I have one on.
AneroidOcean 路 2016-04-14 20:07:00 路 #2321
(04-14-2016 11:18 AM)kaotic Wrote:  <SNIP>

Planned on meeting this saturday - told her we'll check out this brewery, she accused me of "wanting drunk X(girls name) haha"

Laughed and said nah, I just want to go out, she's the one that wants my handsome face and body.

She laughs, then lectures me about not wearing my seatbelt.....I tell her motorcycles don't have seat belts, she tells me the idea of me being on a bike is sexy as fuck but scary.

Then starts trying to validate with "do you think you know me well?"

"Is there a pop quiz involved ? I know you decently, and getting to know you more"

I flip the question on her, she tells me she knows me a bit, but she needs to not get drunk because I've only really seen her drunk self.

She tells me I like things "organic" and I'm a dare devil.

"Who thinks he can be a mean tough scary guy, but it doesn't work with me Wink. Cause I find you super sweet....sometimes"

I simply respond "Drinking or not we've had plenty of fun. I never said I was a tough scary guy, just a sarcastic asshole!"

How'd this turn out? I suspect she was trying to slow things down and put you in the provider category or looking for comfort.

I would've gone with a vastly shorter answer tied into how busy you are and giving her some sort of visual thing to ponder:

"hmm, getting on the motorcycle. gym time"

Women want to be responded to, but in reality most of the time it's better to only acknowledge briefly before moving into your frame/discussion point.
AnonymousBosch 路 2016-04-15 08:14:00 路 #2322
(04-11-2016 04:29 PM)kaotic Wrote:  What would you do ?
What would you text back?
What would you say ?

What would factor into that ?
Do you have an abundance mentality ?
Would you standards next a girl who flat said to your face she's fucking other dudes ?
Would you just keep her as a fun plate ?

Shit K, that's brutal.

I've banged chicks who were in relationships in the past, but they were never that upfront with me about it. I suspect they would have avoided the issue forever if logistics didn't eventually reveal the need for discretion their end.

Yeah, obviously I have to have known they must be getting other dick, but I suppose I tell myself they must be getting vastly-inferior dick than mine or they wouldn't be catting around on their partner in the first place. This is far more flattering to my ego than considering the possibility I'm just banging a yo-yo knickered sloot and 'any dick will do'.

The first time one was that blunt with me was a year or so back, when she asked me to knock her up promising that her husband would 'never find out'. Kind of smacked the game out of me for the next couple of days. I'm not used to being lost for words.

That being said - do you think she was serious, or could she be trying to test you for jealousy in the attempt to force you to qualify a deeper commitment to her, ie:

Fishing: "I have been sleeping with 1 other person."

What she probably wants to hear: "OK. That ends now."

If you don't want to bag it, (or double bag it), check your cock for any small cuts or broken skin before your meeting - particularly if you've had a long sex session recently - and don't go down on her.
kaotic 路 2016-04-15 15:07:00 路 #2323
(04-14-2016 08:07 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  -snip-

How'd this turn out? I suspect she was trying to slow things down and put you in the provider category or looking for comfort.

I would've gone with a vastly shorter answer tied into how busy you are and giving her some sort of visual thing to ponder:

"hmm, getting on the motorcycle. gym time"

Women want to be responded to, but in reality most of the time it's better to only acknowledge briefly before moving into your frame/discussion point.

Well I didn't respond for a day, then just ignored the question and send her a pic.

She's sent me a pic "with her guy friend" at an LA club, I knew the score, I ignored it, she ended up texting me the next day.

To me I just ignored that shit, I'm non reactive to it. I'll explain more below.

(04-15-2016 08:14 AM)AnonymousBosch Wrote:  Shit K, that's brutal.

I've banged chicks who were in relationships in the past, but they were never that upfront with me about it. I suspect they would have avoided the issue forever if logistics didn't eventually reveal the need for discretion their end.

Yeah, obviously I have to have known they must be getting other dick, but I suppose I tell myself they must be getting vastly-inferior dick than mine or they wouldn't be catting around on their partner in the first place. This is far more flattering to my ego than considering the possibility I'm just banging a yo-yo knickered sloot and 'any dick will do'.

The first time one was that blunt with me was a year or so back, when she asked me to knock her up promising that her husband would 'never find out'. Kind of smacked the game out of me for the next couple of days. I'm not used to being lost for words.

That being said - do you think she was serious, or could she be trying to test you for jealousy in the attempt to force you to qualify a deeper commitment to her, ie:

Fishing: "I have been sleeping with 1 other person."

What she probably wants to hear: "OK. That ends now."

If you don't want to bag it, (or double bag it), check your cock for any small cuts or broken skin before your meeting - particularly if you've had a long sex session recently - and don't go down on her.

AB, yeah I remember your story about that I think, where you fucked her at your office or something right ? She begged for you to cum in her, then she got picked up by her chump husband right ?

I actually think she was serious about saying she's banged another guy, reason being, she flat out told me she dating other people, then asked me if I have, I said 1000.

She knows nothing about my sex life, she knows nothing about my dating life, and my past history.

I coyly call her out on dating other dudes, usually I'm non reactive and ignore it.

I always check my dick before I fuck any girl, usually it's after I make sure I'm good as well.

I think we both know what's up now, she isn't seriously considering "dating" me, but she sure as hell loves me fucking her.

Back to the conversation, as in my prior post ending with the sarcastic asshole thing:

She said "mhhhmmm"

I tell her "don't you mhmm me"

"what are you going to do about it, slap me?"

"of course not, that's for to know and you to find out"

she "hmphs" me and we banter a bit then

"I'm biting my lips right now, it should be yours tho, she sends me a pic of her biting her lip "got me all shy" another selfie

   
   

All in all turned it in my favor, she was very scared and skittish of me tying her up, so we're opening up avenues when it comes to the bedroom.
egionesco 路 2016-04-17 23:09:00 路 #2324
Hey guys,

Perhaps a little out of place in this forum, and I'll keep it short, but I'm a total noob. What I want to know is if I can text an apology.

I don't have a lot of plates, had a girl who cut me off a few months ago, she's hit me up a few times and I've been short and unresponsive. She texts me today, we exchange pleasantries, I tell her to bring some wine over tomorrow, she rejects with no counteroffer, I bail on the conversation.

She says, let's have lunch some time, I respond reminding her I don't get up in time for lunch and that the last lunch we had sucked. I tell her she'll have to meet me after 10 for a drink. She says--and it's a non sequitur-- "get your life together, but okay, I guess."

Anyways, I tell her where I will be on Wednesday night and to "bring her fun hat, because I say a lot of crazy shit to people that will embarrass you if you're not cool."

Her: "LOL who are you?"

Me: "If you figure it out, wear a dress and heels and get there early enough before I've got a sorority girl with daddy issues."

This girl's dad walked out on her family when she was one, and despite the fact that she was some months ago a total dick to me, I feel genuinely bad about making this comment. I'm moving in two weeks, don't expect to ever see or talk to her again, and really want to send an apology.

How pathetic is it if I send an apology? This is what happens when a beta tries to act alpha, sigh.
glugger 路 2016-04-18 02:19:00 路 #2325
Apologise in person, if you feel you have to.
kaotic 路 2016-04-18 12:15:00 路 #2326
Don't apologize, you're moving. You wont see this girl again, this is a non issue.

Get that pussy off the pedestal. She cut that pussy off months ago, she's trying to friendzone frank you with the lunch offer, and put you into her orbit.
egionesco 路 2016-04-18 12:57:00 路 #2327
Thanks guys for the advice.

I knew she was trying to friendzone me, the texts are my efforts to make it clear that's not happening. But I think what I said is pretty classless. I'm new at this and I'm hopeful that this is just growing pains, that in trying to be a pushover I'm overcorrecting. I'm hopeful that I'll get it calibrated.

However, I'm still racked by what I said. Even if someone treats you poorly, it is the mark of a weak person to treat them poorly back. Doing things like being short, ignoring, etc. are appropriate reactions to someone not being nice to you. Hell, it may not have been good game but it's okay for me to remind her how bad she sucked last time we had lunch. But it's not okay to let bitterness and oneitis seep in and to say or send actively hurtful things. It's really weak, and I'm upset both with myself and that I've made another person feel bad for doing nothing wrong except not wanting to sleep with me, a position much easier to defend given my antics here.
kaotic 路 2016-04-18 13:37:00 路 #2328
Dude, you're overthinking this WAY too much.

Sometimes we say things, and kick ourselves for it.

It's a lose/lose to reach and an apologize (without her calling you out on it).

You lose because you're perceived as weak and don't stand by your words (Trump Game)

You lose because you shouldn't be actively pursuing a chick that doesn't have an interest in you, that you will be leaving for behind.

Just let it be - and make this a lesson learned.

Always read your texts before you send them.
PapayaTapper 路 2016-04-18 14:05:00 路 #2329
(04-17-2016 11:09 PM)egionesco Wrote:  Hey guys,

Perhaps a little out of place in this forum, and I'll keep it short, but I'm a total noob. What I want to know is if I can text an apology.

I don't have a lot of plates, had a girl who cut me off a few months ago, she's hit me up a few times and I've been short and unresponsive. She texts me today, we exchange pleasantries, I tell her to bring some wine over tomorrow, she rejects with no counteroffer, I bail on the conversation.

She says, let's have lunch some time, I respond reminding her I don't get up in time for lunch and that the last lunch we had sucked. I tell her she'll have to meet me after 10 for a drink. She says--and it's a non sequitur-- "get your life together, but okay, I guess."

Anyways, I tell her where I will be on Wednesday night and to "bring her fun hat, because I say a lot of crazy shit to people that will embarrass you if you're not cool."

Her: "LOL who are you?"

Me: "If you figure it out, wear a dress and heels and get there early enough before I've got a sorority girl with daddy issues."

This girl's dad walked out on her family when she was one, and despite the fact that she was some months ago a total dick to me, I feel genuinely bad about making this comment. I'm moving in two weeks, don't expect to ever see or talk to her again, and really want to send an apology.

How pathetic is it if I send an apology? This is what happens when a beta tries to act alpha, sigh.

Don't apologize. If she truly has daddy issues she'll be consciously outraged and subconsciously intrigued.

The only thing better than a girl with daddy issues is one with daddy issues and an eating disorder

Im getting a semi right now just writing that
Agastya 路 2016-04-18 17:42:00 路 #2330
Been texting this Asian girl on Tinder. She was pretty down to meet up last Friday, but bailed due to some other plans. Didn't really have time to see her over the weekend/didn't really follow up. I try to meet her today, she says she's attending a festival. Following texts ensued:

Me: lol your a hard girl to pin down
Me: give me a time this week...i have this theory that attractive people should spend time with each other Wink
Her: Interesting theory.
Her: And what if I don't think that you're attractive?
Her: Wink

I'm not the best at responding to shit tests over text, how do I respond to this?
kaotic 路 2016-04-18 17:50:00 路 #2331
You're texting her on Tinder ?

How come you haven't gotten her number yet ?

Don't double text her.

Respond with: "Well it's a good thing I'm a handsome devil then, what's your schedule like this week?"
Agastya 路 2016-04-18 18:01:00 路 #2332
(04-18-2016 05:50 PM)kaotic Wrote:  You're texting her on Tinder ?

How come you haven't gotten her number yet ?

Don't double text her.

Respond with: "Well it's a good thing I'm a handsome devil then, what's your schedule like this week?"

My b, I'm texting her number, I just met her on Tinder.
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