Hey guys, First post here!
Recently got out of an LTR where I was definitely beta-male. Was very unhappy and didn't really know why. She was obviously also unhappy. After a good amount of reading and reflecting, I can definitely attribute a large chunk of unhappiness to my inability to step up and be a man. Now, I'm in a position where I am beyond motivated to improve myself 100%.
I've been on a dry spell for quite a while (the last few months of our relationship were sexless...) so I set out to get my dick wet. I was visiting some buddies in another city and hit up Tinder.
Set up a froyo date that went poorly. I was at 50% from going out the past few nights and working in the morning so my brain was on autopilot, and not the good kind. The girl was also pretty boring and I wasn't in a good enough state of mind to do anything to excite the conversation.
Set up a second date with a pretty ugly girl. Didn't care, just wanted to get it in. Met up for drinks and she drank a lot. Did a lot of physical contact, eventually invited myself over to her place to smoke a bowl.
We smoked and listened to some music, and she pulled away when I tried kissing her. Gave her a massage but she was definitely acting awkward about it. Moved away from me on the bed.
My old instincts started kicking in and I was thinking to myself, "ugh this bitch isn't attractive and she won't even have sex with me, what the fuck"
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This is where I would have given up before and made the situation worse, but then the things I've learned from this forum lit up in my brain and I immediately realized the mistakes in my thought process.
I switched to "not give a fuck" mode. She asked me to pass me her beer which was on her windowsill, which I was passing earlier to her. I playfully didn't give it to her. She tried for 5 minutes to get me to pass her beer. I ignored her requests and just listened to the music. At some point she got up and got it herself. Looking back, this really wasn't a big deal, but I think I managed to infuse some fun into the situation and was indirectly saying "I'm not doing shit for you. Do it yourself."
I started ignoring her and just closed my eyes and listened to the music and was having a good time being faded. She started asking me how I was doing every few minutes, like she was concerned. She asked me if I was bored, and I just shrugged it off.
At some point I asked her if she was a virgin based on the way she was acting, and she started qualifying herself. She put her legs on mine and this is where I pulled her in and kissed her, 0 LMR, put her hand on my dick and the rest is history

mission accomplished.
This is probably the first time in my life where I acted dominant in bed, i.e. dragged her around by her hair, told her when she could come, etc. Nothing too crazy but I could tell it was having extremely positive effects. I will certainly be doing this more often.
She's not a girl I would brag about to my friends, but she was a much needed confidence boost and it was nice to see that the teachings here really have merit. I have a date with a 7.5 tonight so looking forward to apply some of the things I learned.
Key takeaway is that while reading about game makes it sound easy, applying the skills in real life is much harder and you must constantly remind yourself to keep your mindset correct, especially in the beginning. I have a lot to learn!