(04-01-2016 03:24 PM)Switch Wrote:  ^Good points. I ended up saying "I ain't that easy". I don't know if this was any good or not. I sent it at about 1 am, it's afternoon now and she still hasn't responded so we'll see. I imagine I'll have to hit her with a restart text in a few days. Cheers.

You pretty much shut her idea down. Wouldn't be surprised if she didn't text you back.

Leave your response open for interpretation next time. Say something like "yea, maybe" or "we'll see where everyone is heading when you get here."

You guys are definitely right. My line shut it down too harshly. I needed to find a balance between showing her I'm not jumping at the opportunity to have a chance to meet up and that I have options, bit at the same time keep her engaged and interested. I'll message her now "we'll see where everyone is going when you get here" as Remington suggested as a hail-mary shot and see if it goes anywhere. Thanks Remington and SomeFcksGiven.

(04-01-2016 09:09 PM)Switch Wrote:  You guys are definitely right. My line shut it down too harshly. I needed to find a balance between showing her I'm not jumping at the opportunity to have a chance to meet up and that I have options, bit at the same time keep her engaged and interested. I'll message her now "we'll see where everyone is going when you get here" as Remington suggested as a hail-mary shot and see if it goes anywhere. Thanks Remington and SomeFcksGiven.

Live and learn, brother. We all learn through trial and error. Keep up the approaches and keep women on your radar.

Obviously I'm new here, and any advice is much appreciated - thanks!

Whatsapp conversation is pasted below.

Some background:

-> Stopped this very pretty Hungarian girl cold in the street (London), got her number and then a couple of weeks later met up and went to a table-tennis/bar place.

-> Doesn't drink, wanted to go a restaurant as soon as we were finished playing. Decided to take her to one and I got the bill (mid-range restaurant). Didn't kiss though tried a couple of times and got the cheek ("I don't kiss until the 3rd date"). A lot of kino from me, which was reciprocated mildly.

-> She's 30 but looks closer to 20 / looking for work and has some blog or research stuff going on / in London for 1 year so far/ doesn't have a strong social network here. Overall, she doesn't have much going on it seems. Prior to London, spent a few years in NYC, had a fun life there. Spent a lot of time on the date knocking London and talking up how great NYC is, but as I told her : "Your life in London is crap, your life in NYC wasn't" (rather than the cities themselves). My read is she had a better life in NYC, maybe more men chasing her / pedestalising her. Now she doesn't have that but is stuggling to accept her lower quality life. Also not getting any younger -> lower value etc.

-> As you can see from her texts she thinks highly of herself (talking in 3rd person.....come on). On the date this was obvious. I anticipated her sh1t tests and dealt with them well; also I pro actively teased the hell out of her, which went down well (surprised her / she hit me a couple of times after some harsh teasing but always had a big smile afterwards). For example she likes to think of herself as American, but I said she has a very strong, rural, Hungarian accent, and looks like she belongs on a farm. The more sh1t I gave her the more engaged she became. She seemed to become more attracted to me over the course of the night (but obviously still no kiss).

-> I'm out of the country from Monday for one week. My plan is to not text her for at least 2 weeks. Partly to avoid rewarding bad behaviour (prioritising making lunches ahead of me), partly because I think this approach will work with a girl who likely doesn't have many options at the moment and seems to respond well to a lack of pandering / slight indifference. If she doesn't initiate first, afte 2 weeks I intend to simply repeat the invitation to come over to mine. I think meeting her again out at a museum or restaurant, with no alcohol, will send the relationship in the wrong direction. Thoughts on this plan?

P.S. As I typed this up I noticed I had a missed call from her a couple of hours ago.


[02/04 10:03] Experimenter: Hey how's my favourite Hungarian farm girl today? ?
[02/04 11:13] Lili: Smarty Pants has published her regulatory update
[02/04 11:13] Lili: on Linkedin
[02/04 11:13] Lili: applied for jobs
[02/04 11:14] Lili: now applying for jobs
[02/04 11:15] Lili: reading the joint money laundering steering group Guidance
[02/04 11:15] Lili: I will fix my comparison Chart
[02/04 11:15] Lili: which I am going to publish on Monday
[02/04 11:16] Lili: I have been busy, no time for rest
[02/04 11:16] Lili: I look forward next week
[02/04 11:16] Lili: Wednesday is my last day and I am going to have more time
[02/04 11:16] Lili: so I can beautify my new blog to look extremely professional
[02/04 11:17] Lili: How are you doing?
[02/04 11:53] Experimenter:I'm really good. Have been thinking about our cooking conversation..... Let's find out who's better by cooking something together tomorrow night at my place. Can you make 7pm?
[02/04 11:57] Lili: Experimenter, I am aware that you are a bit bossy...
[02/04 11:58] Lili: Tomorrow 7:00 pm I will be either in gym or cooking my lunches next week
[02/04 11:58] Lili: Lili is available
[02/04 11:58] Lili: next week for sure
[02/04 11:58] Lili: after Wednesday
[02/04 11:58] Lili: but Lili wants to go the V&A Museum
[02/04 11:59] Lili: I told you that Lili is a queen bee
[02/04 12:02] Experimenter:I'm away from Monday for quite a while. Pity you are busy tomorrow night.
[02/04 12:04] Lili: Whenever you are back
[02/04 12:04] Lili: we will see each other
[02/04 12:06] Lili: and I can take away ur business phone
[02/04 12:06] Lili: its very rude to keep looking ur business emails on a date...
[02/04 12:06] Lili: so ur toy must be taken away
[02/04 12:06] Lili: ???
[02/04 12:06] Lili: ???

(04-01-2016 02:37 AM)SomeFcksGiven Wrote:  

(03-31-2016 11:28 PM)Switch Wrote:  Ok here's a situation i'm in currently: match with girl on tinder 5 days ago, message her fun and flirty, get to joking about Justin Bieber, i ask her something and she says it's a long story. I say "I've got time" (yes poor line). She doesn't respond till just now (3 days later) saying "take me to a [college] party". She goes to a neighboring school like 30ish mins away. How to proceed?

This is a power play. She's testing to see if you're going to eagerly jump on the opportunity to be in the presence of her company. Flip the script:

"Thursday at 8. Meet at my place. Wear something sexy"

Whatever you reply with, it has to convey that you're the one leading, not her

I was looking at that as a straight up attempt to use him for a ride to possibly fuck someone else.

(03-31-2016 11:28 PM)Switch Wrote:  She doesn't respond till just now (3 days later) saying "take me to a [college] party". She goes to a neighboring school like 30ish mins away. How to proceed?

She wants to do something with you. It's an invite not a power-play.

Correct response would have been something like, "Sounds fun...." Then if you knew a fun place to go it would have been, "Sounds fun, have you ever been to XXX?" If you didn't have a place to go for whatever reason it's OK to let her suggest something (it doesn't mean you have to accept), "Sounds fun. I'm down. You have one in mind?"

Girl just texted me saying 'my tits are too small'

not sure if I should agree, stroke her ego or just avoid answering. She is pretty much flat chested

It's cool, raisins taste good too

me: you look like trouble
her: haha why is that

^the you look like trouble line is pretty played out on tinder, its even in a tinder commercial

Complimented "You clean up nice." Get hit with "I know." Subject change, neg, or agree and amplify?

Edit: Used some dread game then responded with "Were you getting ready for a party?" She responded nigh instantly with "No"

Met a girl at a party got her number and texted her this the next day. The shitty thing is i dont remember anything we talked about lastnight

I feel like im solid but i dont know if i wait for her to hit me up after her work or hit her up at 11. Keep in mind i am busy af so i dont have much other times to chill with her.

Me. on a scale of hungover to hungover af, how hung over are you?


Her. Lol im not who is this btw

Me. How?! You are like a superhuman or something. Jason from lastnight
Her. Omg! Come over we"re about to get champagne
Me. Damn i cant i have a meeting until around 4 if you arent passed out by then im down.
Her. I have work at 4:30!
Me. Lame what time do you get off?
Her. Probably 11
Me. You arent down to hop the fence and hot tub
Her. I'd be so down
Me. Hell yes save a bottle of champagne for us
Her I'll try
Me. Okay Sounds good :]

I hate that last response from you. Should've said yes or k or something short or nothing at all. Either two things happened:

She worked til eleven then went home and went to sleep. You did not text her she didn't text you.

Or the same but you texted her again and supplicated.

(04-03-2016 10:41 PM)Jtguthrie12 Wrote:  Met a girl at a party got her number and texted her this the next day. The shitty thing is i dont remember anything we talked about lastnight

I feel like im solid but i dont know if i wait for her to hit me up after her work or hit her up at 11. Keep in mind i am busy af so i dont have much other times to chill with her.

Me. on a scale of hungover to hungover af, how hung over are you?


Her. Lol im not who is this btw

Me. How?! You are like a superhuman or something. Jason from lastnight
Her. Omg! Come over we"re about to get champagne
Me. Damn i cant i have a meeting until around 4 if you arent passed out by then im down.
Her. I have work at 4:30!
Me. Lame what time do you get off?
Her. Probably 11
Me. You arent down to hop the fence and hot tub
Her. I'd be so down
Me. Hell yes save a bottle of champagne for us
Her I'll try
Me. Okay Sounds good :]

Honestly bro - you can do better than this. Need to be more of a dick/non-pussy in your messaging. Not trying to be mean. Just have a bit more of an edge and give less fucks.

Less messaging - after she says I get off at 11 - I'd be like - come hot tub. bring champagne. she'll say shes down. then you say, don't be late or something like that. Clearly she wants to hang with you but needs some assertiveness.

You're a arranging a date and she adds in her reply that she's still sore over her recently broken up ex leaving town (and her life).

What would you respond, or ignore that bit?

(04-05-2016 03:58 AM)JWLZG Wrote:  You're a arranging a date and she adds in her reply that she's still sore over her recently broken up ex leaving town (and her life).

What would you respond, or ignore that bit?

No good can possibly come from even acknowledging that part of what she said. I would definitely ignore.

"I don't know if I can do the casual/one night thing. Which totally sucks because you're really my type :/"

Trying to get her to meet up. She claims to be leaving my area soon.

I'm stuck.

(04-05-2016 07:41 PM)eatthishomie Wrote:  "I don't know if I can do the casual/one night thing. Which totally sucks because you're really my type :/"

Trying to get her to meet up. She claims to be leaving my area soon.

I'm stuck.

"The boyfriend treatment will cost you extra."

Winky face optional

(04-03-2016 06:17 PM)Cataldes Wrote:  Girl just texted me saying 'my tits are too small'

not sure if I should agree, stroke her ego or just avoid answering. She is pretty much flat chested

"You'll have to show me the next time I see you."

(04-07-2016 02:25 PM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  

(04-03-2016 06:17 PM)Cataldes Wrote:  Girl just texted me saying 'my tits are too small'

not sure if I should agree, stroke her ego or just avoid answering. She is pretty much flat chested

"You'll have to show me the next time I see you."

I like it....

I would say.

"I'll decide that. Next time I see you."

More alpha.

(04-08-2016 01:39 AM)spygoat Wrote:  

(04-07-2016 02:25 PM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  

(04-03-2016 06:17 PM)Cataldes Wrote:  Girl just texted me saying 'my tits are too small'

not sure if I should agree, stroke her ego or just avoid answering. She is pretty much flat chested

"You'll have to show me the next time I see you."

I like it....

I would say.

"I'll decide that. Next time I see you."

More alpha.

"wear a padded bra"

This one kind of died out, but she looks like a real life sex doll, so I would give it a go, what would you reply to this?
   
Translated her reply: "you´re the fucking best!"

I have some ideas, but would like some suggestions please.

Banging body:
   

Honestly? Don't bother

Your thirst is obvious, messages are weak, and barbie dolls on online dating are a pointless chase in the event they aren't fake profiles.

(04-09-2016 11:23 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  Honestly? Don't bother

Your thirst is obvious, messages are weak, and barbie dolls on online dating are a pointless chase in the event they aren't fake profiles.

Alright, thanks for your input General. She´s real, although she´s not my type at all, that´s why I was thirsty, wanted to try something new hehe. But thanks.

here's one off okc...she writes about being against booty calls in her profile.

I msg "who's looking for booty calls"
she responds with "lol you =p"